Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: willitgetbetter on July 21, 2015, 09:31:26 AM
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#1 mid and East US Meetup
Everyone on here soooo funny
Sooooo, with my divorce happening and still no child support for past few months, and mounting legal bills, your organizer here may not be able to come. Sigh.
The friends I asked to attend to share a room with are still on the fence so I have spoken to others and they said they will let me know.
No matter, what I will attempt to drive there so I can meet you all for dinner or something. :-* And I will be grateful for whatever time I do get with each of you. :)
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In the meantime, we should think of an itinerary. Would suggest people look into attractions near by and those at the resort and create a schedule. It's only a month away! Can't believe it. :)
At the resort:
Camelback Lodge has 453 rooms (from single room suites up to 3-bedroom suites), a 125,000 sq ft indoor waterpark (with 7 pools, 13 slides, a FlowRider, adventure river, etc.) a 30,000 sq ft indoor, dry adventure center (with ropes course, mini-golf, laser tag, arcade, etc.), 22,000 sq ft of meeting and event space, multiple restaurants and lounges, a luxury spa and kid’s spa.
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Willit, I am aware of someone who may be interested in attending. She has expressed very much of going to the meetup. Janus2014 has an interest if you are looking for a roommate. Hope you can attend. Looking forward to it!
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I can not stay over for this weekend however - I would like to drive out for dinner on Friday night,
if anyone has a contact for where you will be hanging out please let me know.
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The only thing I know for sure that I want to do is schedule a massage. Other then that, I can go with the flow on any activities.
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Hey. Posting to see if there anyone else interested in going. I know of one female member who is interested in attending but has no roommate.
For anyone still interested:
The Double Queen Suite rooms are about $847 including taxes so it would be $425 per person if you share with one person. Up to 4 people are allowed, but there are only 3 separate beds. For 3 it would be about $282 each for the weekend for room and water park passes. It has 2 Queen beds and 1 Queen sofa.
So let me know if you are interested and I can help coordinate rooming.
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Tentative Schedule just to give idea of the weekend.
Will post final one by August 15th and provide paper copies in person at the introduction dinner.
LBS Meetup Schedule
FRIDAY
12:30 pm Waterpark (pre-check in access)
4pm Check-in
6pm-9pm Trails End Pub and Grille
(Introduction dinner)
SATURDAY
8am-10am Hemisphere's (breakfast)
10am-1pm Group Waterpark outing
1pm-3pm Neptune's (Lunch)
3pm-6pm "Free play"
Options:
--Waterpark
--Camelback Mountain Adventures (mountain coaster, other thrills)
--Serenity Spa appointments
--Arcadia $29.99 ($5.00 arcade card (16 credits); 1 play @ Borealis Lazer Tag & unlimited use of Meh Tah’s Mini-Golf, K-2 Climb, The Ascent Rock Climb & Lazer Frenzy for 1 day) or individual events at around $5 each
--The Crossings Premium Outlet Mall
7pm-8:30pm Barley Creek Brewery (dinner)
9pm-10:30pm Skylanes Bowling
SUNDAY
9am-11am Hemisphere's (breakfast)
12pm Checkout
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Will it, you're awesome. I was just going to walk around with an "I'm Nah" T-shirt and hope that some Asian cowboy with an eyepatch would show up. :D
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Will it, you're awesome. I was just going to walk around with an "I'm Nah" T-shirt and hope that some Asian cowboy with an eyepatch would show up. :D
Hahaha. I can't wait!
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Just put out an inquiry to Janus2014 who expressed interest in the past. I will see if she responds.
Also, I am going to reserve my room and wanted to know if I should book a room close by the others or as afar away as possible?
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Bail, you can't hide, the ladies will find you.
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I always did like a good game of Hide and Seek!
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Best Western Plus Poconos Hotel is available for about $162 for the whole weekend if someone decides last minute to come. Take a look at the photos, it is a very nice hotel.
However, waterpark passes cannot be purchased if you are staying off site. We do have on the agenda so far, dinner off premises and bowling on Saturday night, the 29th, in case someone just wants to drive out for just one night.
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Hi - Thanks for organizing! I've been in the midst of the D filing so not too attentive. I am definitely coming - catching a ride with my Virginia buddy Bail. If anyone is looking for a roommate please let me know, otherwise I will be at a nearby hotel.
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Thank you willit. After all your work you damn well better be showing up. I'll be easy to find in my hat, eyepatch and "Where's the womyn?" tee shirt I'll be wearing.
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Hahahaha. I'm working on it. Waiting for the money from my not yet fully confirmed roommates. I can't possibly miss all this. No waaaaaay.
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NEWS FLASH: There will a male residence for the Poconos! I just made the reservation for the guys room. MeNow, MBIB, looks like we have a place to lay our heads at night! Looking forward to this weekend away. Should be plenty of fun!
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Are you guys going to have pillow fights? :D
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nah, to quote a famous movie " those aren't pillows!" (Can anyone guess the movie?)
Hey, I can bring the Trivia Pursuit for a battle of the minds!
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I can bring my heavy bag and some gloves. But I'll skip the pillow fights. We'll need something to lay our heads upon at night. Or at least I will. :D
Thanks for making the reservation Bail. :)
Planes, Trains, and Automobiles. And as I remember the scene in the movie I'm thinking that we don't want to go there.
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Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! And that is the reason for three beds! Looking forward to the time!
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And that is the reason for three beds!
;D ;D ;D
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Bail, with your wing span, you would be deadly in a pillow fight!
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I'll give everyone else a fair chance!
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With all due respect to willit and her planning, now that we are four weeks from the meet up on the weekend of Aug. 28-29, I wanted to see if ther can be a formalized list of rooms and occupants for the weekend and if there is any openings. I know a couple people who have inquired but are a little leary becaue of the finances.
I have the the male room reserved and it will be MeNow, Brain and myself. I think nah and airmid have a room and Blind, Medusa, Book and 27years are in another. I think willit said something about getting a room, not sure if it was on site of off. Who else has reserved a room and are there any openings for roommates?
Looking forward to the weekend!
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I have stayed out of this because I very much would like to go but was not sure if I would be able to afford it. I think I can swing it and just have to work a little harder. I will drive, so Thunder...if you want to join me it will be a cheaper trip still.
Any chance I might be able to get in on this? I would really enjoy it. Have pillow. Can travel.
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Hi - Thanks for organizing! I've been in the midst of the D filing so not too attentive. I am definitely coming - catching a ride with my Virginia buddy Bail. If anyone is looking for a roommate please let me know, otherwise I will be at a nearby hotel.
Ruby, you should touch base with Janus and see what you can figure out! :)
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Ruby what direction are you coming from? As well as Janus?
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I'll be coming in from western NY if anyone would like a ride part of the way.
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I'm coming from Northern Virginia
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Northeastern NC for me, and heading up I-95 to meet Bail, then Medusa and whoever else we snatch up along the way ;D ;D ;D
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The Bailmore Express will head up north on I-95 with bookwrm, 27years (?), Medusa, Janus2014 and Blindsided. Not sure how much luggage each will have but we should be good.
A travel schedule will have to be made so we can arrive in PA at an early time on Friday.
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Bail, you are seriously going to have to set up a pick-up schedule!
Lots, man, are you sure you want to be in a car for that many hours with las tres Amigas?
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Bail, you are seriously going to have to set up a pick-up schedule!
Lots, man, are you sure you want to be in a car for that many hours with las tres Amigas?
It will make the trip go quicker! And besides that, I will have cotton for my ears!
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With all due respect to willit and her planning, now that we are four weeks from the meet up on the weekend of Aug. 28-29, I wanted to see if ther can be a formalized list of rooms and occupants for the weekend and if there is any openings. I know a couple people who have inquired but are a little leary becaue of the finances.
I have the the male room reserved and it will be MeNow, Brain and myself. I think nah and airmid have a room and Blind, Medusa, Book and 27years are in another. I think willit said something about getting a room, not sure if it was on site of off. Who else has reserved a room and are there any openings for roommates?
Looking forward to the weekend!
Hi everyone. Whoever has a room, inbox me with the names of your roomies, and whether you have any availabilites for others and I will create a list.
The 1 bedroom can hold up to 4 people. But there are only 3 separate beds: 2 queen beds and a queen sleeper sofa. It's $845 or so, so for 3 people, it would be $282 each. Janus and Ruby could room so if one other person, then that would be 3.
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Bail, you are seriously going to have to set up a pick-up schedule!
Lots, man, are you sure you want to be in a car for that many hours with las tres Amigas?
It will make the trip go quicker! And besides that, I will have cotton for my ears!
Book! One of us has to make sure we are sitting behind Bail so we can steal the cotton from his ears! ;)
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Thank you! I also have a good air mattress that I can bring. It is weirdly comfortable. It is a queen size. Depending upon floor space, it could provide more sleep space.
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What is the final headcount for the weekend?
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Headcount I have is 11 for the full weekend:
Willit
27 Years
Airmid
Nah
Medusa
Blindsided
Janus
Bookworm
Bailmor
MeNow
MBIB
Or 12:
Ruby? ;)
And OP coming just for dinner one night.
Also, I am going to start making reservations for dinner and bowling so is there anyone who doesn't think they will make it to dinner by 6pm on Friday night?? Hoping most with a long drive will be taking the whole day off or leaving early. Thanks!
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"Final" Itinerary
LBS Meetup Schedule
FRIDAY
12:30 pm Waterpark (pre-check in access allowed)
4pm Check-in
5pm "Happy" Hour and Welcome at
Trails End Pub and Grill
(on site)
6pm-9pm Trails End Pub and Grille
(Introduction dinner)
SATURDAY
8am-10am Hemisphere's (breakfast)
10am-1pm Group Indoor/Outdoor
Waterpark fun
1pm-3pm Neptune's (Lunch)
3pm-6pm "Free play"
Options:
--Continued fun at waterpark
--Camelback Mountain Adventures (mountain coaster, other thrills)
--Serenity Spa appointments
--Arcadia $29.99 ($5.00 arcade card (16 credits); 1 play @ Borealis Lazer Tag & unlimited use of Meh Tah’s Mini-Golf, K-2 Climb, The Ascent Rock Climb & Lazer Frenzy for 1 day) or individual events at around $5 each
--The Crossings Premium Outlet Mall
6:30-8:30pm Barley Creek Brewery (dinner)
9pm-11pm Skylanes Bowling (2 games
@$5.50 per game)
SUNDAY
9am-11am Hemisphere's (breakfast)
12pm Checkout
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The Bailmore Express will head up north on I-95 with bookwrm, 27years (?), Medusa, Janus2014 and Blindsided. Not sure how much luggage each will have but we should be good.
A travel schedule will have to be made so we can arrive in PA at an early time on Friday.
I'll be heading east on I-80, about a 6 hr. drive so plan on trying to get an early start. Doesn't look like I'll be passing anyone but if so let me know, I'll be glad to pick up. Looking forward to the weekend!
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Sounds wonderful! Enjoy!
hugs Stayed
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Sounds wonderful! Enjoy!
hugs Stayed
Thanks, Stayed. Wish you could join us.
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Next time! :)
Hugs Stayed
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After bowling I want to do this...
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Hi All,
I am counting down seconds to our meet up. I did request that our rooms (those of you that I know names IRL) be near each other if possible.
Blind
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Hi All,
I am counting down seconds to our meet up. I did request that our rooms (those of you that I know names IRL) be near each other if possible.
Blind
Nice. I will try to remember to make a sign in sheet that we can put our room numbers and phone numbers on. And share with everyone by group MMS along with any other updates through our weekend.
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I'm rooming with MeNow so I know everyone will have my room number and phone number memorized. ;D
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Hahahaha. Or at least Mjolnir's. I heard he had to get his own room.
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I will be offering pole dancing lessons -
Bring you own Burkas
(https://onetrackmindstheshow.files.wordpress.com/2012/07/poledance110922supplied257.jpg)
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I really could use a meet up in my life. I really wish I could join. Sounds like you will all be having a lot of fun. I'm knee deep in my divorce garbage now and my lawyer ripped through $3500 doing "discovery" so now I have to charge another $1000 on my credit card to continue the battle. My debt is spiraling out of control, so unfortunately I knew I couldn't commit to the meet up.
Please consider a MD or DE beach meet up for the next one. I will attend no matter what, even if only for a day, if it's closer to home.
Thanks everyone
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I really could use a meet up in my life. I really wish I could join. Sounds like you will all be having a lot of fun. I'm knee deep in my divorce garbage now and my lawyer ripped through $3500 doing "discovery" so now I have to charge another $1000 on my credit card to continue the battle. My debt is spiraling out of control, so unfortunately I knew I couldn't commit to the meet up.
Please consider a MD or DE beach meet up for the next one. I will attend no matter what, even if only for a day, if it's closer to home.
Thanks everyone
You may have seen my earlier posts about the price. But in case you didn't it would be about $275 per person for 3 people in a 1 bedroom suite. Ruby and Janus are planning to come last I heard so if you could swing $275, PM them. As there may not be another meetup for awhile due to finances for everyone all around. Just wanted to toss that out there.
Thanks for updating us.
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Ok, we are inside a week! The excitement continues to mount! I wanted to know what the dress for the weekend will be? (No smart a$$ comments, Me, nah, Air!) I am wondering if we need any dressy clothes or if it will be casual beachy attire. Any thoughts will help with packing.
And for the Bailmor Express, travelers will be limited to one bag and one carry-on. Anything additional will be an extra charge! ;)
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I'm going to dress up a bit for the first drink and dinner gathering. But since Saturday is bowling, going to be going casual that night.
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I just want to say......I am jealous but yet very happy for all of you!!!
So wish I could meet you all!
enjoy!
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I just want to say......I am jealous but yet very happy for all of you!!!
So wish I could meet you all!
enjoy!
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Same here!! Look out for pics on the Fellowship. Maybe we can play a game of Guess Who!
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Hey all, looking at the long term weather forecast for next weekend, it looks like for Friday and Saturday it will be in the mid to upper 70's during the day and low to mid 50's overnight. Little chance of rain, as of now. Hope this helps in planning the packing!
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This certainly seems like fun. Wish I had happened on it sooner. I'm in MD if anyone ever wants to grab lunch or something.
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RT- I'm pretty sure some people are just coming for the day if you can make it.
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RT, what part of MD are you in? There are quite a few of us in MD or VA.
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I'm just outside of DC in PG County.
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I am wondering if we need any dressy clothes or if it will be casual beachy attire. Any thoughts will help with packing.
I am going casual - this is a vacation for me - I dress up enough when I have to go to work.
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My casual is usually shorts and race T-shirts. We're pretty laid back out here in the sticks. Quite often the t-shirts are optional. ;D
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Finishing my morning cup of coffe then getting ready for a ROAD TRIP ;D ;D ;D
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Look out, PA, Book's driving and Medusa is riding shot gun!
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Haha... Menow is trusting me with my driving skills. He must be very brave.
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Bar's packed, will travel. Beer and several liquors in toe. Happy Hour will be enjoyable! Looking forward to it!
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Getting ready to load brownies, muffins, and cookies into the car. My version of Happy Hour. Have to work for a couple of hours this morning then will be on my way.
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Hope you all have an awesome weekend!
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At McDs awaiting Book...
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Well here's a first. I think I'm the first one here. Anybody? Anybody?
Where is the bail express?
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Oh no... 1st at the bar. Bail where are you!!
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Book & Medusa one hour out. We took a detour through Gettysburg.
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Four shots and seven beers ago... Nah was still standing. ;)
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I'm here. Call me, Nah. I inboxed you my number. I'm in Neptune.
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I wish all of you a wonderful time together. The times I have met other LBSers have been really important in my path towards healing. There really is nothing like it in the world that to meet face to face the people that you have written to and read one another's stories.
I found it hard not to call each person by their HS name....for I will forever associate that name with the person.
This will be a time of real learning, intense but I think you will all come away feeling better.
I shall be keeping you in my prayers for a wonderful and healing time spent with one another.
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No doubt, have a great time! It's one of those times I wish the forum wasn't anonymous, so we could see some pictures. :)
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I agree Ready but hopefully we will see some pics on FB. : )
Hope everyone is having a good time.
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I can attest they are having a great time,
Great meeting everyone last night.
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Sadly, I am new to the community. Bomb drop June 15. I just saw this. I am jealous, be use I would love to spend some in person time with others going through this. I hope their will be another one soon. I hope you guys have a great time!
There seems to be some other online connection (FB or some reference to "fellowship"). I would really like to engage more and participate to try to get through this. Please let me know if there are other good ways to plug in.
My story is (very briefly) that after almost 21 years of very happy marriage (anniversary was last Thursday), my wife said she wanted divorce completely out of the blue. She has moved out and we are legally separated. She says she does not want to reconcile, but she leaves open the possibility that she may change her mind. She recognizes that she is in crisis, though sometimes she seems to object to,the term MLC. We can only talk in counseling, which we have once every two weeks or so. At least she has agreed to counseling....
Thanks for your support.
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Welcome HopeHusband! I am sorry you are going through this but glad you found us. I have not looked at the rest of the forum yet today, but hopefully you have posted your story to a thread of your own. This is the best way to get advice and input. If you need a mentor private message Old Pilot and he will help you out. He can also send you a link to the Facebook fellowship page.
I am at this meetup with 10 other awesome folks, and it has been an amazing time. It is my first meetup, and hopefully not the last.
Again, welcome to the forum!
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Thanks. I have not done those things, but I will.
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Saw some pix on FB. Looks like everyone had a great time! So aweome that so many could get together! So happy for you all!
HopeHusband - so sorry for everything you are going through. You won't find anyone who understands what you are going through (esp. the degree of pain & confusion) unless they are a Left Behind Spouse (LBS). You will find lots of compassion & understanding here & on facebook.
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Thanks all! It is so great to have some folks who understand. I am starting a thread tonight. Also note that I shortened my name to make it easier.
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Thanks again to everyone who came. All of our personalities meshed and we H's a great time. Went by too fast so next time a Thursday to Sunday so we can have two full days.
So....everyone, next stop....Las Vegas, 2016? 8)
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Thanks again to everyone who came. All of our personalities meshed and we H's a great time. Went by too fast so next time a Thursday to Sunday so we can have two full days.
So....everyone, next stop....Las Vegas, 2016? 8)
Sin City? Willit, Whattsa maddah wit you?
This is a STANDING forum, we are a bunch of sad LBSers sitting home waiting for our spouses. Who would go to such a thing?
ME ME ME.... Sign me up baby!!
And for those of you that are just reading along, if Willit organizes it, it is a guaranteed good time. :D
Four days? My gift bag might end up being a little MeNah 9 months later. ;D ;D ;D
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Thanks again to everyone who came. All of our personalities meshed and we H's a great time. Went by too fast so next time a Thursday to Sunday so we can have two full days.
So....everyone, next stop....Las Vegas, 2016? 8)
Sin City? Willit, Whattsa maddah wit you?
This is a STANDING forum, we are a bunch of sad LBSers sitting home waiting for our spouses. Who would go to such a thing?
ME ME ME.... Sign me up baby!!
And for those of you that are just reading along, if Willit organizes it, it is a guaranteed good time. :D
Four days? My gift bag might end up being a little MeNah 9 months later. ;D ;D ;D
Thank you for the compliment. And OMG, your gift bag....you really are too funny!!!