MLC FOG=DEEP MENTAL CONFUSION WITH NO CLEAR DIRECTION IN SIGHT.
Not to mention things are "covered over" with a "veil" that can be PERCEIVED as thick or thin, it all depends on the person going through.
The fog overlays one's perception, and "skews" it, much like what happens when one is driving or walking through a fog that's not easily seen through.
Sounds are perceived as being 'closer' or "father away" again, depending upon the PERCEPTION of the one going through.
PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING DURING A MLC. It may not be YOUR perception, but this very aspect plays a huge part in the midlifer's journey through the tunnel...there are times of fog/confusion, times of clarity, times of living in the past, the future, and the present.
Even if you knew exactly what they were going through, and what their daily pain and the way they were dealing with it were like, would it help you personally? I can tell you from experience, AND from the vantage point of having been a Transitioner at one point on my OWN journey, the answer is NO, the requirements of the journey would be the same, and the aspects surrounding the journey would NOT change.
This is an aspect of the crisis that I never asked questions about when it was me; I know what 'mental fog' is, from a common sense point of view, and the deep confusion it can cause; but knowing what this was and is didn't change ONE thing for me or anyone else going through.
Unless one has figured out a way to stop the mental confusion before it begins within themselves, EVERYONE has had bouts of confusion from time to time within their own minds; and if you remember that aspect, you KNOW what the "MLC FOG" is all about; only to a much greater scale of your own confusion.
The LBS gets a real healthy "taste" of it when their world is rocked from one end to the other; and their lives shatter in pieces so small these will never be recovered.
It gets worse, as the actions of the MLC'er gets worse, as the shock deepens the confusion within the LBS; and their own actions become more confused....trying to play fair, when there is NO real way to do this without being torn apart emotionally...and the worse the MLC'er's actions get, the WORSE the "mental fog and confusion" gets within the LBS.
Now, tell me once again how you don't understand what the MLC'er is experiencing when you watch seriously confused actions that are often matched by the deepening confusion of the LBS???
I KNOW, I was THERE, TOO.
The more questions you've all had answered, the more you seem to have; and you don't need to know every little thing there is to know, and honestly, you will NEVER have everything you THINK you need in the way of answers.
The only answers you really "need" are the ones you already have within yourselves..and you will find these as you walk forward as individuals, not as a collective group. All in all, to reach the end, you'll each find your own perspective, your own way to wholeness and healing.
The tools have been written out; explained, and offered...what you do with them is up to you.
These were the aspects/Hallmarks that pointed the way toward what was happening to the MLC'ers, the life's lessons that are to be learned by BOTH people going through a journey that occurs at different times for the MLC'er, and the LBS, not to mention, the vast amount of spiritual lessons, and aspects that can also be learned from this.
My suggestion is always thus:
Get the understanding of what's going on, then get on your
journey; a term that most of you seem to HATE, or have to come to HATE hearing.
In my EXPERIENCED opinion, from the place I stand in now, that all of you have yet to reach, it's a VERY FITTING TERM to what this part of your lives ARE, and have BECOME for the moment....ALL of life is a "journey" of one sort or another.
The MLC/MLT, well, it's just ANOTHER phase in this MAIN journey from BIRTH to DEATH.
During our lives, we do go through many births, and many deaths; with the main physical birth at the beginning of our lives, and the main physical death at the end of our lives.
In between, you NEVER stop learning, and you never stop walking a JOURNEY; it's ongoing, always having something to catch your attention so you can learn what's needed to get on to the next phase...and the only time you stop walking and learning is when you're DEAD.
Much to love to all,
HB