[Anjae]

Thank you 31. In my case, there may be more added stess, mostly of the normal kind, because of so many years dealing with grandmother.

It may never go away, but mine is much better. I also don't take as much to recover. But certain things, like someone being harsher, that I didn't use to have a problem with, now make my body react.

Of course it is the body remembering Monster.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

There has been some discussion recently on this thread and on other threads about PTSD. I've been following them because I'm being treated for PTSD related to BD and also for complex PTSD related to childhood trauma.

The therapist I'm seeing specializes in treating trauma and dissociative disorders and she teaches courses in trauma therapy at a large area university. She also teaches Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR). She has told me several times that MBSR is helpful for people with my issues; PTSD, complex PTSD, abandonment issues, attachment disorder, anxiety, and depression. I've considered attending one of her MBSR courses but it takes me 90 minutes just to drive from my home to her office. It's hard to make the trip every other week so I don't think I could manage to attend one of her twice a week MBSR courses.

I enjoy taking online video courses through the Udemy website. You have to pay for most of the courses, and I've paid for my share of them, but they do have some free courses that are very good. I just started a free course through Udemy called Learn Mindfulness Meditation for a Calmer and Clearer Mind.

I just started the course so I can't tell you too much about it, but it seems pretty good so far. Udemy reports 19,941 enrolled students and 251 reviews with an average rating of 4.5 out of 5. The course includes 3 hours of video lessons and 7 hours of guided audio meditations. The course is based on the standard 8 week MBSR course that my therapist teaches but also includes some supplementary material. In addition to watching the weekly videos and doing the twice daily audio meditations the instructor recommends keeping a daily journal. The course also has a website for additional information and a FB page for course related discussions.

In one of the first videos the course instructor states that he had lived a typical, happy life until about 7 years ago when his marriage fell apart, he lost his job, and he had a "spectacular midlife crisis". Can you imagine the look on my face when I watched this? He said that he eventually attended an 8 week MBSR course and it saved his life and turned him around. He became an MBSR instructor and created this course so that he can freely share with the world this program that helped him so much.

Once again, this is a free course, so I thought I would post about it here in case anyone is interested in it. If there is enough interest, maybe a group of LBSes might like to take the course together and maybe share about it and support each other on this forum.

The course can be found at

https://www.udemy.com/mindfulness-stress-reduction/

[Anjae]

Thanks for the link, Brain. I enrolled, but the lectures made me sleepy. I will use the PDFs.

[barbiedoll]

I am going to enroll ..thanks for the information . I will try anything  ( I too have PTSD , attachment disorder , anxiety et). Thanks for the info!

[MyBrainIsBroken]

Barbie, I hope it helps you. My trauma therapist is pretty positive about MBSR.

[Treasur]

I really don't think even now that my h was a narcissist as it is described here, but I do think with MLC, they all become jaw-droppingly narcisstic....some of the communication examples shown her look pretty familiar http://www.thriveafterabuse.com/word-salad-narc-speak/...and the author echoes what we all say about detachment and minimal contact.

[31andcounting]

thanks brain!

I've done some udemy courses before and have found they help!

(hugs)
31

[Keep believing]

Hello,
I wanted to share this with you because in a strange way it helped me understand a bit of themlcer, in a vey simple way. Sorry i don't know how to paste but if someone could i would appreciate it.  its a song by Gordon lightfoot. "if you could read my mind love" .I was cleaning , listening to the radio. this song came on and it captured me. to me it sounds as though this guy really wants to be with his love but just can't find the feelings he once had and just is very confused as to Why?  total mlc song

[Keep believing]

he sounds so broken hearted that this happened to him

[Thunder]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QgqkY4YJQ8

Here you go, KB. 

Good lyrics, but sad.