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MLC Monster Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
#150: September 26, 2019, 07:43:15 PM
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Some people only discover the problem is them after repeatedly making the same mistakes. They have to fail at making themselves feel better with a fresh new shiny toy several times before they go.....what if the problem is me?

I just don’t think the number matters unless you were looking for a good gauge of cognitive dissonance, in which case I think the number is very relevant.

H has an old employee who is having a MLC....she’s currently on her 7th engagement in about 4 years, she’s never had one survive all the way to the marriage finish line....but remains undaunted.
3 weeks from meeting to engagement on the latest and greatest. 🤷‍♀️
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
#151: September 26, 2019, 08:27:45 PM
At least to me, the number matters. I'll explain. Tons of different women equal just that, tons of different women. No emotional attachment, no forming a lasting relationship.

2 or 3 or 4 OW/OM, or new woman/men (if the couple is long separated or divorced) with whom the MCLer forms a proper relationship is one more problem. More hurt, more issues, more people.

Your husband's colleague is different than Mr J, seems more like a single guy I know that is at the end of Replay.

Mr J spend 10 years with OW2. In 13 years there has been 3 women, the latest very recent. No one sees anything wrong with 3 women in 13 years, especially when one of them lasted 10 years.

He will never discover the problem. The number of women in 13 years is perfectly normal.
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
#152: September 27, 2019, 02:44:22 AM
The subject got off track.
SS, can you explain ,why mlc will say this? Are most still in the fog with the comment of saying "There is too much damage" ? If they are in the fog, how  can they possibly know this? they really dont consider themselves in an affair or doing anything wrong?  if they are out of the fog , then i can understand this statement being said.
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Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
#153: September 27, 2019, 02:58:36 AM
Shocks sis,

Your thread has reached 150 posts, so if you could please start a new thread to answer these questions.  Thank you for being so helpful.  :)


New thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11137.0
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« Last Edit: September 29, 2019, 09:49:07 AM by Thunder »
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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