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Offline Shining Star

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Discussion Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #20 on: May 09, 2019, 11:30:30 AM »
I wish I had kept a list:

I am 80% happy with you, but want 100%.  Me:  "What if we worked together and brought it up to 90%?" Him "No, I need 100%."

On a Sunday night, with carryout and watching a sporting event on TV - Him " you don't care about me.  you are wearing pajama bottoms."

I want someone who will jet ski - Me:  "you are going to break up a 20 plus year marriage over jet skiing?"  Him - "Yes."

After a four hour dinner of talking and laughing, with 2 bottles of wine and being the last customers to leave the restaurant - Him "this is why I can't be with you - I can't talk to you."

My feelings for you have evaporated.

You don't have the capacity to raise me to a higher level.

I have never had a chance to be on my own (he says as he is leaving to be with OW)

We had 20 good years - a break - and now we can have 20 more - just like Judge Judy. 

After being with him twice in one day - Him " I can't stay with you.  You aren't attracted to me."







H:56, I am 54
BD: March 2014, Left Sept 2014, Back Nov 2014
Left again in February 2015.  Asked for D on 9/22/15
Said he was "sure" he wanted a D in Dec 2015; 
Admitted long term affair - May 14, 2017 - says he is in love with the "symptom" but wants to build a relationship with me with "clear expectations" WHATEVER THAT MEANS!  Settlement Agreement signed 9/20/17.
Divorce final 3/14/18.
NC - by choice - 1/2018

Offline OneHotMess

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #21 on: May 09, 2019, 11:42:58 AM »
Let’s see,

- I am happy but not sure I am as happy as I can be
- You are so depressed that our friends see it
- I haven’t been happy for 2, 5, 10 years (kept going up as time went on)
- I have nothing to show for my life
- you are the cause of everything bad in my life for 15 years
- I don’t find you attractive
- I have loved her for 30 years (talking about his cousin)
- you are just jealous and want to keep me in your life ( this is after I said I would not deal with him over anything )
- my mom would be embarrassed to call our kids her grandkids (which btw my son heard this comment)
- I never wanted to marry you
- I don’t regret being with you
- you are crazy
- you will never find someone else
- even told our friends “OHM will take me back if I wanna come back”
- you should be left alone with our kids (he left a couple weeks later without the kids)
- I’m at the end of my life
- it’s my life,  I can do what I want to

There’s more but I can’t remember right this second. It’s a wonder we didn’t lose our minds in all of this.
M 40
H 41
He moved out May 21,2017
Ow 41( his 1st cousin) moved her in May 23, 2017, she went back to her husband Oct 2017
Ow moved back with her 2 kids Jan 1 2018 even with courts cutting his visitation with his kids because of it
T-19 yr M-14 yrs
S13 & D8
BD  February 12 2017 & April 22 2017 (signs of MLC since 2015)
I filed for divorce June 2 2017 for protection- final hearing on our 20th anniversary (July 11,2018) divorce was final August 9, 2018

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8791.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=8948.0
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=9189.0
https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10052.150

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #22 on: May 09, 2019, 03:16:41 PM »
I got:
I don't want to be married anymore.
You aren't happy  (I asked him when the last time he was me was. How would he know if he hasn't asked?)
You kept me from starting my own business (I suppose because I forced him to play video games instead of working on a business)
You are always talking $h!te about me (I wasn't talking about him at all)
He hadn't been happy for 5 years, 10 years, longer than we'd been together. It changed each time.

He didn't have a lot to work with. I always cooked and cleaned and did the laundry, yard work, painting, repairs, child care, planning, etc. The one thing he didn't hit was my weight, which would have been valid, yet he avoided that.

But the one that I may never forgive was "We  should never have had the second child" (S20).  Like OHM'S MLCER and his "my mom would be embarrassed to call our kids her grandkids ", who says that about their children? I don't care how screwed up your brain is. I really don't.
« Last Edit: May 09, 2019, 03:18:02 PM by OffRoad »
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Offline Shining Star

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #23 on: May 09, 2019, 04:32:58 PM »
I forgot that one -

I haven't been happy for a few months
I haven't been happy for a year
I haven't been happy for 10 years

H:56, I am 54
BD: March 2014, Left Sept 2014, Back Nov 2014
Left again in February 2015.  Asked for D on 9/22/15
Said he was "sure" he wanted a D in Dec 2015; 
Admitted long term affair - May 14, 2017 - says he is in love with the "symptom" but wants to build a relationship with me with "clear expectations" WHATEVER THAT MEANS!  Settlement Agreement signed 9/20/17.
Divorce final 3/14/18.
NC - by choice - 1/2018

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #24 on: May 09, 2019, 05:32:19 PM »
A few more to add:

You only want to be with me because I’m popular now.

If we got divorced you would still be my best friend because you are so nice.

I can’t show you trust because it would ruin who I am.

Husband 54
Me 54
Kids 3 sons 28, 26, 23 1 daughter 19
BD #1 Spring 2016
BD #2 Winter 2017
married 32 years.  Together 34
H never moved out except 3 weeks after BD #1
OW 30 year single mom employee-He says EA only I don’t believe him.
He is working on things and far from being cooked.

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #25 on: May 09, 2019, 09:52:49 PM »
A few more

Imagine that I’m away for 2 years like they did in the war, but we don’t have phones!😳
It’s like I’m in this black fog.
I think you should go out on dates with other men
You would never cheat on me
I need to work on me
I don’t know what I’m doing
Work is where I switch off it’s my peaceful place
The people I work with are idiots
I have friends at work!
I’m a recluse
We (ow and him) do a lot of things together but we aren’t a couple

And the list goes on

Offline ChrissYAH

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #26 on: May 09, 2019, 11:45:40 PM »
some doozies lol

I got:

you only want me for my money ( tripled the mortgage nearly left us homeless)
get on with your life find someone else
you deserve better
I don't know what the future holds i might be back
I don't know whats happened to me
I need to escape
I feel dead inside
take our daughter out of the private school and Ill think about staying
someones put a spell on our family

Im sure theres more but i don't care not bothered by lunacy, he's married to the ow and pays her rent hahaa

Offline Milly

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #27 on: May 10, 2019, 01:00:39 AM »
You're a lier
You're a cheat
I never loved you
I should never have married you
I don't have one good memory of our time together
You'll never find someone else
Go to a bar and find someone else
First we divorce, then we can talk about getting back together
Fix the financial problems, and then we can talk about getting back together
I'll never get back with a lier
You are the cause of all our financial problems because you don't know how to do your job
You are the cause of all our financial problems because you don't know how to sell
You are always tired (doing everything just like all you LBSs)
You used your parents (father dead for over 20 years, saved my mother's business for her)
You let your parents do everything for you just like you made me



Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D25, D22, S15
OW Physical Affair same one. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 52 this year.

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #28 on: May 10, 2019, 05:22:42 AM »
Still more

I know what it’s like to have unrequited love
I need to examine the thought that I might come home
I told my family that you threw me out
I told my family that we took a joint decision to separate ( he took that decision all by himself)
I told my family very little

It’s no wonder their lives are like a whirlwind they can’t remember what they said to who

When I found out he had deleted all of hi family and friends from my Facebook his response was well they are nosy 😳😳😳

Offline ChrissYAH

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Re: Script sentences and WTF moments
« Reply #29 on: May 10, 2019, 05:49:27 AM »
Shockandawe Yes! thats another one he was telling everyone that I 'threw him out'

 

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