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My Story Rebuilding Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#70: November 18, 2018, 04:35:32 PM
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#71: November 18, 2018, 04:52:16 PM
So happy for you & Chuck, RCR.  God bless you, and your entire brood.

Just know that if you've single-handedly saved even ONE marriage - although, I would bet it's more than that - all of your efforts have been well worth it! 

So, thank you.  I'm (still) praying.
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#72: November 18, 2018, 06:40:56 PM
P.s. "Standing may be the hardest thing you ever do."

Holy Sh!!t - you were not kidding. xo
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#73: November 19, 2019, 01:44:12 PM
Just a quick post to check in and update… 
Wow just saw the date on my last update...a year ago for the adoption. I did not realize it had been that long.

My Father-in-Law was recently diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and is in his last days—likely hours; he is 83 years old. We saw him just before anyone knew something was wrong at the end of August. It was the next week that he was rushed to the hospital. He is now at home on hospice.
Chuck has been going home every Tuesday for the day to see him and until last week and each of the bigger kids got to go with him once to see Grandpa.
He is visiting him now and called when he turned on his Dad’s street because about 45 minutes before his brother had started sending a flurry of texts, he wanted to know what he was walking into. I don’t know what the texts said, because he called a bit later to say his Dad was sleeping.
Yesterday he began to go through periods where he lost his ability to speak; this was apparently frustrating for him since he is still aware.

Please keep Chuck and his father Joe in your prayers.

In other personal news…

Some of you may know that a few years ago we bought some property—10 acres inn a local canyon. The unofficial build date is for March 2021--~17 months away. So I have been spending a lot of my time designing home plans. Chuck has a builder in mind, but we have not yet met. I’m eager to meet with him to discuss my vision and if he can work with us—he’s one of the canyon neighbors I think.
I am very excited about this, though I will admit it doesn’t feel real yet!

I am almost ready to post my Paving the Way articles that will follow the original from a few years ago and the thread I ran this Summer. I had to find a new email sending service and this will be the first test of it. I am soooo very nervous! That seems silly to me, but I really am. It’s been two years since I posted and I had to clean out the email list—removed dead emails… I stripped it to half! I am going to be using Amazon’s sending service, so I’m nervous about that too…it took quite a bit for me to get it set-up and I hope I did it right—the trial emails have arrived without a glitch, so everything seems fine!
I already edited the original post]https://loveanyway.theherosspouse.com/2013/07/08/what-is-paving-the-way/]original post with some updates and it will become the first of a series. When I send my first newsletter out, it will be with that post (brief teaser/excerpt).
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#74: November 26, 2019, 08:23:56 AM
My Father-in-Law died a few hours after my last post. We will be going over there for the funeral next week--Monday and returning on Wednesday.

This morning at 4:13 I had been with our 2-year-old in his room and returned to our room, climbed in bed and then BUMP...the bed broke. We thought that a slat had just fallen underneath--happened before when the cat bumped it. NOPE It is broken--our sleigh bed we got when we got married! Wood splinters, fallen railing... I finished the morning back in the boys room where everyone soon woke up. ;D I might be low on sleep, but I am so blessed.

Oh, a couple of weeks ago at cub scouts Serenity's scout leader asked if I was her Grandma ::). Thanks :P
I get it more with the 2 and 3-year-old, but Serenity is 7! Come on, how old do I look! She was born before my 40th birthday--not much before, but technically before. ;)
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#75: November 26, 2019, 09:03:09 AM
I'm sorry for the loss of your FIL, RCR. 

Sending prayers for the family.
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#76: November 26, 2019, 10:06:50 AM
So sorry for your loss RCR.
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#77: November 26, 2019, 02:43:13 PM
Obviously not too old to be riding sleigh beds til they break:)

I´m sorry about Chuck´s Dad- pancreatic cancer is brutal on the patient and on the family.
Do you have a Thanksgiving ritual that connects to him?
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#78: November 26, 2019, 03:50:22 PM
So sorry for your loss, safe travels for the memorial and hope you have a lovely holiday with Chuck and the kids.
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Re: Adopting a New Life IV
#79: November 28, 2019, 08:37:17 AM
So sorry for your and Chuck's loss RCR.
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