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Offline Jay78Topic starter

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Meet-Up What state you from
« on: April 06, 2018, 08:44:27 AM »
Hello everyone,
So lately I been going to divorce groups they offer in church, but like many of us here when I explain my story I get that look of "did that really happen"
 I swear I tell my therapist if is not because I am living it I wouldn't believe some of the crazy crap it happened to me. Having a MLC spouse or partner is simply crazy I mean a crazy world only the ones going through it knows us LBS are not the crazy ones or we don't sound like a crazy Ass ex.
I know where I am at in Chicago IL I have no support or friends that understands what is happening so I figured why not lets see if we somehow lives close enough where we can meet and make our own little group and we maybe can meet once a month for support and maybe even our children's they also won't feel they going crazy.

Hope to hear from many people here that they can meet and have Support around there area.

Am Illinois
Lesbian marriage
S9,D9,S8 adopted all three
Together almost 10yrs
Bomb Drop - April 2017
W movedout - May,2017
OW  May orJune,2017 maybe even longer
Currently 2018
Me40, W38

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2018, 09:54:29 AM »
Central PA
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #2 on: April 06, 2018, 10:04:13 AM »
Central NY
Me 38; H 42
Together 22 years; married 13
No kids, no pets

Grumpy is in an MLC, it doesn't matter what he has said or done. The important thing is, this is all about him and has nothing to do with me.

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #3 on: April 06, 2018, 10:12:27 AM »
Before the individual threads start there is a thread at:


It is wonderful to find some fellow LBSers that live close by. I have one that lives 5 minutes from me and we have been friends for years.

The list is NOT updated however so there may be many posters who have not posted for years. You can add your name to the list by contacting Old Pilot.

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #4 on: April 07, 2018, 05:40:30 AM »
Hudson Valley, NY
When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold.  They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful ~ Barbara Bloom

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #5 on: April 08, 2018, 07:16:50 AM »
Married 11 1/2 years, together 18.  BD 9/2016, 2nd BD 10/16.  H moved out 10/16.  2 AS's from my first M.  Me 55, H 50. OW 23.  Moved back 4/18.  Reconnecting and working on our M.

"And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through; how you managed to survive.  You won't even be sure if the storm is really over.  But one thing is certain; when you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in...that's what this storm is all about."

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #6 on: April 08, 2018, 07:23:45 AM »
I'm on the list.

A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: What state you from
« Reply #7 on: April 08, 2018, 07:27:35 AM »
S12, S9, S7
Married 9/25/2004
13 years of marriage
BD#1- December 22, 2014
BD#2- January 2, 2018
D filed 6/25/2018


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