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Forum-Info Keeping your forum profile current
OP: November 28, 2016, 09:57:04 AM
Hello HS members.

Is your HS forum profile filled out and current?

The forum profile helps all of us - mentors and posters alike.
It tells us the basics we need to know if we are unfamiliar with your story.
Things like # or children and age is so uselful.
When was BD?
Is your current status still applicable?
Have you divorced, separated etc and not updated your profile?

Please take a moment to look at the profile you have on HS - and add missing items - or correct things that have become outdated.

Also I want to take a moment to remind you that your can opt to be listed in the geographical members list

This can help people (especially newbies) reach out to LBSers who may live close.

Thanks for your attention to this matter!


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« Last Edit: March 26, 2018, 09:16:06 AM by OldPilot »

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Re: Keeping your forum profile current
#2: November 28, 2016, 02:23:20 PM
It would be nice to get everyone's location updated.
It's been a few years.
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Keeping your forum profile current
#3: November 29, 2016, 05:04:56 PM
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M-44 at BD (now 47)
H-47 at BD (now 49)
Tog-16 1/2 yrs
Kids- S23, S24, D18 at BD
OW1-fantasy ended in less then a year
OW2- briefly dated-she said he was not a happy enough person
OW3-post divorce so not really OW, he is a free agent now
Giving up does not always mean that you are weak; sometimes it means you are strong enough to let go.

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Re: Keeping your forum profile current
#4: February 06, 2017, 06:06:44 PM
Hi there. How do I reactivate my thread? I havent posted for a year or so. The old one is in archives. (Newbie Sharing) Or should I just start a new thread?
thanks Notinlimbo
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D 29
BD March 15
OW ex from 38 years ago

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Re: Keeping your forum profile current
#5: February 16, 2017, 06:41:58 PM
Notinlimbo, I would just start a new one and then we can find the old one and link them.

My profile is up to date.
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« Last Edit: February 16, 2017, 06:44:40 PM by LearningIamOk »

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Re: Keeping your forum profile current
#6: February 21, 2017, 07:59:18 AM
I feel it is time to change my name  :) How can I do that?
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M 38
MLC H 42
Together 7 1/2 yrs
Married  6 yrs
 S 16 (dd) (Different father)

BD 1: January 2017 (D brought up)
 BD 2: Mid January (ILYBINILWY speech)
BD 3: March 2017 (OW confirmed- EA)/ Moved out
BD 4: July 2017 (Sexual relations with family member)
BD 5: August 2017 (Leaving country to meet OW

June 2018-Rebuilding our marriage one step at a time

November 2018-
BD 6- H "considering us not being together anymore"
BD 7- OW #2 confirmed by H family member
Living together but separated

December 2018
BD 8-H brings OW #2 to home

Done and indifferent


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