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My Story Through the Looking Glass
#110: June 25, 2025, 09:56:07 PM
Hi Everyone,

I used to wonder how people would be so active in this forum and then would drop out sight.  Well I haven’t posted for 8 months and I now understand what happens.  The past months have been wonderful and crazy busy for me.  My new job is going really well and I am still dating the woman from my last post.  It is her birthday tomorrow and we have a special night planned together.
My kids are also thriving and we are getting ready for a national dance competition in Vegas.  Will be a great time for me to relax, workout, and watch my daughter dance.

I came to this forum looking for hope and a need for understanding.  Now I have reached acceptance and honestly don’t need it or care to understand what happened.  I am healed and happy which is enough for me.

Thank you everyone who supported me during the difficult times.

HF
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Divorced 2.5 years
2 kids
BD - July 2020
XW Left Home - January 2021
XW Filed for D - May 2021
D Final - Jan 2022
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Re: Through the Looking Glass
#111: June 26, 2025, 12:59:54 AM
HF so glad to hear you and family are doing well. Maybe it is a great thing that you have no need to post. I think we all come to these places initially trying to find something to hang on to, maybe to understand, maybe to fix. What matters is to find our way out of that place.

Sounds like you have your life back. Just not the way you may have initially thought.
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No Kids, 23 years at BD1 (4 years), married 21
First signs of MLC Jan '15
BD 1 Jan '17, BD 2 Mar, Separated Apr, BD 3 May,BD 4 Jun '18
First Sign of Waking up-Dec '17, First Cycle out of MLC Mar '18-Jun ‘18, Second cycle Jul '18-??
Meets OM Jan '17 and acts "in love," admits "in love" Jun '18, asks for divorce Jul '18, no change since, keeps "not leaving"
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Through the Looking Glass
#112: June 26, 2025, 02:59:37 PM
I think this happens to a lot of folks here.  Reaching acceptance in whatever form and moving on from Hero Spouse.  And that’s perfectly ok. 

Good for you friend.   Upwards and onwards.  Dont look back.  This is the way. 

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Through the Looking Glass
#113: July 01, 2025, 08:22:58 PM
So happy for you!!!
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There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.

Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)
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