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Title: Merry Christmas
Post by: Shantilly Lace on December 23, 2010, 07:05:11 PM: Hey guys I won't have time to get round to everyone, Xmas eve is creeping up fast and there are things to be done.

So have a FABULOUS Christmas.

Put aside fears and sadnesses for the day and do something nice for yourself.
Thankyou for your support and friendship. You are all worth your weight in gold.

MERRY CHRISTMAS.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Purple stain on December 23, 2010, 07:12:12 PM: Beautifully said S!

I also wish everyone on here and your families a merry Christmas. All of you are in my prayers as we walk on and make the best of our situation.

Hugs and love
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Buggy31 on December 23, 2010, 08:00:38 PM: May all of you find peace in the next few days as you would any other..one moment at a time.
Together with the ones you are blessed to be in the presence of
inspired by the story of Christmas...
of a birth
of a love
for the world entire.
Hugs and Love to all of you and your families
Bugs
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: BraveNewWorld on December 23, 2010, 09:05:46 PM: Just want to add my wishes of peace to everyone too. Thanks for your words and time - it has helped.

Holdingon
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Voyager on December 23, 2010, 11:34:46 PM: I want to wish everyone a calm, peaceful and hopeful Christmas, thank you for all the love and care you have shown to me over the past 8 months. I hope for each and everyone of us we find love, grace and the happiness in the new year we all deserve.

May you feel such love as lights the morning
Even at this darkest time of year:

Rippling through your heart with little warning,
Returning you to wonder and to fear.

You cannot will yourself to feel such love;
Christmas is a gift of unsought grace.

However much your spirit moves,
Redemption chooses whom it will embrace.

In you may there be radiance and beauty
Such that you might never hope to see,

Taking as its home some common duty
Made lovely by a will sustained and free.

As you become a vessel for this light,
So may you know its grace and its delight.

Love and hugs to everyone. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: With Gods Help! on December 24, 2010, 12:42:39 AM: Merry xmas to everyone xxxxx

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and its turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When they might have won, had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit!

GODBLESS you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: watching and waiting on December 24, 2010, 03:47:07 AM: My Christmas Wish For You

My Christmas wish for you, my friend
Is not a simple one
For I wish you hope and joy and peace
Days filled with warmth and sun

I wish you love and friendship too
Throughout the coming year
Lots of laughter and happiness
To fill your world with cheer

May you count your blessings, one by one
And when totaled by the lot
May you find all you've been given
To be more than what you sought

May your journeys be short, your burdens light
May your spirit never grow old
May all your clouds have silver linings
And your rainbows pots of gold

I wish this all and so much more
May all your dreams come true
May you have a Merry Christmas friend
And a happy New Year, too ..

Blessings
xx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: justasking on December 24, 2010, 04:39:58 AM: MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD.

Thank you all for the love, support and comfort you have given me and my children over the past 8 months. You are all true friends.

May the joy and peace of Christmas filter through your homes and familys' bringing happiness and gladness throughout the Christmas period and into 2011.

Big hugs to everyone.

xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Butterfly on December 24, 2010, 04:50:55 AM: Merry Christmas!!!!

Butterfly
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Still on December 24, 2010, 05:21:27 AM: Merry Christmas to everyone!

I wish you peace and joy this holiday season. May we put aside all our troubles and focus on the meaning of Christmas....an amazing love.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Love being on higher grounds on December 24, 2010, 07:09:04 AM: To all of you.

thanks so much for all of the support and continued kind words. Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas!

Send many prayers and much love,
L
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Courageous wife on December 24, 2010, 10:45:57 AM: Thankyou SL for starting this thread!

To all of you

Your wise words and kindness have helped me get through this past year!! I cannot express how thankful I am to have this forum!!!
May we all find joy and peace in out lives again!

2011 is going to be a good year!!!

Have a Blessed Christmas everyone!!!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: rediscover on December 24, 2010, 04:19:34 PM: Merry Christmas! Hope everyone has a day that is joyful and peaceful.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: LettingGo on December 24, 2010, 04:42:18 PM: Adding my own MERRY CHRISTMAS to all, and to all a good night.....sleep, LOL!!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: limitless on December 24, 2010, 08:14:02 PM: May you all have peace and joy tonight.

L
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: StillStanding on December 24, 2010, 09:00:32 PM: I hope everyone has a great Christmas; even though none of us are doing what we want or spending it with the people we love, we have the power to make tomorrow the best we can.

Consider giving yourselves the best gift you can -- tell yourself that you forgive your MLCer for the pain they have caused you and the people around them so far. Let that pain go and enjoy the long weekend.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: Glimmer on December 25, 2010, 12:33:44 AM: Hi Everyone.

I would just like to wish you and your families a very MERRY CHRISTMAS.

Thankyou for your continued support and encouragement. Here's hoping we all have the very best day possible.

XXXXXX
Title: Re: Merry Christmas
Post by: covenantkeeper on December 25, 2010, 08:16:19 AM: I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas. I hope you all have an opportunity to be surrounded by family and to share in their love. And if they are not blood family......who cares?! :) We all deserve to have a wonderful, peaceful day. One day to escape from the hell of MLC, no mater what our current circumstances are.

I intend to make the most of it, and spend some time with my children. And perhaps have some time to visit my extended family. And time to just be goofy and carefree. ;D

To my family here on this forum, I wish I could give you all what I know your wishes are. But, all that I can give you is my appreciation and gratitude for every one of you. You have all been my lifeline. I am very lucky to have such dear friends all over the world!

Merry Christmas!!!!! (((((HUGS))))) :)
Title: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 19, 2011, 08:21:54 PM: and a very Happy New Year! :)

May God watch out over and keep all of you; and may all your dreams that reside within your heart come true in the coming year.

I find myself taking stock of the past year; and I have SO much to be thankful for; I was very thankful at Thanksgiving...but at the end of each year, I have found myself looking back over the past year with amazement, thankfulness, and wonder at the awesome goodness of the Lord; in spite of all I've had to deal with/go through; and it wasn't ALL my husband's left over aspects I'd dealt with.

My health took a weird turn; but I survived; and am still surviving. I still don't feel good some days; and there are times when I still feel unbalanced within myself; but through some research I've done; I do have something on the way to help me with these "left over" symptoms.

I am thankful to just BE, knowing that God has all things under His Control; because I sure don't suffer from any illusion that I control anything; but my own decisions that will lead onto the various paths of my life. My husband does very well this day; he is settling down into the man I saw so many years ago when he exited the tunnel the first time; and he's so different than he was before; and this is all good. :)

I have been known to get so frustrated because sometimes I don't feel I am getting most of my points across; but I have been reminded many times that I can only do so much; and the rest is up to the person I try to help.

I've also been reminded that people will often have to read various posts more than once; and each person gets some further understanding each time they are read through and over again.

In this aspect, I'm thankful to even HAVE and REMEMBER the knowledge, wisdom, and information to write down; EVEN IF it's down multiple times. :) I've spent most of my time with people that are further along than the ones just coming into this; mainly because there is so little written on the final stages, and I'm thankful I can help in this way. I had often worried that no one would reach thus far before I eventually left for good; but it's not happened that way.

As it stands, I'll be visiting along for quite some time until I know for certain I'm gone.

Anyway, understand that you must needs to focus on what you HAVE; NOT what you don't have. There is much more "life" to live than you think; in spite of the fact your MLC spouse is mentally and emotionally "checked out" for the moment. It's hard at first; but it does get easier with time, if you will allow yourselves to just let go of the fact you really can't control this process NOR the person going through it.

You can do this; if I can do this, anyone can do this. :) I always said I wasn't the sharpest crayon in the box; but through my connection to the Lord, which empowered my Intuition, I did find I could do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me at ALL times.

People have often said they look at the time of eleven years I spent in his crisis; and a few have said they feel like "wusses" because they so want to quit at times. That's NATURAL; and I daresay it would help you to understand that I walked in those shoes, TOO.

I got so dang tired of dealing with him day in and day out; and I often complained to the Lord; only to hear Him remind me that I had the power to walk away ANYTIME I wanted...yet, I knew what the consequences would be for me; and I would always look at the amount of time I had already been dealing...and so, I would decide once again; to keep walking; even though there did come a time when I did finish my journey to wholeness and healing in FULL; nothing set aside or skipped; as this was a requirement of ME; plus it was shown that this aspect applied to my husband, as well.

So this crisis too, came to pass, and ended just a few short months ago.

My husband and I now walk forward into a life that does NOT contain even an aspect of MLC anymore..and that has affected me to some extent; it always does when you've been in something for so long, then you need to "uncondition" yourself from the various aspects a trial like this contains.

But, as a gentle reminder; it was NOT the survival; reconnection, recommitment, reconciliation, and rebuilding of our marriage that made me or him a true success, it was the JOURNEY we took to arrive at the place we came to in our lives.

Never allow your marital status to "define" you; that is part of co dependency; remember it is NOT what you do that makes you successful; ultimately it is who you ARE that defines what people see in you. :)

As a parting thought, I spoke to a man who had been married over 40 years, and he imparted something I had never thought of in my life.

You know, marriage is a 50-50 proposition when it comes to breakdown and contributions; but when a marriage is in crisis; the ratio becomes 90/10 in that the spouse that wishes it to heal/reconcile/rebuild; is giving at least NINETY PERCENT to try and make it happen; while the other spouse is either making little effort or no effort at all; they fall within the 10 percent range.

You'll find that during this time, you'll often be called upon to give MORE than you receive; but this aspect has its own rewards. During the crisis, we are called upon as never before, to carry burdens we were never meant to carry; but once the crisis is past; this balance should shift more evenly to your spouse.

There will also be times when your spouse will be called upon to carry burdens not meant for them, as each person is part of a team; and teamwork IS needed in order for the marriage to successfully carry on, post crisis; using the tools gained during this trial.

It's rare that both people are totally idle, doing nothing; because one of you is always doing something to keep the marriage on track, and sacrifice will always occur on one or both parts at various times of the marriage.

That's what it truly means when you vow "for better OR for worse; for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health until death do you part."

Yet, I firmly believe, and have seen that once the crisis is successfully navigated; although there will always be problems to face; each spouse will learn to give more and take less as time goes on; bringing the balance back to "50-50"..each one will have learned what love, forgiveness, acceptance, true balance, strength and fortitude is truly all about.

For the best thing they will ever have in their whole lives will always be standing right in front of them.

I don't have anything tangible to give to you this Christmas Season; but I do hold out Hope for all of you to navigate this trial in full; and have happy lives; regardless if your marriage makes it or not.

Hope was always the one thing I could give when I couldn't give anyone a solid guarantee of how the crisis would resolve; and I found that it was more than enough.

As long as I still loved my husband, HOPE remained alive and well in my deepest heart of hearts; and I extend this unto all of you. :)

May we also have another fruitful year; one of peace, harmony and love; and may we never forget the place we were in, so we can most effectively help the ones that come behind us all. :)

Food for thought. :)

Love, hugs, and encouragement to all of you,
Your friend,
HB :D
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Shantilly Lace on December 19, 2011, 08:28:20 PM: Thankyou HB

I too look at this as my choice and am grateful for all I have.
I love Dearheart and have hope. Doesn't mean I don't tire or have doubts but I come through it

Merry Christmas to you
Hugs
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Love being on higher grounds on December 19, 2011, 08:31:15 PM: DITTO!!

one of my favorites!

Love and many blessing to everyone and their families!

HUgs,
L
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: With Gods Help! on December 19, 2011, 08:44:36 PM: Hb thank-you i truly wish you the same and i hope one day just has you and others have helped me on my journey i can help others who have yet to face this........Merry Christmas and very happy new year to you and your family xxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 19, 2011, 08:55:38 PM: WGH,

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Hb thank-you i truly wish you the same and i hope one day just has you and others have helped me on my journey i can help others who have yet to face this

I think you already do, and don't realize it, Sweetie. You know as "windy" as I often get; sometimes what people really want is to know they aren't alone in these types of trials.

I also understand I get "stalked", "chased"; asked a LOT of questions; and it was a long time before I realized that I really WAS helping people just by being there, EVEN if I couldn't say ONE thing; except, I'm here, I love you, and I'm so sorry you're going through this...

Lady, you have more to offer than you think; you are going through an aspect of this that the information you post DOES help, more than you know; and you never know who is LURKING; that might actually read your posts, but NEVER post themselves.

I've had people that have sent me PMs that have NEVER posted this board; but they were reading various posts; and were gleaning information; and help from all they read...so NEVER think you aren't helping; you really are; you just don't know it, because you don't see always see it. :)

Gods' Blessings upon you,
HB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Shantilly Lace on December 19, 2011, 08:59:31 PM: WGH
That's why I post so much. So people can see how it plays out. The good the bad the ugly the cycling and fears. People who may never post and I know you're out there ;), need the information. So they can see
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 19, 2011, 11:30:52 PM: Quote
WGH
That's why I post so much. So people can see how it plays out. The good the bad the ugly the cycling and fears. People who may never post and I know you're out there ;), need the information. So they can see

I became aware of the "lurkers" when I started getting PMs from them asking me various questions along the way; there are a couple who STILL PM me from time to time; but they won't start a thread...but that's OK, as long as they can read what's here, and still learn from it. :)
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: striving on December 19, 2011, 11:35:02 PM: I have never posted. I don't feel I can for a few reasons. And yes, I am one who reads these posts from so many of you again and again to try one more time to accept my spouse's growing up process - which, thanks to you all here, I understand will continue for an indefinite period of time and become whatever it will become and may not be in my favor and is not in my control, except for the making sure I grow my own self up part. And your community has helped me find my courage to understand and begin to do that. And even though I am silent here in the ether, I am becoming more compassionate for my fellow humans as I go through this process and that is expressed openly toward my friends and family and community. So yes, your words help guide the lurkers in pain in the night, but eventually your words go even further than that. And I thank you all.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Shantilly Lace on December 19, 2011, 11:51:28 PM: Merry Christmas striving
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Musica on December 20, 2011, 02:28:41 AM: Thank you HB and thank you all. (Striving, I too was a 'lurker' for a long time ... )

I really do hope that everyone; posters, lurkers, those in the first stages, and those coming towards the end of their journeys ... I hope we can all have a peaceful, calm and wonderful Christmastime, and that 2012 will bring joy and love into our hearts.

Lots of love xxxx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: nesquick2 on December 20, 2011, 03:21:12 AM: thank you hb. i hope you have a lovely christmas and happy new year. i too was a lurker for about 4 months but glad i started posting. its great to read threads and give and take advice. i also pm you at one stage hb. you truly are a special lady with a heart of gold ;D
i hope everyone here has a great christmas. i will be thinking about us all and our families. i will try and come on christmas evening to help anyone i can. stay strong everyone and remember we are all here to support eachother. love and hugs to you all ;D ;D ;D
striver. get posting and join us lbs. we all help eachother along the way ;D
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: justasking on December 20, 2011, 03:28:33 AM: May the joy of the season and the blessings that fall on us at this lovely time of the year carry us forward into a New Year full of positives.

Whatever road we are walking on and whatever the outcome may we always count our blessings and be grateful for the lovely things in our lives and the support we get as we move forwad.

MERRY CHRISTMAS to everyone and a peaceful, positive New Year in 2012.

xx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: NewBeginnings on December 20, 2011, 03:56:03 AM: HB ~
I want to thank you for all of your help. The info you post has helped me tremendously along with help from everyone else on here. I also was a lurker for a couple of months. Then one day something came over me that
insisted I post. The support I received was overwhelming. I felt so alone and lost and if hadn't been for everyone on here, the advice I was given, the articles that I have read over and over, I'm afraid I will still be lost. But I'm not lost anymore. I have become strong and I even have some moments of happiness. :)

I wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Love to you....
NB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: wondering on December 20, 2011, 04:17:16 AM: Thank You HB and everyone, I don't know where I would be without all of you. I too post for everyone to see my story. The good, the bad and the ugly. If it helps others all the better. It's our journey and I am truly grateful. May this next year bring health and happiness to everyone!!
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Dandy Lion on December 20, 2011, 04:21:40 AM: May your Christmas be full of joy and 2012 be kind to us all
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Little Chief on December 20, 2011, 04:27:40 AM: HB, I wish you and everyone here peace and joy throughout this season and the coming year. You have helped so many of us, even when you don't realize it. I get so much out of your posts to others, and even more when I read them twice! Thank you.

God Bless.

LC
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Dandy Lion on December 20, 2011, 04:45:33 AM: Thank you HB for all your support this year.

May this Christmas fill you with joy and may 2012 be full of love and kindness.

Dandy :)
xx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Sassyone on December 20, 2011, 05:12:26 AM: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you HB. As I have told you many times you are indeed a lifesaver. You have a unique ability to pay it forward and your raw honesty is amazing. Thank you for your continued guidance. May you and your family have a blessed New Year.

Sassy
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: OldPilot on December 20, 2011, 05:18:55 AM: I do wish everyone here a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

I wish myself, my children, my wife and anyone else here that this applies to a HAPPY CHANUKAH.

Take time out to be thankful for what is good in life.

We only get to live it once.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: BonBon on December 20, 2011, 06:31:28 AM: Bravo!

Lovely sentiments HB! I am glad your health is ok...if not perfect...but it seems like you are doing fine and you have my prayers for continued management of your condition! Again, you are a jewel in the crown of life...don't ever forget it.

To those of you who are dealing with health issues, or your families that are, first and foremost, I hope 2012 brings you health and recovery.

For all of you who are suffering with broken hearts, I too hope that 2012 brings about positive change for at least you, your children, if not your marriage entirely.

I thank you all...those that I interact with regularly, and those that I don't...your honesty has helped me immensely even if you aren't aware. From the bottom of my heart, my gratitude is infinite.

It can't be coincidence we all found each other. I guess this forum reminds me that with all the lousy things about technology, there are some very serious positives as well. The bottom line...none of us are alone. No, indeed. God is with us...and we, the kindred spirits are here for each other as well.

Merry Christmas, Happy Christmas, Happy Chanukah, Happy New Year.
If this is a hard season for you, remember.....it is all about HOPE. There is always HOPE. And if that doesn't help, might I suggest Christmas cookies. :)

And I'll conclude with a little Gaelic blessing for you all that I'm sure is familiar to most.....

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

Much, much, much love and appreciation...

BonBon
xoxoxoxoxoxoxooxooxoxoxoxoxoxox :-*
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: tinydancer on December 20, 2011, 07:14:22 AM: I wish a very, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to everyone. And, for all of you my wish is that you won't be alone at this time of the year. Volunteer, find a friend, find someone else that is alone, whatever you have to do and share the holiday spirit with them.

HB, thank you for all of your help in the past. I do hope your health continues to improve. So glad that you and your husband are doing well and are happy. Much love.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: growing every day on December 20, 2011, 07:39:34 AM: Merry Christmas to everyone in this fabulous community! RCR you are truly an angel. I believe God makes us aware of people or things at just the right time; it's when we need them most. When I was so shell shocked I accidentally found this site. And what a blessing it has been.

None of us knows what our future holds, but I think we can all agree that no matter what we are going through right now, there is something we have for which we can have gratitude. I have a wonderful family, a beautiful granddaughter, my health, a job, a roof over my head and food in the pantry. I also have many wonderful new friends that I have met through this site, and to them I say thank you from the bottom of my heart.

2012 will soon be here.... A simple reminder that life indeed does go on!
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Finding Hope on December 20, 2011, 09:12:30 AM: I too wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

If it wasn't for the friends that I have made on this site, I honestly don't know where I would be right now. On my darkest day, I found this site. Don't remember how or why. There have been many, many times I have been standing on the edge of the cliff thinking that it was my time to jump, the people here either through their own posting or direct contact with me prevented me from jumping. For that I will always be grateful.

I have listened, read and re-read. It has made my journey easier. I had lost hope, and without hope there didn't seem to be much reason to continue. I am in amazement everyday about the strength that we as humans carry. It is that strength that give others hope. I don't know if words can EVER be enough for those of you that have held my hand and lifted the burden from me at times. Made my load alittle easier to carry.

HB, I am not a very religous person, spiritual yes. I do believe in God and your words have brought me closer to him. I wish only the best for you in regards to your health and happiness. I like the others on here appreciate all the you have to say because I know that the words come from you heart and experience.

Confused
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Strong girl on December 20, 2011, 11:22:09 AM: Merry Christmas to all!!!

This Holiday season I feel blessed.

There are many blessings... This forum .. The beautiful people here. My family. My daughter. & yes My MLC Husband ... I am grateful for all of these things.

May 2012 Bring us all positive changes ;D
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: subooru on December 20, 2011, 11:40:33 AM: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, HB and to EVERYONE on this forum. I am entering the third year of MLC, and as HB suggested, I am looking at what I HAVE versus what I don't have:

I am still married, am separated, but no legal action has taken place at all to date

I am stronger and feeling more comfortable in my skin again. I still feel lonely and sad (especially at this time of the year), but I have many great friends, and the support of my wonderful friends on this forum

My daughter and I are doing well, and she is reconnecting with her father, my H. It is hard to see that sometimes (reminds me of when he was living here at our home and was kind to everyone but me), but I am grateful that my daughter feels like she has her father back. It was a huge loss, and my H seems to really be making an effort with her.

H has not been in major monster for a while. He is still VERY distant, and agitated when I see him. Doesn't look me in the eye, yet wants to do favors, offers to help with household things, etc.

H does not bring up divorce and I don't either. I feel a slight shift in him, but I am also not having EXPECATIONS,
I have a stronger relationship with God, and He guides me and directs me and gives me solace and support.

A year ago at this time, H was in our home, it was awful. Major monster (he 'cancelled" Christmas) and I was on pins and needles. Always on alert, anxious, stressed and just a mess. Today, I am calmer, I have become accustomed to living alone (my D lives with me part time) and I even enjoy it. I relish the peace and quiet and no more walking on eggshells. So, I feel I have made progress. Has my H made progress? I don't know. I think he may, but I honestly don't know.

We won't be spending any time together at Christmas or New Year. I invited H to join D and I and her boyfriend for Christmas Eve, and he said "no, that would be awkward". I just replied, it would be awkward for you. He just agreed. I don't initiate contact with H unless it is necessary and only for logistical issues.

I don't know what the New Year will bring. I will be 50 this coming year, and I feel I am looking for the next phase of my life to have as much joy as possible. I hope I remain with my H and he comes through his journey and reconnects to me. I have to remember that the spouse is that last one an MLCer connects with. Maybe that will happen. If not, I am stronger, calmer and more prepared for any possibility. I still "feel" that our story is not over. I still believe that if my H truly and completely wanted a divorce, we would have been divorced by now. The latest comment he made with regard to divorce was "I have to save money, then we will work on the mediation workbook". Well, I just let that comment lay there. I didn't respond. H's lease on his place is up in July. It will be interesting to see what happens.

I was feeling so sad earlier and was going to type my "tale of woe" on my thread. Instead, I read HB's thread and everyone's comments, and I decided to not have that pity party, but to count my blessings. As usual, HB finds a way to reach my heart and help me in ways I can never really explain.

I am so grateful for HB, OP, Ready, Still, Warrior and so many others (sorry if I don't type all the names). I would not be in the place I am without the support, guidance and kindness I received here. It is and was a lifesaver for me.

Merry Christmas and many thanks and blessings to everyone!

With love,
Subooru
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: crazyforhim on December 20, 2011, 11:51:15 AM: HB- that was so well put...you are amazing with words.
Your advice and guidance through all of this is uplifting and certainly gives me hope that one day I will have my H back
and a better one at that. I keep my hope through all the ups and downs partly because of all the support here.
You truly are a wonderful lady and keep me wanting to read more of your experience and wisdom especially in the later stages of this crisis.
Merry Christmas to you and everyone and to all of us 2012 will be an even better year!!
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: kikki on December 20, 2011, 12:30:47 PM: Lurker :) Don't you just love that word? I too was a lurker for a long time.

Wishing everybody as Merry a Festive Season, as we possibly can. Will be thinking of you all.
I too am grateful for so many things, and one of them is this wonderful website (thank you RCR), and all of you wonderful people who generously share your time, wisdom and friendship on this forum.

much love to you all x
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 20, 2011, 12:45:38 PM: It has always been amazing to me that so many people from all across the world can band together AS IF they are all in one place to give love, hugs, comfort and deep support to each other.

I can remember back last April or May of 2010, when RCR approached me, asking me to join this board in its infancy and to help get it off the ground.

I wasn't sure what I could do to help make that happen, but the Lord encouraged me to just go with it. He showed me a successful start up; and a successful continuance; as He said it would gain as time went on. And I've seen that come to pass over time; thanks be unto the Lord who has supported me throughout, as He has assisted me in the helping of others.

Without Him as the guiding influence; we would not be where we are, today.

I don't believe in "coincidences"; I firmly believe in His Guiding Hand that I have always stayed open to. I nearly left the internet back in February of 2010, after having gotten an answer I needed; my husband had broken his ankle; and I had so much on my plate at that time.

But He held me firmly in a time of "waiting" for something I wasn't sure of; and though I didn't understand what He was doing; I simply obeyed Him...following His lead at all times.

It was HE who brought me here initially, and it's still HE who gently encourages me to stay. :)

I've tried to "retire" three different times, once I saw the board wasn't going to fall apart and breakdown; and every time I've been brought back by the Lord who knows MORE than I do.

I won't go through the standard spiel of me not being "special"...etc.....I've been instructed to stop arguing with people's perceptions of me; and to just simply ACCEPT their perceptions...my own perceptions of myself, and that of others will NEVER MATCH...so I will just say a simple and very humble thank you for your thoughts, and let the rest go. :)

On the other hand, I found a thread that was started in a private area of the board not long after I left the first time..that opened my eyes in ways I never imagined.

OP was right; I had carried so much of the burden for so long, that when I left that first time, more moderators had to be put in place to do what I had done. I don't doubt these would have been put in place at a later time; but I remembered posting nearly continuously for a LONG period of time; mentoring where needed, comforting where needed, supporting; helping people to grow.

I joked about not being able to keep up; and I would often ask the Lord; as I still do now, WHERE do I need to go today?

For what it's worth, just before I left that first time, I did see an emotional "shift" in the board at one point way earlier this year, where it seemed various people were "ganging" up on others.

Of course you could find me deep within the fray; because I will NOT tolerate someone being abused in ANY way. I don't do it, and I will NOT stand for it..and for what it's ALSO worth, those that abuse others, are not much more than children themselves, showing their deep immaturity, so much growing up remains to be done within that person/persons who engage in such behavior.

I saw behavior like this bring down many a board over time; as a house divided cannot stand. Each person is entitled to their opinion, but not if it's clearly abusive to another.

This wasn't why I left, but when the board started crashing on a regular basis; it came nearly on the heels of the discordant behavior I'd been seeing BEFORE I left that first time back in May of this year. There was the "sign" that people needed to heed.

Just as when the Children of Israel forgot WHO was in charge; the Lord stepped in and made sure it was understood that He was the one who gets the credit for the success of this board; and if He's forgotten, He will allow circumstances to bring one down.

I understood it very well; blame servers or whatever; but I KNOW how God works; I've seen it before many times in various situations I've faced myself.

Now that things have settled once again; the board becomes consistent and stable..and it should REMAIN that way as long as people remain respectful of each other.

Bear with me, I'm reflecting on some things, here.

We come here to save our marriages; but ultimately, we LEARN to save ourselves first; owing to the "life preserver" analogy; the one where you get yourself to safety first, THEN toss the life preserver toward your MLC spouse in the hopes they will grab onto it; whether now, or later; and even the "Oxygen Mask" analogy that OP so often uses that came from his experience as an airplane pilot in past years.
This one explains that when the plane gets in trouble, you put the oxygen mask on YOUR face first before you begin helping your MLC spouse.

In each scenario; you learn to help yourself FIRST before deciding what you'll do next. :)

Each person is at a different stage of growth; some are ahead, some are behind; some are in the middle; some are near the end, some are "out" of this; but each person has a clear contribution that can be made to others.

It reminds me of a time when I walked into a thread, and saw a post that said they wanted to write what was on their minds, but were afraid of being "gotten onto", LOL....I'll never forget the answer I gave to that one; making it clear no one was a "child" and any opinion could be posted; just don't get mad if it's gently corrected or even disagreed with. :)

And when I think about how people often view me, it's downright scary...I'm considered a "giant" in this world of MLC; I may as well admit it...this was told to me over two years ago on the board I started out on many years ago.

But this "giant" will NOT step on other's feelings, nor will she allow herself to be abused without standing up for herself.

Never allow people to make you feel you don't have a right to your own feelings. I know the board doesn't allow for true expression; and I also understand that people don't read threads the same way I do.

I got a PM for a poster this morning that took courage to write; but they expressed what they thought very clearly; and I respect that in people. If you think I'm wrong, don't hesitate to challenge me; I will answer you with my point of view; but understand I'm as human as you are; and I'm not beyond being challenged.

I'm NOT beyond anyone's "reach" and "grasp"....post your questions out here; and I will answer as best as I know how with the help of the Lord.

Just because I'm "out" of this doesn't mean I am infallible; no one has reached THAT point yet; and I'm not perfect, never will be. :)

With all that said, I love each and every one of you; and even if I don't post directly to each of you personally; the posts I write are generalized postings intended to help each person with whatever aspect they need to learn.

The Lord will often send me off on various subjects as He guides my writings..but since HE has the bigger picture and I don't; I defer to HIS knowledge, wisdom, and expertise on various aspects of not only the crisis, but within life itself. :)

Love each other, support each other; and NEVER forget that we are all in this together; no one is any "better" than another. We ALL have the tools to help, hold up, and advise in our own unique ways. :)

But, conversely, we ALSO have the tools to destroy one another; and bearing that in mind, we must needs to watch ourselves at all times. Be compassionate with those who are early in this; they really don't understand what's happening; but later, with patient and gentle guidance; they will gain what's necessary to walk their journeys to wholeness and healing.

Better yet, respect the right of others to follow the beat of their own drum; as Intuition will NOT always show a clear, well defined path for each person.

I teach the development of Intuition as a precursor to the other gifts that will also come out of this trial as it unfolds. I benefited from this same development when it was me so long ago.

In time, I expanded out in areas that I never expected, but took each one with thankfulness; as God knew what was going to be "right" for me; and He knew what I could use; and He STILL knows, even as He continues to expand me in areas and aspects. :)

Time will strengthen this necessary gift; and you'll become just like me if not stronger than me in these types of areas. God works with people from a truly INDIVIDUAL level...and I post differently depending on what He gives me to say to each person I'm working with.

Learn to listen to your gut feelings; Intuition; it won't steer you wrong; and it will keep you on the path that was designed for YOU and no one else.

In closing; you can and will reach the place I'm in; don't think you can't...as can't never could; as the old saying goes.

It's a long, hard road, but once walked in full; it is SO rewarding; believe me, I've been there. :)

Love to you all,
HB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Synicca on December 20, 2011, 04:07:00 PM: Happy Holidays Everyone!

Hope each and everyone one of you find peace in your hearts and Joy in your spirit this Christmas!

Be Blessed and have a Happy New year!

Many ((((hugs))))

Syn :)
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: WarriorPriestess on December 20, 2011, 07:42:33 PM: Much love and blessings to all my friends here on the board! Blessed Yuletide, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy Holidays all around! :)

May you each find the following this holiday season:

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Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Chrysalis on December 21, 2011, 03:16:09 AM: Like others, I'm not sure how I came to find this board in the first place but I am very glad I did as it has been a real lifeline over the past nine months since I did. I am very grateful for everyone's caring thoughts and advice.

A Very Merry Christmas and a Happy, Healthy New Year to everyone.

Lots of love

C
xx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Wed2Him?Whatever. on December 21, 2011, 05:52:22 AM: I also want to wish all here a Merry Christmas and post some seasonal trivia for you too!

There is one Christmas Carol that has always baffled us. What in the world do leaping lords, French hens, swimming swans, and especially the partridge who won't come out of the pear tree have to do w/ Christmas? Here is an unverified version that may explain:

From 1558 until 1829, Roman Catholics in England were not permitted to practice their faith openly. Someone during that era wrote this carol as a catechism song for young Catholics. It has two levels of meaning: the surface meaning plus a hidden meaning known only to members of their church. Each element in the carol has a code word for a religious reality which the children could remember.

-The partridge in a pear tree was Jesus Christ.
-Two turtle doves were the Old and New Testaments.
-Three French hens stood for faith, hope and love.
-The four calling birds were the four gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke & John.
-The five golden rings recalled the Torah or Law, the first five books of the Old Testament.
-The six geese a-laying stood for the six days of creation.
-Seven swans a-swimming represented the sevenfold gifts of the Holy Spirit--Prophesy, Serving, Teaching, Exhortation, Contribution, Leadership, and Mercy.
-The eight maids a-milking were the eight beatitudes.
-Nine ladies dancing were the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit--Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control.
-The ten lords a-leaping were the ten commandments.
-The eleven pipers piping stood for the eleven faithful disciples.
-The twelve drummers drumming symbolized the twelve points of belief in the Apostles' Creed.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: BonBon on December 21, 2011, 06:12:31 AM: WOW Wed!
This is fantastic!
Who knew?

Thanks for sharing!!!!!!! Merry Christmas!

Bon
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Mermaid on December 21, 2011, 07:31:29 AM: Wishing everyone on the forum a very peaceful Christmas and a hope filled new year... with love Mermaid

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Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
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Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Mitzpah on December 21, 2011, 08:46:50 AM: Dear all,

You have all been a gift to me this first year of standing, although I have few chances of meeting any of you in person due to the distances involved, you are all very real to me.
HB, I thank you for making sure I got up the right way up! In those early days when I was so shattered and shell shocked, your wise words and kindness helped me make sense of the shambles my life had become -thank you :)
I was going to name all of you right here just to show my appreciation for you, but I realize I would end up doing this the whole afternoon and I would most probably end up forgetting someone... SO, a BIG thank you to everyone on this forum that has listened to me whine and weep over this year and have offered their advice, love, prayers and hugs - MUCH appreciated! ;D

Merry Christmas and may the light of Christ shine in your lives as it does in mine.
Best wishes for a happy new year, may it be filled with love and peace for all of us.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Writingmom on December 21, 2011, 02:39:09 PM: HB,

You are still the angel from whom so many of us gain comfort!! BLESS you for your gift of compassion.

Think of you often. Merry Christmas!

WM~
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 21, 2011, 04:49:30 PM: Writingmom!!! ((((((((Writingmom))))))

How glad I am to see you; I think of you often, too, and wonder how you are. :) Thank you for dropping in. :)

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You are still the angel from whom so many of us gain comfort!! BLESS you for your gift of compassion.

Aw, thanks, WM; I'm doing OK; but I hope you're doing well. :)

Thank you; to all of you for the Christmas wishes to me and to each other this Holiday Season. :)

And hey, for what it's worth; you're all very welcome. :)

Just so you know, I didn't start a thread like this just to get a whole bunch of thank yous, and such. :)

I started it because I wanted to wish all of you; even the ones I don't know, a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year. :)

There IS life during the crisis; I know this for a fact; and like I said, learn to focus on what you do have; NOT on what you're lacking.

I don't think anyone is "lacking" here; we have shoes on our feet, clothes on our backs, a roof over our heads, we are warm and have food on our tables. THESE are our NEEDS; and we don't "need" much else than this.

The troubles faced currently are honestly NOTHING compared to what you COULD be facing; and there really are people who don't have anything at all...or have lost it all because of no income created by a job loss.

As hard as it was for me to see this clearly; I DID see it; as He promised He would meet all my needs; and He did....My husband and I faced foreclosure; having been served with the first set of papers close to Christmas one year while my husband's first crisis was ongoing.. but the Lord instructed me to always put Him first...if I would do that, He said, we would lose NOTHING.

I watched Him work miracle after miracle in our lives; in SPITE of the crisis; in SPITE of what my husband was clearly going through, IN SPITE of the fact that I was working as hard as I could work, and the money was spent before we got it. I REMEMBER those days pretty clearly; yet, I did MY part too, in calling the mortgage company; and asking them to help work this out with me...and God did His part there, too, as He worked within their hearts to WANT to help me...and this is nearly unheard of, especially after being served with the FIRST set of papers...yet it happened for me.

We never lost our power, our water, our vehicles, or even our cable...and the utilities were running pretty far behind; yet were never cut off.

I have looked back over those days more than once; and am always totally amazed at what the Lord did to ensure we kept our house and other things we needed...all because I was willing to lay it all on the line, trust Him; and do as He instructed me to do as I dealt with the creditors...my husband in crisis could NOT do this; he couldn't handle that any more than he could handle me during that time.

I have NEVER forgotten what the Lord did; not only during my husband's time in crisis; but what He also did with some of the fall out that should have resulted in losing everything we had; but we didn't. I saw people do things they normally should NOT have done; but they did; and because they showed us kindness from the mortgage company; I know the Lord blessed them, too..

This is but one of my many testimonies to the goodness and power of the Lord as I have known Him to carry out over the years. I have seen so many things in my life that could NOT be explained except that it WAS the Lord; this supernatural friend I have on whom I CAN depend; regardless if it's sunshine, rain, snow, sleet, earthquake, tornadoes....whatever kind of weather I face; HE IS ALWAYS THERE.

God has allowed me to go through many things in my life; but I will always put my trust in Him; because though people do the best they can they will STILL fail me, but HE WON'T.

I've seen Him do many things within my life; give me many gifts to use; I've seen the blessings that came down so hard and fast, I could not catch them all; and if I tried, my cup would run over, and over, and over.

I once told Him I wasn't worthy of all He gave me. He disagreed, and said that He'd made me worthy when He died for me on the cross; so I could have freedom and peace in Him. This is true for ALL of US; whether you believe, don't believe, or somewhere in between....don't discount the presence of God; if you do; He'll do something to get your attention everytime; just because He CAN. :)

Christmas is a time to remember that "Unto us was born on this day in Bethlehem One who will take away the sin of the people. You'll call Him Jesus, when He is born, and a Savior He shall be."

He was and is one of the GREATEST gifts we ever received, and we attained this gift BEFORE we were ever born; as when the time was come, He didn't just die for the ones who were currently living; He also died for the ones who hadn't arrived yet; people like me who have that opportunity to learn the aspects of Him; and call Him "Friend"..."for there is no greater love than one who would lay his life for his friends".

I cannot say enough about where I have been, and where He brought me from; and the whole time, He was with me; and He didn't have to be. His love spans the mountains, goes from Glory to Glory; He's removed our transgressions as far as the east to the west; within His power that has no beginning, and will never end.

I have been told before that I bring Him "to life" as to make Him "real" to others; but isn't this what He is truly about? He could come down here tomorrow and reveal Himself in all of His Glory; but that's not what He chooses to do. He chooses to use the simplest things to confound the wisest of people; and He chooses to use ME; one who really is "nothing" to others; one who looks quite ordinary, except to the ones who are equipped to "see" who and what I am.

I've watched Him use my son in his work; a young man who like me, looks quite ordinary; but what is contained within this treasure chest blows even my mind at times; because I "see" who and what he is; PLUS what he will become, in time.

I have a sister in law who is also used in this way of God; her work is somewhat different; but He empowers her strongly as well...and there are others I know, and have gotten to know along the way.

There are people HERE on this board that I KNOW what and who they are; and I know their strengths, weaknesses, what God has given them to use; and sometimes I know where they are headed in the future...it's all good; as the "higher power" I've read many times about is one and the same. :)

There are people I've met along the way in my journeys; the Lord has instructed me to speak with them on various things...and this is a work that has been ongoing for most of my life....and it will continue until I'm gone. :)

When you think you don't do enough; that's when the Lord begins to put more in your path to do; and He gives you the understanding to complete your task, as God doesn't call the qualified, He qualifies the called....I can testify to that; as I'm one of the least ones whom He has qualified in a lot of different ways. :)

The greatest gift I ever received in my life, was my relationship with Jesus Christ; and no matter what anyone has to say about that; you can NEVER take that away from me; nor can you take this same aspect from anyone else who has this same closeness with Him.

I know that if I lost everything tomorrow, and still had Him in my life; this would be enough; as He will always be the only one who can meet my every need....I learned this lesson during my husband's first crisis; and in spite of all I endured; I kept this in mind. :)

Hope, Love, and Faith are the strongest aspects alive and well within me. :)

Much love to all,
HB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Ez on December 21, 2011, 05:10:40 PM: Wishing you also HB a very Merry Christmas.

I think the greatest gift of all we can give another person at Christmas is to show them Love and Care. Your give this in abundance HB and for that I thank you. Possessions are just that, something we have. Giving and receiving Love stays with us forever and to care and feel cared about keeps us going in these hard times.

Sending big internet (((HUGS))) to each and everyone of you this Christmas,

Ez xx
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: growing every day on December 21, 2011, 05:18:18 PM: Quote from: HeartsBlessing on December 21, 2011, 04:49:30 PM

When you think you don't do enough; that's when the Lord begins to put more in your path to do; and He gives you the understanding to complete your task, as God doesn't call the qualified, He qualifies the called...

Much love to all,
HB

HB you don't know how much I needed to read this today! Thank you.
GED
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Anjae on December 21, 2011, 05:58:40 PM: Thank you HB. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you all. :)

I was also a lurker at first. Now I’m one of those that go away from the board for a while.

Hope to be back here soon.

Thank you everyone for such an amazing support and advice.

Love and Hugs.
Title: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: With Gods Help! on December 21, 2011, 07:24:14 PM: (http://i439.photobucket.com/albums/qq117/intw/Merry%20Christmas/christmas1.gif)

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And a HAPPY NEW YEAR........... :D :D :D :D xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 22, 2011, 01:22:05 AM: Simply lovely! :)

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too WGH!! :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: hyperglad on December 22, 2011, 01:55:46 AM: Love it ...right back at yeah :)
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Patience on December 22, 2011, 12:45:17 PM: HB--take care of yourself!

All of the LBS here, I wish you many moments of peace during this season. I remember last Christmas. I was at church. The priest said something which spoke to me, and I still remember it. I'll try to paraphrase it. "When we are anxious and worry, it shows our lack of trust (in God) and faith." Whether you believe in God or not, this was/is so important for the LBS--Just let go!

Something HB said reminded me also of something a dear friend told me in the first days following BD. She had lost her H the prior year so knew a thing or two about loss. I was depressed and confused. She said to me, "There is joy in the journey." It's one of the lessons I've kept with me.

I hope each of you finds the joy in the journey and the peace within. My love and prayers are with all of you here daily. Merry Christmas!
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Silmarion on December 22, 2011, 04:03:16 PM: Fo all, who share, upon this site
to seek help or to guide
I thank you with the words you write
as I know you're by my side

Sil x
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Stillpraying on December 23, 2011, 03:52:18 AM: You too Sil,
Thanks for stopping by my thread so often. It means a lot to me.
Huge hugs for 2012.
SP
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Rookie13 on December 23, 2011, 02:32:58 PM: HeartBlessing, Merry Christmas! Not sure if you are familiar with Joyce Meyer but I listen to her every morning on the radio and you come to mind. :) A wonderful gift you have. To look/work in/on our inner selves solves just about everything. God has blessed you for your faith and thanks for passing it on!
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 23, 2011, 10:34:34 PM: Quote
HeartBlessing, Merry Christmas! Not sure if you are familiar with Joyce Meyer but I listen to her every morning on the radio and you come to mind. :) A wonderful gift you have. To look/work in/on our inner selves solves just about everything. God has blessed you for your faith and thanks for passing it on!

Right back at ya, Rookie and all! :)

Yes, I'm very familiar with Joyce Meyer;I've read several of her books, "Battle Field of the Mind" was one very good one.

I was surprised at how very similar our upbringings were. I can see where God has worked His Hand in BOTH our lives to create strong individual women of God to write/speak our testimonies to others. :)

I really do like and deeply respect her; her books have the awesome power of God within each and every page; not to mention the flow of Anointing that comes from her as I hear her speak what the Lord places within her heart to say.

He has increased her greatly over the years; and this increase will continue as her life truly does focus completely on the Lord as her sustenance, keeper, one who meets her needs and beyond. :)

You can't testify to what God has done for you, unless you've faced a trial or two or three; or even many trials within your life.

Someone once said that my "raw honesty" was admired...well, if I hadn't faced it, I couldn't relate to it, if that makes sense.

It could and would have been all too easy to toss God aside each time I ran into something I was having trouble accepting/facing; but that hasn't happened for me. If anything, He has helped me to develop an attitude of acceptance, and I know I can ask for help at any time; even though I AM also allowed to question, and even complain about what is going on. :)

One of the nicest aspects about the Lord is that He won't turn you away when you have a problem He will listen, empathize, validate, explain, comfort, and most of all love you dearly, and deeply. :)

He'll teach you various ways and aspects of what you're facing; if you will simply pay attention to what He's trying to tell you.

We are human, therefore some things must be thought out within ourselves to a greater aspect of learning...yet, He will also be there to confirm, or to help you reach the conclusion He knows you will reach.

I know I can call on Him anytime, and He's there with and for me. :)

For what it's worth, I've been a sick cookie all day; and am still sick...someone gave me some wrong directions to my delivery; told me to turn in front of a Marathon Station; it was still dark when I attempted to get out to my delivery point.

Well, the road there, wasn't the right one to turn on in the first place; and I nearly ran into a literal wall of mud where the road wasn't finished. I didn't see this until I got halfway into the turn; and my headlights picked up the solid wall not 15 feet in front of me.

This particular road was "hidden" by the trees, and actually LOOKED right to turn into; there were no "road closed" type signs, nothing. When I saw this was wrong, I stopped dead, and I was jacknifed into a "L" shape; half in and half out of the main road.

I said a quick prayer to the Lord, and began to back very slowly back out of the "L" I was in; and prayed that I wouldn't jacknife any further, and take a chance of falling off into a ditch, or turning the whole rig over.

I handled it just like I've handled a number of other things in my career, then went forward to the next road, and it was the correct one...and so, I handled my delivery; but my stomach erupted like a volcano into the worse case of Acid Reflux I've ever had; and NOTHING worked to calm it down...I tried everything.

I'm still queasy; and totally messed up at the moment. I am determined that I will make it home whether in the wee hours of tomorrow, or later...for now, however, I'm still experiencing eruptions, and Bandit was worried, as usual....he'd been guarding me most of the day; and is now asleep on a pillow. :)

Bless his little wee self; he's no bigger than a minute; doesn't weigh 3 lbs, and I'm very attached to the little fellow. :)

One more thing; it also didn't help to find out my sister's husband had an episode where he nearly passed out; and they suspect that he's passed a blood clot through his lungs...he's 69 years old...and I think alot of him; had adopted him as my brother when my sister married him.
He's a good fellow; and he's really good to my sister in so many ways. He has his issues, too, but he's a very nice man. :)

It came to me that I'm going to have to figure out how to manage my stress much differently than before...what happened this morning; would NOT have bothered me a year or so ago; but now, it seems each time I go under stress of any kind, now, it brings my stomach forth and sets it on fire.
I'm surprised I don't belch flames like a Dragon, LOL!!

I'm transparent about what I deal with; NOT to have people "pity" me, "get onto me", or whatever; it's not like that at all with me. But it's to get people to understand, I face various things and aspects, also....no one has a total corner on the market when it comes to trouble, trials, or one's physical health.

And just because I've passed out of one trial, does NOT mean my own trials are at an end; oh, no, I have many MORE to face long before I pass out of this world.

We ALL have our own individual crosses to bear; at one time, I had all emotional trials to deal with; now it's beginning to be physical trials; and I'm not sure what's worse, but that doesn't matter.

The point being there is ALWAYS something to face, and overcome; regardless of where you walk within this life; or even how you walk through this life.

NO ONE will EVER live a life that is "problem free"...you may take a break from time to time; but trouble will never be far from your back door...so you learn to attain and maintain peace in SPITE of what you face. :)

This may be my last post for this year; it depends on how things go....we as a family will spend Christmas together, my husband and I will be leaving town for a few days to unwind; and I won't be on here for that time.

On the other hand, all of you, get OFF the board, and spend time with your families; be thankful you have them; FORGET MLC for at least Christmas Day; the Crisis can wait a day or two or three. :)

I won't be spying on any of you; I make the suggestions; but I can't enforce them. LOL! :)

Be happy, love each other, live in light and love, and the Hand of God be upon you all. :)

Much love,
HB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: xyzcf on December 24, 2011, 07:01:16 AM: HB..I am so glad that you are ok! Who ever knows what challenges lie ahead.

I want to wish everyone here blessings and peace for Christmas. If there is one gift I could give each one of you, it would be that you each trust GOd with your life and with your marriage.

I have been given the grace of faith, without which I could not face each day. HB is right, God comforts me and holds my hand and I know that he is with my Beloved too.

I also wish you all the ability to forgive, your spouse and any others who have hurt you.

I thank you all, my dear friends for your love and kindness and support...may the peace of Christ be with you, now and forever. Xoxo

EDIT - I agree with what XYZCF said - glad you are OK.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: watching and waiting on December 24, 2011, 08:23:59 AM: Love and Best Wishes to You and Yours during this festive time, HB.
Thankyou for all the love and support you have sent my way over the past 12 months.

BIG HUGS
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 24, 2011, 11:21:45 AM: Quote
EDIT - I agree with what XYZCF said - glad you are OK.
« Last Edit: Today at 09:03:38 AM by OldPilot »

OP, you SNEAKY little man! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!! For what it's worth, I love YOU, too!! :)...but NOT with the kind of love that gets people in trouble. :)

I burst out laughing when I saw this edit; and at first it startled me; thought for just a second XYZCF had made a mistake or something, then I saw OP's "edit", LOL!!

I'm glad to be feeling OK; and getting ready to pull out to go home for REAL this time; my husband called and checked on me, said if I needed him to come get me; he would come, just call. :)

I do NOT know what I was being kept out of yesterday; but I was going to pull out late last night after posting to the board; but received instruction to go to bed...and I did that...

Now, I've got the "all clear" to head home; not to mention my stomach is just fine, today...and I still wonder what that was about; and what I was being kept out of. :)

He does work in mysterious ways, His Wonders to behold, and I must be a true enigma; as I follow such a crooked path from day to day; never really knowing what I'm going to find myself getting into; but the uncertainty I really can handle; after all, I SURVIVED my spouse's MLC! :)

After that, all else, really does pale in comparison.

You are right; who really ever knows what challenges lie ahead for our lives once we finish one thing; it is a given that we'll face something else; so our trials never really end; we just learn to recognize, and understand MORE as we continue this journey called LIFE. :)

Love to all, and BIG hugs to everyone,
HB

EDIT - Sneaky yes, little not so much, and I know that you know that :) :) :)
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: JD on December 24, 2011, 12:33:20 PM: To all on this supportive and welcoming board,

I wish you a very Happy Christmas, filled with many blessings and a Peaceful, Bountiful New Year.
Enjoy your friends and family and remember to breathe when it all gets just a bit too much.

I am grateful for all of you here.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: turkisheye on December 24, 2011, 12:56:14 PM: Merry Christmas to everyone reading :) I wish wonderful things for you all.

Much love, TE
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 24, 2011, 07:03:08 PM: Quote
EDIT - Sneaky yes, little not so much, and I know that you know that :) :) :)
« Last Edit: Today at 01:41:02 PM by OldPilot »

LOL! I laughed so hard I nearly fell out of my chair....I didn't mean that the way it came out, OP...I was thinking about the size of your TYPE/FONT, rather than your actual size, LOL!!

It's so small, it would have been missed if it hadn't caught my eye the first time. :) :) :)

Gotta watch you, though; you ARE sneaky! :)

Ok, have arrived home tonight; saw my son and my husband; and I've noticed my husband has lost some weight; he's looking great! :) I knew he was on a diet to start losing weight; and this was the first thing I saw when I walked in. :)

All is well. :)

I have nothing profound at the moment; I think I've used it all up for today. :)

Big huge hugs to everyone! :)

((((((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))))

Time for all little ones to be in bed; for Santa will be coming tonight! :) Yes, there's a child at heart within me at times. :)

Again Merry Christmas to all, and to all a GREAT night! :D

Love,
HB
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: xyzcf on December 25, 2011, 11:14:51 AM: Thank you for sharing....may you find comfort, may you be healed, may you be at peace. As HB told me when I met her in person ( and she is as wonderful as she is here)... It will be fine.

I also believe that as long as we continue to love our spouses, there is hope. Take care.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: Standing in Patience on December 25, 2011, 12:04:26 PM: Ditto.

A very Merry Christmas to all of my friends here. Today, for a moment or two, or if you are lucky, a hour or two, take the time to enjoy the blessings of family and friends. Today is filled with quiet moments, marveling at the Christmas tree, making and receiving phone calls with family and friends.

Today has already been filled with laughter and joking, opening of presents and stockings. It doesn't matter how old your children are. It still is a wonderment to watch your children open presents and see the suprise and joy on their faces. Far fewer Christmas presents but really a special time together. Another family moment to enjoy.

All that matters is that we are together. Special midafternoon meal - appetizer, baked ham, casseroles and vegetables and of course, everyone's favorite, stuffing. Cookies at the ready to enjoy.

H doesn't know or perhaps doesn't want to admit to what he is missing. We miss him and I continue to be patient but definitely GAL today.
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: HeartsBlessing on December 25, 2011, 06:37:15 PM: Quote
Thank you for sharing....may you find comfort, may you be healed, may you be at peace. As HB told me when I met her in person ( and she is as wonderful as she is here)... It will be fine.

And it will always be just fine; as long as you walk with the Lord; and understand that anything is possible if you will only believe. :)

I have found that He works in mysterious ways, His wonders to behold; but even I am human, and know that there are SOME things we will never attain in this life; and again, it is because we cannot control what another person does; ONLY ourselves.

I have NEVER gotten all that I've wanted; but I've had everything I have ever needed. Through the crisis, I learned that God was the only one who would and could meet ALL of my deepest needs. And because of my husband's freedom to CHOOSE, I will remind everyone my marriage was a BONUS; not the ultimate of outcomes...the MOST IMPORTANT OUTCOME of this, was the person I BECAME, and GREW INTO because of the JOURNEY I took to wholeness and healing.

I did NOT "have" to come through with my marriage; this was not a requirement of the journey; it was as individual as I was and am. My husband was the one who retained the decision for HIMSELF in order to make the necessary changes, and return unto me so we could reconnect, reconcile, renew, and rebuild our marriage into a new one later on; NOT me. It did NOT matter what I wanted; my husband was the one who chose ME.

God has control of ALL things; but Free Will was and IS a GIFT given to ALL men to exercise as they CHOSE, and CHOOSE to do.

CHOICE is an aspect ALL must accept in other people; we can choose to accept or not accept various behaviors within other people. We can choose to accept what God shows us, or not accept it; we can even choose our path to where ever we choose to go...understanding that for everything we do, something will happen because of the choices we make. Good or bad, these will "come home" to us, given time, as we reap what we sow in ALL aspects of our lives.

And so, for each crossroad we face, we make a choice for good or bad, then walk forward or on, however the case may be in each individual situation. Also understand we are NEVER where we DON'T wish to be at any given time; because we are faced with constant choice, and decision.

We can sit on various ones for awhile; but eventually, choices will need to be made in order to put our lives onto the track we would choose it to be on. If the Lord guides your life closely; then you'll find your choices will be more in line with what He wants; but this is NOT so He can "control" you.

Common sense dictates that He has the bigger picture, and since He KNOWS what is ahead, it would behoove you to obey Him in every way He advises. You can get NO better advice than what He gives when asked for His thoughts on various matters.

And believe me, I have asked Him many, many times what He thought; and was told EVERY time that it was up to me; but at His choosing, He would often go on to speak with me about what was ahead, depending on what I decided to do. When He was silent, I always knew it was still up to me, but whatever I chose wouldn't make that much difference in my life. I was always more comfortable with those type decisions than the ones where He was showing me various ways I could go, AND what would happen if I went one way or the other.

As I became more comfortable with my Intuition, I grew closer in my walk with Him. In time, I saw my Intuition take on several aspects; one of which is the Insight I carry that is STILL at this time, developing consistently forward.

He also showed me so many things about my husband, too, as well as guided my journey to wholeness and healing in SEVERAL aspects; during my husband's initial crisis, and during my Transition, as well.

I found that I could walk away as quickly as my husband could have; but chose to stand still in that sense; this gave me MORE power to stand than when I once thought I was "forced" to be where I was.

Waiting was proactive, not reactive; I learned as I went; and I am still learning, even today; long past this past this particular journey...into OTHER aspects of life that I need to develop within myself.

Anyway, IF my husband had chosen to walk away so long ago, there would have been NOTHING I could have done about that; but ACCEPT his walk away, and prepare to move forward, and on toward a new life as God would have led me into this at a later time.

So, you see, I was well prepared long before this decision was ever made...I had made mine long before; yet, I STILL had to wait on my husband to make his. On the other hand, it could so easily have gone the other way; I was brought to acceptance of this other possibility, and continued to let go, so the Lord could work on my husband.

Why does God show these things in such a way? Because He really does wish us to be prepared for a number of ways this could go. Circumstances changes things, and aspects; and we are prepared for this when we learn the lesson of letting go, and letting God work within our lives. We cannot control anyone but ourselves; our actions, and our reactions.

This is also where the comment I make about MLC being a "crapshoot", and a "gamble" comes from....it is that uncertain; just as it truly was for me, too.

The variables are far too many to really predict just how this will come out, and the only guarantee anyone has is how their own individual journeys will come out for each one.

We find we'll know MORE about ourselves, than about anyone else. It is quite natural to struggle to make sense of a time of life that NO sense can always be made of. This one aspect within us points to the clear aspect of the "fixing" we were once called upon to do for our spouses; and can NO LONGER do because the proverbial rules of this stage of LIFE have, and are CHANGED because of the Mid Life Crisis.

This results in putting the whole of responsibility upon each INDIVIDUAL person to figure out.

You find you are no longer responsible for others; it is enough you bear it for YOURSELF, just as your MLC spouse NOW bears it for themselves, regardless of how much they will TRY and blame YOU for what is clearly THEIR fault, and THEIR problem.

You'll find, if the journey is taken properly; you'll have too much on your plate to really deal with them for quite awhile; and this should help you detach and distance more quickly than before.

You simply CANNOT handle TWO people any longer; not like you did before...and so, the couple splits onto their own INDIVIDUAL paths to walk.

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I also believe that as long as we continue to love our spouses, there is hope. Take care.

This is true, but love is NOT the ONLY answer or "cure all" for the crisis; you can have love and hope within your situation without expectations; but you must needs to still work on yourself, leaving all other aspects of your life to the Lord to deal with.

Honestly, when it comes down to it; there IS hope as long as you love your MLC spouse; but there are avenues they can take that will end your stand; such as remarriage, or they do so much damage that your original love is destroyed beyond salvaging.

And if/when God has promised true restoration of your marriage; there is NO end to the roads you may take before this happens.

Bear in mind, He can NOT do His work, if you do NOT do yours.

I have often dealt with people that want a positive outcome(marriage restoration, etc.); but don't wish to do the work involved to arrive at what God had promised them; and I'm telling you from experience, this is TEAMWORK that must needs to happen; wholly dependent on each person doing their part to bring this all together; IF this is meant to be.

And if you see something not go right or you see an aspect fall apart, not coming out the way you were shown ahead of time that it was supposed to; check to see what YOU didn't do; because IF you didn't do your part, God CANNOT do His part, and He really DOES need us to accomplish what He sets down in front of us in order for various aspects to work out. Contrary to what you might think, this is NOT a "failure" on His part, as God CANNOT FAIL.

WE are the ones who can and will fail.

On the other hand, ALSO check and see what your MLC spouse may have ALSO failed to do; as they can make decisions that can and sometimes will alter the path, adding time, making it longer to walk, or even cause it to become crooked, narrow, and sometimes dangerous.

You must learn to discern what is happening; before you can figure out what to do next; and He will also help you with this, too. :)

One more thing while I'm on a roll here; God is NOT a "Genie in a bottle" to be pulled out at a moment's notice when you "need" or "want" something. He will NOT allow Himself to be used in this way; this is one of HIS boundaries. God wants to be leader of our lives ALL the time, NOT just sometimes.
He CREATED us, therefore He has the perfect right to ask for ANYTHING He chooses; we don't have to obey Him; but we will pay a price for disobedience.

He will NEVER ask you to do something that will dishonor yourselves or your families; I can testify to this; He has NEVER asked me to do something that down graded me, has never asked me to do something shameful.

He has put me on the spot many times in my life, but, these times were intended for my GROWTH, LEARNING, and BECOMING.

I'm NOT perfect, and I made SO many mistakes during his crisis, that I was the "Poster Child" for "Mistake City"; so to speak.

Yet, I knew when He asked me to do something it was for my own good, and it would HELP me, NOT hurt me. There were quite a few harsh aspects of myself He showed me during my journey that stung the fire out of me, but these were truths and realities that I NEEDED to see so I could alter my thinking, sometimes change my path, and most of all, learn something new when I was ready to receive it; so I could grow even more into the role I was set to take at a later time.

As I matured further within his MLC, I came to see the Lord as my one true FRIEND; NOT my enemy; I came to KNOW my ENEMY well, and it was NOT GOD, but SATAN himself.

And NO, I'm NOT "politically religious"; nor did I have to "get religion" in order to get to know Him; all I'd needed to do was give Him my heart, my soul, and my will in trade for His Will, and be willing to obey Him in all ways, all aspects.

This is NOT such a hard thing to do on my part since I came to understand in a deeper way years ago that He really DID care about me; and He's VERY interested in even the littlest things that concern me. :)

Oh, but it was such a LONG, HARD, road this past eleven years. This same road, contained so many realizations, so much heartache, yet, so much growth and learning was achieved, it became a very REWARDING path, bringing me many blessings, as I walked it through.

I STILL, to this day, have troubles and trials, but I KNOW without the shadow of a doubt that He is WITH ME and FOR ME; and He will NEVER leave me to chance.

I trust Him fully, I love Him dearly; and He comes FIRST in my life, BEFORE my husband and my family; and He always will.

I have said this before, and I mean every word I say from my heart; IF I lost all and everything, and still have Him in my life; I know that I will be just fine. I may not understand EVERYTHING that happens, but I know He loves ME with a love that no one else can duplicate, nor perfect; because He has ALREADY perfected His love for me.

I have lost SO much within my life, and this doesn't just encompass my husband's MLC; but I'll tell you one thing I know for certain, my gains outweighed my perceived losses as I've walked this road called LIFE.

I've lost loved ones over time; I've lost money, I've lost other things; I've tasted the fine wine of true love, and even before that same love came, a loss had to happen in order to me to gain the knowledge of what true love entails.

I've carried burdens that would crush other people to the ground; yet, the Lord gave me strength to carry these for a period of time; oftentimes, letting me know that He would take them from me; all I had to do was ASK this of Him.

There were other times, just to test my faith; I was set to carry burdens I was NEVER meant to carry; but I carried these in a "helpful" fashion for awhile.

I've also been known to "carry" people for a short period of time until they could regain their feet; and I would always know when to let go; this is what mentoring people is all about....one gets carried for a time, but eventually, they are set free to find their own way; as no one was ever meant to be dragged through this to the total end by another.

This even happened for me, years ago; for a time, I was "carried" by another for a short while, until I, too, could gain my feet so I could walk forward with more understanding; hard to imagine isn't it? ME? Yes, ME; why NOT ME, too??? :)

I'm telling the TRUTH..and there came a time when I stepped out on my OWN, learned to trust myself, and the only time I called on my mentor afterward, was when I came into aspects never before seen, OR if the Lord instructed me to call on her.

Otherwise, I spent many years walking with no more than the Lord to guide me; shining a light in dark places; and always being there when I needed Him.

The Lord once told me that it wasn't enough to just trust, have confidence and faith in Him; I needed to develop these same aspects within myself, too. I asked about arrogance; but He said these aspects developed within only BECAME arrogance if one actually forgot WHOM it is they depend on for their help; and I do NOT forget where it is I come from, NOR do I forget from WHOM it is I receive my help, gifts, and all of the other aspects I gained during my own journey.

Some aspects continue to be ongoing; and that's a given; one NEVER stops growing; if this happens; prepare to become stagnant, complacent, and I can guarantee you He will do something about that to drag you right out of your comfort zone in a hurry. :)

Been there, too. :)

Didn't mean to start preaching; but here it is...my Sermon for Christmas. :)

Much love to all, and much praise unto the Lord who watches out over ALL of us,
HB :D
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: WarriorPriestess on December 25, 2011, 11:04:47 PM: Quote from: xyzcf on December 25, 2011, 11:14:51 AM
Thank you for sharing....may you find comfort, may you be healed, may you be at peace. As HB told me when I met her in person ( and she is as wonderful as she is here)... It will be fine.

I also believe that as long as we continue to love our spouses, there is hope. Take care.

Love this. :)
Title: Re: I want to wish everyone a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS....
Post by: growing every day on December 26, 2011, 05:29:36 AM: Yet, I knew when He asked me to do something it was for my own good, and it would HELP me, NOT hurt me. There were quite a few harsh aspects of myself He showed me during my journey that stung the fire out of me, but these were truths and realities that I NEEDED to see so I could alter my thinking, sometimes change my path, and most of all, learn something new when I was ready to receive it; so I could grow even more into the role I was set to take at a later time.

This is so true and so important to understand. If I have learned nothing in this past year it is that I and I alone need to be the one to accept what is being laid out in front of me. And the harsh aspects of myself.. well that has been a journey in its self. It may not be pleasant, but it's necessary. I believe that in the end, this will all turn out as it is suppose to. I just need to continue to work on ME, and have faith that I am being guided and listen.

Yesterday my aunt told me she had not seen me look so content and so happy in a long time.She is right, this time I was not "faking it" I am really MAKING it. I trust that whatever is ahead for me, will be what it is supposed to be.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: Mermaid on December 30, 2011, 03:30:28 AM: Bumping this up to wish everyone strength and courage for 2012, to bring about positive changes in your life.

May you all continue to be the lighthouse for the loved ones in your life...

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Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: justasking on December 30, 2011, 06:04:59 AM: Mermaid

The lighthouse is beautiful. May we all find the inner peace and strength we wish for in 2012 wherever our journey takes us.

Happy New Year everyone :D.

xx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: BonBon on December 30, 2011, 06:57:47 AM: OOohhhhhh! The graphics in both of these are just fabulous!

Happy New Year you fabulous, gorgeous, dedicated, generous, wonderful LBS'!!!!!!!!
I hope 2012 brings all of you all the wonderful things you deserve. I'm sorry we all have to be here but all I can say is that your spouses will hopefully realize what they are risking here....the love of you, the fabulous, fantastic, loyal and committed!

You are all beautiful people, deserving of all the wonderful things in this world.
And don't you forget it!

Much love,
Bon
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: NewBeginnings on December 30, 2011, 08:28:43 AM: BonBon ~ Thank you for your kind words to all of us LBS's. I wish all of what you said to you too. I too, hope and pray that all
of our spouses wake up one day and realize what they threw away, their loving and dedicated spouse.

((HUGS))

NB
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: BonBon on December 30, 2011, 08:53:43 AM: Thanks NB! :)

They can take alot from us but not our self respect and self love (that sounds wierd but you know what I mean :-*)..and that is what we CAN control..so don't let them!!!!!!!

Bon
Title: Re: Merry Christmas and hope 2012 brings positive changes!!!
Post by: Mermaid on December 31, 2011, 04:05:37 PM: First post of 2012 from Portugal....

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE ... :) :) :)
Title: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: stayed on December 20, 2013, 09:21:19 AM: Hello everybody! I am off to Canada tomorrow and will be back January 8th, 2014. Please forgive me if you hear very little during this time, as I wish to focus on my children, grandchildren, family members and old friends. I will be back, I may even get "withdrawals" and need a Forum Fix, hehehe... wouldn't be the first time. So, I will pop in if I get the urge, but just wanted to warn everybody that I would not be around as much as I normally am.

Let me wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Remember this is YOUR LIFE, not your MLCer's. It is YOUR responsibility to FIX yourselves, to guide your children and family through this, somehow, to a happy conclusion. You do have choices, please do not forget that.

I will be thinking of you all. Hugs and see you in 2014.

Stayed
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: crazyjourney on December 20, 2013, 09:31:37 AM: All the very best

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

CrazyJ x
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: CrazyTrain on December 20, 2013, 09:37:12 AM: Merry Christmas to you and your family Stayed. I hope you have a lovely holiday!

Blessings ~

CT 8)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: stayed on December 20, 2013, 09:37:51 AM: You as well Crazyjourney...hugs Stayed
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: stayed on December 20, 2013, 09:38:22 AM: And you too CrazyTrain... hugs Stayed
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: BB64 on December 20, 2013, 09:48:50 AM: 2001? You're getting a time machine for Crimbo? ;D

Happy Christmas and merry new year!
Xx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Songanddance on December 20, 2013, 10:00:33 AM: Merry Christmas Stayed
You deserve a good break bearing in mind the sheer number of LBSs you have supported over time.

Have a wonderful holiday with your family. I promise to keep thinking every time I wobble - "Now what would Stay do or say in this situation?"
Then I will wobble no more!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: kikki on December 20, 2013, 10:56:12 AM: Quote from: Booboo on December 20, 2013, 09:48:50 AM
2001? You're getting a time machine for Crimbo? ;D

I read that and thought the same thing too ;D

Have a wonderful holiday and Merry Christmas everyone x
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Chrysalis on December 20, 2013, 11:53:28 AM: Hi Stayed

Thank you for all your advice and I hope you and your family have a very Happy Christmas and wonderful New Year.

(((Hugs)))

C
XX

PS That time machine would be very handy. We could see what our MLCers were up to before MLC hit!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: stayed on December 20, 2013, 12:16:15 PM: Lol Chrysalis, that would be handy...

Thanks everybody... I will do my best to have a good time. hehehe

Hugs Stayed
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Lanzo on December 20, 2013, 12:42:25 PM: Hi Stayed

Thank you so much for your support over that last few months.

Merry Christmas and happy New Year.

Enjoy the snow (if you get some).

Lanzo

xxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: stayed on December 20, 2013, 12:44:45 PM: I was skyping with my son this morning and there was TONS of snow... so I am thinking that is not a problem.... snow there is! hehehe. You have a very Merry Christmas as well Lanzo.

Hugs Stayed...
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: emerging_butterfly on December 20, 2013, 03:15:49 PM: Happy Holidays, stayed! Wishing you a lovely and joyous time with your family...and that goes for everyone here! As the song goes, "May your days be merry and bright!"
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: SSG on December 20, 2013, 03:36:10 PM: Have the merriest of Christmas' Stayed and to everyone here on the forum.

I wish for all of us a clearer and more peaceful 2014!

SSG
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Anjae on December 20, 2013, 04:04:29 PM: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, Stayed. Enjoy your time home with your children and grandchildren.

Hugs,
A
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Madmax on December 20, 2013, 08:59:37 PM: Wishing you and everyone on the forum a peaceful, happy holiday and a wonderful New Year.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: alwaysfaithful on December 20, 2013, 10:44:49 PM: Merry Xmas stayed and to everyone on the forum. May 2014 bring peace and love and lots of happy and true returns and reconciliated families ! x
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: LearningIamOk on December 21, 2013, 04:34:30 AM: Hope you're able to see my Christmas wishes to you before you leave. I hope you have a joyous holiday with your family. Thanks for all the love and support you bring to this Forum. Take time for yourself now. We will await hearing from you in the New Year.

Hugs and love,

Learning
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: TrustingMyHP on December 21, 2013, 05:07:41 AM: stayed,

You will be missed! Hope you have a great time this side of the pond (I'm in the mid-Atlantic region of the east coast so maybe not too far (well, relatively!) from where you'll be in Canada. It will be nice to know you're on the continent!

Your ongoing support of all of us is such a gift. Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope to everyone in the HS community.

Wishing you a joyous holiday and wonderful New Year.

TMHP
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: i can and will cope on December 21, 2013, 05:21:18 AM: merry Christmas Stayed and a Happy New year too , have a wonderful time with your family and thank you for your words of advice

hugs hdic xx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: TTD180 on December 21, 2013, 06:39:18 AM: Merry Christmas Stayed and to everyone else on this forum :) I hope that 2014 will be a lot better than 2013 was :) Peace and joy this Christmas time :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Breakingthecycle on December 21, 2013, 01:05:11 PM: I'll add my good wishes to everyone too, and like TTD180 said, lets hope 2014 is a much better year for everyone.

Merry Christmas :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Chrysalis on December 21, 2013, 01:51:41 PM: And the same from me...

A Very Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy 2014 for everyone.

C
xx
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Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: toughtimes on December 21, 2013, 03:13:12 PM: Merry Christmas stayed and to all here! May 2014 bring peace, joy and love to you.
Thank you all for all your support and love this past year.

Love to all xxxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Musica on December 21, 2013, 11:36:38 PM: Have yourself a Merry Little Christmas everyone, let your heart be light!

See you next year stayed, have a great time. Xxx
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Sunny on December 23, 2013, 04:22:04 AM: Wishing you and your family a very happy Christmas!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: DancingInTheRain on December 23, 2013, 04:22:40 PM: Safe travels Stayed. May your holidays be filled with family, friends, love and peace.

J.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: OceanLady on December 23, 2013, 09:19:44 PM: Merry Christmas Stayed and everyone else here. Give all those grandkids big hugs for us. I also hope 2014 brings a better year for everyone...whatever that may be for you. Stay safe everyone!! Hugs to each and every one!!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Magnite38 on December 23, 2013, 09:45:59 PM: Merry Christmas stayed and happy New Years. Hope you have a fabulous time with your family. Thanks for the year of support from you and everyone on here.
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: summer90 on December 24, 2013, 12:29:58 AM: Merry Christmas everyone,

I hope you can all have a day where the focus is on family, enjoyment and fun and not the MLCer for once. It will be nice to try and forget our troubles for a while.

I am in Melbourne, Australia and the temperature here is going to be 30 degrees Celsius which I think is around the 100 degree mark, so no snow for us.

Contrary to popular belief, we don't usually have prawns on the "barbie" - some do, of course. Most have traditional roast meat and hot vegetables with Christmas pudding in such terrible heat - we certainly are crazy - no wonder so many suffer MLC when we do such things!!

Have a great day and thanks for your wonderful support, I really appreciate your love and commitment to all on this site.

Summer XXXX
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: calamity on December 24, 2013, 02:54:32 PM: Musica, was that on purpose? Merry Little Christmas? ;D ;D

Everyone, Happy Christmas! Happy mlc-free Christmas. I'm stuffed & it's only Christmas Eve. :( I did make raw veg & dip so I'd have a healthy alternative. ;)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Slow Fade on December 24, 2013, 10:00:00 PM: That had me laughing Calamity! Merry Little Christmas. MLC! hahahahahahah!

Merry Christmas everyone! Have a blessed night!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Stillpraying on December 25, 2013, 03:54:41 AM: Quote from: summer90 on December 24, 2013, 12:29:58 AM
Merry Christmas everyone,

I hope you can all have a day where the focus is on family, enjoyment and fun and not the MLCer for once. It will be nice to try and forget our troubles for a while.

I am in Melbourne, Australia and the temperature here is going to be 30 degrees Celsius which I think is around the 100 degree mark, so no snow for us.

Contrary to popular belief, we don't usually have prawns on the "barbie" - some do, of course. Most have traditional roast meat and hot vegetables with Christmas pudding in such terrible heat - we certainly are crazy - no wonder so many suffer MLC when we do such things!!

Have a great day and thanks for your wonderful support, I really appreciate your love and commitment to all on this site.

Summer XXXX

Hope you had a lovely day Summer....we DID have prawns but not bbq'd. And smoked salmon and trout and turkey and ham with SALAD and no hot veges in sight (Think that is more tradition if you're from British decent??). The kids enjoyed the slip & slide and you're right it was such great weather today.

Merry Christmas to all......Only 1 hour left on Christmas day here.

This year my son did not break his wrist (yay no injuries :) AND...............exH told the kids he broke up with OW2 and was not going to introduce them to new girlfriends in future until it was serious (wish he'd thought of that with OW1 ::) )

Hugs,
SP
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: xyzcf on December 25, 2013, 06:31:46 AM: Merry Christmas to all of you. May you find peace today and in the days ahead. Know that you are loved by Him who was born this day.

As we reach out around the world to one another, as we listen and support each other through the mess of MLC as well as share our stories of our lives, what a wonderful gift that we have to know that we have freinds who care about us.

Thank you RCR for starting Heros Spouse.

The other great gift that we have is HOPE, hope for us, for our families and for a better world. Each one of you contribute to each other's ability to face another day. I am so grateful for you all and keep you all in my prayers.

My family is all together for Christmas here in my home. I feel blessed that we are comfortable and together. This is a miracle to me even though it doesn't mean that our marriage will ever be reconciled...spending this time together is precious so I am very thankful for that.

Take care, May God bless you all!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Forever on December 26, 2013, 02:50:47 AM: Merry christmas to everybody around the world And wish You all have a MLC free holiday :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Mitzpah on December 26, 2013, 06:25:00 AM: Everyone,

I didn't see this before Christmas!

I hope Christmas was peaceful and filled with good things, that Christ, whose birth we celebrate be present in your lives throughout this next year!

Happy New Year!!
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: UKStander on December 31, 2013, 01:48:13 AM: I'm a late catcher-upper, too, but just in time to say HAPPY 2014 EVERYONE!!

Thanks to the Great Stayed for all her support in 2013. And to RCR for creating this forum.

Thanks to you all, too, for endless patience, love and support and advice, and perspective, and laughs and more.

Whilst this is the year of me 8) rather than my mlc-er, it's also the year for looking outwards to others, counting blessings and trying not to analyse but to just live.

UK
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: TTD180 on December 31, 2013, 03:01:25 AM: I agree UKS :) Happy New Year to everyone :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Stillpraying on December 31, 2013, 04:59:51 AM: It's almost midnight here.....Kikki and Fidelle are probably already in bed :)
Looking forward to 2014....Putting 3 years of :o :o :o behind me and moving forward with the kids and I...No D to fear...it happened and I survived.

Hugs to all as you wait your turn to see in the new year and may it be full of blessings for all of us here...

Counting down now...better hop on the couch with the kids.

SP
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: kikki on December 31, 2013, 11:53:22 AM: Ha SP - so true. (Australia is three hours behind us - for those that don't know).
Wishing you all a very special 2014. Hope it's a good one. :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Stillpraying on December 31, 2013, 04:13:45 PM: Melbourne and Sydney only 2 hours Kikki ;) ;)(we are on daylight saving but Brisbane isn't)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: kikki on December 31, 2013, 06:35:26 PM: Ah, I forget that different states do things a little differently from each other over there :)
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: alwaysfaithful on December 31, 2013, 10:00:40 PM: Happy new year STayed to you and your family! And happy new year to everybody on here around the world - you are all wonderful people and I am full if gratitude for you all ( am about to start doing the 28 day THe SEcret programme) so I'm getting myself prepared by counting every blessing hehe ! Stayed your words of wisdom are priceless and yes we do have power and control our own lives. I did that yesterday and feel good about it. ;-) ;-) hugs always faithful x
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: Venus on January 01, 2014, 05:14:50 AM: Stayed, hope you've had a fabulous christmas and new year with your children and grand children.

Just want to say a massive THANK YOU to you. You have provided tremendous, insightful words of encouragement, truth and wisdom, all of which I have appreciated immensely.

I wish everyone on the forum the very best for 2014, full of joy, laughter, peace & happiness.

Love & Light
Venus
Title: Re: Merry Christmas Everybody and a Happy New Year!
Post by: fidelle on January 02, 2014, 12:53:43 AM: I'm a rather late-adopter...I've only just seen this thread but it's never too late to say thank you. Thank you RCR for this fabulous forum...without it, I'd be in a loony bin by now... and Stayed, thank you for your great advice and guidance to all of us who need to hear that voice of reason! And for everyone on this site, thank you for your understanding and companionship and I want to wish you the best of all possible times in 2014 and a year of healing and continued hope and belief in all that is wonderful in this world.

xxx
Title: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Seekingpatience on December 24, 2015, 01:33:19 AM: Hi All,

Just wanted to wish everyone a peaceful and blessed Christmas.

Thank you all for your courage in sharing and strength in reaching out even in dark times. Your Light shines so bright.

Thanks RCR and all the Mods and for those who have come before me and return still to update and give us hope.

Thanks :)
Title: Re: Wishes for a Blessed Christmas time
Post by: Searching4Answers on December 24, 2015, 08:44:41 AM: Happy Holiday to all!!!

I don't know where I would be if I hadn't found this wonderful place and all of you supportive people ;)
Title: Re: Wishes for a Blessed Christmas time
Post by: Made on December 24, 2015, 09:27:18 AM: Merry Christmas everyone.
Title: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Split open and melt on December 24, 2015, 08:44:42 PM: Hello Hero's Spouse Family,

I'm wishing you all a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! I hope everyone here is having a peaceful and happy day with friends and family. I know it may be a bit less then we hoped for and dreamed of, but I hope each and every one of us can focus on what we have this holiday season.

I recently had two friends perish in a tragic car accident on their drive to a vacation destination this past weekend. I mourn for their loss, and their friends and family who will have a much more difficult Christmas than me this year. It's a reminder that all of our lives are fragile and fleeting. It reminds me to be thankful for what I have in my life, even through the mess of MLC and divorce. I have my friends, my family and my children...Let's be greatful for the time we have here on Earth and make the best of it.

Let us all find those silver linings through these hard times and rejoice in what we have, our health, our friends and family who love us, and a positive outlook for our future ringing in the new year. Let's make this year better then the last.

Much love to all of you out there.
Split
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Songanddance on December 25, 2015, 01:17:28 AM: Happy Christmas to all.

I echo Split's comment about life being fragile and fleeting. That is why I guess all of us don't really understand why the MLCer would really want to throw the days/weeks/years away creating a path of destruction. We all know how precious life is and why would anyone choose to throw opportunities away.
However this is where we LBSers will succeed and thrive. We value life and living. We value every single day and once we are over the grief and initial pain of BD - we value the growth that we undergo. We heal and we become more whole than ever before.

It is hard to find the silver linings but we can.
It is hard to deal with the emotion that such a time of year throws at us but we do.
It is hard to accept that our futures will change from what we had planned but we can and we do

Make next year your year of the "can-do " attitude.

Make next year your year of growth.

Accept the fear and work your way through it.

You can do this and this forum is leading the way, guiding you through the hard times as well as behind you picking you up when you fall.

A peaceful Christmas to you all. xx
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: in it on December 25, 2015, 04:56:40 AM: Yes Merry Peaceful Christmas everyone.

Life is fleeting and as I reflect that I could have been killed and been just a statistic two and a half years ago put my life in perspective.

Becoming self aware is a gift. Although I don't suggest or recommend anyone experience it the way I had too. ::)

This forum is like family and without the ability to post here I'm not sure what I would have done with the emotions I had ( and sometimes still have). It helps more than anyone knows in my healing.

I am so very grateful.

My wish for everyone is peace. And keep yourself SAFE.

(((((HUGS))))))

In It
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Thunder on December 25, 2015, 05:36:19 AM: Merry Christmas my friends!

Love to all of you and your families. :)
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: i can and will cope on December 25, 2015, 08:05:07 AM: merry chrismas to you all I hope yo are all having a woderflul time
hugs I can and will cope xx
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: MyBrainIsBroken on December 25, 2015, 08:05:37 AM: Merry Christmas everyone.

The town next to ours had a call last night just before midnight for a 55yo male in full cardiac arrest. I'm sitting here this morning watching the Disney Christmas parade with my family. There are worse ways to spend Christmas. I think of the Christmas days we used to have with my wife and family and I know without a doubt that her life is not better now. I still can't help but feel sorry for her. GS7 asked me last night what I asked Santa Claus for this year. I didn't tell him this but I asked Santa to heal my wife's broken brain and to return her to her family.

Enjoy the day today with the special people you still have in your lives.
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: i can and will cope on December 25, 2015, 09:16:38 AM: aww mybrain is broken that made me cry an I wish the same for you too and I hope that santa fixes my husbands too.
enjoy the rest of your day hugs x
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: crazyjourney on December 25, 2015, 11:24:23 AM: Merry Christmas to all.

I feel full of food and for one am very happy today.

I have had a brill day with my sons, sister and her family, I cant imagine wanting to spend it with some other family you just tripped upon one day!!! truly mlc strangeness lol.

Tis the season to be jolly.

x
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: calamity on December 25, 2015, 11:49:29 AM: Merry Christmas everyone.
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: jjal on December 25, 2015, 11:56:27 AM: Yes yes yes! Merry Christmas!
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: hawk on December 25, 2015, 01:50:48 PM: Merry Christmas everyone and thanks so much for all your help and guidance though all this .
And here's to hoping for at least one tiny Christmas wish coming through for us all.
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: MsT on December 25, 2015, 04:47:40 PM: Merry Chtistmas one and all!!!!
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: bookwrmmom on December 25, 2015, 05:30:18 PM: Merry Christmas everyone, and I can only hope that all of you have spent the day with people you love. To those of you who are new to this......life gets so much better. Those first difficult holidays, and special occasions do get better......I PROMISE.
They are different to be sure, but create new memories and traditions that you can cherish.
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Threa
Post by: stayed on December 25, 2015, 08:20:08 PM: HOHOHO! Merry Christmas, everyone! Hope it was a far better day then you expected it to be.

Hugs Stayed
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Onward on December 25, 2015, 11:27:08 PM: GMerry Christmas to all, and best wishes for a blessed new year.
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: Mitzpah on December 26, 2015, 08:32:36 AM: Merry Christmas all!!
Title: Re: Merry Chtistmas Thread!
Post by: 1trouble on December 26, 2015, 08:42:46 AM: Maybe its a bit late to say merry xmas..
but I hope everyone managed to have a good Xmas and found some enjoyment in what can be a very hard time of year..

I also want to reiterate what Hawk said too

Thank you to all of you who have helped me get through some very hard times this year

new thread: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8520.0