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« Latest by Happylight on April 10, 2024, 09:21:29 AM »I am so sorry. It can seem overwhelmingly painful. I advise you to try to do some things for yourself. This can be hard, but it was huge for me. I started working out again regularly, I started learning now to play the piano, I have learned to crochet.
Also know that the "Not in love with you" and "Never Loved you" language is very common. They have convinced themselves of this, and it is a reality for them right now, but it is because it is the only way they can justify what they are doing to themselves. I also read the reflection of a former MLC spouse who said he did everything he could in the months leading up to bomb drop to make his wife into everything he claimed she was. He picked fights and criticized constantly. My H did this as well, so the complaints and stuff are also a common MO for MLC.
Also know that the "Not in love with you" and "Never Loved you" language is very common. They have convinced themselves of this, and it is a reality for them right now, but it is because it is the only way they can justify what they are doing to themselves. I also read the reflection of a former MLC spouse who said he did everything he could in the months leading up to bomb drop to make his wife into everything he claimed she was. He picked fights and criticized constantly. My H did this as well, so the complaints and stuff are also a common MO for MLC.