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Offline Acorn

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My Story Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #30 on: June 23, 2018, 05:26:48 AM »
Well we are ever so slowly progressing. 

Hey, 1P, I’m wondering if you would care to share some details for the above? 
You sound settled and confident.

A new bed?  Why not?!  New starts come in various forms. 
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Oct 2015: ILYBIANILWY.
Apr 2016: Affair discovered
Dec 2017: Seriously reconnecting

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #31 on: July 21, 2018, 03:57:24 AM »
Bit late to the naming party but I vote Gingey...as in the gingerbread man...Run run as fast as you can...can't catch me I'm the gingerbread man..


Until his leg snaps off and he get's devoured by hungry Karma.
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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #32 on: July 21, 2018, 04:14:51 AM »
1P:

Haven't heard from you in a month.
Let us know how you're doing.

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #33 on: September 08, 2018, 03:16:31 PM »
Hey 1P.  I hope you are well.   :)
M-41
H-43
S-18
D-16
S-14
Friends 7y before M
Married 14y
BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
New GF 12/16
Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Saw his POF the first month back
1.5y later no signs of anyone new - workaholic

Link to my journey: 
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10630.new#new

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"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

"Sometimes - some things have to break apart so better things can be built."

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #34 on: September 08, 2018, 03:36:49 PM »
1P, I'll be following if you have time to post.
Married 1989, together since 1984 
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OW Physical Affair same one. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 52 this year.

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #35 on: September 09, 2018, 12:21:59 PM »
Thinking about you 1P! Big hugs!
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H 40
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Married 5yrs, Together 11yrs
BD Oct 31/17
ILYBINILWY Dec 21/17
2nd BD- Dec 27/17
OW-Confirmed Jan 3/18

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Baby steps turned into marathon running
« Reply #36 on: September 05, 2019, 10:57:06 AM »
And so it goes

Thought I would fly by and do a little post.  Will try and catch up on threads over the next week.  I have missed this forum, but needed the break

After almost  three years of being absent from my life, filing for divorce and living with another woman, h has resurfaced.  Yep still married. 

His attorney keeps asking if there is anyone I am dating.  Wt?   So after a month of not answering the phone calls from h started:   Are you dating anyone?  Is it serious. Have you fallen in love?

Me..... just listened and responded with crickets

This last month:  I can forget these last three years and move home and here is what I want changed and I want a life with you and to be intimate with you and grow old with you

Me.... just listened and responded with crickets


Just wondering what September is going to bring.    Going to buy a new bucket of crickets


To those behind me, don’t become the monster so it does not overtake you.  Slay the monster and stand in your truth, whatever it may be.  Love yourself as you are worth it.  Keep your head high and when those moments hit, as they do for all of us, remember a day is only 24 hours and the sun will rise tomorrow.  Change is never comfortable or easy but it is necessary. 

Hugs and hand holds all around.  Hope you do not mind it I perch here awhile in your safe warm tree. 
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela

I never lose.  I either win or learn! - Nelson Mandela

For we have fallen from our shelves, To face the truth about ourselves.  "The Gift", Annie Lennox

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Offline One day at a time

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Re: Baby steps turned into marathon running
« Reply #37 on: September 05, 2019, 11:14:46 AM »
Thanks for dropping by 1phoenix.. As mine is a vanisher of sorts at the moment so it's interesting to read an update like yours.. Although I'm getting to the point where I don't think H will ever resurface.. Even if he wakes up, pride and guilt over how he treated me will probably keep him from contacting me..

I'm not familiar with your story. I sense you are done and your H contact is not something you were expecting.. Would that be right?
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M - 42 (40 @BD1)
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BD1 - 26th Aug 2017 (Not happy, life has no purpose, "we have problems")
BD2 - 22nd March 2018 (Marriage is over, we want different things, confessed EA with someone 12,000 kms away although "she means nothing")
H moved in with parents 11th May 2018 (I asked him to leave as couldn't handle the EA rubbed all over my face)
H moved abroad 29th Dec 2018, not sure if OW will join him or if they are still in contact.
Confirmation H and OW are together, presume PA  - 3rd June 2019

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Re: Baby steps turned into marathon running
« Reply #38 on: September 05, 2019, 11:22:41 AM »
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Going to buy a new bucket of crickets

Too funny  :) :) :)
Well, goodness gracious me....I shouldn't be surprised bc it is part of the script for some isn't it? Yet I always am. Maybe bc I decided to write my xh off some time ago, so perhaps I am too negative now.

Did you have much contact with him at all, 1P? Can't remember how vanish-y his absence was. And what stopped the divorce going through? Still with ow or do I remember right that she dumped him and married some other poor soul?

How are things in your life other than buying a monthly subscription for crickets? Is there space in your new life for even considering him?

Love the idea of you popping back to sit in the nice tree though x
« Last Edit: September 05, 2019, 11:42:03 AM by Treasur »
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.
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Re: Baby steps turned into marathon running
« Reply #39 on: September 05, 2019, 12:44:37 PM »
Good to hear your update. Funny how he says HE can forget the past 3 years.   ::) What about you though?  ;D
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