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OP: November 06, 2020, 10:21:48 PM
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#1: November 07, 2020, 04:06:29 AM
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#2: November 07, 2020, 06:50:53 PM
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"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

Together 28 years, married 27. Two adult kids, ours

BD #1: 2016 - EA  |  BD #2: 2018 - FA

W moved out - June 2019 | OM#3 - July 2019
W asks for divorce - August 2019 | Divorce final - September 2019 | Moving on

My thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=11537.new#new

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#3: November 09, 2020, 08:21:58 AM
Following along .....

@Seahorse.... I've been a bit busy lately.... http://www.esa.int/Applications/Observing_the_Earth/Copernicus/Sentinel-6
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#4: November 10, 2020, 07:07:56 AM
Quote from: UrsaMajor on November 09, 2020, 08:21:58 AM
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@Seahorse.... I've been a bit busy lately.... http://www.esa.int/Applications/Observing_the_Earth/Copernicus/Sentinel-6

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#5: November 14, 2020, 05:07:26 AM
I saw pressure and how it eats away you ,I made a conscious decision to not let other people's pressure impact on my life .
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#6: November 14, 2020, 05:48:55 AM
John T -
That's a good decision.
How are you doing otherwise?
Post and let us know...
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#7: November 14, 2020, 09:43:45 AM
I tend to be replaying the conversations I've had with her , but I keep telling myself I can't change what's happened and have to let my marriage go and work on myself.
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#8: November 20, 2020, 12:03:40 AM
In my last conversation with my W she said she's ' flaky and unreliable ' not fully sure I understand what that meant .Any ideas please
I've been thinking about the future and thinking ahead only very slightly, this is a change for me as I'm not stuck in the' what if' world
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#9: November 20, 2020, 12:59:14 AM
Sometimes in the middle of the maelstrom, these folks do hiccup up a bit of truth imho. Not always intentionally, usually not constructively with a 'so what I'm going to do better is...', often doesn't last long, , just a statement in the moment really like 'the sun is shining'.  (I remember my xh saying two things in the early days before he stopped talking to me at all, both of which were quite true...that he could not be trusted with our relationship and that he wasn't the same person anymore.)

So what it means? It means that your w - at the moment - thinks she is flaky and unreliable. Which is probably from your POV completely accurate. And why nothing really important in your life or sanity should be contingent on anything she says or does. No more mind reading needed than that, I'd suggest, John.  :)
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