Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: ForeverHopefulOne on January 04, 2011, 12:52:05 PM
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There is a trip being planned for Vegas the weekend of February 11-13. If anyone is interested, post here. So far, I have found a room rate of $67/night at the Stratosphere Hotel. If anyone can find better rates, know of a house we can rent for the weekend, or have a better plan - POST IT HERE!
Let's make this the best Valentine's Day weekend ever!
xoxox
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Boy oh boy! I wish I was closer!!!! :-[
hugs,
L
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I love Vegas. I would love to go. Maybe I can figure out a way to head out there.
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I'm in. 8)
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ok, so I am doing some juggling to make this happen for me. 2/11 is my weekend with S; I asked my sister if she could watch him; she said she will get back to me. If she can't watch him, I will not be able to go. Because of my S' autism, it's hard to find someone that I trust to watch him for that length of time - my sister is pretty much my only option right now. I will keep you posted. If I go, I will probably stay at the Stratosphere - their rates seem to be the cheapest for being on the strip.
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I sure wish I could come! I would so love to meet you guys! I have never been to Vegas! I can't do it this time but if there is another meet up sometime I will do my best to be there!
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I'll have to see how my loads will fall, but I will see what I can do in the meantime. :)
I will let you know for certain closer to time. :)
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Oh I am so so so jealous!!
Ah well.
Have fun
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Me too! I SOOOOOO want to be there! I have never been to Vegas!
hugs!
L
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I´m posting a link to a day spa in Peddlers Village: http://www.skinntonic.com/ I don´t know what kind of budget folks have, but they have a special where you get a Buy one get one lunch free if you dine in the village after having spent at least $35 at the spa. Peddlers Village is in Lahaska, PA.
If that´s too pricey, how about a visit to the chocolate store in Penns Purchase and lunch at the Cafe Galleria or Sweet Lorraine´s.
Another option, brunch or lunch at the Market cafe in Lambertville on N. Main. They have great food at a reasonable price.
Open to other ideas as well.
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any idea on how far from pittsburgh?
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Forthetrees:
Lahaska or Lambertville works well for me!!! I'm so easy....as long as we're not married, apparently...
MB
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I might be able to...still working on a getaway with some girlfriends and that was one of the possible weekends...so until I hear back from them I won't know. I'll keep checking in here though to see what the final plans are. I've been to Peddler's Village many times (but not in years) and they have some good restaurants where we can relax and chat I'm sure.
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Oh my!
with all of my excitement over something being fairly close...I completely forgot...the girls B day party is the 12th!! :o
Sorry! maybe next time...
hugs,
L
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Well, looks like Vegas is out for me :(. Having major trouble with finding someone to watch S. The airfare is climbing and if I wait any longer, I will not be able to afford it - ugh! If there are any changes, I will post; but, for now, doesn't look like it's going to happen :(.
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Would another weekend work better for you? I'm very flexible re: dates.
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Hey XYZ, weekends that I don't have my S seem to work better for me. I am open to another weekend for sure. I feel bad because this was Valentine's day weekend and I wanted to have fun. It's ok though, I will be able to spend time with my S which is always good.
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Well, we need to see who is interested..is Vegas the only place considered? Is this an opportunity to connect with one another... if so, where is the closet place to where most of us live. Sorry but reading back there were not too many others I think able to make it or am I missing something? Let's see who else is interested at this point and go from there.
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Okay,
Plans are set: Saturday 2/12 at 9:30 AM at [74 North Main Street Lambertville, NJ 08530 City Market Ph 609.397.2929]
I will reserve the back table.
MelanieB and I will be there and hopefully Sewsad.
FTT
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I would love to come, but I am 3 hours north of Pittsburgh. I think it would be a very long trip.
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Okay,
Plans are set: Saturday 2/12 at 9:30 AM at [74 North Main Street Lambertville, NJ 08530 City Market Ph 609.397.2929]
I will reserve the back table.
MelanieB and I will be there and hopefully Sewsad.
FTT
It's on my calendar...in PEN...so unless there's another snowstorm...I'm in!
Hugs,
xo
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I have to work that day, and can't take ANY time off as of now....I sure wish I could, though since it's right before Valentine's day and pretty sure that will suck... last year I got a stupid card and by "stupid" it was STUPID!! Didn't make any sense at the time, but with hindsight.... well....
Can we start planning another one, perhaps a monthly meeting of the PA chapter of Lonely Hearts LBS Club Band? :)
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Wish I could join you all :(. Chocolate, yummie!!!
Please let us all know how it went.
I did find a special Valentine since my h and I never celebrate it anyway (actually, one time I got a spa certificate a day later and he said it wasn't for V day :o). Anyway, and my anniversary is coming up in a month which he never acknowledged either, it was just as any other day...oh well, it's ok
Have fun ladies!!!
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Okay, I reserved the back table for Saturday at 9:30 AM.
I´m looking forward to meeting my fellow survivors. There is a parking lot on the side of the building that is available for customers.
See you there,
FTT
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Looking forward to it as well...see you then!
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I'm looking forward to it too! See both of you Saturday morning-
MB
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Saw a post on here about connecting with someone in your area.....that is in the same boat......to be a confidant and friend in this difficult time of need. I have done the family/friend route......they tell me to move on.......but I just can not.
So I would welcome any LBS in my area to befriend and commiserate or misery with.
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I'm in your area. How long have you been going through you spouse crisis?
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I'm a little too far at about 3 hours away.
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Thanks all....
I am north of Atl.....Cumming, GA.
H left 2/19/11
H is moving back to his original house (that we have had rented) April 1, 2011
Says he does not want a divorce just wants us to live in separate houses and date?
Whatever?....
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whyme --
I do know a woman who had just such a reconciliation agreement with her H -- they had just a few basic points. They remained married, maintained separate households, and had sex only with each other. They saw each other once a week, phoned once, I think. Otherwise each led his/her own life.... that lasted something like 2.5 years; he then came home....
It worked well for them; she recognised the depression. He had had an A; BD was only after it had been over for a while.... Her one boundary was "no one else". He made no promises, but did hold to that, and slowly worked his way home.
It's an interesting concept, one I'm not at all against.
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Trustandlove:
I am not opposed to it either.....IF the goal is to work towards being a whole family again, at some point.
But my family/friends say that this is exactly what he wants and he will get his cake and eat it too.....which will never give him any reason to return back to a normal marriage situation?
But I do not think they get the gist of this MLC stuff......
What is your take on their opinion?
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I guess it's down to how you define cake. The case I mentioned had one firm boundary: no one else. Had that been crossed the arrangement would have stopped immediately.
In that case there was no agreement to work towards being together again (the couple were older, children grown, etc.) at the beginning; it was sort of to see how it went. They had no r talks, just enjoyed their visits, etc. It wasn't clear until the last few months that he would be returning home.
Definitely different, but it worked. And the LBS in the meantime was quite content with it; turns out she liked it better than he did.
In many ways he didn't have any reason to return other than wanting to, but the LBS in that case also had a choice.
My take is that if it's the agreement then it works; letting go of expectations is the key. She was fully aware that he could have decided not to continue at any time. As he didn't want to lose her, he respected the boundary.
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Ok I am really jealous of all you meeting! I want to see if we can plan a weekend get away for those of us in the midwest area I'm in Ohio... Who is in? I don't remember where everyone lives but it's spring and I feel aneed for a renewal revival ! :D
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I'm in PA, but far from NYC/Philly.
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sadly, i'm in neither of your areas :(
but would like to put a call-out to anyone in the Toronto/GTA/Ottawa area who would like to meet up!
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I'll be in Toronto/Ottawa area the beginning of May as I plan on being with my daughter for Mother's Day...send me a PM as to where you live and if you'd like to meet as I haven't arranged my flight yet
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XYZCF - i sent you a PM!
:)
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I am going to be in Portland, OR dropping off S18 at the airport Saturday April 2nd. Are there any folks who would be interested in getting together? I will also be returning to Portland the following weekend, and could do something Friday night April 8th or anytime before 3pm on April 9th.
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Hi Banded,
I live just outside of Portland, and am available on April 2. Not available on April 8 (my bday). Would like to get together. Should we PM to make plans? Let me know.
Subooru
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I work in Portland and might be able to get together at some point.
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Yes, PM me...since you are in Portland...let me know what ideas you have for a place to meet!
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OKAY,
We have the back table reserved at 11 AM this Saturday.
City Market, 74 North Main Street Lambertville, NJ 08530 609 ...
74 North Main Street Lambertville, NJ 08530 609.397.2929. Open daily.
citymarketlambertville.com
They have a parking lot and if full, bring quarters for street parking.
Buggy and Letting Go are coming for sure. Also hopefully MelanieB and perhaps Sewsad. Open invite to anyone else in need of a gathering.
Take care,
FTT
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I should clarify -- I work in Portland but I live about an hour away. I'll double-check but I think I have plans for the next couple of Saturdays.
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I am coming into Toronto to spend Mother's Day weekend with my daughter...I'll be free during the day Fri May 6 and Monday May 9 if anyone wants to find time for a "chat". I wanted to put out a suggestion. If anyone is interested in meeting for breakfast on Saturday (my daughter sleeps in late anyway) how about The Pickle Barrel at the Yorkdale Shopping Center just off Hwy 401? It opens at 9:00 am..that would be Saturday May 7, 2011.
I know that different colored days has said it would be nice to meet up and I think we may have a few others "lurking" in the GTA vicinity so let me know. I'm trying to organize some time with some other friends as well so I need to coordinate.
I PROMISE to get working on something to gather my US friends together...sometime in June perhaps? There are some nice places up around Estes Park that would be reasonable but would require transportation from the Denver airport (probably a 3 hour drive) and I am worried about the elevation for the sea level folks....Vegas has been suggested but I'm thinking of someplace where we can try to gather around one another, maybe hike...FTT has also suggested PA...perhaps I'll have a better sense after coming back from LUX.
I know that my own experience with meeting people from this site has allowed me to heal and helped so much.
Anyway, let me know any of the Toronto area crowd which would include Buffalo as well..it's not that far but you do need a passport now I think to get into or out of Canada.
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Yorkdale is a great location for the meet up as it is right on the subway line and is a great mall for SHOPPING!!!! :D :D :D :D :D :D...
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Hmmmm, let me run some numbers. I am 2 hours from Buffalo so.....that just might work. I have a passport.
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Still, I used to live in Milford PA and made many, many trips to Toronto from there..it's straight driving, good highways...I'm free on friday so if you wanted to come a day earlier..I'll be having dinner with my daughter and boyfriend friday evening but you are welcomed to join us and I'd gladly share a hotel with you on the friday night if you wish (sorry, my daughter's condo is very small). Think about it..might be a nice break for you.
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I'm 3 hours away I can see about making the trip on the 2nd
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Everytime I see this thread my heart aches...visions of Mt. Hood, and Rainer in the distance, and the times I hiked those mountains years ago, earned a new knee cap from a skiing accident on Mt. Baker; catching my first 25 pound salmon in Puget Sound. Thanks for the memories of such a wonderful time in my life.
Everyone one of you enjoy yourselves, and remember it's for YOU, treat yourselves to an exciting and wonderful day, and don't forget to stop and thank God for the beauty that surrounds you.
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I might be able to meet you guys in TO. Lot happening with my imminent separation, so I'll have to wait until a little closer to the time to commit. Is it possible to run around part of the lake in Toronto? I'm still training for a half marathon later in May.
BNW
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Yes, there are lovely paths to walk/run/rollerblade/bike on around the Lake...especially down around the Danforth area. There's no need to commit to anything..I'm going into town (first to Ottawa, then Montreal, then Toronto) to see family and spend Mother's day with my daughter..just wanted to get the word out so people who might be interested can make some plans.
Oh how I'd love for us all to be able to go to Algonquin Park. There is a wonderful resort in the park, one of my most favourite places in the world. I may have to get myself there this summer although it is a special place that my Beloved and I used to go t,o especially many moons ago when we used to camp. We went to a wolf howl one night and it was so incredible and the stars and the lakes...I love Colorado but there are no lakes!
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Yes - I love Algonquin Park. The boys and I will be camping there this summer and will hopefully hear the wolves again. We heard them at night and saw them ( disturbed a couple of wolves when hiking - they ran off ) last time we camped there.
If you haven't been to it, another beautiful place at a different part of Algonquin is the Barron Canyon http://www.ontariotrails.on.ca/trails-a-z/barron-canyon-trail/ (http://www.ontariotrails.on.ca/trails-a-z/barron-canyon-trail/) last time we camped there the four of us got up in the middle of the night to watch a meteor shower. Lovely memories.
That resort ( if it's the one I'm thinking of ) is fancy ;)
BNW
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So bummed out I cant meet you guys. I am in the Sarnia area and my sister lives in TO.
Maybe next time because I could really use some advise.
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Yes, the resort is somewhat exclusive..the food is out of this world. It is about 8 km off HWY 60 on it's own lake. Actually, it once was a tuberculosis sanatorium....I haven't been to the Barron Canyon..must check it out.
There is a waterfall just west of the entrance to the park..I always thought that when I died, I'd like my ashes sprinkled there.
Have you ever seen moose in the park? I went on an interior canoeing trip and the moose were majestic! I get a little excited whenever I see wildlife in real life! Thanks for bringing up some good memories.
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Hi everyone
Just a quick note about possibly meeting up with other LBS' that live in the Mid Atlantic region or east coast. I guess it all depends on how far we are willing to travel to have spend time with people who are going thru the same situation as us. I thought this would be a good way to get a much needed break away from the daily grind and stress that MLC has thrown us in to. I live in Baltimore Maryland but am willing to travel either North or South to meet anyone that would some support through in person interaction. It would be nice to place a face with all the names of the wonderful friends I have met here.
Any suggestions or comments about this endeavour will be appreciated.
Hang in there everyone - together we will all make it through :)
Lxxxxxxx
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Depending on the date.... I travel all the time for business.
I can attend...if it works out...timewise.
L
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Whether you and I ever actually meet, I HIGHLY recommend meeting up with other LBS.... it was VERY healing for me to say my truth out loud. I give thanks every day for this forum where we can come out of hiding anonymously, but to look another human being in the eye and know they can joke about the terrible tragedy of MLC is a gift beyond belief!
Maybe one day we will have a national convention!! Can you imagine? ;)
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Bloody Australians we are such a different mob to the rest of you. Don't believe in counselling. Odd rules with break ups and child custody.
And I think I'm the only Aussie in the whole world who is a stander.
No one to meet here.
*waaah*
LOL
jealousy is a curse lol
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Hey Shantilly
I've been doing the Euro Lottery with a view to allocating a large portion of my win to the LBS benevolent fund :D
this would be to fund travel etc for us to get together. If I win you are top of the list for a first class ticket to UK to meet us LBS's here....so we just need to send it out to the universe ;)
FB
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Good4you,
I am in Ireland but travel to the Eastcoast, US a couple of times a year for work (July & Sep so far planned this year). I would love to know if/when an LBS gathering was happening so I could gatecrash! I haven't been able to get the dates right to meet the UK group or follow them and others to Luxembourg but I know it would be great to meet face-to-face!
Shantilly,
I know how you feel, I googled MLC Ireland a couple of times and only got Sports Car or Bikers clubs, I can't be the only LBS here!
In the meantime if you ever find yourself in Melbourne, keep an eye out for H (where he has escaped to) and let him know we love and miss him and that some day the LBS nation will rise and take back what is rightfully theirs, no place to hide then!
X
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Hello FB LG SL and L
The negative part is all of the LBS' being scattered around the world but the positive part is this shows that MLC is not just a bunch of crazy greedy Americans :)
I would be more than happy to travel the world meeting each and every one of the LBS around the world if I had an unlimited amount of frequent flier miles ....maybe we could get word out to Bono or Brad Pitt and they could start a charity for us. I can just see us know singing in the background for the music video of "ditched but still standing " . Then there will be the TV spots taped around the world of various LBS looking distraught and in desperate need of donations to a fund that is poorly managed. I figure there is a fund for everything and everyone else why not LBS. It would bring awareness and education to all -not be hidden like some dirty secret- then just maybe there would be a method to reduce the amount of pain and destruction that it causes each and everyone of us.
I am sorry if anyone finds this offensive. Sometimes laughing make me feel better and if I cannot laugh at myself and my situation then I know I am screwed.
Hope everyone has a good day wherever you may be -just remember we always have each other- we are never truly alone as long as we keep coming back to this wonderful place.
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G4Y
you made me laugh out loud ;D ;D feel the gauntlet has been thrown down for one of the more creative LBS's to come up with lyrics for the LBS Aid anthem , Im up for backing "do wops " etc but unfortunately thats the limit of my musical talent
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LBS Anthem
I guess it depends on what demographic we are aiming for in our financial aid. If it's the 18-25 crowd then I guess we need Ti, Pitbull, Neo or Usher ( I don't know exactly who these singers are but my sister and nephews were listening to their music when I visited them) or maybe Tim McGraw, Faith Hill , Rascal Flatts, or Kenny Chesney -country music is always good for a song about a man mistreating his wife.
Disclaimer here...I love country music so please don't get upset . I am not fond of rap music but it's common to hear people walking singing "love the way you lie" by Eminem and Rhianna about two people beating the crap out of each other. Crazy song that really upsets me.
Lxxxxx
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In Atlanta......would love to find a group to meet up with. You are also welcome to PM me and we can call each other....I have done that with a few LBS on this forum......it is of great comfort to talk to others in the same predicament as you are in!!! My family and friends and son just do not get it at all.....they tell me to let him go and move on. So much easier said than done.....wish they could walk a day in shoes.....they might have more compassion and empathy for what I am going through.
Love to chat anytime....
Mxxxxxx
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His Angel
Np is in Ireland. She doesn't post often but I know she reads the posts.
xx
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Next time we do the Buggy, LettingGo, FTT, MelanieB, Sewsad gathering, you are welcome to come up and spend the night. I think MelanieB gets the credit for me realizing that I will make it either way.
The other day at the cafe, Bugs, LettingGo and I were laughing it up and I´m sure that if someone had asked what brought us together, they would NOT have believed that we all had WAS issues. It will raise your spirits in an unimaginable way to meet other LBS.
Take care,
FTT
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Whyme2, I was just through Atlanta last week but to be honest I would feel strange being a man and meeting up
with a female I didn't know. Maybe a large group wouldn't be so bad though?
Hey if it happens, I volunteer to make name badges for everyone!
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FTT is right... we laughed a LOT, even though all we talked about was our sad stories! :o That is survival for ya!! I'm looking forward to hearing some of FTT songwriting, as soon as I buckle down and figure something out that is probably super simple, LOL!!
His Angel, let us know when you will be in New York... my Mom lives in NYC and our favorite Irish Pub, where we take our Irish relatives, is right around the corner from her... I can't offer a place to stay, but would try and meet you in the city if that's where you go, or you could ride the train down her to PA and hang with us!! I think the meeting in person after so many months of anonimity is a boon... I feel safe enough meeting just about any of you!
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First of all, I would love to go to Australia. I also would love to go to the UK but all the UK LBSers would have to have a collection to pay for my bail and court fees for my golfing practice using OM's body as a tee.
Judge: "Mr. Ready, you are being charged with striking OM eight times. How do you plead?"
Mr. Ready: "You honor it was a par five hole and I took a penalty shot for my first shot landing in the rough. I also took to swings at what I was positive was a very small snake in the rough. Then I went ahead and finished on par. I plead innocent."
Of course, I would be released three years later and my w would be out of MLC and ready for me to come back. Unfortunately for her, I would be involved with om and I mean several OM. LOL
I am all up for a Western US conference. Have a great evening.
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Ready, I think your defense sounds absolutely spot on and I don't see any reason why you'd be sentenced to jail.... what crime would you have committed? To help a group of ladies forget, for a short while, their cheating husbands? That sounds like James Bond to me, LOL!!
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;D
You guys are great!!
Gotta get skype working properly. Then I can try join in a little
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Justasking - thank you for letting me know of Np, hopefully I can make contact here on site and who knows, we might even be near each other!
LettingGo - I would definitely meet up in NY in July (work dates to be confirmed but as soon as I know ..........). Would love to visit with you in your local Irish pub! I have visited Philly a couple of times and love it so PA would be an easy, short hop also. I'll send you a pm closer to the time and maybe we'll get a few others to join. I am meeting CrazyStuff and Bewildered in West of Ireland at Easter weekend, so I am really looking forward to breaking through the anonymity!
Ready - your defence had me in stitches! I hate golf (sorry) but loved the analogy!
ShantillyLace - I'm set up with skype (for Aussie H) and am pretty tuned in to time difference, we could try that out whenever you were up for it!
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For those meeting in LUX... post details and messages. We will all be living vicariously through you! I hope you all have a heck of a time. I'm sure there will be wine and beer bottles flowing as well as love and laughter. Safe trips to all of you!
I'm jealous! :D
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Thanks growing I'm sure we will and lets hope we have lots of illicit stories to tell ha ha ha xx
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Don't worry about it GED I hear snow is forecast over there, really heavy and deep(lol) and there has been an increase in sex slavery apparantly according to HG's husband :) :) :)
I want to go too WAHWAHWAH........I want to be kidnapped to be a rich man's plaything as well.........s'not fair. >:( >:( >:( >:(
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Thanks GED. Safe travels to all....am I really going to be meeting my virtual friends? Sometimes I think this must be a dream..really, life is a little strange these days.
We shall keep everyone posted for sure and know that you are all with us in spirit and in love. There will be other opportunities to meet one another...promise.
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well Ive started packing and I found a long silky nightie H bought me ages ago b4 all this i have left it out to see if he says anything he he sorry I cant help myself its mixing with the swingers ;D
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Thank you Growing, we shall endeavour to have fun... hehehe! Everything's ready ladies.... let the good times roll!
Hyper, you tease! hehehe. Hope he's worried sick. Does he know where you are going and who you are meeting?
hugs Stayed...
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He knows I'm going to Lux with people off the internet but that's it...let him sweat it...ha
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And... is he?
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Well we will soon see, but from comments he's made so far, I think he is ha... I said do you think I can exercise yet...he said no and you wont loose weight by Thursday anyway, me and D were killing ourselves laughing he he
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All my H knows is that my plane landed in Brussels..not that we talk anyway..but I keep posting pictures on FB which I know he goes to..nice scenery
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XYZ,
Hope you are having fun in Brussels!
Do you know the weather in Lux?
Should I bring a coat?
I think that Voyager was saying something about snow? ;)
L
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Brussels is awesome!!! It's cool so I have a polar fleece or sweater under a small jacket. It rained today so I needed my umbrella. Coming for California you might find it a bit damp and chilly.
I've had two really good days with lots of tears but not the anxiety I feel at home..I just miss doing this type of trip with him. Is this your first trip to Europe? I love it so much compared to Asia.
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well Ive started packing and I found a long silky nightie H bought me ages ago b4 all this i have left it out to see if he says anything he he sorry I cant help myself its mixing with the swingers ;D
HAHAHAHA!! I love this!!! ;D
Hope it's a wonderful trip for everyone!!
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L
I think that Voyager was saying something about snow? ;)
Just heard an update, apparantly there's a hurricane alert. Due to blow in on Friday and disappear early next week.
And they're digging up the centre of Lux I hear to make way for a new motorway they're putting through the middle of the place.
Apparantly it's 24/7 construction and the noise is deafening.
Oh you poor things and to think i was actually feeling jealous. Phew sounds like i had a lucky escape, especially when i heard the main sewer has collapsed as well.
How lucky am i not to be there. ::) ::) ::) ::) heeheeeheee.
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Aaah after all I'm glad I'm staying in sunny Southern Europe. 28ºc here today, don't think I can take snow....
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weather forecast for Lux Sunny Sunny Sunny 8) bring it on...unpack jumpers, repack summer stuff Ha
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Anyone interested in meeting with fellow LBS' are invited to Cape May NJ this Sunday at 12 pm. I don't know the exact location yet but should have more details this evening.
Feel free to contact me . Looking forward to seeing anyone who can make it .
G4Y
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Good evening everyone. Sorry that I didn't get back to you sooner with the details for Sunday.
Here they are finally :
Time 12:00 pm
We will be meeting at Cabanas 429 Beach Ave Cape May
It appears to be on the corner of Beach Ave and Decatur.
Let me know if you will be coming so I can reserve tables for us as needed.
Make sure you come hungry and ready to have a good time . There will be lots of talking,eating and drinking.
Probably some shopping later if we don't get chased out of town from all the fun we will be having.
Those spring breakers will have nothing on us LBS'ers letting loose :)
Everyone is welcome to join us . The more the merrier . Cannot wait to see all of you . Any questions please contact me .
G4Y
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Hey, my California peeps! I'm going to be in North Hollywood/Studio City next week and would love to meet anyone that can make it for lunch on Sunday, April 17th. Sorry my time is so limited, but I have family and other friends to see as well.
Ready is going to meet me for lunch and we'd love to have more company if you can make it! Let me know if you are in, and I'll firm up the time and place in a couple of days.
Letting Go
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I can be there.....
If I can go all the way to LUX to meet some very special LBSers - North Hollywood is like baking a cake!
Let me know time and place.
Hugs,
L
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Thanks laursecan! After LG posted that I was going to be there, there have been lots of views but no responses!
I am a little nervous about meeting LG by myself. I am afraid after lunch she will give me the "I like you, but I don't really like you" speech.
I've really got to work on these self-esteem issues.
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Hey Ready,
Actually, I was worried about trying to horn in on you two (NOT).
Hope you are doing well.
XYZ and I are having a fabulous time over here in LUX.
Lots of really nice people, lots of good food and wine. No dancing, yet - though.
Maybe I will dance on the table tomorrow night.
L
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Actually, it's ME that has the self esteem issues.... I'm trying to figure out how to lose 20 pounds in 5 days, LOL!! After losing on the LBS diet, now I'm going the other direction with the stress eating!! But the alcohol is on it's way out, so that should help.... ;)
Ready, I believe the speech would be.... "I really like you, but just not in THAT way..." ;D ;D
I love to see that LBSes are getting together all around the world and country!
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See, I can't even get the line right. It is just not going my way.
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RTFMF,
If faced with any ILYB ... type lines, you're permitted to reply with one of my lines from the first six months after BD: 'This doesn't make any sense', or 'This doesn't add up'.
BNW
[ or you could always greet LG with 'We are Schmoopies' ]
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Sounds good. Of course I could just use my old standby: "Mommy?"
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Or the great standby line
"I'm sorry you feel that way"
No. I'm sorry that you're sorry that you feel that way.
No. It's not you, it's me.
Or something like that.
L
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How about THIS gem.... "I'm sorry you took it that way...." ;D ;D ;D
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Laursecan- time for bed.
LG- LMAO, How about "I'm sorry you took it that way, but you can still pick up the check."
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Time for bed???
I just got up!
L
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So there are 10 of you ladies there in LUX.
Would you care to share who is there?
Hmmm, I know XYZCF, laursecan, Hyperglad,Stayed who else am I missing?
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I know Bewildered is there!
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Just don´t order lasagna!
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I just got home from our LUX trip and this was really awesome. I met some wonderful, wonderful girls. Really I am feeling empowered. I miss them all already.
the weather was also great.
Laursecan, I even managed to get a tan. So everywhere you go... take the weather with you
hugs
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Did anyone post photos on facebook? I bet you girls had a wild time :) Look forward to hearing all of your stories
Hugs to all my LBS friends
You guys are amazing :)
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Okay, I have not a clue to the time change other than my w and om are eight hours apart. I hope the lux trip was a hit and we can start having our own LBSer conventions. We could have forums and classes.
For example, what constitutes dating as opposed to getting a life? For example, if you are a woman and a LBSer going to lunch with a good male friend is not dating. However, if you go to lunch with him and drink a bottle of Jack Daniels during the lunch then you may be crossing the line.
What constitutes an acceptable hug between an LBSer and someone of the opposite sex? Is it three seconds or thirty seconds? We may have to all get together and come up with a standardized set of rules and expectations. Maybe the Cali lunch could lay down some foundational rules.
Okay, I am rambling because I am working on my paper and I am procrastinating big time! (((Hugs))))
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We may have to all get together and come up with a standardized set of rules and expectations.
Ready - we have gone over this - NO EXPECTATIONS!! LMAO!!! :) :) :)
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Ready
I think it is all about what you feel comfortable with. I always try to think about how I would feel if I walked into that situation involving my H. I have been out to lunch with clients from the bank and ALWAYS take along a coworker just so that the client doesn't get the wrong idea. I don't want people thinking I am sleazy in any way. I believe when you are married there are certain standards .The one thing I believe people don't realize is that being overly friendly with someone of the opposite sex can cause major problems in a marriage. When you start sharing your personal intimate details of your marriage with a friend of the opposite sex you are just looking for trouble. Then shortly after comes the "he/she understands me better"-BS !!!!!
Now that I can climb own off my soap box... I am all for traveling to the West Coast for a mandatory LBS meeting. I can just see me telling my boss now ...Yes Iris it really is mandatory they said I have to be there for two weeks without any cell phones or laptops." Wouldn't that be great 2 weeks of doing nothing but enjoying the sights and sounds with my LBS friends. Sounds like paradise to me all I need is a drink with umbrella and I am good to go :)
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OP- You are so right. Our forum can only determine what we hope will happen but there are no expectations or even consequences for that matter if someone breaks a rule.
So- for the Cali lunch ( I have high hopes, no expectations, and all bets are off the table)
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Hi LG, Ready & L
I'm up for lunch on Sunday- just have to find a babysitter for my girls.
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Eternity,
Glad you got home safe. Miss you, already.
I will check to see if I got any amount of tan today. Doubt it, but who knows?
We had a total of 12 beautiful LBS' in LUX.
Stayed hosted (thank you, Stayed!), XYZ, Bewildered, Niff Naff, Hyperglad, Crazy Stuff, Journey to Self, Dragonfly, Following Bliss, Eternity, and Stand & Deliver. (Me - Laursecan - too).
It was an amazing weekend - full of laughter, hugs, lots of walking and a few tears (happy tears).
L
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OP.... you are right! NO EXPECTATIONS!!
Good4You, I am personally very friendly and sometimes flirtatious with persons of the opposite sex... and somehow I'm able to remain faithful to my husband, LOL!! Although, in hindsight, he would NOT have approved of my behavior in some circumstances in the past, and rightly so, I was STILL able to remain faithful!! Since I am a PROVEN commodity, I get to do whatever I want without reproach from HIM, but HE has put a noose around his neck as far as his future behavior goes. No women within 10 feet of him, especially if they "aren't looking for anything to happen..." ESPECIALLY that!!
It think we have already broken all of the "rules" and crossed lines just by knowing one another... I mean, Ready and OP and DGU know ALL of the most intimate details of my marriage... and yet, somehow, we are able to remain faithful to our cheaters, LOL!! I think I did see big congrats on the DB board once for two members who had ditched their cheating spouses and married each other.... :o that's when I found this forum.... just sayin' 8)
Pretty sure we should meet at Jerry's Famous Deli on Ventura Boulevard.... I'll check their hours and post a plan here, which can change slightly to accomodate all of us if necessary. Can't wait to meet all of you!!
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you know what. This has been 6 months since BD and I am not able to cry. But yesterday after leaving you all in LUX I cried but these were indeed happy tears
I had a wonderfull time with amazing ladies. Those H's are really stupid ;D
I am off to Brussels now :D
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Sounds like you had a wonderful time. I wish I could have made it. Maybe next time.
I'm so jealous .
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LG,
Sounds great.
L
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Well XY has the pictures posted on the alt and I must say you ladies look great!
Good job STAYED on organizing this trip.
If you want to see the pics you need to be friends with XYZCF.
If you need help with that PM me and I will help you.
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I agree with OP you are all so beautiful...you can see and feel such good energy from those pics!
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The pictures are really good. Looks like lots of eating and drinking enjoyed by all ;) Look forward to hearing the stories.
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The alt? ???
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I am bumping this up after seeing that rememberer lives in TO...after such a wonderful time in LUX (thank you stayed) it is awesome to meet up with others going through this mess!
I am coming into Toronto to spend Mother's Day weekend with my daughter...I'll be free during the day Fri May 6 and Monday May 9 if anyone wants to find time for a "chat". I wanted to put out a suggestion. If anyone is interested in meeting for breakfast on Saturday (my daughter sleeps in late anyway) how about The Pickle Barrel at the Yorkdale Shopping Center just off Hwy 401? It opens at 9:00 am..that would be Saturday May 7, 2011.
I know that different colored days has said it would be nice to meet up and I think we may have a few others "lurking" in the GTA vicinity so let me know. I'm trying to organize some time with some other friends as well so I need to coordinate.
I PROMISE to get working on something to gather my US friends together...sometime in June perhaps? There are some nice places up around Estes Park that would be reasonable but would require transportation from the Denver airport (probably a 3 hour drive) and I am worried about the elevation for the sea level folks....Vegas has been suggested but I'm thinking of someplace where we can try to gather around one another, maybe hike...FTT has also suggested PA...perhaps I'll have a better sense after coming back from LUX.
I know that my own experience with meeting people from this site has allowed me to heal and helped so much.
Anyway, let me know any of the Toronto area crowd which would include Buffalo as well..it's not that far but you do need a passport now I think to get into or out of Canada.
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Faith - alt=facebook. OP can help you find all of us if you PM him.
Loved the pics! Looks like you all had a great time. :)
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Hi xyz, and others,
I received your email and am letting you know that it looks like I'm free that Fri. May 6th or the Mon. the 9th. I could meet at Yorkdale at the Pickel Barrel but it would be better if it was a little later, as I'm a good hour or more away from the city, but I'll see what I can do.
Let me know
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Hmmmm, I'm thinkin', I'm thinkin'.......
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Still you need to do it , you will find such strength :)
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Yes, I live 1 hr. away from Toronto but 9 AM might be too early. What about brunch, 10 or 11 so everybody can make it from London and Kitchener/Waterloo area etc.?
I have a few friends that I met on another site, would they be allowed to come as well?
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Just seen them; GREAT PICS!
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Hey guys, I'm up for a meeting in N. Hollywood!! Where abouts? I live about 20 min from there. I will have my S this weekend - ok if I bring him? Or will this lunch be PG-R rating?
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Laurascan and you forgot plenty of dancing and singing on the last night ;)
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It is going to be PG at best due to violence when I either fall down or spill hot food on myself. Your son is more than welcomed to the event. As long as he is not made upset at clumsy bald men.
Give me the time and I am all set to make the trip.
Ready
PS- We have to talk about my doctoral study as one subject as I am going to tell my w that I am going out to meet some people to discuss my work and progress. HeHeHeHe the devil is always in the details.
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Shame on you, Ready!
Fibbing by omission?
I don't even have to give a story to my h. Not only wouldn't he notice that I was gone - I truly think if he knew he could care less. (Or is it couldn't care less?).
Can't wait to meet you all. I will have to eat something light. Probably put back on all the weight I lost - going to LUX.
L
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I'm jealous. I really like California and would really like to meet you guys. I bet the weather is quite nice at the moment too - do you have much of a Spring?
It's Spring here in Ontario. Lasts about a week or so! [ slight exaggeration ] The trees don't hang around - soon as the snow melts there are buds on them - it's almost like watching time lapse! Spring here is lovely.
Are you the Hollywood Wives ( and husband )?
BNW
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I can't wait. I've decided to pass around one of my white shirts so I can have several different sets of lipstick on my collar. Wow! Mrs. Ready will blow a gasket on that one. Okay, won't work. I do the laundry.
However, lots of women and only two men at the table. YEAH FOR ME!!!
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Ready, seriously? Why are you still doing the laundry? ;)
How about we meet at Jerry's Famous Deli in Studio City on Sunday, April 17th at 12:30pm? I can commit to a couple of hours, but everyone else can stay as late as they want.... wish I didn't have limited time, but I do...
Let me know if the time needs to be tweaked... www.jerrysfamousdeli.com (http://www.jerrysfamousdeli.com)
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Because my children have social lives and I have to keep my job. Ms. Ready is not ready and I am not going to force this battle on that issue. Instead, I am sticking more to my battles on respect and how she should talk to me. It has been a slow battle, but it is actually helping. I am also reading a book that RY recommended and it also has lots of good advice for my situation.
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It was a fantastic time! These men of ours are fools.... hopefully, they will see the light and find their way back. If not, it truly will be there loss.
Daughter had baby... another boy, hehehe... #3... going to call him Malcolm Conor... slight complication though. He was born with a small hole in one of his lungs, which is effecting his lungs from expanding. His oxygen levels are good, he is being monitored in the ICU 24/7. They say these holes usually heal themselves, in a couple of days. We shall see.
hugs... Stayed..
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Congrats on the new grandson! :)
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Congratulations Stayed on the birth of your new grandchild.
Hope everything is OK
Glimmer
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Congratulations to you all....I'm so glad she is ok....enjoy your stay with your family xxx
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Another grandson...how wonderful. I hope that he will soon be out of ICU and coming home to his loving family's arms. What a crazy week for you!!!! Love and more love
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Stayed,
Congrats on the new grandbaby!
I'm quite confident the lung issue will clear itself up. It's scary when there is a problem with a new baby, though. The doctors know what it is....so it should be fine.
You must be exhausted! Take care of your daughter and the baby.
Hugs,
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So, it's 12:30 at Jerry's in N. Hollywood?
How many people?
If I get there first - what size table? Or will there be a reservation?
This sounds like fun!
Can't wait.
L
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Thanks everybody! I am a little "weary" hehehe... no rest for the wretched... oh well. I'm here with the two boys, son in law will be back around 3pm. when oldest grandson gets home from school and will take me over to see my "baby"... hehehe.
She sounds good, a little worried but has confidence in the hospital and the care he is receiving. I'm waiting to hear from my brother as to whether I should be "upset" or not :( ! The baby is only 37 weeks term... so he is 3 weeks early... which is a little earlier then it should have been but when he sugar dropped, it was too risky to leave him there any longer.
Xyzcf can explain it better then I can, being a pediatrics nurse, she explained it to me very well. So feel free to fill them in hun. Not sure how normal this small hole in the lungs is... once again, I am thinking Xyzcf would know.
Thanks for all your well wishes, you all the best friends anybody could ever have.
Love ya all... Stayed...
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How much did he weigh Stayed?
His 37 week prematurity should not cause difficulties but he is still "younger" than a full term baby so may be a bit weaker re" breastfeeding and a bit sleepier.
Re: the hole in his lung..this pretty well sums it up:
Spontaneous pneumothorax generally occurs during the first few breaths post-delivery and is asymptomatic. Symptoms of respiratory distress such as rapid breathing, nasal flaring, grunting with expiration, and cyanosis (blue coloration of the skin) may be present in some babies, but these symptoms usually respond to temporary oxygen supplementation with no long term consequences.
Keep us posted!!!!! Can you put some pictures on the alt?
I miss you already! Especially your laughter and shall I say "directness"? Nobody can ever accuse you of not telling it like it is!
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Hey Stayed!!!! Fantastic! A new baby-stayed.
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12:30 at Jerry's in Studio City - sounds good. Too funny, that is where I bowl on Monday nights. Jerry's gets pretty crowded on saturday afternoons. Wonder if we can make a reservation.
BNW, the weather has been really great here lately - about 12-15 C, sun shining - great. Wish you could be there too.
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Congratulations, Stayed!
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FHO- I'm bringing the girls and told them they could have their own table. Would S want to sit with them?
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CONGRATULATIONS , and welcome to the wonderful world of little boys Malcolm Conor, be happy forever.
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He might, RD. I am going to let him play his PSP, so he might be in his own little world. But, it's good that he knows your girls.
How many of us are there now? I was going to call Jerry's and see if I can reserve a couple of tables.
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So far it's LettingGo, Ready, Rediscover, FHO and Laursecan.
Am I missing anyone?
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Congratulations, this is fantastic news
Sets me back 18 years and this seems like yesterday.
:'( ;)
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Congratulations Stayed on the new grandson. It sounds like you ladies had a wonderful time. Thank you for sharing.
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Finally made it back home after a fantastic couple of days in Luxembourg. This is now my second meet up with the LBS's and each time has been inspiring, motivating, empowering and of course, fun. Like everyone else, I will now reflect on our time together and learn from it. We are an amazing group of women and it was such a privilege to spend time with you all. Looking forward to the next meet up.
Also - congratulations to Stayed on the birth of her new grandson. I am sure he will bring pleasure and joy.
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Stayed
congratulations on the birth of your grandson, hope everything sorts itself out real quick and you can just enjoy him !
love
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Thank you all so much. Malcolm Connor is improving quickly. There is still an air pocket in the center of his chest but it is dissipating slowly. He is able to nurse at last and has taken to the breast well.
My daughter is coming home today, but the baby will be home Friday at the earliest.
Thank you so much everybody, this is my 4th. grandson and I have 2 granddaughters from my oldest son. Grandkids are the gift that just keeps on giving.
love Stayed...
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Stayed,
Thanks for the update.
Glad to hear that the little one is already on the mend.
It is difficult to leave the hospital without bringing home your baby - but Friday will be here pretty quick.
L
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Hi Laursecan:
Daughter is home. You know, this is not a bad sort of thing. I remember coming home with my new baby, the kids were over the moon and excited that you were back, you were exhausted and a new baby as well. This way the boys have her all to themselves for the next few nights and when the little guy comes home on Friday or so, it won't be quite as hectic. Who would have thunk, hehehe!
She's a little concerned though, because the one boy seems to have come down with an ear infection. The oldest lad started school this year and as per norm, it has been the year from hell. Honest to gawd, every other week one of them is sick with something. Those schools must have some serious germs hehehe, cause I remember the year that my daughter started school, thought I would loose my mind, with all the colds, flu's, ear infections, upset stomachs... you name it.
I am wondering how you are feeling girl, I am dying here! lol That weekend of ours was just too much fun. Late nights, too much to drink and so much walking.... my raspy throat of course has turned into a slight cold, probably already started but enhanced by my long day of travelling and then the concern about the little guy and my daughter.
Ouchie, I am one tired "old lady", hehehe! Sleeping great but feel like 24 hours round the clock would be a great thing.
hugs... Stayed...
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Hi xyz and others,
I'm sorry but I will not be able to meet up with you all during the Easter weekend. It looks like it's going to be too busy as I'm hosting for my family and my kids will be with me that weekend for a visit.
thanks for in the invitation though. Perhaps another time.
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hey, it's not Easter weekend, it's May 6 or 7 which is Mother's Day weekend...did you just confuse the dates?
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Baby Malcom ....
Just heard the good news,
So it's hip, hip, hooray!
So happy for all of you,
I just hope and pray
That your brand new addition
Is a wonderful treasure,
And along with the work,
He brings joy beyond measure. ;D
Love Stayed and family speedy recovery for Mummy and Baby too !!!!
Thanks for Lux to my hostess with the mostess and everyone else - sorry I was so tired & not so much fun and this week is even worse !!
Great Challenge but oh such hard work!!!! Off to bed early again.........
May not be around much for some time as sleeping is my 'leisure time' for now! :( :( :( :'( :'( :'(
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Hi Everyone:
Update: Malcolm Connor came home today, weighing in at a grand 6lbs. even. A little jaundiced... apparently common with GD babies. Really a lovely little fellow.
Bewildered, hope your new job settles down soon. A challenge is always a good thing, though, I expect once you have become more familiar with it, a more relaxing routine will be established.
Hugs... Stayed
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Yes, I meant to say Mother's Day- sorry.
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Finally back online! Have moved, son is enrolled in school and about to start the serious job hunt. As for H and MLC - I want to get as far away from it as possible and, for now, that is what I have done.
It was wonderful to meet up with the LBS's in Lux and I am only sorry I could not spend more time with you all - you seemed like a fantastic group and I wish the meet-up had not coincided with my move weekend. A huge thank you to Stayed, of course. Hope to see you again before too long to get a proper chance to chat!
S&D
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Good luck with the job hunting and the move..you are a very smart and fun and beautiful women..I look forward to hearing about the work that your will immerse yourself in...it was so nice to meet you, even if only for a short while.
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S&D,
It was really nice to meet you.....even for the short time.
You were really busy that weekend - so it means so much that you took the time to meet and see us!
Good luck in the job hunting!
May your days be filled with thoughts of ANYTHING but MLC!
L
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Hi S&D,
I was there too in LUX, i think we did not even talk. You looked so young, your H is a fool. I was you all the best. What language do you normally speak?
I ask because I live in Belgium
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Fantastic Love to you all xxx
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Anyone interested in meeting in Philadelphia May 15th please let me know. So looking forward to seeing everyone that make it :) If this date isn't doesn't work for you let me know what date does. I am flexible with my time . Cannot wait to see all my friends in Phillie :)
L
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Yes, i am interested.
FTT
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I don't live in philly anymore, but my family does. I would love to go at another time!
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absolutely!
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It will work for me.
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Hey, just making sure this is still happening tomorrow. There is no reservation, we can meet up in the waiting area.
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I know that Ready, Rediscover, LettingGo, You and I will be there.
See you then!
L
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I'm there. Will be a little later than 12:30- closer to 12:45 because i have to grab D13 from her friend's house.
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Rediscover,
Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!
L
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Hey gang,
I have not been on for a while, and see that you are all meeting up in Sunny Southern Cali. I really wish I could meet up with
you all too. I didn't realize there were several of you in the area. I knew Laursecan was. I love Jerry's Deli. Use to go to the one in North Hollywood. That's what happens when I don't come here often enough to get to know you all, huh? Have a great time.
I need to go add to my story now. No good news though...
Ibelieve
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I would love to be with you guys.
Laursecan, give my regards to all of them. Maybe some day...
Enjoy your time
Hugs
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Great to hear from everyone so far that is interested. I am looking at various options as to where we can all meet. If anyone knows the area please don't hesitate for suggestions of things to do and see. Cannot wait to see everyone.
So far forthetrees, offmyrocker and trying2bok are coming...hoping many more can make it
Have a great day all my fellow LBS er's...thinking happy thoughts now for all of you :)
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Hey if its not too late someone take a camera and post some pics.
So even those of us that are not there can live vicariously though the internet photos.
Have a good time. And post when it is over. :) :) :)
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Hey guys - my S woke up this morning with a fever and all stuffed up :(. We won't be able to make it - I'm so bummed. Have a wonderful time and try the sweet potato fries - they're delicious!!
xoxo
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G4Y,
I didn't want to hijack Shantilly's thread but I saw what you said about rounding up all the MLCers and sending them to NH. I'm from NH, and my first thought was NOoo, I don't want them all here....at second thought, I had a little fantasy....it might be nice to round them all up, and subject them to some sort of rehab, and I'll hostess! I have some ideas! ;D
A get together in NH would be nice!
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I will be returning to NH in about two weeks to visit my sister again. It is my favorite place to go and lick my wounds :)
I am not sure what part of NH you live in but I will able to get to Concord, Manchester and Nashua. If any of these areas work for you let me know
Hope to see you then
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All of the above work for me. I'm headed to Nashua right now, so we'll talk later!
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FHO- missed you!
Don't be mad, but I forgot to take pics. Had a camera, but the thought completely left myhead once I sat down. :o
Ready, LG
Nice to finally meet you! I know it was short, but it was definitely a good start on future beach parties at my house.
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Nice to see you again, see you soon!
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It was really nice to have lunch with you all today.
Rediscover - nice to see you again. You are doing so well! Good for you.
Ready and LettingGo - I am so glad I got the chance to meet you both. It was nice to put a face with the screen name.
FHO - Sorry we missed you. Hopefully, we can meet at another time.
To all - if you have the chance to meet with other LBS, I really encourage it. It is a good feeling to find/meet others who you have so much in common with. It puts MLC into perspective - and confirms what we have read. This is THEIR crisis. We need to take care of ourselves, GAL, and not waste this precious time that we have been given. Without MLC in my life, I would have never traveled to Luxembourg last week or to Studio City today. While I wouldn't wish this on anyone - I can say that making the most of this gift of time is bringing some positives into my life.
Hugs,
L
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Glad you had a good time. I also had trhe pleasure this week of meeting with two other of our forum members..it always helps me so much, gives me something to think about and helps with the healing.
Nobody gets it like another LBSer!
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Can't believe I forgot to take pics! Our visit was def too short, but I thank you all so much for coming together in the midst of busy schedules! I have an untested, unproven theory that these meetups are THE best thing to help you focus on you and not the crisis...Its as if you can be yourself and not worry about what your non LBS friends and family think...no one rolls their eyes at you or tells you they are tired pf hearing about your spouse all the time...it is a wonderful outlet so please get together with others on your area if you can...flight about to leave'..will post more tomorrow.
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I am organizing the details for meeting in Philadelphia Sunday May 15th. I am taking the bus down and will arrive at 30th st station about 9 am. Been checking out things to do in the area. I know we have to grab a Philly cheesesteak - getting hungry just thinking about it. I am not sure how much time everyone has but I have the entire day clear . If you get the time look at the tourist site and see what interests you.
I have heard from the following that they will be coming:
Trying2bok
Offmyrocker
Forthetrees
Anyone else that can make it please let me know . Really excited about seeing everyone and having a good time :)
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Hope you all have another gathering soon. I would love to meet you all. :D
I am in the L.A. area. 8)
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Just to remind anyone who is interested..I shall be in Toronto Ontario Canada May 6 to 9...plans were made to meet with at least one memeber and perhaps more on Saturday am...just letting others know that might live in the vicinity to see if anyone else is interested..please PM if you are. Thanks
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I am sad that I am on the other side of Canada. I sure would have liked to be there
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I'm seriously thinking this may work out for me.
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For those of you who attended this...the photos are posted from the Karoake bar on Facebook. I have tagged some but you can add him his name is Sabino Pires, I will try and post them on the fellowship xx
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Bumping this up.
It sounds like it is going to be three of us. Anyone else want to join?
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I'm 50/50 ... need to see how the week progresses.
BNW
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Just bumpinng this up so that anyone and everyone that wants to meet with us can. I will be in Philadelphia on May 15th at 9am. I have the entire day free to hang out and sightsee-shop or eat whatever we all want to do. Just looking forward to some bonding time and making happy memories with all my friends.
Offmyrocker
Trying2bok
Forthetrees
The last I checked these friends are coming . Everyone is welcome ...cannot wait to see you all there ;D
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I am a tentative MAYBE.... it depends on my work schedule.... not asking for many days off since I just got back from vacay, LOL!! If I dont' make it this time, please keep inviting me!! I can guarantee you will enjoy meeting FTT.... she's a real "go-er" and a wonderful, giving spirit.... LG
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LG
Hope to see you then. Will give more details as we get closer to the date.
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I´d love to join you but I am now a S-l-o-w walker due to the gimpy leg. So, I´d need to know how much walking is involved. I could always join you for part of the day. I´m also supposed to avoid getting hot. Let me know what you have in mind. I would either drive in or take the train.
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FTT, would it help if we got a wheel chair for you? I have a friend who runs a medical supply store and maybe we can borrow one. We all deal with our slow moving MLCers, we can deal with this. Plus it could get us first in line to get in to various venues. ;D
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Sorry, not ready for that step- plus I can´t sit for very long.
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Groupon.com has a 90 minute tour bus ride around historical Philadelphia for $13..... I've been to the Liberty Bell numerous times... ditto Constitution Hall, etc. and it is WONDERFUL!! Perhaps a two-prong visit could be planned... one of sight seeing during the day for the new visitor... who perhaps already know each other?? And then FTT and hopefully I could join you at an eatery/pub.... somewhere we could all talk for a couple of hours. FTT should not be sitting for very long, however.... My StepDad just moved out of his downtown luxury condo, or I would have suggested we meet up there and FTT could lay down while conversatin' ;)
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A 2 prong approach could be good. I will talk with G4Y and OMR and see what they are up for. I too have done all the tourist stuff and was hoping to go to the art museum. I've been there too, but it''s a really good one and the exhibits change. I think they are having some privately owned Van Gogh's that usually aren't seen. Meeting later in a pub would be great.
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Sorry I can't be there this time ladies but I'll be there in spirit :)
HUGS
BUGS
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I'm up for anything. The only thing that I need is to find a parking space that I can get into without using reverse :) Or that has a slope, lol! I need a new transmission because my reverse is shot >:( Other than that, I'm game for anything! ;D
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The 2 part visit works well for everyone it seems. So now we just need to decide our morning plans and find a great place to meet for food and drinks in the afternoon with FTT LG :) If anyone has a good suggestion as to where to eat possibly somewhere that has shoppes as well as pubs/restaurants that will be great. The only place I have been in Philadelphia is Franklin Mills ;D I know I like to shop...used to take day trips to the outlet malls...those days are long gone now.
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Is it out of line to ask where people are from? My H is from Philly and I'm in Harrisburg/York/Lancaster area. The cost of gas, tolls and finding someone to stay with my daughter if my H is in a mood she doesn't want to be around him makes it difficult, plus the fear of running into someone I know, i.e. his family or a coworker, H has offices he works from across the state. In a few months maybe I won't care-- but too much explaining right now. I am trying to rebuild old relationships and develop new as a part of my "recovery". I let so much go for my H wants and needs and this is now what I need. I'm new to dealing with the reality of this mess but a few years into knowing something was very wrong, thinking he was just becomming a bastard..now he's under psychiatric medical care and I'm trying to hang in there and maintain some sort of normalcy for my child through a no -contact separation , at least on my part..details we need to iron out I guess when he's in a good frame of mind.
Is anyone in the South Central PA area who may be interested in doing the same type of get together? or even just a McDonalds meet and greet would be nice... something inexpensive is my point...
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I am more than willing to meet anyone almost anywhere.Just let me know when and where :)
Sunday May 15...Philadelphia..I am arriving at 9am at the 30th St Station. We need to decide what our morning plans are so that we can meet FTT and LG in the afternoon at a pub/eatery.
Any suggestions are welcome...Cannot wait to see you guys :)
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Please post the food site and time and I´ll work on a plan to get there. I would need to take the train in and I think and the Sunday schedule is not as full.
Will need to google.
FTT
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Not sure I can make it this time as I work until 5 and it is likely my husband will be home for the weekend.... makes it somewhat tricky...
I can suggest for EVERYONE that if you can take a train in, it's cheaper than parking and tolls. The art museum is wonderful.... but moving to another location for a get together is going to cost for transportation etc.
At a future date, I could suggest that we meet a little further north, where I live which is near Franklin Mills mall... the Septa train station is 2 blocks from me which means I could pick people up and we could go to a restaurant or something nearby as the activity. I'd love to host at my home, as well, but not much privacy here, so not good with my kids around.
I only know FTT and Buggy from here, so ideally, I would rather have a sit down get together to get to know the others before spending the day at an activity... then, the skies the limit!!
I would also be up for an overnight trip somewhere that is planned well in advance... I can get a hotel room or two and we could have a LBS Pajama party, LOL!! Glass of wine here I come, hahaha!!
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Keep me in the loop for that one. We could have a pillow fight too. A drunken pillow fight. And darts with our H's faces on the board and pin the tail on the jackass. All kinds of party games.
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I'm planning to be in Chicago the weekend of Aug 12-13 for a wedding.....will most likely be free on the Sunday if there are people in that area who would like to get together..let me know. It's always a great experience to be face to face with those we have only met through cyberspace
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I am in the Chicago suburbs and would love to meet up. I am not available on Saturday, 8/13 as I am hosting my sister's 50th birthday party. But, I am free on Sunday, 8/14. I am about 15 minutes NW of O'Hare. Where in the Chicago area will you be?
Purple Stain is also in the area.
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I'm going to be in Des Plaines...Sunday Aug 13 would work so let's see if others are interested and we'll make some plans.
I have never been to Chicago so I also want to visit the city a bit but may come in on the thursday. Anyone else out there?
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I won't, but could you please go to Bacino's on Wacker Dr. and fed ex me a pizza?
YUM!!!!
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Rebel...don't think it would get to you without growing salmonella or something equally as nasty!
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Greetings,
Back from Spain and wondering if folks in the Philly area would like to get together to go see THE FUTURE- a movie that just came out on Friday and sounds like a MLC movie if ever there were one.
Also, I am serious about hosting a gathering at my house on the weekend of Aug. 20. So, any takers for the movie and/or the gathering please let me know. We could do the movie as part of the gathering.
Glad to be home- I got some MAJOR dog adoration from my pups upon opening the door. We snuggled all nite. They just wanted to at least have a paw on me to know that I was there. Now, that´s loyalty:)
FTT
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FTT
I would love to get together for the movie and the weekend of Aug 20. Just keep me posted about time and place. Hope to see you soon. Can't wait to hear all about your trip to Spain ? How are you feeling by the way ?
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I am a newbie here, would love to connect. G4U, there's our road trip! :)
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Sassy
Just need to make sure to lock up the dogs before leaving. Don't want to come back to ER bills or scarred up kids :)
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LOL funny one G4U. :)
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So happy you got to go on that trip. Jealous too. ;) Not many from this board in my neck of the woods. Still always feel so close to the folks on here. This is a good place and simply amazing people.
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Sounds great. I'll ask my older one to watch the little ones :)
Thanks FTT
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Saludos,
Looking for a commitment for a gathering.
Please let me know if you are coming for the day or an overnite and if overnite, what you need for accommodations.
I have a queen pullout, a queen futon, a double, 2 twin murphy beds. There´s oodles of space for a tent if that is a choice.
I will keep checking for where The Future is playing locally.
If it turns out that folks would prefer a day rather than the weekend, which is better, the Sat. or the Sun.
So, please respond with: day or weekend / no. of overniters / any food restrictions or requests / beverage preferences
You can pm me with your answers. I am about 45 min. north of Philly and 20 min. from the Scudders Falls rte. 95 exit. If you mapquest New Hope PA, you´ll have a good sense of where I am.
Here´s to strength in numbers, healing in herds, having fun while moving forward.
FTT
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Oh man, I wish I lived near Philly! I'd be all over this opportunity. Hehehe... heal in herds... love that.
hugs Stayed...
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SIP here. I wish the day you have picked for "The Future" would have worked for me but alas the day has already been booked full. Have a wonderful and enlightening time together and hope to meet more of you in the future. I'll try to see that movie at some time. Blessings.
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I'd love to join you (I'm north of Baltimore), but just made arrangements to spend that weekend (at least Saturday) with my future daughter-in-law. Perhaps next time?!
Heart to Heart
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Hello FTT
I wasn't sure if you are still planning the movie get together...
Was just checking in. Us gals from jersey (learning and I) are kid free and ready to have some fun this weekend. :)
Feel well and take care
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Just checked and The Future is not playing around here. So, other options I am throwing out there and am open to other suggestions:
- Friday nite in Lambertville/New Hope- fire works over the river- they start about 9:15 if it is not raining. We could meet for dinner and then hang out for the fireworks. I am open to hosting folks overnite if you want to do something the next day.
- Gather on Sat. for a bike ride on the canal tow path- bikes can be rented here in New Hope
- Go for a hike in the area- there is a mini mountain nearby in NJ I´d like to hike. Could do it sat. or sun.
I need to know if anyone is staying over so I will kick my butt into gear and straighten up.
I will probably need to meet with some LBSs in person after my meeting with a lawyer today.
Please let me know who and when- please respond with your choices or alternate suggestions.
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Is that awesome ice cream place still in New Hope? And the lingerie/fetish store that we so loved to giggle about when we were in high school? I sure wish I could be there.
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Love Saves the Day- I think it´s still on the corner of Bridge and Main. Yes, I´m pretty sure that Grensers ice cream is still there. There is also an awesome French bakery right near the ice cream store. I love to EAT!
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Yes, that's the ice cream place, if i close my eyes i can pretend i'm there... And that restaurant near there used to make blackened bleu burgers, and the restaurant by the playhouse was the first place i ever had a brie en croute... Oh my gosh, i'll definitely be there this summer!
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Now everyone this is just for fun so don't get upset and starting call the local AA meetings trying to find me group and sponsor......yes I am lmao as I type this. What if we do this ? Get all dressed up have a night of fun and laughter ? Just celebrate each other and being alive. Possibly have a sleepover with fun games and a whole lot of bonding. Yes there will be drinks but the only thing we will be driving is a golf ball at the local miniature golf course.
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G4me, sounds like a plan! ;)
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I'm so bummed out. I've thought and thought but I can not figure out a way to meet any of you who would be willing. I'll be in England next week but we're also heading to France and Scotland and the whole trip is just full of activity...
H will be with me, right at my side and tends to hover particularly when vacationing...
I could not figure out a way to sneak away nor explain how it would be I would come to know any of you. I SO wish I could have done that.
What a shame....
Bon
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Are there any fellow LBSs in the mid-atlantic region who'd be interested in getting together for a long luncheon on Saturday, Nov. 26?
I live in MD, close to Baltimore and DC, and would be happy to coordinate a time and place if anyone's interested. If you're in So. NJ, So. PA, No. Va, E WV, MD, or DE, I'm willing to make arrangements for a place we could meet for a long lunch that would be equidistant to whoever can come.
If you're interested, PM me and tell me your town name. I'll take that info and figure out a restaurant for us to gather that would be equal driving for everyone. I'll show up if only one other person can come.
I'm free that Saturday and thought a few of you might be in the same sitch. Would love to get together!
Hope we can pull this off,
TMHP
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Trusting
I am in Columbia and would love to get together for lunch. Let me know the time and place .
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G4M
So far, I've heard from one other person who's a possibility. I'll be in touch!
Look forward to meeting you. Columbia is so close!
TMHP
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I am in Columbia too . . . but Saturday is a no go for me I have to work at 2:00 but may be able to pop in if it is close.
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Good to know Sassyone. I'll try to make it close to Columbia and a bit earlier if possible. Just will depend on how many others come and from where.
At any rate, good to know you're so close by!
TMHP
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I'm in Northern VA, and I would love to get together. Maybe we could get Summer to drive up here too!
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Looks like this is going to happen. I'm excited!
There are now definitely three of us and maybe five.
In order to give me enough time to find a good restaurant for the luncheon and make reservations, I'm setting a deadline of Saturday, November 19th for the "rsvps." Let me know by then if you're going to be joining us.
Can we call this the first meeting of the Mid Atlantic Hero's Spouses (MAHS?) I think I like that better than Mid Atlantic LBSs (MALBS)
Be sure to PM me if you're planning to attend with the location you'll be driving from. I'll be in touch via PM as to the location and time after the 19th.
Can't wait!
TMHP
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It looks like our luncheon is going to happen this Saturday (Nov. 26.) I've chosen a restaurant in Potomac, MD.
PM me if you want the location and time so you can join us. We'll be a small group but it's a start!
Wishing everyone a great holiday!
TMHP
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A last minute reminder to those of you in the mid-Atlantic region who want to meet (north of DC) tomorrow for lunch. There are three of us who'll be there.
PM me if you want to know the time and place.
Enjoy the gorgeous weather!
TMHP
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Enjoy, I have to work, but would love to meet up for the next one.