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#130: March 26, 2024, 02:39:30 PM
I'm the first to admit, I had my own issues to work on and grew a lot during all of this. And really that still my number one piece of advice for anyone going through this. Work on yourself. That's the one thing you can 100% control and in a time when your world seems out of control...this will help.

I am newer on this forum.  Thanks for updating your story--otherwise I might not have found it.  It is truly inspirational.  Your thoughts on controlling the things you can are so important.  I have spent so much of my life trying to control things I couldn't.  I am still learning how to let go....and debate what I can actually control (like can I control how messy my teenagers room is?):-P
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#131: March 26, 2024, 03:19:18 PM
Kell, Wonderful to hear your update and so happy for you and H.  Please continue to check in from time to time.  I have also been reconciled with my H and things are going well.  I do struggle sometimes just with everything that happened but am doing the best I can to deal with my issues regarding this (and they are definitely my issues).  You and your story have been a real inspiration.  Thank you for your kindness in that you continue to post as it gives hope to many.
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#132: April 02, 2024, 02:49:45 AM
Kell, Wonderful to hear your update and so happy for you and H.  Please continue to check in from time to time.  I have also been reconciled with my H and things are going well.  I do struggle sometimes just with everything that happened but am doing the best I can to deal with my issues regarding this (and they are definitely my issues).  You and your story have been a real inspiration.  Thank you for your kindness in that you continue to post as it gives hope to many.
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It would be great if you would update your story as well. There are not too many reconciliation stories here and it would give newbies s a perspective on what it is like
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#133: April 02, 2024, 12:52:07 PM
So glad to hear things continue to go well. I think those that return quicker ( even if not  thought the norm for long term success) often are the ones that make it, because they have stopped the damage. The longer it goes, the more damage is done. Thank you for coming back periodically and updating. It is so good to hear ❤️
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There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.

Indefatigability - determined to do or achieve something; firmness of purpose
perspicacity- a clarity of vision or intellect which provides a deep understanding and insight

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#134: April 02, 2024, 01:41:00 PM
UrsaMajor- updated :)
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