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« Reply #70 on: February 08, 2019, 06:58:02 AM »
As with everything else, it makes no sense does it? After all these years, why they still remain so angry with us....ridiculous but not unexpected.

The audacity that he should pick the date and time and that if that doesn't work for you, tough luck...really Mr J????????
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #71 on: February 08, 2019, 07:09:40 AM »
Wow, the arrogance of the man! 
He is a bundle of anger, confusion and arrogance, isn’t he?!  His memory is really messed up, too.

Some of the synonyms for ‘arrogance’: conceit, hubris, self-importance, egotism
Sounds like MLCer much? 

He assumes that you want to meet him.  There.  That is pure arrogance. 

I sense a bit of chuckling from you about all this, Anjae.  You can’t reason with crazy.



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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #72 on: February 08, 2019, 09:41:41 AM »
I can't believe how demanding he is. It must be exhausting to be so angry all the time. How does he have the energy? Would it be possible to file a stolen property report with the police if he refuses to come up with a mutually agreeable date? Also, I would make arrangements to have someone else there to receive it. It does sound like he wants to pick a fight.
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #73 on: February 08, 2019, 11:38:46 AM »
Hi Milly, Xyzcf, Acorn and Learning.

I also didn't expect him to reply. 

Indeed, why still so angry, arrogant, nasty and controlling after over a decade? I am certain something is not going well, or the way he wants, in his life. What, I do not know.

And he wants to fight. He replyed to my reply in less than a our. I didn't open his second e-mail. Will see it Monday or Teusday.

There will be no one to pick up the things because we are away that day on a family birthday. He will never deliver the things to me. Either he will leave them at SIL or one of my brother will meet him. Of course, not on a family birthday we will be spending out of town.

He has been told time and time again to leave my things with SIL.

The property is not stolen, it is with him. Doubt I can file anything, other than, maybe, harrasment, given the menacing tone and words. Even that, I don't know.

The worst is that stress kicked in and my body is really feeling it. Upded the magnesium and vitamin C intake.

Maybe Ursa has the right gif, or gifs, for the situation.  ;)
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #74 on: February 08, 2019, 01:01:54 PM »
I know that the goods aren't stolen. Where I live, if someone knowingly keeps someone else's property, a stolen property report can filed.

For your stress, add B vitamins.
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #75 on: February 08, 2019, 01:29:29 PM »
I don't know if things work like that here. Regardless, here any legal thing takes years.

I take Vitamins B every day. The problem is that 12 + years of stress (from various sources) leave marks and contact with Mr J makes it worst.

In a way, it would had been better not to sent the e-mail at all. No replies, no stress. Well, next week I will see if his second reply requires an answer. I don't want the e-mail exchange to carry on.

MLC is such an health burden on the LBS. We sort of forgot that part, or haven't been talking about it as much as we used to.
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #76 on: February 09, 2019, 11:15:34 AM »
Then it might be better to let him just keep everything. They are just things afterall.  no use ruining your health over it. WONDER WHAT HE WOULD do IF you said just keep it Mr. j.
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #77 on: February 09, 2019, 02:14:26 PM »
Anjae, I suspect where you are is similar to Italy and pursuing anything legally is really a waste of time and especially money. What about offering to get the heirloom yourself on a day that suits you, maybe the day before he suggested? You can rent a van for less than €100. It would also put the power back on your side.
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« Reply #78 on: February 09, 2019, 04:20:29 PM »
Learning, it is not just stuff. My heeilom are family antique pieces, some of them 100 or more years old. Just stuff was what Mr J was selling, furniture and appliences. Hence why, maybe the e.mail was not such a good idea.

Anyway, early next week I will see what his answer to my reply says.

Milly, yes, here it is more or less like Italy. A litte better, but quite similar. Most legal things are a waste of time of money.

It is a good idea, except Mr J does not tell me where he lives and does not allow me to go to him. I don't drive. The day before the one he says he would come here is part of a family weekend. We have several family things booked with the kids - kids sports awards, etc. plus a birthday.

He will be here - he is not coming because of me - he can leave the things at SIL if he is OK with it, since I am fine with that solution. Or I and him can arrange another date and place. In the end, I am certain everything will work out. Mr J is just being a MLCer.

Another cool family dinner with the little ones. I still don't understand why MLCers can leave their kids. Also don't understand why some middle aged MLCers have kids with OW/OM. Little ones are adorable, but the energy it requires to play and look after a very active 3 years old, or/and a baby just over one year, is not something I think I would be able to do in my 50's.

Some MLC related things are quite strange.
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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #79 on: February 10, 2019, 07:17:02 AM »
Anjae, I hope you did not take offense to my classifying your heirlooms as "stuff". I had many things that I gave to xH that I wanted to hold onto to be sure my children would get them. I took the path of least resistance and surrendered them. It wasn't worth the stress of dealing with him over it, to me. But I am not as strong as other people are.

I do hope you can come to an agreement that will work for you. We lose so much emotionally, financially and physically, i.e. personal belongings, with this craziness. 

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