[FaithWalker]

FH-

Grumpy Aunt, I love that. Right in the beginning I used to do a little snooping. Not any more, I feel that it is invasive and sometimes I don’t think I want to know what she is up to.

I snooped a lot too in the beginning.  When I stopped my snooping is when my healing was really able to begin.

[Ichoosefaith]

Hey y’all hope you had a great thanksgiving.

So yeah mine spends every moment home in her room, she’s moving out next week so I’m hoping things will begin to settle. She has so much hatred toward me. She posts so much slander and bullying memes about me online. I am done looking at them but the reason I bring it up is that for months she has publicly called me a piece of $h!te and a narcissist. And made a lot of fuss about how terrible I am. And I am afraid when the fog lifts she will not be able to face the embarrassment of getting back with me because of how terribly she portrayed me during all this. Like too much pride.

[KayDee]

They all do pretty awful things ICF. Not to diminish the effect of what your W has done. It is pretty despicable and if it wasn't so hurtful, you could roll your eyes at how immature it is. I imagine it says more about her than it does about you to anyone reading the comments. I guess we all ask this question sooner or later. And I personally think it may be a factor on whether or not the crisis person seeks to reconcile. The mending of so much damage may seem impossible to them. And, IMO, I think there's an aspect of bridge burning in their behaviour too. Like it's easier to burn everything up, then there is no way back. The question I asked myself was - do I want to be in relationship with someone who did such cruel things to me and did not have the courage to apologise and make some amends? That person would still be broken, IMO and therefore, the relationship would fail again. So, as simple as it sounds, they either do or they don't. And we can't control that. They have to do their own reflection and healing.

Sorry it's so painful and you have to endure this. Try not to engage with the 'monster' who posts on social media. As in, don't read the posts, and tell others you don't want to know. You will find more inner peace.

[UrsaMajor]

She posts so much slander and bullying memes about me online. I am done looking at them but the reason I bring it up is that for months she has publicly called me a piece of $h!te and a narcissist. And made a lot of fuss about how terrible I am. And I am afraid when the fog lifts she will not be able to face the embarrassment of getting back with me because of how terribly she portrayed me during all this. Like too much pride.

And this is YOUR problem because?

Sorry to be so blunt but that is called "being held responsible for one's actions." She did it and it will be up to her to make amends. If she chooses not to do so, that tells you what you need to know about what would happen during any future reconnection/reconciliation attempt....

Repeat after me.....