Goodbye and good riddance to 2020.
Unfortunately we had a horrible loss over Thanksgiving. My dad who was dealing with some chronic heart problems passed away the day after Thanksgiving. Luckily my mom, brother, sister and I were able to be there with him, in his home, as he passed away. Such a loss, my dad was an amazing man, married 55 yrs to my mom, loved his family and always took care of us. So goal oriented, showed us the right way to do things and to take care of your car, your home, your finances, your health... It was great to be able to give back and care for him at the end of his life. I work at a fabulous school with an incredibly caring principal who let me take two weeks off between my father’s death and his burial to stay with my mom. (They live 900 miles away from where I live) H and the kids had to manage the household without me for 3 weeks! Our neighborhood stepped in and provided quite a few meals while I was gone. Blessed with so many loving friends to make this loss easier to bear! H really stepped up at home. He adored my dad as well...felt more of a connection with my dad than he does with his own father. My dad spoke to me about the affair before he died....said he loves my H and the only thing he ever said to H was that H is lucky to have the most wonderful wife and my dad said he thinks H knows what a terrible mistake he made. It was nice to talk about it and know my dad “approved” of me choosing to reconcile. It’s strange to think of all the layers of emotions you experience even once you are reconciling, it’s all you can think of as your marriage is falling apart but then you get there and you are happy. But on the other hand you are scared to trust again! Then once you trust your partner you deal with hoping your friends and family can see you are making a good choice and you hope they will approve. My parents love H and they trusted that I was making the right decision. My dad was great...just was supportive and didn’t judge. I miss him so much! I just try to focus on how lucky I was to have him as my dad for 51 years! Not everyone can say they were raised by such a loving, smart, stand up, caring man!