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Our Community / Re: Kate Spade
« Last post by Velika on July 19, 2018, 08:22:31 PM »
What I read (and who knows what to believe) she had spent several years with mental health issues.

How many of us also heard we were “crazy.” My ex would have said the same thing, pretend to be loving  and caring widower.
Our Community / Re: THE LBS "diet"
« Last post by Stand Tall on July 19, 2018, 08:10:06 PM »
In the beginning of 2018 I made a resolution for myself. It was supposed to be my year to work on myself. I was gaining weight and I knew I had high blood pressure. I have a gym membership, but no car to get me to the gym. H took it everyday to work and then most nights to his motorcycle clubhouse. His Harley sat in the driveway. When BD came in March I immediately went on the LBS diet. Lost 30 lbs. My family was worried. I just told them its ok I have enough reserves so I'm not worried. I have not put the weight back on. My appetite came back, but I choose to eat healthy. Biggest problem now is I've started having the munchies at night. Its hard being alone.

I would love to see a page where we can support each other. Maybe be accountable for what we do physically during the day, share recipes and just talk about the knowledge we have with health. A support group within a support group. 
Our Community / Re: Crazy train to nowhere - 5
« Last post by Savoir Faire on July 19, 2018, 08:09:42 PM »
Laughing at your H's comment about staying blind ;D  Should ask him how he feels about fog!

MLCers love family outings :o
Our Community / Re: Kate Spade
« Last post by xyzcf on July 19, 2018, 08:08:56 PM »
What I read (and who knows what to believe) she had spent several years with mental health issues.
Hi Sam, I'm attaching to your thread.   You sound amazing!  I'm so glad you're finding YOU. No matter what happens with H, you will always have Sam. And Sam is one very special lady!
Our Community / Re: Kate Spade
« Last post by nah on July 19, 2018, 07:16:56 PM »
It’s the first thing that popped up in my mind when I read the story.
Our Community / Re: Processing the Anger
« Last post by Velika on July 19, 2018, 07:13:29 PM »
S, funny I am working on just the same issue.

The energy healer I go to referred me to this method:

The idea is that our anger and strong emotions can be our allies if we truly listen to them. But if we don’t face them and really look at what they are and what they want from us, it is true — we can fail to access the powerful and protective parts of ourselves we need.

My therapist told me anger is just energy, it’s power. But we need to harness this. Examining your relationship to anger, what you learned about anger as a child, how you perhaps once expresssed it, can be incredibly valuable and even connect us to a more innocent place we may have lost or rejected.

I think you yourself may be intrigued by your life coach words and I urge you to go with this! Anger can be creative, playful, informative, and energizing. I myself am exploring this topic at the moment and  find it fascinating.

Big hugs. 💛
Totally with you on the car thing.  The ow means nothing to me, I have never been jealous, even feel a bit sorry for her having to put up with MLC XH, but sitting in the car seat she and other AP's  sat in - not happening.  That car will need an exorcism performed before I would sit in it.  Be funny to turn up with a spray bottle of bleach, sage stick and book of spells - love to see his smug face during that one.  I will even come along to help you chant.  It would be a laugh ;D
Our Community / Re: They just don't understand
« Last post by Stand Tall on July 19, 2018, 07:12:11 PM »
Sitting here today and wondering about the ow in the lives of MLCer's. Does anyone think that the mlcer get these people to fill the void of being alone at night? When One is alone with depression is when all the boogey mans come out of the closet. The depression takes over and there is no place to hide. Since they affair down that makes it an easier escape. They don't have to love them. No emotions needed.

I have been dark and dim with my H for a few months now. Leaving contact up to him. Is there times where I should send an email (only way to contact). Birthdays, Holidays etc...and what about our anniversary? would that be a wrong time to contact telling him happy anniversary. just joking on that one. my 20 years is next month. Anyway I am trying to give him all the space he needs to work his way through this and not have me to blame. I will return any contacts that he makes with me.

Ok, to start I have nothing in the legal system right now. All of our financial obligations have always been separate so I have no reason to stir the pot right now. I will be traveling across the United states in the next couple days due to my mother cancer getting worse and family is gathering. I will be having my DIL staying in my house with her dogs. I have not changed the locks but was thinking of doing so temporary while i'm gone. I don't want her dealing with any problems with him. Plus, she would like to give him her two cents, we don't want her going to jail. lol  Does anyone see this as a problem or should I email him and tell him that while I am grieving that I would not want him coming around at this time?

Thanks for your input

Our Community / Re: The hills and valleys
« Last post by Savoir Faire on July 19, 2018, 07:05:42 PM »
I read an article similar to that of Nas, it said that if there was any emotion left for the spouse, there was unfinished business and an attachment which hadn't yet been broken.  The article also said if the person had truly moved on, they would not be affected by what the other person did, neither do they care of wonder, check up on etc. This is true for either the MLCer or the LBS.

I understand the 'yellow pages' man SB, probably better than the Tinder man.  It's amazing how cold someone we had children with and spent a great part of our lives loving, can treat us like a call center employee.
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