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My Story 4 Years and counting !
#10: June 18, 2020, 02:35:22 PM
Happy birthday!
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4 Years and counting !
#11: June 18, 2020, 03:20:39 PM
Happy Birthday from me too!
 I think they reserve their worst look for the lbs. Its funny, now mine is at home with us and he works from home too. He talks and acts  miserable sometimes towards us and then he goes into "his" room gets on video calls and   we  hear how happily he talks and laughs  when he forgets that we might hear him.
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#12: June 18, 2020, 05:06:43 PM
Happy Birthday!  And yay for the kind regards from him.  I think I would fall over to get a HBD.

Mine treats me like a bastard at a family reunion!
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Re: 4 Years and counting !
#13: June 18, 2020, 05:16:52 PM
Treasure, lbs, faithwalker and upintheair. Thank you for the birthday wishes.

Treasure, my daughter is doing better, she doesn't want to be around her father. She has been easier to live with, thank god. I have no plans to be around mr angry at all. I was just shocked he remembered me.

Upintheair. I have read your thread. I haven't seen much of my ex to know that they save there nastiness for there family, but I'm not surprised. When he comes to see my daughter you would think that this is the last place he wanted to be.
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#14: June 18, 2020, 07:14:01 PM
Happy Birthday Em!
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BD End of April 2017
Moved out - kind of, May 2017
Denied affair
Cycled hard April - Oct 2017, my son figured out affair, I confronted husband, we were going away as a family for the weekend - H monsters hard and files for a D end of Oct, 2017
D final Sept 2018
Many touch and goes
He lives in monster, kids haven’t been with him overnight since Jan 2019
Moved in with MOW, a former friend of mine, May 2019

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Re: 4 Years and counting !
#15: June 19, 2020, 12:08:40 AM
Happy Birthday, Em! Hope you had a good day. it's my D's birthday today.

Bizarre how these MLCers can pop out of nowhere and suddenly remember you.
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#16: June 19, 2020, 06:44:19 AM
Thanks Milly

It is bizarre, he has not said anything in 5 years. It probably means nothing. Im sure I won't happen again fro another 5 years
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#17: June 19, 2020, 07:48:30 AM
Em

Don’t you think he may be poking out of the tunnel and is now testing the waters with you?

I’m just saying....five years seems to be around “that time.”
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#18: June 19, 2020, 09:09:12 AM
Hi Mego

He might be. He is still with Ow as far as I know. I think he try's to get my attention sometimes. Just dropping a crumb my way will not make me give him any attention. He needs to act like and adult and a parent before I will even bother to have a conversation with him
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#19: June 19, 2020, 11:01:21 AM
Happy birthday, Em! I haven't had much time lately to read on here but I have been thinking of looking into your story at some point.  I think we have some similarities as to when our (x)Hs left, the age of our Ds (mine just turned 12) and the struggles they have had.  My D is feeling better now but there were times when she lashed out at me a lot. It was very tough for me at times to deal with this challenging behavior and see the immense pain that lay at the bottom of her anger and outbursts.  It is heart-breaking what many (most?) children of MLCers go through.

I totally get what you are saying about your H trying to get your attention.  My xH seems to do that, too.
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Me: 51 (43 at BD1)
H: 57 (48 at BD1)
D: 14 (6 at BD1)
Met in 1995, married since 2000
BD 1: August 2014
BD 2: October 2015, H moved abroad
August 2018: Received divorce papers in the mail unexpectedly
May 2019: H gave up his job and moved about 1.5 hours to where D11 (at the time) and I live
Divorced: January 2020
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