Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: Shantilly Lace on April 05, 2012, 03:23:47 PM
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Well exactly as the title says Happy Easter.
For the newbies who’s world has fallen apart and everything hurts and brings back memories as hard as it to believe you will get to a point where you can start creating new happy memories.
It is not a betrayal to do so. You may feel a pang when you do new things but it won’t hurt as much.
We all start off wanting our spouses back and we all start off trying to fix it. The best Easter gift you can give you, your family and even your spouse is fixing yourself so you are strong, capable and happy, whether they are in your lives or not.
Happy Easter all.
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Happy Easter. I will be spending it with my family...but it's the first time apart from my H since I met him...23 years....oh well. If Jesus can be resurrected from the grave my marriage can be resurrected someday also.
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Happy Easter to everyone.
Hope Floats is so right. I am almost 6 months into this and I feel I am doing very well. My life is all about me and very little about my vanisher and his crisis. I have times that last seconds, minutes, hours or days when I am so uttlerly and overwhelmingly consumed by grief but they are less than they were before. I know that his crisis is outwith my control so I have no guilt in living my life as I am and enjoying pretty much every day.
Who knows what the future holds? I know one thing - I'm going to be just fine and dandy whatever happens to my H.
Much love to all, TE x
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Happy Easter everyone......we have a lot to be grateful for and for that i thank Jesus for making this possible xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Happy Easter to all on the forum including family and MLCers.
We should all count our blessings and there are many to be grateful for including Jesus dying on the cross to forgive all our sins. May the blessing of Easter touch all of us.
H will come bearing eggs on Good Friday but disappear to OW and her family on Easter Sunday. This has now become a tradition. Since BD H hasn't spent Easter or Christmas at home. That's fine and now we don't focus on it but enjoy the day.
xx
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Great thread! As a newbie (almost 7 months), it's nice to hear how others are progressing and spending the holidays. Maybe we can even share ideas on new traditions to create.
My H will be coming over from 9:00am - 2:30pm on Easter. We will have brunch with the D's and of course their Easter egg hunt. I'm going to try and think of something special to do with my girls after H leaves, something to create a new tradition for just the D's and I, even if it's just baking a special treat or something :)
And let us not forget the reason for the season! How very blessed and loved we are by our awesome God. Glory be to Him!
Happy Easter everyone!!!! :)
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Happy Easter to one and all :)
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Happy Easter!
As in the Gaithers' song:
"'It is finished', the battle is over and Jesus is Lord!"
As we remember Jesus' death, taking our sins on that cross, let's be thankful that God triumphs over death, so He can resurrect that which is dead, namely, our marriages!
Remembering also that it will be like 'new wine poured into new wineskins' (Matt 9:16-17).
May God work on us too, making way for the new.
Praying that our spouses maybe touched by the Easter story.
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Happy Easter everyone. May we walk forward and be the authentic person we are all meant to be.
Hugs,
Sassy
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Happy Easter to each of you and your families. May the enemy that is surrounding our spouse be struck down with the resurrection of our savior. That which has died is resurrected and made anew. May God smile upon you and give you his favor. May he work in the heart of our spouses and turn it to a heart of flesh and bring our prodigals home.
Peace, MOC
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Happy Easter everyone.
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Happy Easter everyone!
Wow...how things can change so fast. 3 years ago on Easter Sunday I was given the hugest blessing. My baby girl was born and we started our family. It seriously was the happiest day of my life and the closest I had ever felt to H. He was my rock through labor and delivery and was so excited to become a daddy. He looked so proud of his family that day. Last year was the first year that D and I were on our own for Easter and it was a sad day but we made it through. Today, 21 months after BD, D and I had such a fun day together. I've had a hint of sadness for missing my family unit but it definitely is getting better. I looked around at church and the Easter egg hunt and saw families enjoying each other, but I was content today with just D. I feel like I've come a long way so far. H and I even texted each other pics of D. She went to an Easter egg hunt yesterday with him, OW with her 2 girls. I sent him some of D at the hunt today. It was really pleasant actually. I sent one pic of D in her pretty Easter dress and he commented back "our little princess". I haven't heard him use the word "our" for a very long time. The divorce process has only been about "mine, mine, mine". It's a nice change...even if it's only for today.
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Happy Easter! Today was the first time H had my girls for Easter without me. He took them to see his family, and I spent the day with mine. It seemed like the day went ok for them, until the ride home when H made the girls stop at the dive he's living in and listen to him read from a piece of paper all the days, holidays (complete with pickup & drop-off times) they're required to be with him. He chose to end Easter by putting all the divorce detail garbage in their faces and they came home quiet and sad. He hadn't seen D17 in two weeks, and I bet she won't see him now for at least two more.
So today I'm SO thankful for Jesus, his sacrifice, and his ability to comfort my kids and love them even more than I do!!!
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Yes, Happy easter to all. It's Easter Monday holiday here and I'm enjoying spending time with the kids who are also in the middle of 2 weeks School holidays. End of term 1 (We have 4 terms).
We had planned all along to go on the church family camp but I couldn't afford the deposit earlier on and then as time approached we lost interest and have stayed home. It's been nice to get some things done on my list and to sleep in each morning.
2 years ago H picked a fight with me about meeting the neighbour and it ended up with him saying on Good Friday that he didn't want to eb married to me any more and then on Easter Sunday he stormed out of the house. He returned later and I thought we were progressing with counselling but I had no idea about the other life he was leading behind my back. Last Easter he had already left. Today we are officially separated for one year exactly and therefore H is free to file for divorce as from tomorrow. On last year's Easter Sunday I cut off my wedding ring. It was 4 days after I found out about OW.
This Easter is so much better and now I can understand the pain Christ must have felt at the betrayal of these he thought loved him. It does hurt more than physical pain.
So, a year on I am much stronger. I look back on last Easter time and it's hard to describe but it felt surreal and like I was in dream (Nightmare) land. It just felt weird. Today I feel I have 2 feet firmly on the ground. The kids are more settled. The older 2 have come a long way and the younger 2 still need time to accept reality but they are progressing.
Hugs to all and extra hugs for those that need it at this time.
SP