UL, I don't post much anymore as I've moved on with my life and I have very little contact with my MLC H.. But I understand your feeling, it's hard to accept the loss and finally decide that MLC (or not), more than likely he'll never be back. I remember when I first joined HS, there was a lot more talk about the stages and how long each will last... that kept my hope for a good while. The fact that my H is a vanisher of sorts and moved to a different country nearly 4 years ago has helped me.. not necessarily to heal but to accept he's gone... Like you, I believe pride will prevent him from ever look back and acknowledge he messed up. He will never face the damage he caused, he wouldn't be able to. It's a bitter pill to swallow but accepting he's gone forever was what help me move forward with my life and find happiness in a different way. Big hugs