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« Latest by Helpnewc on December 27, 2025, 01:28:28 PM »
Dear LBS,
After 2 years in Court we appear to have resolved for what I offered 3 years ago. The truth is that my wife has been simply using the system to have more time with my girls and sadly where there is no domestic violence, substance abuse or mental illness we were at the bottom of the list.
But I have got there. I still don’t quite understand how we are in this place and why I have been treated so badly. I have tried to be kind but it just leads to more nastiness so from 2026 I am just going to put myself first. There has been no empathy or kindness for me.
And I have asked for 18 months for the divorce application from her. It keeps being promised but does not arrive. I will ask once more in the New Year and then do it myself.
It is very sad for our children that we are unable to speak to each other but I accept that. I cannot have anything to do with someone who lies so much and is completely unaccountable.
Help
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« Latest by titleholder on December 27, 2025, 03:40:20 AM »
I’m so sorry for your loss <3 I always have admired you and the love you carried for your family and that you did everything to preserve that, even in the difficult MLc-times. I’m sending you all my love!
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« Latest by Helpnewc on December 26, 2025, 03:22:54 AM »
I am so sorry for your loss.
Not your husband, and of the life you lost together.
It is just so hard.
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Some are doing great today,
Some are hurting today,
No matter where you are or what trials or joys of today - Merry Christmas
Next year will be better.
-SS
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I'm so sorry XYZCF,
I hope you and D are able to spend some good time together.
-SS
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« Latest by Acorn on December 24, 2025, 09:46:04 AM »
Oh, xyzcf…. I’m truly sorry for your loss. My heart is with you at this difficult time.
May God surround you with his infinite love and grace.
(((((HUGS)))))
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« Latest by Treasur on December 24, 2025, 06:17:43 AM »
Like others, I am so very sorry for your and your daughter’s loss. You are both in all of our thoughts and prayers.
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« Latest by marvin4242 on December 24, 2025, 05:43:47 AM »
I also am sorry to hear about your loss, and your husband was very lucky to have someone like you who gave him the grace despite his actions, specially in his final days. That is indeed a very special and rare gift. I also hope despite the difficult situation you got a chance to find something in these last days to offer more peace and calm about what happened.
I hope you try to focus on yourself a bit now as it is very likely things will come up after the funeral.
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« Latest by Biscuit on December 24, 2025, 05:06:30 AM »
XY,
I’m so sorry to hear this news. I’m glad you 2 got to spend his last days together.
Much love B x
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« Latest by Trustandlove on December 24, 2025, 03:26:46 AM »
Hi, xy,
I'm very sorry for your loss, your unshakeable conviction has always been inspirational.
T&L
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