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My Story A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« on: February 28, 2017, 11:13:38 PM »
Sorry not sure how to do the new thread.....D

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2017, 01:34:22 PM »
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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2017, 08:11:58 PM »
Surprise surprise its my Birthday today and received a txt from W saying happy Birthday hope you have a great day.
It has been nearly five months since I have heard from her.
I replied ...Why are you sending me Birthday wishes when you are in another relationship. Havent you hurt me enough.
Her reply...sorry damned if I do and damned if I dont.
Me....I guess thats what happens when you betray the ones that Love you.

I know that this was probably the wrong thing to say but Im sick of her popping up and expecting me to be all friendly whilst she is still cheating.
I have to draw a line in the sand for my own health.

What do you think .....D

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2017, 08:17:24 PM »
Happy birthday!!! 

And since it's your birthday you can do whatever you want.  A little truth bomb is your right. 😊
Me: 41
Ex H: 45

MLC started 2013-2014. BD x3 Jan-March 2017. EA confirmed.
He’s playing house with his much younger girlfriend and raising her kids while I am out living life on my Harley! 
PROUDLY AND HAPPILY DIVORCED

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2017, 09:33:25 PM »
Happy Birthday D.

I don't think it's possible to say what's right and what's wrong because every situation is different.

Having said that, my pastor told me that it's important to keep your eye on your goal. What's your goal, D, and do you think that moved you closer to it or further away? If you think it moved you closer, then it was the right thing for you to do. If you think it moved you farther away, you might want to spend some time considering why you did it and how you think you should have responded. If you don't know whether it moved you closer to or further from your goal, ask yourself how it felt. If it felt right, it probably was. If it didn't, then again you might want to spend some time considering why you did it and how you think you should have responded.

I hope your family had a big party and a big cake for your birthday!

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2017, 10:10:52 PM »
Happy Birthday D

Birthdays are strange ones...

My H left May 2015, we did have contact ...my birthday July...got text first thing saying Happy Birthday, hope you have a good day...I just replied "thanks"

He has just had his birthday end Feb 2017...I was really unsure whether to acknowledge it, but for me it was the right thing to do... quite funny how it went though

I texted Him ..Happy birthday with birthday cake emoji...

his response... Wow, yer...totally forgot...thanks

So he forgot it was his birthday...????




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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #6 on: March 06, 2017, 01:57:01 AM »
Hey everybody thank you for your re ponce.

MBIB did it feel good....yes it did as think I had a right to say what I did.
I havent heard a word form her in five months then as I'm getting stronger Bang she pops up again.

I told her nothing but the truth.
She has made no effort for her children let alone her grandson. Has not paid a dime towards our mortgage and as far as child maintenance goes, when our daughter was 16 to 18 I received a measly $7.60 a fortnight.

Then when our daughter turned 18 W got a job........
Has it moved me closer to my goal..... Im not sure I have one only to look after my Family and try and get us all through this mess.

I did have a very enjoyable time with my family in NZ and spent some good quality time with my brother.
We now await until the end of March to see if his treatment has helped.

He is such a lovely man and I often wonder why people like him get taken so soon yet scum like the one my W is having her affair with get to walk around and destroy peoples lives.
It makes no sense....

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #7 on: March 06, 2017, 07:50:19 AM »
No devastated it doesn't make sense, but then I've learned life isn't always fair.

At first when you told us how you replied to your W I cringed.  But then thinking about how she replied back I felt differently.

She doesn't contact you for 5 months and all of a sudden she pops up with a cheery happy birthday and a "I hope you have a great day."  ??  wth?

Did she think that weak attempt to look like she cared was going to alleviate some of her guilt?

Personally, I would have totally ignored the message.  She did not deserve a response.
But if it made you feel better throwing her back a truth dart, more power to you.

It's pretty much telling her you are not interested in being friends while she is with someone else.
I see nothing wrong with that

I'm sorry I don't remember your whole story but do you have any financials legally done?  I would think she should at least be paying child support.
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #8 on: March 06, 2017, 07:07:38 PM »
I agree D. Life makes absolutely no sense. I hope everything goes well for your brother.

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Re: A Brighter Way Ahead - Part 2
« Reply #9 on: March 24, 2017, 11:40:51 PM »
Wishing you a very belated happy birthday, D.  :)

I'm glad your trip to NZ was good and you were able to spend some quality time with your B. So very important.

I'm with Thunder, I wouldn't have replied to W- I'm not suggesting you shouldn't have, just that I wouldn't have given her the time of day. I'm glad you did it for you.

I don't post very often but do follow along.

Wishing you all the best,
Chookie
« Last Edit: March 24, 2017, 11:41:59 PM by Chookie »
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