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Our Community / Re: Stuck in limbo land!
« Last post by Savoir Faire on Today at 04:25:00 AM »
I'm not sure about the advice your IC gives you.  Every situation if different although MLC is all the same as far as symptoms, the MLCers themselves are slightly different.

Maybe reading Shock's thread will help. Her sister known as Shock's sis, is a former MLCer and gives extremely valuable insights into the crisis itself.  It may help you to see what your H is really doing when he visits.

https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10914.0
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No, we didn't have relationship rough patches, our marriage was a happy one and we were going to grow old together.  Life was sometimes challenging but only the normal everyday challenges having teenage children can bring.  We were looking forward to our youngest child finishing secondary school in two years,  as we were planning to travel overseas and begin the second half of our lives together.  there was no  hint that a MLC was on the horizon but in hindsight I could see changes as far back as 2-3 years before BD.

No way he would have cheated on me if it hadn't been MLC. He had the utmost integrity and respect for his family prior to crisis.
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Our Community / Re: Beauty into Beast 13
« Last post by hopeandfaith on Today at 04:06:21 AM »
I can't tell you how much admiration I have for your character and grit and honesty with yourself. Sometimes reading your recent posts is like watching a plant grow or a rose bloom  :)

Nicely said Treasur - hitting the 'like' button ;)
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Our Community / Re: Finally finding my peace and myself again.
« Last post by Whyus on Today at 04:02:37 AM »
K, I and a colleague of mine got back from Belgium yesterday, all safe and Sound but a Little (very) tired  ;). We had a great time, 4 nights in a tent and lots of awesome bands over the 4 days including Slipknot, Slayer, Kiss, Def Leppard, Whitesnake, In Flames, stone temple pilots, clutch.... too many to Name. We rode the big Wheel twice which gives you a fantastic view of the Festival/Camping area.
65-70.000 People every day, no stress, no Trouble, no agro, just everybody getting along and having a good time.
On Sunday the 23rd I realized that my 22nd Wedding anniversary was 3 days earlier and I hadn’t thought of it once! That has to be a small victory for Team Whyus... I'll take that for now.

On the 22nd K and I took a walk to where the bus was parked and she gave me my birthday presents. There were 6 in total, thing really expensive but all were very thoughtful which is amazing. I’ve already started to listen for breadcrumbs/hints as I have 6 months until her birthday and I want to get it right. You girls are hard work, she set the birthday bar high again. :D
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Our Community / Re: Crazy Train to Nowhere - 8
« Last post by hopeandfaith on Today at 03:51:14 AM »
Me too  :)
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Our Community / Re: He’s having a mlc 6 - Strong
« Last post by Helpingme! on Today at 03:48:18 AM »
Rose I think normal chat is a good thing at stage you and your H are. (Just ignore the word stage) Just don't get off into any serious talks.
Being normal is the best thing. I think they can sense when we are not normal. JMO, speaking from my experience. My W didn't start being normal around me until I did. There comes a time when it's okay to be normal, just chat about life, daily things. Yes, the past will get brought up, the past before MLC. But we have to start somewhere.

The call in convo??? Lord that seemed like a year ago. Ha.
I can remember talking to you when H left. It's been a year and a half. It doesn't seem that long to me, I'm sure it feels like 20 years to you though. So keep it up. The time us going by!!!!
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Our Community / Re: Get Through Today
« Last post by Helpingme! on Today at 03:27:44 AM »
Following along
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Our Community / Re: Get Through Today
« Last post by Thunder on Today at 03:22:42 AM »
Attaching too Music, and I'm sorry about his latest antics.  He's still a mess so try not to take any of this personal. 
I think telling him you will no longer be his friend was the exact right thing to do.  Let him talk to his ow about his problems and get advice from her.  He WILL feel his loss.  But these are his consequences.

You are one strong woman. 

{{Big Hug}}
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Our Community / Re: He’s having a mlc 6 - Strong
« Last post by Rosetintedglasses on Today at 03:18:43 AM »
Help - Thanks for being there for me on my WA
RP - Will you manage to treat yourself somehow on Thursday? I hope so, it does help
Music - WA was hard but it was still the anniversary of me being a bride and that will never change so I deserved the treat.  I was going to wear my wedding tiara that day but something stopped me.  (Not round the supermarket, just around the house!) I think the day was just a bit too hard but I am now owe myself one day of wearing my tiara, I'll keep that in mind!


After we saw him last we didn't see H for almost a week.  Then it was after 8pm one night and I was out walking P and S was out with his friends when S called me to say he was coming home to get changed as was going out to the cinema with H.  H had called and asked if he wanted to go.  I steered P back towards the house and waited outside on them both arriving and they quickly got ready and headed off, D too.  It was around 11pm when they got back, very late for a school night but they had had a great time.  H didn't mention WA but funnily he did mention the time we both went on to a conference call that my friend was doing, I put it on my thread around a month ago.  We had joined at the same time and he said how spooky it was us both dialling in at the exact same time. He didn't seem annoyed that I had been stalking him or anything like how I imagine he would have during 2016/2017, he just thought it was a funny coincidence which it was.  I have no interest in stalking H!  I probably need to hold back a bit when we chat like that though as I maybe get too much in to 'normal' chat and should keep letting him just talk.  It can be hard to remember though when he acts normal like that.

Before he left we made plans for the next day as we had an event on with D at school which is the thing he said recently that he was 'excited' to see.

Rose 
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Our Community / Re: One day's journey to Acceptance
« Last post by UrsaMajor on Today at 03:12:54 AM »
Yep, what Treasur said...

Been there, Done that.... It will pass in time. The main thing it is recognize it for what it is, call it by name, remove the power from it and slog through it. When you reach the other side, it is with yet another layer of self-awareness and understanding
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