[FaithWalker]

It is so bizarre isn't it?  My H's behavior after BD was also bizarre.  Definitely some actions he did were in direct conflict with his other actions of filing for a divorce.  He didn't seem to understand that he had fired me as a wife.

[Tailspin]

It is so bizarre isn't it?  My H's behavior after BD was also bizarre.  Definitely some actions he did were in direct conflict with his other actions of filing for a divorce.  He didn't seem to understand that he had fired me as a wife.

FW, it really is bazaar.  My wife used to say "We will be divorced but we can still do holidays and vacations together as a family".  Meanwhile she doesn't speak with me or even acknowledge me.  I look back at this sometimes and laugh.  What a world to be living in. 

[UrsaMajor]

It is so bizarre isn't it?  My H's behavior after BD was also bizarre.  Definitely some actions he did were in direct conflict with his other actions of filing for a divorce.  He didn't seem to understand that he had fired me as a wife.

FW, it really is bazaar.  My wife used to say "We will be divorced but we can still do holidays and vacations together as a family". 

I got that too ( "Oh we can be a big happy family on vacations and holidays and such but we'll just be divorced" - like on WHAT planet is this even a thing?) plus requests to come and help her with things in her new apartment I mean, seriously? Like FW said - "Lady, you fired me from the H job so you'll need to find someone else to do those jobs...."  Entitled much lately?

[Tailspin]

Some journaling. 
So my wife secretly found a new place to live and now is pressuring me to accelerate the divorce because she needs cash.  She actually told her lawyer that it's hard to live in the house together and very stressful.  Meanwhile she's partying every weekend, having an affair, sneaking off, and not speaking AT ALL to me.  Makes me laugh honesty.  I told her she can leave whenever she wants and that I am taking my time to make sure I'm protected.  I said she can move any time she wants. 
I told my lawyer if she wants out she has to remove the my car insurance from her car because I am not assuming her risk as she boozes up a lot lately and stays out to the wee hours.  I don't want the liability.  This annoyed my wife.  Sorry, you don't write the rules.
Her desperation to leave is driving her anger more and more.  Everything is lie now and even my kids see it.  The other day she stormed out and said she needed to go to the store for laundry detergent.  There was a full bottle when I checked downstairs.  She just had to go talk to the OM.  Sad part for her is that he is not leaving his wife, and I really think she doesn't see it. 
People, when people on this site say don't believe anything they say you really need to accept that.  I can honestly say I don't know any truth in her anymore. 

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Hello,

So my wife secretly found a new place to live and now is pressuring me to accelerate the divorce because she needs cash.  She actually told her lawyer that it's hard to live in the house together and very stressful.

Yes, you can tell your own lawyer that maybe why she is so stressed is due to the heavy drinking and spending a lot of time with a married man. All that sneaking around sure is stressful.

I told my lawyer if she wants out she has to remove the my car insurance from her car because I am not assuming her risk as she boozes up a lot lately and stays out to the wee hours.

Absolutely, you don't want your name on the title or on the insurance. You maybe on the hook if something happens. As soon as I paid off my son's car, I had my name removed from the title.

Yes, there lies become an issue and soon everyone sees it.

Sad part for her is that he is not leaving his wife, and I really think she doesn't see it.
People, when people on this site say don't believe anything they say you really need to accept that.  I can honestly say I don't know any truth in her anymore.

He sounds like such a great guy, a true keeper, a many of high virtues and a family man to sport.

Yes, it is unbelievable what they say and even more so in their actions as well.

Let her run and focus on you and your family. You are doing an awesome job. Remember the divorce is all business. Treat it as such and don't give anything that you don't have to give. It's her choice and she needs to deal with the consequences. Therefore, no soft landing.

Have an awesome day!

(((Ready)))