Thank you Reinventing and FW!

Hi to anyone following along.

All is well.  Nary a day goes by without H and I expressing our deep gratitude for the many blessings in our lives. Our children are thriving personally and professionally. Each day, H and I continue to be intentional in showing our love and care for each other. 

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You may be surprised to hear that I still hear bits and pieces of what transpired during his crisis.  It was a monumental and prolonged event and I do not doubt that he will sporadically talk about his experience for some time to come. I do not detect any distress when he wanders down the memory lane. And I can listen to him without upsetting my equilibrium. It’s as though we are discussing some academic matters.

A quiet evening and a bottle of fine red wine seem to be a good formula for sharing reflections and lessons learned.  The content of those quiet conversations does not seem to matter as much as the underlying theme - deep self awareness and a clear sense of identity which were distilled from the emotional turmoil he experienced.   

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Father’s Day

It was a jolly family gathering. H was rather bashful about all the attention given to him by the kids. He blurted out how grateful he was that the children forgave his failings as their father. We all knew he was referring to those crazy days when he scarcely noticed our children’s existence.  Our children are not particularly demonstrative and tend to express their feelings with action.  They surrounded H with a group hug.  That was one of the most beautiful things I had ever seen. 

We continue to travel the world together and appreciate our togetherness. 

Wishing you all a wonderful summer.

Hugs!

Journalling
The games women play... pt. 1, as I suspect there will be a pt. 2

I'm always looking through old photos and saw that a year ago I had casually asked through text TPB for a photo. So one night I saw she was up after 10pm which I know is rare and I sent "How are you still up?" to which she replied "barely, lol". I said "Go to bed, and then send me a pic." to which of course she didn't. I immediately backtracked and deleted the photo request. All previous texts between us had been about music as that is a subject we have in common.

Well in the car one day I asked KA to send someone we were meeting a reply, with my phone and when she was taking a long time, I asked what she was doing and she replied "Reading your texts with TPB". She said "How would you like it if I was texting a guy after 10pm". I said "I wouldn't and won't do so again". KA has always said she doesn't trust the woman, but in reality I'm more the instigator there and TPB the recipient.

Kayak season started and with surprise neither TPB, nor her bestie JKR attended. Complete silence from the two women who are my closest women friends. Then week two came, which was a really great paddle location, and more silence. My next party was coming up (It was great fun of course). KA and I discussed after the last party she would prefer I host them when she's not available to come... which gives us another date night each month, which is what she craves... alone time with me.

JKR texted me her and her bestie would be there if their power came back on. (We had tornados here in IN and many homes were knocked out). Found out later one of the two had power when they arrived at the party. I had a sense of distance from the two that night and they left early but JKR and I did have a short unfinished conversation. Then a day later JKR actually quit my kayaking group. 

So a few days later I texted JKR how her foot and arm were as they had been keeping the duo from attending my hikes and I now assumed kayaking as well. Her reply had nothing to do with herself but TPB (whom I've been told they share everything).

"I did tell her I should not have been the one to pull out of kayaking to take a stand (for her)"

. A stand for her? But she's still in my kayaking group.

"She won’t leave it, she loves kayaking. I eventually want back in the kayak group.  I just was “tired” of listening, so I took a stand, not my place, but I knew she would not. If something bothers me, I will let a person know or I just will pull back in conversation. She typically does not let someone know. She is just hung up on you flirting with her when you have a girlfriend.

I said I will leave her alone.
"She has said you have.  She appreciates it. I think at some point TPB will message you. In a weird way I think she will miss the attention."

So from what I can gather they are trying to stay away to teach me a lesson at their own detriment by missing kayaking and hikes. I think the arm and foot thing may be an excuse being used for avoidance. The party was 'too good' of them to miss and they caved and attended that. I have unfollowed and restricted social media on TPB so she sees much less of me. I'm taking steps to move on from my crush which built over two years.


Another friend who is a therapist out of the blue sent me this text chain...

You would be good with TPB. You and her would be the best together. Well, she’s fun, loving, wild, and crazy likes to party, likes music. Has a stable job. Pretty and skinny. You guys have a good relationship

Yes.

Tonight is the New Moon for June....

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Hello everyone, just thinking of you all on this beautiful Saturday in June.  Things are good here.  Mom turned 80 yesterday and we had a lovely time up on the Mesa, fishing, eating lunch at a lodge and enjoying nature.  There were about 10 of us able to celebrate with more celebrating to come with other family throughout the Summer.  Mom was able to catch 4 fish!  We had to all keep encouraging her to reel it in because she would stop lol and she had a little trouble casting at first, but she did really well!  Better than I expected and a good reminder that I need to get her out there more often.

I started officially in my new position April 20th, after taking a week in the Caribbean first.  I cruised with my B and SIL and a married couple friend of ours.  One of my other B and SIL's came and stayed at the house with Mom.  I had no trouble being the 5th wheel on the trip.  We did Grand Bahama, Dominican Republic and Grand Turk.  Realized while I was in the Caribbean that it was the 10 year anniversary of my Divorce.  Wow, time flies!

Turned 48 in May (I was 37 at MLC Bomb Drop) and have been really disturbed by my weight and the effects of aging and pre-menopause so I started the 75 hard.  I've only made it to day 2 once since I started the day before my birthday but that's okay, I'm out there trying lol.  I'm going to continue to go after it and hopefully at some point there will be some pay-off.

D turned 24 and S turned 26.  And my 30 year HS reunion is in July.

I hope everyone is well!  Let me know how you're doing and what's new with you.   

So nice to read an update from you!  He is losing out with the kids (and you).  Glad to know that you are doing well!