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Offline Searching4Answers

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Off-Topic Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #110 on: November 07, 2014, 12:32:17 PM »
In order to join we need to send OP a PM with our FB name?

Also, my comments or likes won't show up on my newsfeed?

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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #111 on: November 07, 2014, 12:57:18 PM »
In order to join we need to send OP a PM with our FB name?

Yes, I think so. Not, to my knowledge the likes and comments will not appear on your newsfeed. But you if want to be fully safe create an alternative FB profile just to used on the alt.
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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #112 on: November 15, 2014, 08:02:43 AM »
I'm on 2 different private  FB groups and it's very safe.  The only people who can read your posts are people in the group, no one else.  It does not show up on your regular FB page.
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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #113 on: November 15, 2014, 08:32:28 AM »
Thanks for the reassurance Thunder ;)

The alt makes everyone a little more real.
We all do damage. Character is determined by how we repair it.


BD - December 2012
OW1 confirmed - December 2012 on-and-off for 34 months and counting (still refers to her as just a 'friend')
Wants to live like roommates - November 2013
I moved out - April 2015
H is still checking the anchor

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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #114 on: September 17, 2015, 03:03:57 AM »
So the alt is a private Facebook group?

I was wondering if there was one!
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Offline OldPilotTopic starter

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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #115 on: September 17, 2015, 03:43:02 AM »
So the alt is a private Facebook group?

I was wondering if there was one!

Yes

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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #116 on: October 26, 2015, 09:28:02 AM »
This post will also bump up this thread as it hasn't been up for a while.
The rest of the thread talks about some other groups on FB but today
I want to remind all posters about  the following:

FWIW the facebook page of hero spouse

https://www.facebook.com/theherosspouse

is posting an article or blog post a day and I think we are on our 3rd trip through them all,
if you read one per day, which is what I post,
it takes you about 3/4 of a year to get through them all.

One way to read all the articles!   :) :) :)

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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #117 on: November 05, 2015, 12:18:07 AM »
Hello!

I would like to join you in this FB private page. In fact, I'm part of The Hero'sSpouse page. I have never commented there because it would show on timeline and I would not want to expose myself before my FB friends.

I have  a fake FB page which I used to befriend my H (who would not be friends with me in my real page) and his girlfriend,  ::) but I forgot the email address ???. That was way back in 2010. Now FB does not need our email address for notifications. Also the FB privacy policies allow us to be safe in our communication among members of "secret" groups. I created one for planning a special outing with some friends and only us knew about it; no mention of it on timeline.

From what I read this is a secret group. So, i want to join in. :D I will write to OP to present my request.
Great!



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Re: Are You on the Alt?
« Reply #118 on: August 16, 2016, 06:39:27 PM »
Hi OP,

I'd like to join the FB private page as well.   

Thanks! 
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