Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses
Archives => Archived Topics => Topic started by: Reallytrying on September 17, 2016, 06:28:41 AM
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Years ago I would have said that I don't believe in psychics, astrology, signs or any of that stuff. Now I don't know what I believe. I've definitely seen signs that I felt came at exactly a moment when I needed the motivation.
We also discuss meanings of certain animals that cross our paths or come into our dreams. In the early morning hours of September 11 (anniversary of my friend's death) I had a dream where a random number was very prominent. When HP looked it up it said something like big, positive changes were imminent and something about loving ascended masters. That really moved me.
I am really curious about this type of thing and think I would like to get a reading but I am also more than a bit freaked out by all of this.
I was wondering what other people's experiences had been with this stuff.
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I have always believed in the afterlife.
I believe that all children and animals are psychic but as we get older and more judgemental we lose our abilities to communicate on the same vibration as the spirit world.
I believe love never dies and it is carried in our soul which leaves our physical bodies when we die.
I believe we enter this world through a "tunnel" into the light and we exit it the same way.
I think if we are negative then we create a shield around us that even our nearest and dearest on earth cannot get through, but if we are positive in our thoughts and feelings, then we open ourselves up like a funnel and this opens up our intuition and allows our guides, loved one's in spirit and God or the Great spirit to help us.
Through this journey I know I am being helped, I have had some amazing things happen to me and even today, I just put on my thread, that I got help when I asked for it.
But I got this help when I started to open myself up to 'hear'
I have been to see mediums or psychics but all I would say is be careful because there are a lot of charlatans out there.
Also in my experience, just like there are people in life you click with, this is also true with psychics. If you don't like the person, or there is a bad energy then they wont be able to connect as well as if there is a good energy and you like the person.
So go by recommendation, another place to start is to look for a spiritualist church or meeting.
Don't be freaked out, I believe its a natural part of us, it has been around long before manmade
religion xx
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ah yes psychics
here is a true story
a "psychic" who is a very nice person was throwing pennies on the ground outside her "studio" early one morning before anyone was on the street. I asked her what she was doing and she replied very sheepishly, I putting pennies on the ground so that when people see them they will think "find a penny pick it up and all day long you will have good luck" then they will look up and see our psychic studio and think wow this is "meant to be" and come in for a session, I asked her if it works and she said with a smile... "everytime"
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ah yes psychics
here is a true story
a "psychic" who is a very nice person was throwing pennies on the ground outside her "studio" early one morning before anyone was on the street. I asked her what she was doing and she replied very sheepishly, I putting pennies on the ground so that when people see them they will think "find a penny pick it up and all day long you will have good luck" then they will look up and see our psychic studio and think wow this is "meant to be" and come in for a session, I asked her if it works and she said with a smile... "everytime"
Lol. I don't doubt this hence my skepticism. However I can't help but believe that there are people with true gifts. I think the difficulty is how do you weed those out from the scammers.
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I have had experiences with 2. Both were very interesting. I was very skeptical and I know there are "fakes" out there.
The first one was through a friend of mine who told me to contact this woman, just for fun. She was in another state. She pulled up information that was accurate, but so obscure no one would be able to pin point it. She mentioned something from my past that was so specific - a happy memory, but she saw a vision of a little boy and little girl running through grape vines, playing hide and seek. She described the scene and it was dead on. I was about 4 and blonde and my cousin was 5 and a red-head. We played in my grandfather's vineyard when we would go and visit. Our favorite game was hide and seek. The only people who would know about that were my cousin and I, my grandmother, my aunt and uncle and my parents. Our siblings were too young to know this and my grandfather had passed away. There were a couple of other things she said as well that rang true.
Recently, I met a woman who was a medium. She does readings from time to time for a fee, but most of the time she feels it is a gift she has and does not make her living at it. I had her do a reading. Again, it was pretty mind boggling. She told me very specific things that were not like "do you know someone with a name that starts with the letter B type of things". It was quite surreal. I have had coffee with her as friends and we don't bring up any more readings, etc. Once in awhile she will mention something. I don't go to her for regular readings, etc or live my life according to a reading. If nothing else she has helped me feel a bit more spiritual and open to the possibility of signs. She is in fact very spiritual and believes in religion.
I guess I would just be careful with the ones that are "vague" or are charging at every turn. The medium I spoke to the last time, said most true "mediums, etc" do not do it for the sake of making money - they use the gift as a gift, and not out to "throw pennies on the ground' and lure people in.
For me, it gave me the ability to sometimes look at things in a way that even in my "dark" moments I know things will be okay - those little signs. The ones that come at the exact moment you need them.
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There was Spiritualism in several forms (traditional from my grandmother, Native American beliefs from my grandfather) in my family, but during my own crisis I was atheist and disavowed all of it. I'm actually really glad that happened because it allowed me to figure out what *I* really believe and come out of my crisis with that clarity as my foundation for this experience with my xH. My relationship with God all of the synchronicity and interaction with the wonders of this world and the next have definitely been the high point of MLC and no doubt will be for the rest of my life!
I agree there are many charlatans out there so be very careful if you have a curiosity and want to get a reading or session from anyone. I am quicker to encourage anyone to look within and build their own intuition and relationship with the Holy Spirit. You'll be surprised at little you'll need the influence of others to see your destiny. :)
As far as others having visions for me within this, my former stepmother was one of the first people I reached out to. She's a minister in a prophetic church, and she had a ton of insight that came true. She also had a ton that didn't. I can't say what did came just from educated guesses and knowing both my xH and myself, because she went deeper than what she would have had access to. But she didn't view it as clairvoyance - I learned that the lexicon of this stuff is important with dealing with some churches! There may be very little difference between what is defined as prophecy/worship and clairvoyance/witchcraft to you, but to them, those words are a big deal.
The more interesting insight came from a casual online friend of mine. We had only known each other through our online journals and for many years lost touch. I knew nothing of her spiritual background, as it was just 80s music we'd had in common! But we reconnected in 2012 and I learned this demure Canadian suburban mom of two actually practiced Santeria. She FB'ed me out of the blue to let me know I'd been "Hoodoo'ed" and told me to search my property for a bottle spell. I thought that was ridiculous. Even in xH's silliest state, he would have never done anything like that. She told me some other things to look for, and I did find some of them in the house. I was annoyed by it, but ironically studying a bit of Hoodoo gave me some clarity and since it ties in a lot with Spiritualism and my Native beliefs, I adopted some of the practices over the years. In 2015, I took my dogs out for a little walk in the backyard after a big rain, and something was sticking up out of the dirt on my little hill. My old dog and I both spotted it and went to investigate. You betcha, it was a bottle with some odd contents. They matched up with what a "love" spell would contain (you put it in the object of your affection's property!). Would have had to have been there from 2010 or 2011 forward, as the ground had been undisturbed except by moles! I think OW told my xH to put it there when he still lived here. I destroyed that thing in an appropriate way, whether it was a "real" thing or not. I've had contact from my vanisher regularly since.
Not saying I believe that's why he's like this! I think it's another synchronicity and shows just how desperate these people are. My xH never would have done something like that in his right mind. My Canadian friend got to have her "I told you so" and loved that she was right (she's a scientist by trade and wants to test her beliefs against data!).
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I have and I recommend it. In fact, My therapist just encouraged me to go to one again.
I actually believe most people are psychic to some degree, and telepathic as well. Whether we admit this or "use" this (or even know how to) I'm not sure.
There are some fascinating theories that the universe is a holograph. This is not just some esoteric idea, it has even been embraced by physicists. In a holograph, all the parts are contained in every other part. We are literally all one.
My mom is the least "speculative" person you will ever meet. In college she was asked to keep a dream journal. She said that something very odd happened, and before long specific details of her dream would come true. She is in no way a "believer" -- but the experience made a lasting impression on her.
Sometimes I think when we take a certain view of life, we also allow things to happen to us -- as they do in dreams -- and things fall into place.
I'm glad you posted this as it's motivating me to call the psychic. Thank you
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R2T what a fabulous story you told and what an example of synchronicity.
I have blabbed on about synchronicity on my thread since I can across Notgivingupon you and Eva's threads at the beginning of the year (they both meditated, prayed and practised the art of attraction on Skype together and both their H's came back within weeks of each other)/
It reawakened my buried beliefs in the power of positive thought and in true synchronistic fashion Notgivinguponyou popped up on HS for an update on her situation for the first time in a couple of years shortly after and it turns out her OW was a BP as is mine and even more nuts than my one!
My relationship with God all of the synchronicity and interaction with the wonders of this world and the next have definitely been the high point of MLC and no doubt will be for the rest of my life!
And me too......,
Infact I cannot believe what has happened since I opened myself up to the power of the universe and after buying the book mentioned on Notgivinguponyou's thread, The God Academy.
I truly feel I am being helped by a higher power and am on a pathway and I know intuitively, H and I's paths will cross again when the time is right. There is so many signs and examples of synchronicity that's happened since. I also believe I channel H, there were many times when we were together that I would know he was down or something wasn't right with him and we also would pick up the phone to phone each other at exactly the same time and often couldn't get through to each other because we were phoning each other at the same time!
And I totally believe in building your own tuition and relationship with the universe and spirit, which is why I suggested the book I put on this thread, as that's what its about, developing your own 6th sense.
One thing I didn't mention, in my previous post, (though I put it on my thread at the time) is I went to see a medium in January that I have been too about 6-7 years ago. She was amazingly accurate, she asked me if my H had left me and when I said yes, she then went on to say it really felt as if he was having something like a male menopause, said his thoughts were all over the place, he was with someone who wasn't very nice and said he has absolutely no feelings for her, its like he is treating her as a prostitute, said my Dad was saying, don't close the door on him, this is not H (my dad loved H as a son).
She said she didn't think there would be a divorce, but did ask me at the time how long am I prepared to wait for him to come back?
As divorce is still going on, we will know the accuracy of this prediction quite soon, but I have also said way back in March that I think it will go to the wire and H will stop it and come home, so we'll see.
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Wow Ready - that's an interesting story. It was actually a casual Facebook friend of mine who reached out to me after BD to say she felt compelled to Tell me that there was so much love that h had for me. I was amazed by some of wgstvshe said because she did not know the details of my life. That was when I first became intrigued. I am now very interested but have no way of knowing who is genuine vs who is not.
MD - I wonder if the lady you met recently would speak with me?
Thanks for the resoonses and not making me feel like a weirdo for evenbeinh interested.
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I actually leave my pennies on the ground in case someone will find them and think they are good luck.
I think there are charlatans out there for sure but I do believe some people have psychic powers and would be interested in having a reading done. Just haven't found anyone I have heard is particularly credible.
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I saw a phychic many years ago with some friends of mine, just for fun.
Nothing she said, or predicted, ever came true for any of us (7 people)...so no I don't believe in them.
Having said that, my family were Hungarian Gypsy's so I do I believe some people have an uncanny way of sensing things others don't.
Not to predict the future, no one can do that, but maybe more connecting on a deeper level with the person you are talking to.
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I do believe there are some who have a gift but, as other have said, those who truly have it are the ones who don't charge for their services.
I did have one interesting experience shortly after my mom died. I was staying with a friend and we went to her meditation group. The woman who was leading it (she who coined my "That was some firetrucked up sh!te" tag line) came into the room, looked at my friend and me, and asked if someone had just died for one of us. She was getting very clear messages from mom. I honestly never believed that people could receive messages from the dead, but when she said Mom was with some one whose name was something like Cyr, I freaked out a bit as her brother's name is Cyril. Then she said Mom was dancing in high heels, which also freaked me out since Mom had surgery about 6 months before she died to rebuilt her spine, and her goals were to wear heels, again, and dance. There is no way that woman could have known that.
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Thanks to thread post I decided to see a psychic. It gave me a lot to think about.
This wasn't a fortune teller or mind reader. She didn't "guess" my problems and asked for background.
One thing that really startled me was that she told me right away that something was physically wrong with MLCer's brain. She told me that "something happened, almost overnight ... It was like his brain was deprived of oxygen." She told me she wanted to say it was something like schizophrenia. She said it was congenital.
I'm not sure if this information helps anyone here, and it goes without saying that she hasn't met or examined him. I wasn't expecting this, though, as every therapist we have met seems to just ignore me when I insist that he changed very radically and quickly.
Anyhow ... I thought I would share!
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I think there are so many therapists who have not really studied MLC and experienced the BD.
We may have seen early issues, but the "changing overnight" is something only anyone who has experienced as a LBS can explain.
Interesting that the psychic picked up on this.
The medium I spoke to told me about the cottage and an affair. Also that there was an issue arising regarding our house. At the time H was having realtors come in because he was pushing for me to sell the house. Hard to explain away when I had never met the woman.
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I did a girl's day way back in the day.
I was happy. I had a great life. I met with this kind lady who told me my life was basically going to fall apart. My friends all got readings wit wonderful things to look forward to. Me, not so much. She forsaw my H leaving me. She saw huge financial trouble. She told me that my husband would go on a tear for women, drugs, alcohol. She saw lots of things. Everything she told me came true.
I just sat there stunned. I couldn't even stay to enjoy the lunch us girls had arranged. I went home. I talked to my H about all the things he said. She thought she was a crackpot. He assured me non stop that it was all nonsense. I shook it off and we lift the next 4 years every so often giggling about it. Well everything she said came true. She talked of my husband having a dark side emerge that would want him to run, to live a "Penthouse" lifestyle that is not normal.
I have seen a psychic with my friends quite a bit since my spouse left. (I have friends that are psychic junkies so I go when it is a girls day. It can be quite the giggle afterwards comparing readings). My readings are always dominated by him and never show hope really. It doesn't matter who is doing the reading. They talk of him being mentally ill, him having a very dark side. How he got to this point - childhood wounds, fear, pain... They have foretold the drugs, they even have described the lastest OW and that he was looking to her to save him. That phrase bothered me quite a bit. That was the first thing he said to the child that confronted him about the latest OW who was hidden. He said " she is saving me".
So I believe. I also was told by the first one that she sees things but we can alter our course/our direction. We can take what she says, process it and maybe adjust. It is not definate. It is just the path we are heading on that particular moment.
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I spoke to someone today who my friends and used and liked. I did not feel good about it, interestingly. At first it felt way too general and then it almost felt combative where she actually told me that I was a manipulative person - which most definitely doesn't ring true.
She said that she saw I needed to let go and have more fun, unleash my creative side. She said that over and over.
She mentioned my getting ready to buy a car which is most certainly not true since I have only recently purchased a car. She then asked if I worked for myself because she saw that a financial venture was potentially lucrative. I do not work for myself and don't have any plans to since I do truly love my job.
She said she saw success and joy and a happy marriage in my future. She also said if there was competition I should keep at it because I would be victorious. She then asked me if I was close to my mom and said I should follow her advice in relationships because she knows me best. She said something after about not seeing H and me reconciling. She said that there was no love between us and if we reconcile it would be unhappy. Then she asked me what my mom said about that. When I told her that my mom feels he wants to come home she said that was wishful thinking (contradicting the earlier statement that I should follow my mom's cousel on this). She actually said she saw divorce but then a few minutes later said that she saw my desires in love coming true if I stay focused on my goals and didn't give up. WTF?
She told me I had very bad self esteem and self-confidence.
She also told me she saw a baby around me and that it was a happy thing. Then she told me that H was trying to get OW pregnant - that was the baby. WTF? No way that would be a happy thing for me. Also, H had a vasectomy so he can't be trying to get her pregnant - especially since I know he has not had the procedure reversed. She then said that OW was very materialistic and had H's head.
Then she ended by saying it was a positive reading where she sees me being showered with love and living a happy life.
Truthfully, I regret doing it because now I'm obsessing over the idea that he could be trying to get her pregnant. Not helpful!
Also, other than saying H had OW she never said anything else that felt like she was talking about me. Nothing that felt like "how could she have known that". In some ways the OW felt like an easy guess to me. Who knows......
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RT - that does not sound like someone who really had a "good read" on you. I don't know that I would put too much weight in what her reading was. You had way too many "red flags".
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Reallytrying, if you take the baby and your husband out of it, it was a quite positive future-oriented reading. (Success, love, happiness, creative endeavors, financial reward ...) Maybe things will unfold in a way where all of this will end up being a beautiful sign of all the good that is about to unfold in your life.
Don't let it get you too down. 💛
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Also, other than saying H had OW she never said anything else that felt like she was talking about me. Nothing that felt like "how could she have known that". In some ways the OW felt like an easy guess to me. Who knows......
My xH and I attended a spiritualist church when we were first married, and there was a lot of this kind of vibe of "easy guessing" when it came to other members "seeing" things around us. They always used to predict we'd be having children and would focus a lot on that, but that was just a safe guess for most newly married 20-somethings. Neither of us wanted kids and we never conceived, so there you go. I'm sorry it wasn't a more productive experience for you, but it's VERY good that you knew it didn't feel right, and your intuition is the one that counts most. :)