Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: rover77 on November 06, 2013, 10:58:23 AM
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just like a romance novel... http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wendy-gaynor/family-food-endings-and-b_b_4212499.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce
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Another happily ever after......so heart warming! I was so hoping to hear what happened to her after she figured out she was 'lovable' and divorced the old boy. What then? Did she meet that perfect guy that would 'make her 'happy' and live happily ever after in fantasy land? Why do we get only half the story. That was 1982.....what about 2013?
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just like a romance novel... http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wendy-gaynor/family-food-endings-and-b_b_4212499.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce
By Wendy Gaynor, the author of the above article.
" I met Richard when I was 18 and nagged him into marrying me
For the first time in 29 years, I knew what I NEEDED, I knew what I could not live without: a baby. And so the nagging continued until Richard relented and I got pregnant.
I'd been with Richard for 16 years, a lifetime, or so it felt at the "ripe old age of 34."
Before Ruby's birth, my husband, Richard had been my God, my salvation; he had rescued me from an abusive home. I was indebted to him for loving me.
Paul and I meet for lunch. One thing leads to another, as I know it will, and an affair begins.
It doesn't lead anywhere, as well it shouldn't, but it teaches me a few invaluable lessons....Thirdly, and maybe most importantly, I learn that I am lovable, something I never knew before."
For Wendy, adultery taught her she was lovable.
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Another happily ever after......so heart warming! I was so hoping to hear what happened to her after she figured out she was 'lovable' and divorced the old boy. What then? Did she meet that perfect guy that would 'make her 'happy' and live happily ever after in fantasy land? Why do we get only half the story. That was 1982.....what about 2013?
As per usual the husband that saved her from all the crap of her childhood and stood by her until she decided to dump him is barely even a footnote...disgusting.
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1982? Does she have true love now? Her words describing her first husband are "he rescued me from an abusive childhood...." so perhaps both she and her husband needed to GROW UP and perhaps their marriage could have been reimagined, who knows. Her solution was to "run away as fast as I could NOW THAT THE MARRIAGE HAD COMPLETELY ERODED (due to her affair)", as if it was the marriage that made the choice to have an affair.
In further support of leaving her unhappy marriage she cites her own Mother's bitter words after the death of her Father. Not every marriage should be entered into ...or stayed in....or saved.....not every affair is MLC related.....however, this woman's account of her own life is not only dull so far, but she seems to have a very immature idea of what love is all about.
In all fairness, she's simply perpetuating the ideas and justifications that are already out there.
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I agree with all ..there is a recurring theme of 'rescue me 'in her life..and when she is done..she moves on..
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EXACTLY..there's the "fairy tales" that got force fed. Somebody's going to come along and save you.
More like Little Red Riding Hood in my case ::) But I'm not looking for the woodsman to come in and slay the wolf for me either- I'll handle that myself.
I don't need saving anymore-I'll save myself thank you very much.
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Wow!
I don't know what that woman thought in writing that story.
She came across as a self centered, selfish, silly woman.
Oh yes, and her 2 daughters are what meant most to her.
Right.
Nothing romantic or exciting about that.
Horrible.
L
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I agree Limitless,
Horrible!!
How did that frigg'n story even become an article???
Makes sensible people scratch their heads in my opinion.
I laughed when I read it and thought WTF? Really? High School BF feeds her a couple of 'lines', screws her, leaves her and she feels lovable? Lot of 'FOO dirt' 'inside' that woman also.
Poor kids........
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Huff Po articles often have title changes...this one is also called 'What I learned About Love From My Affair' and 'The Best Thing That Came Out Of My Affair'
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Rookie... Well said, she feels lovable after being screwed and HS BF leaves her... But completely unlovable with her then husband with whom she's had two kids.... And apparently there is no regret because with the ending of her marriage paved the way for her grand life.
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Yes I would be interested in hearing about just how grand that life really was. I notice she really said nothing about it. I guess some people just never get through the tunnel....or grow up. Sad and pathetic!
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Wait. Why can't it be true love AND divine intervention? You know, because we all DESERVE that, don't we?
I hope all is well, brother.
Doc Hudson
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We live in a very liberated and enlightened society. If a woman needs to be freed from an unhappy marriage, then she must be allowed to go. Even if she does act whorish. :o