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Ok we have a few now that are attempting this so I will try and add the links so they can be found. These are attempts so that newbies as well as others can see it as a process not an over night thing and that it isn't easy.

Please note that it can cycle back as well.

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A link to a thread for support that has links to other places for help (convoluted I know lol)


Reconciliation Support
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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
#4: December 01, 2011, 10:14:13 AM
THANK YOU FOR POINTING THESE OUT!!!

These are serious, reconnection attempts.... this is how it all starts, people.... the LBS has to be READY..... forgiveness must be felt.... and gratitude for the miracles in your life and lessons learned is necessary.... the MLCer comes back in stops and starts... pressure for him to be "Whole and well" before he can come back is a WALL that will keep the two of you apart....
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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
#5: December 01, 2011, 12:23:46 PM
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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
#10: December 19, 2011, 12:13:41 PM
You must be a Subscribers forum in order for this link to work

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Re: Links to reconciliation/reconnection threads
#14: May 08, 2012, 06:22:07 PM
Although NOT a reconnection story this link may have some information in it that will help get through the hurt.


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Both RCR (Rollercoasterider) and Stayed have been reconciled for many years. Their threads were not here because on the board earlier days everyone knew their story. We now have many new members that may not be aware of their stories so their links will be included on this thread.

Rollercoasterider http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=4326.0

Stayed http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=3816.0
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