Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: growing every day on May 22, 2011, 05:46:57 PM
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I have a question... if somone is on my thread and hits the facebook link, will it post my posts to facebook? I'm concerned as my story is pretty recognizable to H's family members that have facebook and I'd hate to have them find my posts.
Thanks,
GED
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I don't know the answer but you could always create another FB account
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I don't think that was the question -- and it's an issue I've wondered about as well. I think she means that if someone (person A) who has a facebook account hits the link while reading someone else's (person B) thread, do those posts then go onto FB, onto the person A's page.... person B wouldn't even have to have a FB account. Like posting a picture of someone.
I don't have FB, but I do know that pictures of me are on FB, put up by others. It's not like pictures of me can't be there just because I don't have my own page.
I actually wonder about the idea of linking this to FB in the first place.... of course just writing on a forum like this is pretty public, but that is a further dimension.
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I agree. Is it possible to remove the link to FB as a precaution or perhaps somehow integrate an "accept" on our profiles and if we do, great, if we don't then our posts are excluded? Similar to the "opt out" on check in's and allowing your pics to be used in advertisements on friend's pages. I know this is a public forum but my posts would recognizable as well..it's really a small world afterall. I know I'm tagged, as is my daughter in many pictures of people we aren't friends with and with college age nieces and nephews I can look at one group pic and find the names of every person at that party, and even more than H family, I would hate to see my D or her friends see the details I'm posting. Food for thought?
One last, but highly important issue with Facebook. Many of my employment recruitments are asking for any Linkdin or FB pages and even if you don't give, they have software which searchs so it become very complicated. We would have to make a fake email, another FB, and limit our profile info, wouldn't we? Promoting the site is valuable, but I'm nervous about the details as well.
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Well I hit the FB button on this thread and it took me to my own facebook and I could post a link to this page.
So if someone wants to link their profile to something they are reading that is what that button will do.
I don't think it works the way you are all posting about it.
FB can be as public or private as you want to make it.
Putting a button on this website does not change your privacy unless you start linking to here by YOUR choice..
I personally use my own name on FB and have not really seen any problem.
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There are a few FB functions. There is a little share button at the top. Clicking on that and then going through the process to accept will put a post to your profile that links to the specific thread.
So someone else doesn't post it to your profile. Without the sharing functionality they can do the same thing manually by just posting a link from their facebook profile. This just simplifies the process.
Now all those little icons at the bottom, I wasn't so sure but like OP, I tried one--the Twitter icon--and it just took me to my twitter page--or maybe the general twitter page for those without accounts. I was hoping it would be a share button so I could share the posting of the mission statement.
Is it possible to remove the link to FB as a precaution or perhaps somehow integrate an "accept" on our profiles and if we do, great, if we don't then our posts are excluded? Similar to the "opt out" on check in's and allowing your pics to be used in advertisements on friend's pages. One last, but highly important issue with Facebook. Many of my employment recruitments are asking for any Linkdin or FB pages and even if you don't give, they have software which searchs so it become very complicated. We would have to make a fake email, another FB, and limit our profile info, wouldn't we? Promoting the site is valuable, but I'm nervous about the details as well.
It's not possible to specifiy individual threads or poster threads where the link will be visible. That functionality is only available to boards--and I have deactivated the fb mods for the private board. Someone could post a link to the private board manually on fb, but they would still not have access since only subscribers can enter. Links for the public parts of the forum may be posted by anyone, anywhere--regardless of whether they use the simplification fb feature or not. Look at all of the links we post here from places like DB.
So if your MLCer came along and found this site and posted a link on their fb...that would not be an issue with the availability of the fb function. That would be about the board being public and I would then recommend you subscribe since privacy may be needed in that situation.
Most people here are not going to go posting their own threads on their fb pages. But topic threads may be what people post and more likely someone who posts to fb from here is someone lurking and interested in MLC and wants to share. They probably are not active memebers and may not have registered, but are trying to prove to all of their friends that this MLC thing exists and other people are Standing too.
And I actually doubt that any postings from here to fb are common. I check my stats daily and occasionally see a few things from fb. Due to fb privacy settings I don't know where they come from within fb. But those were coming in well before the fb share and icon buttons were added--which was months ago.
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thank you, RCR. This is the area where things can get so wooly -- I know that I, for one, just don't keep up with all the developments in technology and the privacy issues that it throws up. So much of this is so new, that lots hasn't caught up. Explanations are good.
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Thanks. Subscribing - am I right in assuming you aren't limited to just private forums you can still participate in the public topics as well, but it allows a private communication on specific topics? Those topics/threads cannot be linked to any outside sources? I'm not a paranoid anti tech person, quite the opposite, but H has career in a very public arena. Keeping it cryptic, when people talk about office politics, he knows the real thing and we both know many people in that arena. So privacy on certain things is important.
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Most people who subscribe still run a thread on the public forum--often that is their main or only story thread. But it is the exception to the single story thread rule.
So yes, subscribers still have access to the public board.
The boards are meant to work the same, you can start topics with the topic icons over there, but most don't--they probably come over here for that. It is mainly used simply to keep their story private.
I just changed the setings for the inf board--the fb share was deactivated there.And then I went an shared the mission statement thread to my personal fb page. I would like it if that had automatically gone to the fan page also...but nope. But there was a reshare option, it had a little pull down menu for send to a friend, PM or group. I tried group and then it wouldn't let me because it said I needed a recipient---Um, the group name was the recipient and all little spaces were filled in. ::) But I did reshare it to my Rollercoasterider Stander page so you can see an example of fb share to a thread at this site.
As for my main fb. I have my blog posts go there automatically. But while we are trying to adopt I've upped my privacy and am keeping that account for family and personal friends wtihin the family.
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As for my main fb. I have my blog posts go there automatically. But while we are trying to adopt I've upped my privacy and am keeping that account for family and personal friends wtihin the family.
HMMM it posted it twice on your personal page but only once on RCR's page.
Maybe it is reposting on your personal page what is posted on RCR's page?
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Maybe, but I did try to submit it two ways--can't even remember specifics. But I checked so quickly that I probably did not see the second posting.
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I really do not get fb!
I removed the 2nd posting and it looks like it may have been from a different attempt to post in a different way--don't ask what way I'm lost. ??? But it looks also like it could be due to my posting to the other account because when I went to my fb it only showed it once, but when I clicked to home or profile--whichever was the one I was not on--it showed two. Huh? But I did remove that 2nd one.
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Thanks for the info. When it comes to FB - great concept but still glitchy, don't care what they say. My FB profile is locked down except for pics, people tagged can see but not comment on pictures, yet someone I'm not friends with, H sisters to avoid any possible conflicts, and actually I have them blocked, saw a response I made to my daughter about something and was able to comment on it on my D's page. If they are on a blocked list they shouldn't even know I exist on FB. Same in reverse, since they are blocked I shouldn't have been able to see their postings either.
Also, I was briefly an administrator of a group page for D's sport. Even though my pics are locked down, again except for people tagged, the group page actually shows pictures of members from their albums, so even if you didn't know a person but caught the right picture at the right time... and lo and behold my pictures started rotating through. It happened again, even after locking the setting down for friends only. I had no idea that being a member of a sports team group page would open up my pictures for viewing to anyone else in that group regardless of privacy settings. I could see if you submitted pics pertaining to the sport but to show my personal pics? and my D's? I saw another group member's kids Christmas photos at home, Christmas morning, in their pj's, really invasive IMO, they were probably for family and friends, not everyone in a group where you don't know people. I know this group member, highly educated, techie, on top of things, he didn't realize it either.
OP, you seem fairly skilled in this, am I missing a setting somewhere?
Thanks so much.