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#10: May 20, 2020, 01:18:36 PM
T, you little devil  ;D

I did do the "thank you" (as always)...... but the "What did I do to deserve this"...... very devious.  ;)

I'll try that next time.  8)

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Re: MLCrs bringing small gifts
#11: May 20, 2020, 01:55:19 PM
If little gifts are a new behavior, maybe it’s an effort to try something new and different, where doing the same thing all the time was not producing change or connection or other desired result.
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#12: May 20, 2020, 07:55:36 PM
I can only speak for my own MLCer, but he bought me Slurpees. And Jersey Mike's sub sandwiches. And rolled tacos. In fact, once BD happened, many things I used to ask for happened. After a 3 week sprint of high replay where he ended up barfing his brains out after drinking too much, he suddenly started calling when he was on his way home (I had a live in for 18 months). Telling me when he was going out. Coming home when he said he was coming home. And Slurpees, tons of them.

I still have no idea what it was about. That was during my observing him like a bug in a terrarium time. It's all very strange.
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#13: May 20, 2020, 08:29:51 PM
T, you little devil  ;D

I did do the "thank you" (as always)...... but the "What did I do to deserve this"...... very devious.  ;)

I'll try that next time.  8)

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You are not the only one, LOL....I really want to see what kind of brain short circuit this will produce.

I can only speak for my own MLCer, but he bought me Slurpees. And Jersey Mike's sub sandwiches. And rolled tacos....And Slurpees, tons of them.I still have no idea what it was about. That was during my observing him like a bug in a terrarium time. It's all very strange.

What a relief, I'm not the only one...This matches her. And me... But the observing time is now about to pass.

Alvin.

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#14: May 21, 2020, 03:50:37 AM
Mine routinely brings gifts, usually of the chocolate variety.

Particularly high after BD, then tapered off after about a year....then there would be random bouts of gift giving...when he would go through a phase of it...before it went again.

Now he usually gets me something when he gets the kids things.

Last year he did everything in his power to avoid me on my birthday, this year he brought me a cake after his work.

There is not always logic to it. Just accept it as part of the crazy and don't worry your mind to much with it.
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