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#10: April 25, 2023, 03:14:44 AM
I guess we will have to see if he stops drinking for real. He's already had issues with that before right? DUI if I recall correctly? The fact he fell off the wagon again despite that is NOT a promising sign...

As for you, since Judgy McJudge is no longer your circus or monkey to deal with, he can sink or swim on his own merits.

I am so sorry to hear about MIL though. that is such a sad thing to have happen....

I am glad that S16 confided in you though. That is a good first step and a better way to reinforce your R with him and his with you...

I think though that I need

now to get rid of the mental image of FB on your porch in her jammies.... UGH!
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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
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#11: April 27, 2023, 03:38:29 PM
Hi Kit:  I had no idea - last I heard he was living at home and behaving.  Just awful that you are dealing with his nonsense again.  FB is SO rude to come to your house - classless.....

I am sorry to hear about your S.  You have done such a good job of keeping him calm in the middle of the circus.  His dad moving out again, his grandmother, being a teenager with raging hormones - makes sense he is dealing with anxiety.  I am glad there is a good counselor at school. 

Very sorry for your loss.  It sounds as if she provided good support during the storm.

Sending a big hug!!

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BD: March 2014, Left Sept 2014, Back Nov 2014
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Said he was "sure" he wanted a D in Dec 2015; 
Admitted long term affair - May 14, 2017 - says he is in love with the "symptom" but wants to build a relationship with me with "clear expectations" WHATEVER THAT MEANS!  Settlement Agreement signed 9/20/17.
Divorce final 3/14/18.
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#12: May 08, 2023, 06:03:46 PM
Wow, KIT.  I am just now reading your update.  Sending you and S16 lots of positive (((((vibes)))).  You two have got this!
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#13: July 13, 2023, 08:53:04 AM
Hey KIT....just checking in on you and sending positive thoughts your way. Hope you are doing okay
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