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Tonight will be the New Moon in the sign of Sagittarius. We have an opportunity for a new start, a fresh cycle where we can tune in, vision and aim our arrows of light to what we desire. This is a time of aligning with our deepest truth and having the courage to move, express and create from our centre.
This is the first of 2 New Moons in December, the second New Moon will be on December 31st making it a Black Moon at the end of the year which will be a very powerful time of releasing and transformations.
The New Moon in Sagittarius is full of energy, Sagittarius is a fire sign which draws on ambition and creativity. Move out of the box of limited thinking. Challenge your perceptions of reality. Align your goals with your truth and you will be successful. If you have been feeling stuck in a rut or everything has been moving too slowly lately, then get ready as things are about to speed up and become a lot more exciting in a big way.
This is a fiery New Moon, full of strong feelings and passion. Fire has a way of burning off dead wood and cleansing past hurts and guilt. If you’re one of the many who have been wading in your own emotional swamps, let a natural wildfire catch on and use it to heal your spirit, like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
This New Moon will give us a boost of confidence and empowerment. So be bolder, brighter and braver than usual, go for what you thought you couldn’t do before, take a chance and see where it takes you. Stay open to new discoveries and adventures. Seek out who you truly are and where you fit in the world. Now is the time to ask questions and seek answers.
Now is the time to honor the struggles and battles we have faced in the past. Let them go. You are getting a fresh start. This new Moon is full of vigour and renewed energy, we will start to feel uplifted. We are entering a very positive and upbeat period. We can turn our hopes and desires into reality, make wishes, ask for more.
Sagittarius is considered the sign of the seeker and the philosopher as well as of Cosmic Law. It focuses us on the important questions in life: Who am I? Why am I here? Where am I going? It also gives us a sense of wonder and joy as we contemplate some force greater that calls to us. The archer points his arrow to our future.
This New Moon encourages you to dream big. Sagittarius rules future vision, you may experience strange or psychic dreams at this time and your psychic awareness will be enhanced. Let the fires of Sagittarius cleans and heal you and burn away any negative energy. Use this New Moon energy to clear out old clutter as we go into the New Year.

Ludacris 😂 Indeed, a fitting song. I was going to say yikes about MIL, but you handled it beautifully in the moment. I agree with Baxter1- it’s fantastic to hear you’re receiving invitations to spend time. The flipping between “we” and “me” sounds a bit frustrating to say the least but also quite fitting for where she’s at, I suppose. MLC- always keeping one on one’s toes.

Slowly but surely- thank you so much for sharing this update!

These are really good points @Treasur, I'm going to give them some thought in the coming days!

I can see how that We/Me shift might be a bit confusing to interact with. Out of interest, what are your We and Me areas?

I ask bc of this
“I'm considering bringing this up with W this week as I don't particularly want the kids around MIL when she's in that kind of state, and also because I'm worried that it's getting so out of control that MIL might be doing herself some serious harm.”

Do you see this as a We problem or a Me problem? Bc imho how you see it leads you down a different kind of path and different boundaries perhaps. With the big caveat of course that neither you or your wife (ex wife?) are responsible for or can control how much your MiL chooses to drink or how she behaves when she drinks a lot. What’s the core of your concern really about? How do you deal with other people you might know who drink too much or behave inappropriately either with you or in front of your kids? Why does it matter to you? Is it something new or part of a longer or wider pattern with MiL? What evidence do you have that your wife, or indeed your kids, or even your MiL, see it as an issue?

Fwiw I’d suggest musing on this a bit before you decide what, if anything, to raise as a discussion. Family interventions and boundaries with this kind of stuff can be and get messy, can’t they? More so perhaps when the boundary lines around the shape of ‘family’ are less sharply delineated than they once were, when roles and connecting lines have changed.

So, as an example, I can see that she is the mother of the mother of your children, and your children’s grandmother, but is she factually and still your MiL? What does how you see her affect your sense of involvement or responsibility or obligation? And does she see the relationship connection in the same way you do? Does she see you as her SiL or something else? It’s why sometimes what we call something affects how we see and behave. Does your wife/ex see it the same way or differently? A lot of lines change when a spouse/partner changes them and most LBS find that the big stone of BD and separation has ripples beyond the marital relationship - and it can take a while for everyone to work out what the new lines are perhaps.

Bc imho the more clear you can be in your own mind about what the issue really is at heart for you, and the existing boundary lines, yours and others, the easier it will probably be to figure out what you want to do about it. And if it’s a We or a Me thing. Jmo.

B-

I love this update, when she invited you over it’s never a bad thing. As for MIL I too would be upset if she didn’t get out the way while I was doing something…I think Ludacris has as song about this. Good luck on your continued journey!