Midlife Crisis: Support for Left Behind Spouses

Midlife Crisis => Our Community => Topic started by: OldPilot on July 29, 2010, 09:22:17 AM

Title: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on July 29, 2010, 09:22:17 AM
Some of us have been talking to each other on the alt. (Facebook)
I was thinking that maybe we could have a thread and if anyone else is interested we can connect this way.

So instead of me calling out those that are my friends there.
If you could post here instead maybe we could get a group of us together, at least electronically.

Anyone else that is interested can post here and we will go from there.

I will say that RCR and HB are some of my friends.   :) :) :)

Maybe RCR could start a page that we could all become fans of.
RCR hint. hint!

Edit -

I am reposting this here as I believe that the terms may have changed from previous periods of time.
If you are going to make a fake name it might be better to use a name that sounds real.

From FB

What names are allowed on Facebook?
Personal Accounts
Facebook is a community where people use their real identities. We require everyone to provide their real names, so you always know who you're connecting with. This helps keep our community safe.
Names can’t include:

    Symbols, numbers, unusual capitalization, repeating characters or punctuation
    Characters from multiple languages
    Titles of any kind (ex: professional, religious, etc)
    Words, phrases, or nicknames in place of a middle name
    Offensive or suggestive content of any kind

Other things to keep in mind:

    The name you use should be your real name as it would be listed on your credit card, student ID, etc.
    Nicknames can be used as a first or middle name if they're a variation of your real first or last name (like Bob instead of Robert)
    You can also list another name on your account (ex: maiden name, nickname, or professional name), by adding an alternate name to your timeline
    Only one person's name should be listed on the account – timelines are for individual use only
    Pretending to be anything or anyone is not allowed
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ForeverHopefulOne on July 29, 2010, 09:53:48 AM
I was thinking that maybe we could have a thread and if anyone else is interested we can connect this way.

So instead of me calling out those that are my friends there.
If you could post here instead maybe we could get a group of us together, at least electronically.

Not sure I understood this, OP.  Connect via FB, or the thread.  I'm sorry, I don't think my brain is working today.

xoxo
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on July 29, 2010, 10:10:32 AM
Well, you are already my friend(on the alt), so I am just asking you to confirms that and see who else would like to join our club.
This is like advertising.   :) :) :)
For a free club.   LOL.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Voyager on July 29, 2010, 10:28:33 AM
OP
Not very techie with this stuff, would it be confidential to our FB site? Thought of OW reading...........
xx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ForeverHopefulOne on July 29, 2010, 10:30:49 AM
Some of us on the alt use our website names; mine is xxxxxxxxx  and make the settings PRIVATE so that only FRIENDS can see your pics and profile.  It's nice to see pics of the people here.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on July 29, 2010, 11:08:32 AM
I'm there. xxxxxxxxxxx. Maybe I should change that..... 8)

If my H finds my 'fake' alter ego account. he will surely think I am cheating what with all the good looking men as my friends!!! :o
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Voyager on July 29, 2010, 11:18:47 AM
I'd love to but you need to talk me through it, do i use my existing FB account or create a new one??
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: trusting on July 29, 2010, 11:22:16 AM
Voyager, that would be up to you, how much privacy you want.  If you look up the names given above you will start to find others as well. 

I chose to start one under my name from another boards months ago - so few of my RL friends know what is going on I didn't want to have any "crossing" of my both RL and my board life.  So i have my "real " FB account and my "secret" one.  Sometimes it makes me feel like a sneaky MLCer.  Only one of my RL friends knows it exists. :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: trusting on July 29, 2010, 11:30:05 AM
Sounds good!  Since you need a separate email account for a new FB (I think) it would keep all of the FB alerts under wraps as well.  My H doesn't know about my "secret" email account either (oooh, sneaky! ;D)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Mermaid on July 29, 2010, 12:09:42 PM
It wouldn't let me sign up as Mermaid, and said the automatic system wouldn't accept this as a real name. What do I do?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on July 29, 2010, 12:17:56 PM
Try variations. That is why my first name is Db and last is xxxxxxxx. (my name from another board)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Baxter on July 29, 2010, 01:05:56 PM
I'm on there  as xxxxxxxxxxxx...my other pooch...xxxx..can our pups have a play date????  It took me MANY attempts and kept blocking me out...but I did finally get thru. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on July 29, 2010, 01:44:40 PM
FYI....Here is a helpful video on setting your privacy on FB. The first minute and a half is an ad.

 Click here. (http://www.tvkim.com/watch/51/kim-on-komand-set-up-facebook-to-keep-your-privacy)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Courageous wife on July 29, 2010, 04:13:06 PM
Better late than never right?  I am on the alt too....it looks like a few of you have found me already!!!  Glad to see you there!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on July 30, 2010, 10:05:29 AM
Well our group is up to 16 people.
I think a few of you had eye openers, that we are all REAL PEOPLE. LOL!
Anyone else that wants to join, just post here. We won't bite, I promise.
Just trying to have some fun.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Writingmom on July 30, 2010, 07:26:47 PM
Not sure I'm following all of this either but am definitely interested!  I'm on FB, but not under this username, just my real self!  I'm ok with sharing that with some/most of you, but it sounds like that's not what you're saying.  It's too late in the day for my brain to understand this!  I was just searching midlife on FB tonight...not much there. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Buggy31 on July 30, 2010, 07:51:30 PM
Count me in!  I am on FB but not under my username either.  I am with WM too in that I don't have the brain power right now to figure out what to do.  Do I search the usernames of the posters on this thread? 
Buggy
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on July 30, 2010, 10:20:59 PM
I'm on FB, but not under this username, just my real self! 
FWIW I use my real name and ID on FB, my friends and relatives have not said one word about all the strange names that I have as FB friends. Except one of my first cousins put "I like" next to my friendship with HB. There is only one person that I care about what she thinks and I am not friends with her yet.,,, Sigh, maybe someday!  Thats what we continue to work on rebuilding our friendship.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: MarkedandHealed on July 31, 2010, 04:29:40 AM
WM - it's simple, most of us have two FB accounts, one with our real names for our "real" world and one for the MLC stuff, under our user names. It requires that you have two email addresses, which is easy with free email accounts such as yahoo mail or gmail.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Still on July 31, 2010, 04:40:17 AM
I use my real name. I have honestly never worried about my H looking at my information. Even if he does, I only posts my true thoughts. I would tell him to his face if he had any desire to listen.  :-\
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Writingmom on July 31, 2010, 05:09:58 PM
Ok then, do those of you with two accounts mind being friended by the "real" me?  I don't mind user-named friends, but don't really need/want 2 accounts.  Is that a problem? 

For those of you without user-named accounts, how do we find you?  Should I "out" myself right here and now that my name is Beatrice Gertrude Finklebaum?   ;D  Just kidding.  Some of us need lots on techie hand holding. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on July 31, 2010, 05:25:07 PM
Ok then, do those of you with two accounts mind being friended by the "real" me?  I don't mind user-named friends, but don't really need/want 2 accounts.  Is that a problem? 

For those of you without user-named accounts, how do we find you?  Should I "out" myself right here and now that my name is Beatrice Gertrude Finklebaum?   ;D  Just kidding.  Some of us need lots on techie hand holding.

No. A number of folks use their IRL page. Find and friend one of us and then we'll friend suggest the rest. Or get ahold of OP's secret list! lol
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: rdy2livagn on August 03, 2010, 03:50:16 PM
Ok thought I would join in but I used an old email address on msn. My H's uncle friend was in my friend request by the time I got it set up. It is also suggesting some of my family. Doesn't seem to private. Should I create a new email address and start over?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: trusting on August 03, 2010, 03:54:19 PM
I would if you want to keep it strictly separate.  You can search for people on FB via their email address I think.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on August 03, 2010, 04:01:04 PM
I think under settings, you can  make your email addy private, but I would set up a new addy.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: dawnlight on August 04, 2010, 03:38:35 PM
Sorry if I did it the other way round, I do realize now that you must have been puzzled!!! For me it was just taking the first step....
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 19, 2010, 01:19:09 AM
Just bumping this up for any newcomers.
We have about 21 people(I think) in our little club so far.
It is nice to see everyone IRL so to speak.
The kids are all so cute, well except mine who are just beautiful( they are older). LOL.
Anyway if you need a GAL activity you can always join our club.
The fee is the cost of your internet service!
Other than that it is FREE!   :) :) :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: stillhere on August 19, 2010, 02:56:08 AM
Thanks for the bump up OP.  I'll work on this over the next few days.  I remember when this was first posted.  I couldn't wrap my head around the idea for some reason ;)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Broken Hearted on August 19, 2010, 04:54:35 AM
Hi OldPilot
I'd like to join your club, I'm on Facebook, what do i do to join?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 19, 2010, 09:44:56 AM
BH - I sent you a private message on what to do.
SH - whenever you are ready is fine.

Anyone else that is interested. You just need a name on the alt. It can be real or fake, I would keep your privacy settings high. Let someone on this thread know your intentions and we can exchange information by PM. Once you are there it will become more obvious.

I would just caution everyone to be careful of spammers and any of our private information.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ForeverHopefulOne on August 20, 2010, 02:51:17 PM
Had to deactivate my FB account for a while; friends from RL started sending friend requests.  I have my privacy settings on high, but I think they found me through my e-mail address.  I will get a new, obscure e-mail address and reactivate.

Xoxo
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LifeGoesOn on August 20, 2010, 02:58:15 PM
Same thing happened to me. And yes it was by email addy. I just got another with my alt ego name...keeps it simple!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: covenantkeeper on August 20, 2010, 05:00:32 PM
Ok, I'm on Facebook. I'm on there with my real name and I don't have a problem having everyone friend me there. I don't see a need for another account and let's face it, my brain is mush most of the time, so I'm not sure I could figure it out! LOL!

I'll look for you all on there. I'm listed as..........ok, you have to ask OP for that info.  And no, I don't have a picture up there yet. I keep telling my daughter I need photoshop so I can take out my double chin.  :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 21, 2010, 12:05:36 PM
We are growing we are up to 24 people by my count.
I just figured out some more tools to use for making lists on the alt.
So subooru was the guinea pig and it seemed to work.
Now if I could figure out how to send messges to the whole list I will be getting somewhere.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: leftylulu on August 21, 2010, 09:47:35 PM
I just got my account all set up and ready to go. I am going to add more pictures, I do have a profile picture as we speak.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 22, 2010, 08:03:32 AM
I am going to add for everyone that if friend suggestions come up from us just be careful if they are not on the list.
I have a lot of friends on the DB site and many of us are on both sites.
I am trying to keep it all straight and not send to the wrong list.  LOL

Also if anyone needs an updated list send me a message on the alt.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 31, 2010, 12:37:42 PM
The current count is 26 people from here. We are growing!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LettingGo on September 01, 2010, 03:42:09 AM
I'm on! Some names didn't come up in a search, but I found Mermaid and took it from there so some of you may be getting friend requests from me. Sweet!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Mermaid on September 01, 2010, 10:02:45 AM
I sent you some friend suggestions, to start with (but not all yet; wait for a list of who's who from OP)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: hurt01 on September 08, 2010, 03:10:30 PM
I want to join you on the alt. what do i need to do. My name is different.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: MarkedandHealed on September 09, 2010, 06:30:14 PM
PS, this thread helped my husband find me on the alt. From there, he was able to come here and recognize my user name and read everything.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: StillStanding on September 10, 2010, 04:13:47 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, NewWoman. How did he manage that?

We're usually careful not to discuss anything that could be personally identifiable.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on September 19, 2010, 08:02:26 AM
Our group is up to 28 people including Hyperglad.

Please everyone do not use your alt name on this thread.
Use PM's instead.

I have deleted all the alt names off of this thread for everyones privacy sake.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: With Gods Help! on November 10, 2010, 05:30:54 AM
I want to join the alt ive set up a seperate account with an alias name how do i join xx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on April 09, 2011, 10:00:22 AM
http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Heros-Spouse/283743315482?sk=wall

Didn't realize that we have a FB page now.

So we can all become fans of Hero's Spouse. 

16 people are fans.  Lets increase that please!

:) :) :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on April 11, 2011, 01:29:42 PM
If everyone that is on the alt checks their messages you should have updates that should pretty much bring you up to date.
I just sent out messages to over 40 people.  If I duplicated you sorry I was trying to keep it all straight.  :) :)
But I might have confused myself.

If you didn't get one then please let me know and I will get you updated.
Title: What does "alt" mean?
Post by: LoveMeMyself on May 13, 2011, 02:02:03 PM
I've seen this several times.  I also saw something mentioned about Facebook.  If this is the meaning of alt...............I want in.  Is this just something for the folks that have been able to meet in person?  It's always nice to join up with new people even if we are miles and miles apart.  It's also very nice having real faces to see when conversing back and forth.  Is it against the rules?  Just curious.   



Edit
I merged your question into this thread, it should have the answers you seek.
PM me and I can help you with the alt.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: eternity on June 11, 2011, 11:58:04 PM
I have created a facebook account how do I found you guys?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: hyperglad on June 12, 2011, 04:17:49 AM
Eternity Let OP know your name on it and wee will add you xx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Anjae on June 26, 2011, 05:27:48 AM
Hello OldPilot

I'm new here. So far I've just read, read, read but would like to join you guys on the alt.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: stayingthecourse on June 26, 2011, 10:54:27 AM
Hi OP,

I would like to join your group.  I am not that great on how to set it up but will try.

Thanks,
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Rebel Yell on June 27, 2011, 08:13:19 AM
Hi everyone, I just started a new FB account for this. I requested some of the names
I recognized. I just stayed with the name xxxxxxxxxx  for the new FB account.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: StillStanding on July 11, 2011, 09:29:48 AM
If you're already in the circle of friends on Facebook, you join a hidden members-only group where we can post and chat live. I won't post the name, but you can find out from someone "in the know".

Look there for website updates, especially when some or all of the site is down.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: summer progress on July 11, 2011, 02:27:54 PM
I created the name: xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I am on the Alt  ;D

Editted for privacy
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Ibelieve on July 11, 2011, 02:52:53 PM
http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Heros-Spouse/283743315482?sk=wall

Didn't realize that we have a FB page now.

So we can all become fans of Hero's Spouse. 

16 people are fans.  Lets increase that please!

:) :) :)

If I click "Like" on this facebook page, wont the updates post on my real facebook page? I don't want any of my friends and family
on there see it.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ladybird on July 11, 2011, 10:02:03 PM
Can someone tell me how to get on the ALT?  xxxx!  :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on July 18, 2011, 05:37:08 PM
If you want to get on the alt PM me with the info.

WE ALL HAVE BEEN COMMUNICATING THAT WAY FOR THE LAST WEEK.

Sorry for everyone else that was unable to use the forum.

Good reason to have a backup plan.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Mermaid on July 30, 2011, 04:18:29 AM
http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Heros-Spouse/283743315482?sk=wall

Didn't realize that we have a FB page now.


If I click "Like" on this facebook page, wont the updates post on my real facebook page? I don't want any of my friends and family
on there see it.
No, only the like will post (and you can take it down).

But I've got a separate FB account just for the forum. It's good to be cautious.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: With Gods Help! on August 04, 2011, 04:34:10 PM
Hi op

 ive got a new facebook account for the alt my other wouldnt let me on i will add people i know from here..........but not sure of all the names........ ive got a picture  of myself with a glass of alcohol ;D ;D ;D drinking threw a straw...........so for those i dont recognise please add me xxx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Mamma Bear on August 15, 2011, 05:26:19 AM
  Hi OP, I 'm just chiming in here. One of the things that keeps me focused on me is that I never had or go on FB. Oh Gosh. If I had that I'd be going on OWs FB and really flipping out I'm sure.  Maybe when this is over I'll do FB ;D   It's the FB Challenge, I think DGU coined it that. Me Stay Away from OW thoughts and FB :)   but thanks anyway..LOL
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 15, 2011, 05:37:40 AM
  Hi OP, I 'm just chiming in here. One of the things that keeps me focused on me is that I never had or go on FB. Oh Gosh. If I had that I'd be going on OWs FB and really flipping out I'm sure.  Maybe when this is over I'll do FB ;D   It's the FB Challenge, I think DGU coined it that. Me Stay Away from OW thoughts and FB :)   but thanks anyway..LOL
MB that is your choice but maybe when Learning comes to visit you she can explain how it works, you can set up a fake name just to communicate with us. 
I am not suggesting that you visit with BOWSER.
That would be a HUGE mistake.
I agree.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Thundarr on August 15, 2011, 05:53:08 AM
I'm friends with a couple on here already and don't use a secret acoount.  Interestingly, I just found out last night that my W has completely blocked me.  Not just defriended but blocked, like I'm a psycho stalker or something. I can still check her page with my daughter's account and she has posted NOTHING that would bother me.  She's just nuts.

How do we go about adding each other?  Do we just PM our real names or what?  My W doesn't know my password and I wouldn't worry about her snooping anyway as I have friends all over the country from school and professinoal contacts.  I could just explain anything away if she did ask.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: trusting on August 15, 2011, 06:33:39 AM
Thundarr, my H blocked me totally from FB not long after BD.  We are on pretty friendly terms now yet I am still blocked.  It is a control thing.

If you are friends with a couple of people, you should be able to start adding others from here, if they are mutual "friends."  The thing with using your "real" account is that a lot of us use "fake" accounts with our alter ego names and so you might have some pretty strange names on your friend list.  I keep mine completely separate so my friends don't wonder about that, and because so few have any clue what is going on in my world also.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Thundarr on August 15, 2011, 07:05:24 AM
Neither of the two I have on here have others that I am aware of.  I guess anyone can just send me a PM if they want to be friends.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Ibelieve on August 15, 2011, 01:59:24 PM
I tried to make up another facebook, but it keeps throwing me into my original one. No matter what I do. I don't want to ask
anyone I know to show me, because I don't want ANYONE but you guys to know about the new one.

Can any one help?   :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 15, 2011, 02:30:35 PM
I tried to make up another facebook, but it keeps throwing me into my original one. No matter what I do. I don't want to ask
anyone I know to show me, because I don't want ANYONE but you guys to know about the new one.

Can any one help?   :)
You probably need a new e-mail address and name.

Write everything down in a safe location, that no one else will find.

Go to hotmail or yahoo and make up a new e-mail address then you can go to FB and make up a new name there with a different e-mail address.  Make sure that you check your security and settings that you can accept new friends.

PM me with what it is.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: hyperglad on August 15, 2011, 03:33:39 PM
Ibelieve i use my real one, no one posts MLC on your page only in the group name which no one else can see, so it is safe, many others use their real ones too, its up to you though.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: brokenhearted on September 02, 2011, 08:08:30 PM
Hi Old Pilot, maybe you could guide me with Facebook. I currently have a real account, would I use that or set up a new one? Can I set up a new one with the same e-mail. Not very technology oriented, sorry. Also not sure about the privacy settings. I would like to join up with the others if it is not to difficult. Thanks.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: angelgirl on October 10, 2011, 03:12:13 PM
I'm interested too, but I'm with WP, I don't want any of my other friends, in this real-world, to know my cyber world. I can use my yahoo email and set up a new name, but can it be traced back to ME? I don't want H, OW or others in my life to be in this group.

Is it too late for me to join OP?

angelgirl
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Still on October 10, 2011, 05:33:06 PM
I use my real name as do a few others. You can create an alias to protect your privacy. It is never too late. OP can add you any time.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: kaffe diem on October 10, 2011, 06:50:30 PM
WP and AG:  The FB account I use is under my real name, but the group itself is private.  I believe there's an honour code that no one from these forums will post anything related directly on your wall.

I trust everyone here...
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Wed2Him?Whatever. on October 11, 2011, 06:22:20 AM
I have a FB acct but my H posts a lot of negativity since BD so I avoid it much as I can.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LeaveThePastBehind on November 12, 2011, 09:38:39 AM



Oh, gosh, I avoid FB like the plaque but you're all making it very tempting. ::) I'm paranoid about the privacy issues.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Dandy Lion on November 12, 2011, 10:17:16 AM
Hi SGG,

I feel I got to know you a little in the time you have been posting, sometimes I feel you are quite hesitant about things you are unsure of.  There is nothing wrong with that and this happens to all of us.  But I think FB would be beneficial to you and an instant way to make friends :-)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: LeaveThePastBehind on November 12, 2011, 10:19:37 AM

It's funny you posted this just now because I've been hovering over the idea for the past hour or so, lol. I think I will jump in. Weeeeeee... :D

P.s the thing with these sort of things though ( social media ) is that I get all excited about it for a while and then the enthusiasm wanes. But I'm going to give it try anyway and just participate.:)




Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Dandy Lion on November 12, 2011, 10:21:21 AM
That's great!   Old Pilot will help you with everything, he was brilliant when I asked how  to join :-)

Hope to be able to chat with you very soon!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Wed2Him?Whatever. on November 16, 2011, 09:54:26 AM
Is anyone on Google+?  I just signed up; I hope it can be my MLCer-free version of FB.  If you want please PM me your user ID.

Thanks! :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ziggee on November 16, 2011, 10:13:00 AM
Is anyone on Google+?  I just signed up; I hope it can be my MLCer-free version of FB.  If you want please PM me your user ID.

Thanks! :)

I am on FB, google+, youtube, flikr and linkedin... Also have several web sites own mail server I am one socially networked guy... BUT I WILL NEVER TWITTER!!! thats just silly :)

Z.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: StillStanding on November 16, 2011, 10:21:15 AM
I'm on Google+ as well but I prefer to use my Facebook alt for this kind of thing. Many names almost as good as none, and all that.

(I found it odd that on my FB alt account, it made a friend recommendation of one of my actual friends. HOW DOES IT KNOW??? :o)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: nesquick2 on November 16, 2011, 10:23:48 AM
glad i joined up with you guys on facebook. its nice to put a face to who you talk to from the forum.
stillstanding i dont know the answer to that one but im sure someone will come along and explain  ;D
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: With Gods Help! on November 16, 2011, 05:12:56 PM
It happened to me too i keep having to block my real friends from FB on the new account.......my nephew requested me too i blocked him too  :o :o :o xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: hyperglad on July 22, 2012, 03:40:46 AM
in reply to how it links friends requests it uses your email address and friends linked to that so done panic.  :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OceanLady on September 18, 2012, 05:14:27 PM
OldPilot and others,  I am just reading this now as I clicked on the old thread that you listed in a different thread today. This is interesting to say the least.  I don't pay much attention to FB but I do have an account that my son set up for me there a few years ago--when he was around here (the SOLD house now) with me.  I think I will set up a new email address and FB account if I am able.  I was thinking of changing my name on this site as well but not sure if I will loose the few posts I have made recently if I do.  I have been around here for many years (2.5 years) but just recently posted (did 2+ years ago also) and don't have a mentor yet either--have not started a thread.  Can any of you answer that last thought for me about changing my name here and not loosing my info or posts.  I suppose I will have to PM someone (OP?)when this is done so I can join the club also.  I am not a very good techie either about computer things but I will try.

Why do we need an alt anyway?  I think this idea was started before RCR changed the way this site works thru the threads.  Just my thought, may be wrong on that one.  Maybe we want to see what each other really looks like in RL.  Oh no!!!!   ;) ;) ;D
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on September 18, 2012, 05:21:52 PM
OldPilot and others,  I am just reading this now as I clicked on the old thread that you listed in a different thread today. This is interesting to say the least.  I don't pay much attention to FB but I do have an account that my son set up for me there a few years ago--when he was around here (the SOLD house now) with me.  I think I will set up a new email address and FB account if I am able.  I was thinking of changing my name on this site as well but not sure if I will loose the few posts I have made recently if I do.  I have been around here for many years (2.5 years) but just recently posted (did 2+ years ago also) and don't have a mentor yet either--have not started a thread.  Can any of you answer that last thought for me about changing my name here and not loosing my info or posts.  I suppose I will have to PM someone (OP?)when this is done so I can join the club also.  I am not a very good techie either about computer things but I will try.

Why do we need an alt anyway?  I think this idea was started before RCR changed the way this site works thru the threads.  Just my thought, may be wrong on that one.  Maybe we want to see what each other really looks like in RL.  Oh no!!!!   ;) ;) ;D

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=360.0
This explains how to change your display name.

As far as the alt., lets just say that Mark Zuckerberg seems to have a better handle on social networking than RCR.
I will PM you to explain further.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OceanLady on September 18, 2012, 08:51:19 PM
Thanks again OldPilot,  I changed my name from Winnifred34 to OceanLady.  I wanted to do that for a while now.  I see that my old posts now say OceanLady--great. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: CrazyStupidLove on December 18, 2012, 12:25:28 AM
Im looking for you guys on FB.. can't find anyone..yet...Please PM details on how to find this.

thanks!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Fizzy on May 31, 2013, 03:37:30 AM
I've set up an alt FB a/c...now, how do I find you guys?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: 27 years on August 10, 2013, 09:20:32 PM
Just set up alt FB acct.  Will try to find others from here, but if unable will be back to get directions. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: dadspearl on September 20, 2013, 08:05:31 AM
I wanna play!!! I don't know if I want to create a whole new persona for this though....
I would LOVE to put faces with our fake names!! Fun!!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: R on September 20, 2013, 08:06:24 AM
I am on as me, no second account as H not on FB so no worries there.

xxx
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: dadspearl on September 20, 2013, 08:08:26 AM
My H is on fb. And we're fb friends. Isn't that sweet? It even says we're married to each other.  :-*
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Braincell77 on September 21, 2013, 07:09:47 AM
I will either sort out a new page or go through my normal fb. Will sort it out tomorrow.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ehill on October 31, 2013, 11:42:45 AM
What is the alt?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Snowdrop on October 31, 2013, 11:59:52 AM
Not sure but think it might have something to do with Facebook, maybe creating an alternative Facebook account just for connecting with people from here?  Just a guess.  I'm out as I don't have Facebook. 
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Albatross on October 31, 2013, 12:38:32 PM
I am in ! Glad to be online with You people.  ;)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on October 31, 2013, 12:53:15 PM
What is the alt?
Read this thread and it will more or less explain it, or send me a PM.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Serendipity on February 04, 2014, 12:27:27 PM
I'm on FB.  Please send me info :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Iamwoman on February 04, 2014, 03:49:15 PM
I've just created a FB account, can I join in? Can you tell me how? :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: summer90 on February 04, 2014, 04:27:33 PM
Good idea OP,

I will set up my alias account first and join.  Thanks, you're always thinking ahead.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: bipolared on February 11, 2014, 10:13:04 AM
Maybe I should just delete my fake account and use my actual account;  I hadn't know how it was set up before.  I am not usually so stupid and slow, I'll plead BD PTSD.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: ScarlettMarie on April 23, 2014, 11:20:29 AM
I would like to do it :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Darth Obo on May 07, 2014, 06:16:08 AM
I'm in with a "fake" account; will send you a PM OP.


OBO
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: riverbirch on June 23, 2014, 07:58:09 AM
Bumping up for all the new people.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: doodlebug65 on August 23, 2014, 07:41:19 PM
Is this like a private group?
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: xyzcf on August 23, 2014, 07:43:02 PM
No, not at all. If you are recognized as a Heros spouse member let Old Pilot know and he will add you to the group  ;D
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: doodlebug65 on August 23, 2014, 07:47:47 PM
Sorry, I meant is it a group with settings of closed group or private group?  I don't want to have it show in my news feed and not sure I could remember a new login if I created another account.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: xyzcf on August 23, 2014, 08:00:31 PM
It is a private group and as far as I know will not show up in your newsfeed  but check with OP
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: SSG on August 23, 2014, 09:50:45 PM
 I think there is now an option for 'Secret Group' on FB

I would like to be added, if the group is still on FB.  I am on FB under my real name.

SSG
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: doodlebug65 on August 24, 2014, 04:33:52 AM
thanks!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on August 24, 2014, 06:05:00 AM
It is a private group and as far as I know will not show up in your newsfeed  but check with OP

Correct, PM me for more info if needed.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Searching4Answers on November 07, 2014, 12:32:17 PM
In order to join we need to send OP a PM with our FB name?

Also, my comments or likes won't show up on my newsfeed?

Edit - YES to all questions - OldPilot
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Anjae on November 07, 2014, 12:57:18 PM
In order to join we need to send OP a PM with our FB name?

Yes, I think so. Not, to my knowledge the likes and comments will not appear on your newsfeed. But you if want to be fully safe create an alternative FB profile just to used on the alt.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Thunder on November 15, 2014, 08:02:43 AM
I'm on 2 different private  FB groups and it's very safe.  The only people who can read your posts are people in the group, no one else.  It does not show up on your regular FB page.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: Searching4Answers on November 15, 2014, 08:32:28 AM
Thanks for the reassurance Thunder ;)

The alt makes everyone a little more real.
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: NeverGiveUp1 on September 17, 2015, 03:03:57 AM
So the alt is a private Facebook group?

I was wondering if there was one!
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on September 17, 2015, 03:43:02 AM
So the alt is a private Facebook group?

I was wondering if there was one!

Yes
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: OldPilot on October 26, 2015, 09:28:02 AM
This post will also bump up this thread as it hasn't been up for a while.
The rest of the thread talks about some other groups on FB but today
I want to remind all posters about  the following:

FWIW the facebook page of hero spouse

https://www.facebook.com/theherosspouse

is posting an article or blog post a day and I think we are on our 3rd trip through them all,
if you read one per day, which is what I post,
it takes you about 3/4 of a year to get through them all.

One way to read all the articles!   :) :) :)
Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: solong on November 05, 2015, 12:18:07 AM
Hello!

I would like to join you in this FB private page. In fact, I'm part of The Hero'sSpouse page. I have never commented there because it would show on timeline and I would not want to expose myself before my FB friends.

I have  a fake FB page which I used to befriend my H (who would not be friends with me in my real page) and his girlfriend,  ::) but I forgot the email address ???. That was way back in 2010. Now FB does not need our email address for notifications. Also the FB privacy policies allow us to be safe in our communication among members of "secret" groups. I created one for planning a special outing with some friends and only us knew about it; no mention of it on timeline.

From what I read this is a secret group. So, i want to join in. :D I will write to OP to present my request.
Great!


Title: Re: Are You on the Alt?
Post by: stillbaffled on August 16, 2016, 06:39:27 PM
Hi OP,

I'd like to join the FB private page as well.   

Thanks!