Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses

Midlife Crisis => Our Community => Topic started by: megogirl on February 14, 2019, 09:27:53 AM

Title: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: megogirl on February 14, 2019, 09:27:53 AM
Note to HS:

Can someone re-post that poem written by a former MLC'er?  It went something like, "I wanted him to get away from me, etc. - TIME - I wish he were here next to me, etc."

I forget where it came from and who wrote it, but I think it would be enormously helpful for MM to see.....plus I want to see it again, too!

Sorry for going off of my thread.  I don't know how to find it.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: BrenM on February 14, 2019, 11:01:03 AM
Sorry MG I am not familiar with this one.  Have you messaged Old Pilot?  He would know for sure.

Hope all is well xx
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: FromAbroad on February 14, 2019, 11:02:28 AM
Search for "him to hold my hand"

Also use the quotation marks to search for the exact phrase.
It will pop-up under numerous topics.

Not quite a poem, but it does give you hope reading it. It also never left my mind

cheers
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: FromAbroad on February 14, 2019, 11:04:29 AM
Sorry MG I am not familiar with this one.  Have you messaged Old Pilot?  He would know for sure.

Hope all is well xx

Haha that's strange since your reply was the first one to hit the search results quoting the original poster Busy_Bee
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: BrenM on February 14, 2019, 11:07:42 AM
Really?  Haha my memory is very foggy at times....as most LBS’s.  I do love and follow Busy Bee’s posts....sounds like I need to search it myself 😳
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: BrenM on February 14, 2019, 11:18:40 AM
FromAbroad....I can’t find it lol...searching as you said...i will try again later on a PC.   You have me intrigued.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: FromAbroad on February 14, 2019, 11:29:46 AM
What if I tell you that I felt NOTHING for my husband?
I wanted him to disappear
I wanted him to leave me alone
I wanted him to just go away and don't bother me
I didn't love him anymore and I was SURE i never will

Time.....

After 5 year
I'd give everything just for him to hold my hand
I'd give anything for him just to be with me
I'd give anything to get his attention

When the FOG was gone I knew he is the only one i want to spend my life with
Difficult to explain MLC, as you can't comprehend that sudden " unlove" , sudden personality change. There is no such thing as ILVYBIMNILWY nonsense.

For some MLCers their other life will work well, so they won't come back. Others will regret but still won't come back
But there are others who would like to come back, but LBS are already gone...

That is why you need to let her go first completely. Find yourself.
As you can't replace her,  she won't be able to replace you as well. She will try her best. Most probably she will fail.
Many ifss and buts ...

I guess TIME will fix all those MLCers, will you wait?
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: BrenM on February 14, 2019, 11:34:23 AM
Oh yes...I do know this one so well!  Thankyou very much!
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: strawberry on February 14, 2019, 11:40:04 AM
I’m not sure it’s the best idea to show this to your husband.  In fact I’m positive it will hurt more than help your cause.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: megogirl on February 14, 2019, 11:45:56 AM
Thank you so much for posting that!

No it's not a poem, but I just didn't know what else to call it (thoughts?)

Well whatever it is, I think it puts MLC into its simplest form.  And it never left my brain.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: BrenM on February 14, 2019, 12:21:28 PM
I’m not sure it’s the best idea to show this to your husband.  In fact I’m positive it will hurt more than help your cause.

Strawberry it is not for Mego’s husband but for another LBS poster on HS.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: strawberry on February 14, 2019, 12:24:14 PM
Well that’s good.  I thought she was referring to Mr. Mego.
Title: Re: PLEASE HELP!
Post by: megogirl on February 14, 2019, 01:05:18 PM
Oh hell no! LOL

Just trying to help a fellow poster......