This weekend we had a 2 1/2 hour WHOLE FAMILY therapy session. This was in response to my S15's breakdown the other weekend. He went and had individual sessions with our therapist and the idea was we would all came together for a family session so S15 could address his issues with everyone. So there we are, all six of us and the therapist in the office. Wow.....I am glad I didn't cheat on H....bc the true feelings of our children would have crushed me. It was a great session. They expressed their anger, betrayal, and disappointment. He was able to apologize to them. I was able to apologize for the fact that after finding out I was a shell of mother to them for quite sometime. We all talked, they all agreed that as horrible as this situation was, we are closer and stronger as a family because of it. I think it was good for everyone. Still lots of healing to do but really we are on our way. H and I had our own therapy session scheduled for two weeks from now and the kids all expressed interest in doing another whole family session. So in two weeks we will all go back. Talk about all the feelings and how to make things better. This is just so exhausting but super important. Really even if there is not affair to get over, sitting down and talking and being guided by a professional is amazing to help with family communication. I will tell you.....I miss my easy life with a 5, 6, 9 and 11 year old.....this 15, 16, 19 and 21 year old parenting is a new ball game! And add H's affair and us almost getting divorced into that mix! Wow! So many feelings! But the good thing, we are on the right track. We aren't perfect.....but we are doing pretty good. Just wanted to share!