[Evermore]

I am currently away in Melbourne with D23, M and his S12. We’re here to watch a couple of games of footy (one today and another tomorrow). We’ll also likely go to the markets today (if D23 and S12 ever get up, lol, it’s already 9.14 and they’re both still snoring away, haha) and the Melb Aquarium tomorrow. Ds have met M and S12 quite a few times now but this is first time spending considerable time together. It’s very nice. I feel like everything is gelling very well in my new life. I still miss xH, but that life feels further away (most of the time) these days.

We have sporadic, very amicable communication (he wished me a HBDay on FB for instance (and ‘liked’ many of the HBDay messages from other people which was a bit odd). And of course I still know what he’s doing pretty much through the osmotic-in law/Ds-grapevine.

Two days ago I got a waft from D23 of trouble in paradise and I thought it worth documenting. They really don’t say much about their dad at all these days. We rarely mention him. D23 has said a few things recently (but they’re more about what she thinks about him and his slightly odd behaviour (eg always always being very very late for events these days, like 3 or more hours late)).

Two days ago I mentioned something about xH and OW looking to buy a house (we were talking about my finances and possibly buying an investment house with M). D23 said ‘yeah… not sure he’s going to now’. I said ‘oh… how come?’ She said xH was at D25s house recently and he told her that he wasn’t sure about buying a house with OW and ‘obviously was wanting to talk about it’ with D25.

D23 rolled her eyes said she wasn’t surprised and thinks it’s partly because of the drama associated with OWs son (he is about 29 I think and lives with xH and OW, apparently ‘lovely’ but also a bit of a ‘no-hoper’ who has mental heath and drug problems, and can’t keep a job). She also sarcastically said ‘Seeee, I knew this would happen’ (she’s intimated several times that she thinks it’ll all fall apart one day).

So as I said, just a waft, nothing concrete. Funny that I’m pretty much at the stage of hoping it DOES work for them. Way too complicated otherwise.

[MadLuv]

So glad to hear things are going well. Not surprised on XH/OW.  When time passes and real life happens the seeds of doubtS and the everyday human flaws become apparent. Different person, different problems. It’s never the dream!

[UrsaMajor]

Two days ago I got a waft from D23 of trouble in paradise and I thought it worth documenting.

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D23 rolled her eyes said she wasn’t surprised and thinks it’s partly because of the drama associated with OWs son (he is about 29 I think and lives with xH and OW, apparently ‘lovely’ but also a bit of a ‘no-hoper’ who has mental heath and drug problems, and can’t keep a job). She also sarcastically said ‘Seeee, I knew this would happen’ (she’s intimated several times that she thinks it’ll all fall apart one day).

When one builds a house on a foundation made of sand (or jello), it will settle dramatically over time and eventually fall apart....

And, just because there is a new partner on the scene doesn't mean his own demons have gone away. They are still there and still causing the same issues.... Just takes a different path as the constellation of xH/OW/OWKid is different than it was....