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Off-Topic Code of Conduct and Sanction Policy
« on: March 15, 2019, 04:10:58 PM »
I have just posted the new Code of Conduct on the Information board. I will repaste it in the next post below.
We are a large community and we have gone too long without this in place--I am sorry for that. This is effective immediately.
I have been so hesitant to formalize a system that feels like punishments, but we all need this in place to protect us and maintain the integrity of the forum.

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Re: Code of Conduct and Sanction Policy
« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2019, 04:11:51 PM »
The Hero’s Spouse Code of Conduct

  • Be Accepting
    The Hero's Spouse does not discriminate on the basis of race, national or ethnic origin, age, religion or religious creed, disability, sex or gender, sexual orientation, et al. This site was created as a safe place for Left Behind Spouses (LBS) dealing with midlife crisis in their marriage, but not all situations are MLC and this does not mean such an LBS is prohibited from being a member of our community. Sometimes a non-LBS may also post something of value and will generally not be removed unless they do not follow the Code of Conduct. The Hero’s Spouse does, however, reserve the right to remove a member for deliberately stalking and/or using, or threatening to use, a member's posts against them.

  • Be Respectful
    We are here because of our shared marital trauma. We feel rejected, angry frustrated, confused, scared… Sometimes our emotional turmoil leads to conflict with each other. We understand this, but our situations are no excuse for poor behavior and mistreatment of others. When people do not feel safe in our community they leave and you lose your support group.
    Respectful behavior is polite, tolerant and considerate of the feelings of your fellow posters and seeks to resolve conflict with peace and empathy.
    Disrespect results in hurt feelings and distresses, disturbs, and/or offends others. Uncivil behavior is rude, impolite, discourteous behavior that displays a lack of regard for others.

  • Be Kind, Choose Your Words with Care
    Please be kind and gracious to your fellow community members. Insults, bullying, harassment, threats… will not be tolerated. Inappropriate behaviors include, but are not limited to:

    • Violent threats or language directed against another person
    • Discriminatory jokes and language
    • Posting sexually explicit or violent material
    • Posting (or threatening to post) other people's personally identifying information
    • Personal insults
    • Unwelcome sexual attention
    • Deliberate intimidation or stalking
    • Advocating for, or encouraging, any of the above behavior
    • Repeated harassment; if someone asks you to stop, then stop.

  • Inflaming, Provoking Conflict
    Lecturing, blaming and criticizing a consistent group of multiple posters for their comments and advice that goes against what you feel should be advised.
    This often takes the form of *enabling advice and arguing with those who offer advice that differs—especially what may be considered more Tough Love.
    This is subjective and will thus be subject to moderator discussion before significant action is taken. We will start with either a request within the thread, by PM or both along with tracking it in the system.

  • Stay on Topic: MLC and Infidelity in a Marital Style Relationship
    Story threads are for recording your journey with an MLC spouse—during MLC and after, during divorce and after, through personal recovery rebuilding your life--whether a new life without your MLCer or your new life reconciling your marriage. The Hero’s Spouse is not a dating site or a place for recording your sexual conquests. Please keep your story clean and on topic.

  • Respect the Forum and Staff
    Do not challenge board policy or decision in public debate. Disagreements with board policy and moderator or administrator decisions are to be communicated privately—by Private Message or contacting Rollercoasterider through the Ask A Question Form if you are unable to use the Private Message system.

*Enabling
Actions which shield someone from facing the ramifications of their behaviors. Enabling behavior differs from helping or supporting in that it encourages a person to continue making decisions that negatively affect themselves and others.



Enforcement: Sanctioning Policy
The Sanctioning Policy is meant as a means to keeping you safe and comfortable and not to censor. It is for the purpose of preventing personal attacks, and keeping the forum on topic and in adherence to the Mission Statement.
The Sanctioning Policy is a 3-level system

  • Warning
    This will be a simple warning asking for the comments and behavior to stop. It will be posted in the thread containing inappropriate material
    with a reminder of the consequences should they continue. In addition, a Private Message may be sent with a copy of the warning post. This is meant as an early and informal warning, though a record of it will be made in the Sanction System for tracking purposes.
    Moderators will edit or remove offensive posts or material within posts unless the poster has not passed the timeframe where they may self-edit. The system does not allow this time to be greater than 99 minutes.
    Failure to comply will lead to a higher-level sanction.

    Moderators: Apply a 10, 15, 20, 25 or 30 percent warning level to track the warning.

  • Moderated Posts
    All posts will be subject to approval by a moderator before they become public. This will remain in effect for a minimum of 2 weeks. This will be followed by a minimum 2-month probationary period.

    Moderators: Apply a 35, 40, 45, 50 or 55 percent warning level to set it to post moderation.

  • Time-Out
    Time-Out is the assignment of members to a status that allows members to read all forums at the same level as a guest, but does not allow posting or private messaging.
    A user will be blocked from posting for a minimum period of 24 hours. Greater violations will lead to a longer period of Time-Out.
    A time-out will be followed by a period of moderation to be determined based on the severity of the violation. The moderation period will then be followed by a minimum 6-month probationary period.

    Moderators: Apply a 60% or greater warning level to set it to block a user from posting. Follow this with the levels set out for Moderated Posts during probationary period to follow the Time-Out.
Notification of a Level 2 and Level 3 violation will be sent through the system. You will receive a Private Message or email with a pre-set message. Personal additions may or may not be added to the message. Only Moderators and Admins have permissions set to see whether someone has been sanctioned.

The level of Sanction will be determined on a case-by-case basis. Violations are at the discretion of the moderators—Advisory Team.

If violations occur across multiple posts before a moderator becomes aware and posts a warning, these posts may be considered a single infraction—based on the severity of the infraction and at the discretion of the moderator. Subsequent offending posts will be treated as separate violations.

Further violations within a probationary period will result in additional extended periods of Time-Out and Moderation and may eventually result in being removed the forum permanently.

If a permanent ban becomes necessary, this will be applied by a forum administrator using the ban function rather than the percentage based warning system.
« Last Edit: April 05, 2019, 11:33:53 AM by Rollercoasterider »

 

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