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Happy New Year!

I spent mine at KAs with her D11 and three of her school friends. They were a little wild and coming from having four brothers and four sons, this was quite a different NYE experience. I made a few resolutions for the year but am keeping them pretty much to myself. Those being:
1. Lose 35 lbs before I bake cookies again. I went back on my annual sugar detox which I do every year and shed lots of weight. Hope to succeed by mid FEB.
2. Run more than I did last year, which was a paltry 50 miles and will be easy to do.
3. I deleted all my personal messages and decided I will not initiate contact with anyone. Up to them to reach out first.
4. I gave up Instagram for 6 months. I find it can depress me a tad so no point in going there. In July I will certainly be back because that's when Halloween decor starts hitting shelves and the majority of people I follow post their finds.

This weekend is my 7th annual white wine party where everyone brings a bottle and I become bartender and blind pour each guest a sample of each bottle. KA assists me with the process which takes just over 90 mins. I'm expecting A LOT of people this time... like 50! Just imagine 50 people in your house. I keep telling myself I've had 48 guests and that worked out fine. It most certainly will be a new record of bottles. I have a bit of anxiety which I am trying to put into words as to what exactly is bothering me. I'm concerned it will be too crowded, too loud, and too many wine samples for some. I'm sure it will all work out-it always does.
I had posted my event on the Meetup page as well as in my party group. I put it on Meetup to attract new strangers and turn them into new friends. There is a faction of the hiking group I belong to coming. A bunch of women that pal around together and have only been in the hiking group a couple years. I've met them all twice as I really don't go to that hiking groups events anymore, as I host my own. I'm sure KAs not thrilled to have 7-8 more women friends added to my life. There are just more women coming around.

Next weekend I am having my hike and have over 30 signed up for that. Of course buddy JS will be there, as he is my shadow. I love having lots of attendees but it really wrecks any plans of going to a restaurant after. Although we always have gone and it has always worked out fine. Just freaks me out a bit about trying to make reservations for a group that large. I stopped doing it and just wing it.

It's kinda crazy XW has been married to OM for 5 years now. S24s gf works for XW, by managing her shop. Their pride and joy seems to be a hairless Egyptian cat. My kids have shown me pics-it's weird looking. I guess my former FIL had dementia real bad. I am so glad to be out of that relationship.

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I browsed over to JWs Facebook page. I tend to think of her as a blonde fireplug-short and stacked. We met in '16, fooled around a few times in '17 and through one of my hikes in '21 she met this cop. They last came to my Halloween party in '22. That was the last I heard from her. Well, she married him on NYE. They only knew one another because of me. Another one of those women who makes their mate their everything and forsakes all friendships. I wonder if they live apart? No way she'd leave her fancy remodeled home and mom in MI and his place is 45 mins away where hes a cop. No matter, out of my circle.

I knew MM moved back to her former bfs place in MI in early DEC to take care of him following a surgery, after just moving to FL the month before. She was so upset about the breakup she had me be the go-between to get the last of her things from his local son. She told me it was just gonna be a temporary stay-like 5-6 weeks. It's been 8 now and I bet shes still there. I had sent her a message two weeks ago and she still hasn't read it. Who doesn't check their messenger for that long? WTF! Another case of a woman ignoring everyone for their guy. That's so unhealthy to make someone your all. I did that in my marriage. Your significant other should add to your life and not take away from how it is. smh

Frequent kayak pal NJ is moving to FL. I offered to help her with clearing out a room of packed boxes, to declutter the place for her photographer to shoot. She gave me some of her Halloween decor and a couple mirrors too. 7 years ago I had wanted to date her. The next morning, I got a text from DC (her bestie) saying she went over to help but I was the rock star who got it all done first. Incredibly sweet and generous of me. DC also texted me two days prior asking if I'm avail and willing to help her with a professional headshot for work, as hers is 5 years old. I said sure and picked out a couple days I know she doesn't have her son (SIDENOTE if you're ever gonna date someone it's imperative that you know their schedule). DC responded this week is not the best because of the silly reason she went to the dermatologist to get some spots removed and wants to wait 'til they heal. Gee, I could remove them being a professional photo retoucher but whatever works for her I'll just keep doing my own thing over here being a rock star. A high maintenance woman!

KA and I took S24 and his fiancee out to dinner one fine evening to celebrate their engagement. The girl, who had been XWs store manager, was let go the day after they got engaged, due to slowness in the store. She griped who's gonna watch the store when XW and OM got to Ireland this summer? I was a bit bothered he said they plan to keep the wedding small and only invite people who have meant something to them and basically said none of my family would be invited. I can just hear XWs words being placed in their heads to not invite those she doesn't get along with. Trying to let it go, as weddings not until Oct. 2026 and a lot could change before then.

Its warming up here in the midwest, so Winterfest this weekend, KA and I were planning to go to, may not happen. May go see some live music as well. Sunday I have a hike and the trail I scheduled is so near my house, I opted to make chili and have up to 24 signed up come over for it after. Nearly all of them have been to my house before.

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My company has new owners (since being founded in 1930) so I am being vigilant and only using the internet for work, as it it being monitored,  thus it’s less convenient for me to post here.

Pretty much the usual occurrences. I led two hikes in Feb. I'm running a 5k on the treadmill every Tuesday improving my time each week. Valentines Day was my 6th anniversary with KA. I did not see her that evening as she had D11 and I was with S28 at a concert. Her and I got together two days later. There were no gift exchanges or even cards. I did give her an amethyst and diamond ring to wear as an anniversary gift. Not an engagement ring. My Mardi Gras party was great fun with just over thirty friends coming to the masquerade.

I've begun to attend events with the old hiking group I joined back in ’16. There's some good people (OK, women) that are fun to chat with. One of the hike leaders ET (who came to my Mardi Gras) invited me and another women to check out a Tiki Bar in a nearby city on a weeknight. Funny thing is she got confused and invited the wrong KM from her address book... and the leader of the Connections group came instead. I'm friendly with her, and she was under the impression we wanted to do events in her group.  Not the case... I quit that group 5 years ago.

Ditzy blonde lawyer friend RB had computer issues a couple weeks ago, so I went over to try and help her.  She’s hard for me to figure out other than just being an airhead. She wasn't bothered bumping into me or casually touching me but when I did so to her, it's like she was burned and recoiled. Her texts are at times suggestive and strange. Whatever. Harmless.

I went over to NJs house to have a last visit with her before she moves to FL. I've often wondered how does one say goodbye to a friend? I'm certain I will never see her again as she has no reason to come back with her family all there. I left with a picture of us, hug and joke in the driveway. Her bestie DC was made aware I was going over, as she was also, that evening. DC apologized for pushing back her business headshot she asked me to take. She’s busy with an influential women of IN bingo event she is hosting. After March 6th we'll try to find a time.

Friday, KA and I are going to see a hair metal cover band she's wanted to see for years. There will be other friends there. Saturday we will relax and stay in. Sunday, I'm attending a short hike and bonfire with my old hiking group, led by ET. March 16th is my St. Patricks Day party.

Thanks for the comment R2T.

Lifes been pretty good here. My St. Patricks Day party last weekend was a lot of fun with 35 friends attending in my house all decorated up with green lights and a pot of gold scavenger hunt. A few people were removed from my party group having not attended in over a year (the one rule of my group).

Today I had my hike and 23 people came including buddy JS. Lunch was enjoyable and two women friends said they know my XW as they went on her ghost tour last year and had fun with her. I made a new woman Facebook friend today and as instructed told KA about her and she wondered why I didn't make any new guy friends. They were just in a different part of the trail; didn't get to talk to them.

Giving DC one last chance this week to have me take her business headshot. She responded with

I checked my calendar. My bf and I are looking for a house and we may be signing some documents and putting the deposit down. Might be a busy week but I'll know more by Tuesday

I didn't reply but wanted to say "Just have him do it. You don't need my camera or skills for your stupid LinkedIn headshot". Sounds like their 8+ yr commitment is stepping up a level, so g'bye.

No parties in April as I want to give KA two full date weekends of just us. This follows two weekends we don't see one another: the first as shes on Spring Break vacation with her D11 in FL and the second is my annual game weekend with brother, friend and S22 and S24. April 7-8 buddy JS and I are staying at a woman friends of ours home (she moved away last Sept and now lives downstate Indiana) in the path of eclipse totality.

May you all have joy in your life always!