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Offline islandgirl68Topic starter

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My Story Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #80 on: May 17, 2019, 11:29:25 PM »
H went out with his coworkers tonight for one of their birthdays. He even sort of asked for permission  ??? I just shrugged. I'm more bothered that I'm stuck running around getting D11's food for her soccer potluck and a gift for her goodie bags. Along with S18's baseball potluck. It's like yea go have fun while I'm attending D4's parent teacher conference and dealing with S18's school who says he can't walk for graduation because he missed one day because he was sick even though I provided a note.
Plus the fact that H might not be able to attend S18'S graduation because a TRO due to H's altercation with one of the coaches. I'm on an assignment at work to clean up 2000 cases by July and still maintain my caseload and day to day work. My cars water hose went and I got stuck on the freeway during peak morning rush hour. (H acted as my knight in shining armor and rescued D4 and I.) But even with our friends discount I'm $300 poorer.  :( H dared  to say I'll buy you a new car IG ::)
 FML I've had enough at this point. Please sweet baby jesus I need a break.
Me: 34
H: 36
S18; D11; D8; D4
Together 19 years, Married for 2
BD: 4/25/2017 (EA, FA)
BD: 4/10/2018 (EA same OW)
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #81 on: May 17, 2019, 11:54:28 PM »
I know exactly what you mean. Being a mum is like spinning plates and unless you get a rest you start dropping them. Since H is out with his buddies could you not ask him to take the kids for a night and you go to a spa or w hotel or whatever. Just something to recharge yourself?
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OW discovered - December 2017

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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #82 on: May 18, 2019, 12:26:56 AM »
Find a way to give yourself a break, Island, even if it means being creative or a bit less responsible maybe? How about taking a sick day off work, just one day, when the kids are at school and give yourself a small time out...go for a walk, go to the beach, go to a movie, sit with a coffee somewhere and just breathe for a moment. Take a day to go AWOL...just a day.
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Offline islandgirl68Topic starter

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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #83 on: May 21, 2019, 11:38:27 AM »
Thank you Treasur and Sachat... I just needed to vent. This past weekend was ok. I kept busy with the kids of course, but it was nice. They really open up to me and that feels good as a parent that they feel safe to share their feelings. I've always wanted that type of relationship with my mom, but its hard to share anything with her. I love my mom, but she does go 'victim' mode a lot so I just don't tell her anything.

In MLC related karma... one of our gamer friends (a couple) have split after 6 years of being a couple. H has met the guy in real life and we both have met the girl as we live pretty close by to one another. They are 35 and 37 so around the same age as H and I. Well the guy split after having an affair with his 21 year old coworker. H was the first to hear the news from our girl gamer friend. She said to H "He left. I found out about it 3 months ago. I'm so confused as he kept saying the whole time it meant nothing. Even pushing for marriage! I discovered he was still talking to her and planning on leaving me so I gave him a choice. He chose her."

When H told me at first he was a little apprehensive and said well maybe our gamer girl friend should tell me. Eventually H said that gamer guy left for another girl. H said "Guess how old she is? 21" I said, "Oh, sounds familiar." H turned 10 shades of red and began stuttering and changed the subject. I couldn't help myself.  8)

I talked to gamer girl friend last night. She reiterated everything and said its hard because of their D. This child is not gamer guys D, but he's raised her since she was 2 or 3. Gamer guy still comes around to visit their D, but had the audacity to bring OW. When gamer girl set a boundary that OW cannot come around, gamer guy said he's leaving OW in the truck but he can't come alone because OW does not trust him  ;D

Gamer guy gave up living in his own place with gamer girl to move into a room with OW at her parent's home. Has his phone monitored and can't go anywhere without OW because she can't trust him  ??? Gamer girl pointed out 'wow, you really traded down.' She's doing ok. Much less of a mess then I was at BD. She laughs at the absurdity of it all. Gamer guy complaining that he was unhappy and felt unloved, but did not say a word to gamer girl. Now he's trapped with a controlling 21 year old who currently has possession of his gonads.  ;D
Me: 34
H: 36
S18; D11; D8; D4
Together 19 years, Married for 2
BD: 4/25/2017 (EA, FA)
BD: 4/10/2018 (EA same OW)
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #84 on: May 21, 2019, 12:07:44 PM »
HI Island !,

   Yes a 21 year old for his age sounds crazy because it is. He can have all the jealousy and little girl behavior that comes with it. I lived in kailua for the past 3 years I miss the islands ! Hope you are doing well
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #85 on: May 22, 2019, 01:51:14 AM »
Oh I do love it when the karma bus hits them 🤣 nothing like a little truth dart. I’ve always wondered what they think when instead of it being there situation it’s someone else’s. Are they as appalled as the rest of us
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #86 on: May 22, 2019, 03:50:54 AM »
Nice truth dart, right between the eyes  ;D
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #87 on: May 22, 2019, 08:04:57 AM »
Whelp mine fits the 21 (now 22 year old co worker mould too).  ::)
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Offline islandgirl68Topic starter

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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #88 on: May 22, 2019, 04:29:11 PM »
Yes a 21 year old for his age sounds crazy because it is. He can have all the jealousy and little girl behavior that comes with it. I lived in kailua for the past 3 years I miss the islands ! Hope you are doing well

Hey F5, I think back when I was 21. I'd like to think I was more mature since I had S18 (who was around 5 at the time). I was still pretty emotionally immature though. H more so. So I can't imagine being with someone that young. I get a headache thinking about it.  ::)

I'm local, born and raised. I still contemplate leaving the rock and heading to the mainland. Its too expensive to afford rent here on my own :-\ But there's no place like here and I am torn in wanting my kids to be raised here.

Oh I do love it when the karma bus hits them 🤣 nothing like a little truth dart. I’ve always wondered what they think when instead of it being there situation it’s someone else’s. Are they as appalled as the rest of us

Oh, H is a judgy mcjudgy when it comes to others. Prior to BD H used to talk so much smack about men who would do that to their families. After BD, H still made remarks like "People just can't be trusted" or "there's no such thing as loyalty anymore"  :o H then usually gets a not so gentle reminder from me that he was that person too 8)

Nice truth dart, right between the eyes  ;D

Whyus its like H had a bullseye right on his forehead  ;D SMH, It was too easy.

Whelp mine fits the 21 (now 22 year old co worker mould too).  ::)

Ahhh, same. OW turned 22 this year. Is it some kind of secret club we don't know about? ???
Me: 34
H: 36
S18; D11; D8; D4
Together 19 years, Married for 2
BD: 4/25/2017 (EA, FA)
BD: 4/10/2018 (EA same OW)
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Re: Thank you, next?
« Reply #89 on: May 22, 2019, 04:50:52 PM »
Love the truth darts. 🎯
M 52
H 47
M 12 years; together 17 years
D17, S27
Summer 2014 - H wanted to runaway
9/14 I was diagnosed with Breast cancer
11/14 Surgery for BC..3 day after my father dies
11/14 BD 2 days after surgery. I have no passion for you.
2/15 moved out
Dated each other all year affection back on..
3/16 moved home
7/16 Diagnosed with Breast cancer again
8/16 No affection again. I knew something was wrong.
9/16 Another surgery for Breast Cancer
9/16 BD 11 days after surgery discovered -EA with much younger W from Work. That is over. I think he has meaningless flings. Work is his mistress
10/16 I filed for D (financial reasons)
10/16 I moved out.
10/16 Now off and on vanisher
5/17 Divorce final

 

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