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Would you seek a new partner if your spouse were institutionalized with dementia instead of having an MLC?

Standing now, would not seek new partner if spouse were institutionalized with dementia
16 (59.3%)
Standing now, would seek new partner if spouse were institutionalized with dementia
2 (7.4%)
Not standing now, would not seek new partner if spouse were institutionalized with dementia
5 (18.5%)
Not standing now, would seek new partner if spouse were institutionalized with dementia
0 (0%)
This is it! No more partners no matter what.
4 (14.8%)

Total Members Voted: 27

Voting closed: October 28, 2019, 12:10:38 PM

Author Topic: Discussion Poll: What if your spouse had dementia instead of MLC?

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I think the key is not "standing" or "not standing". If xh and I were still married, of course I'd be there till the end. I would not seek out another. If it had been 10 years and someone came into my life, I don't know if it would be acceptable to me to take on a "lover" or not. My instinct is not.

Since xh and I are no longer married, I might visit him at a home, but would not take him in. That is now up to him to manage.

My general take on partners is if the right one turns up, ok. If no one turns up, ok. I don't need a partner, but it would be nice to have one. If I already had one and they had dementia, ok.
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