Thanks so much Milly! I hope the necklace gets to you. First international sell! Thanks for being supportive. Big chance for me as a couple of you might know if I started a little business in Sept and yesterday signed a lease agreement in a artsy retail store to sell my art. The lady was so kind to not only keep the month fee down for me but is allowing me to use her shelving and stuff to make my little booth area pretty. I go in next Saturday to set it up. I can't see how excited I am. My FB page keeps me busy as I get a lot of my sell from my FB page. I post they buy. LOL! I know this is God's way of answering some prayer I needed to hear.
But with every good moment something will come along to throw everything in the water for a moment. Here is how I found out what I know.
I found that MLCer go a 4th degree blackbelt which means he had to go to California to do that and there is a lot of expense to that plus I know he went to home country for Christmas. I sent him a text on Friday that said
ME -How is it you say you have 4 heart conditions but got your 4th degree blackbelt? I THINK you are lying about your finances. Court is going to cost you. You are not compliant on anything and you will have to pay my court fees.
HIM - What are you talking about? I am working on pure commission trying to build from scratch. I made $4000 in 3 months. No XXXX business ( His business that I ran) Sorry not lying just plain broke. I have all kind of lawsuits from credit cards. IRS about to garnish the few $1 I make.
Me - Are you selling? I really meant to write selling cars
Him - Maybe I should try selling. It wouldn't hurt so much
Me - I get you are having issues. But you chose this life and you signed an agreement that I haven't held you to. I'm just trying tomato my rent. You have to pay something Are you working with XXX clinic?
HIM - no I worked one day a week for them in other state name for 5 months.
Me - Yes, I knew that.
OK so this is where I started thinking - no one writes (for them in other state name) unless you are not in other state name anymore.
Him - I can't even afford rent. I am living in a basement room the clinic owns
Me - WHAT?
Me- Hey
Me Can I ask a couple of questions?
NOTHING FORM HIM
ME - Are you not in other state name?
Him- nope
After that I lost him. I did type some other questions
wow where are you now if you don't mind me asking?
how long have you not been in Other state name. Are you somewhere warm LOL?
Are you in another state name?
Looking you're not going to be able to hid where you are LOL
I am 100% sure that you have been depressed also Praying for you.
So, I didn't think he would probably answer me. I called a couple of friends and said I have a bad feeling. I think he's in my state again. They said no he wouldn't do that. I said yes he would. It's a state he as a license in.
Crickets
Then Saturday at 6:12 for no reason I get this text
HIM - Sorry phone died. Thanks for praying East state ( my side on the east side) Yes I was depressed
I have to be honest I freaked out! It was kind of nice not having to think about running into him. My state is big but still. He brought me down here and then left me here and now he's back.
I wrote back - um, I don't even know what to say. Other than I had a feeling. I hate my premonitions. Are you still depressed?
And no response.
So that is how I found out what I know.
But today I got to thinking. I don't know what the boards do if you need a new licenses in a state you haven't worked in. Do they do credit check? Background check? ect? If so they probably didn't want to have them do that. Although he really hasn't been on top of stuff like that. I don't know if he would think of it. My guess is he has been down here for a little of 3 months. I think he clear wanted me to know he was down here but waited to respond. He answered those questions when I asked him.
He is not trying to seek me out. I don't think he's here because I am. At least I don't think he is. I don't know why he is here so it's hard to gauge what to do. I did get some advice from Milly that I am following.
I am not going to talk money because he's not going to send any and I am going to be supportive if he messages me but I don't look for him to do that. I will not be messaging him from now on.
I am assuming him and OW are not together and he's living in the room or whatever by himself. Good time for him to think. I didn't ask him any questions about that but I think by his answers he is kind of letting me know that is the case. I don't know if he got kicked out or he used the job to leave her. If he left her it won't hurt as much. I was kind of hoping she would let him go rather than him letting her go. But he was in a depression and probably still is. He is making progress. Now he just needs to get his life together and he's at a place where that can now happen.
So, there you have it. I don't know what to think of any of this. It caught me off guard. It's so weird to find out over night that a person is back in a state where they don't really have any connections but came back here anyhow. GOOD new for me is...he's back in the state the divorce was filed. Now I could take him to court and it would be in the same state where the ruling was. I was told that he wouldn't have to come back down to go to court that it could be in the state he was at. My fear of that was nothing would have stood ground because it was a more liberal state. Now I don't have to worry about that. Why he would come back to this state is kind of mind boggling for me. LOL
Thanks! After 6 years there could be movement! You tell me!