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Meet-Up LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« on: October 06, 2017, 05:36:44 PM »
Okay, so we've gone back and forth about this a while now, but I finally decided to take the "bull by the horns" so to speak.

Who here would be genuinely interested in a get together?  If so, when and where?  We keep throwing around the idea of a cruise, but are there any other suggestions?  I'm thinking next summer would be good, since we have to have some lead time, and it seems like we have quite a few people here in the education field.

If a cruise,  any suggestions about what cruise line and/or where to go?  And three day cruise,  or a 7 day?  I was thinking maybe a Disney cruise,  so those with younger kids can have a great place for the kids, but I think they are a bit more expensive.   

I don't mind doing some research and comparisons,  but wanted to judge the interest and get ideas from the group first.

Thanks everyone!
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #1 on: October 06, 2017, 05:44:12 PM »
NoEx ...

You know I am IN, IN, IN!!!! 

One question ... I promised my 23-year-old a vacation for so long.  If she can come along, we will be there.

Let me know ;D ;D ;D

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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #2 on: October 06, 2017, 06:01:24 PM »
Never, I think it would be important for families to come if desired. 

Anyone else have thoughts about including families?
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #3 on: October 06, 2017, 08:30:51 PM »
I love the meeting up idea but I’m in the process of moving and trying to find a new job. If you all meet up at for a weekend that is budget friendly I’d like to join in!!!
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #4 on: October 06, 2017, 08:46:18 PM »
I like the idea of meeting up in the summer, but for me... no thanks on a cruise.
I don't do well on cruises (had a bad experience and now have CTSD -- cruise traumatic stress disorder).
Here are some other ideas:

New Orleans Jazz Fest  (April 27- May 6)
Myrtle Beach, SC  (summer weekend)
Rocky Mountain National Park (hey... some summertime glamping)
hiking or relaxing in Sedona AZ  (always beautiful!)

There's always international travel too :)

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« Reply #5 on: October 06, 2017, 08:53:41 PM »
I'm in.  Pretty flexible as to where to go.  Next summer sounds good. 
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #6 on: October 06, 2017, 11:34:12 PM »
US feels a bit rich for my pockets right now...to be honest, I find it hard to even think that far out at the moment!

Was wondering though if any UK folks fancy a get-together? Drunk lunch somewhere? I'm in Suffolk by the sea and happy to host a LBS + fish, chips and fizz weekend!
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #7 on: October 07, 2017, 02:25:48 AM »
Hi Treasur

I'd be up for a UK get-together, and I'm sure a few of the other LBS in my circle would be, too!  Seaside fish and chips sounds really nice. Do PM me and we can throw some ideas around!

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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #8 on: October 07, 2017, 02:45:15 AM »
I have a Vegas family reunion get together the end of the month, and it took 6 months of saving to afford this, then a wedding in Vegas next Oct.,so unless you all want to come to Minnesota (or somewhere close) next summer I probably would have to beg off.

Hey, MN is really fun in the summer.  Lots to do.  ;D ;D
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« Reply #9 on: October 07, 2017, 03:13:09 AM »
Thanks, NoEx, for starting this fabulous discussion!
I can make a short trip work.  Say 2-3 days. 
Would LOVE to meet all you dearies...

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« Reply #10 on: October 07, 2017, 05:45:40 AM »
I can do anywhere except Myrtle Beach.  Husband took OW there last year on a vacation :( :(

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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #11 on: October 07, 2017, 05:58:06 AM »
A LBS get together sounds great! ☺ Anybody up for Amusement Parks or Indoor Water Parks? If so, I know of some places here in Ohio.
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Re: LBS Get together? Cruise or something else??
« Reply #12 on: October 07, 2017, 07:44:05 AM »
I can go anywhere, anytime,.... just let me know.

I love the New Orlean's idea. 

AZ sounds nice too.

Or Thunder's house.  :D

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« Reply #13 on: October 07, 2017, 06:56:45 PM »
I'm interested as well. 

A cruise is probably out for me but I would sure try to get somewhere for a meet up. 

Treasur and UK - I would LOVE to pop over for fish and chips.  If finances ever allow there are several of you across the pond I'd love to meet! 
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« Reply #14 on: October 07, 2017, 08:33:40 PM »
Denver anyone??? :D
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« Reply #15 on: October 07, 2017, 09:22:06 PM »
Attaching.  I don't know if I can make it happen, but following just in case something works out
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« Reply #16 on: October 09, 2017, 08:03:47 AM »
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Attaching.  I don't know if I can make it happen, but following just in case something works out

I'd LOVE to do this, but same for me.  Depends on the time and location.  Not much to here in fabulous Oklahoma, so I would love the chance to get out for a few days.
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« Reply #17 on: October 09, 2017, 11:46:42 AM »
Sunny Calif is also an idea!!  Lake Tahoe, Yosemite ?
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« Reply #18 on: October 09, 2017, 01:23:44 PM »
Sunny Calif is also an idea!!  Lake Tahoe, Yosemite ?

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« Reply #19 on: November 26, 2017, 06:18:33 AM »

New Orleans Jazz Fest  (April 27- May 6)

Revisiting the get together idea....

I like CH's idea of the Jazz Fest, in fact, I'm going to plan to be there either way.

Who else is in?
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« Reply #20 on: November 26, 2017, 09:02:37 AM »
I'd love to go, but I can't get away unless someone is here with Mom.  My sister works for a school district so I can only get away during school breaks, either Spring break or summer, so that won't work for me, unfortunately
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Weekend in Vegas?
« Reply #21 on: March 29, 2018, 06:12:16 PM »
So I've been thinking about doing a long weekend in Vegas over the summer.  Anyone want to come meet up??
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"And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through; how you managed to survive.  You won't even be sure if the storm is really over.  But one thing is certain; when you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in...that's what this storm is all about."

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« Reply #22 on: March 29, 2018, 06:57:13 PM »
[quotehiking or relaxing in Sedona AZ  (always beautiful!)][/quote]

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So I've been thinking about doing a long weekend in Vegas over the summer.  Anyone want to come meet up??

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« Reply #23 on: March 29, 2018, 07:16:41 PM »
I'd like to do Vegas.
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« Reply #24 on: March 29, 2018, 07:19:31 PM »
Sedona AZ also sounds good
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« Reply #25 on: March 29, 2018, 08:00:42 PM »
I'm in
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« Reply #26 on: March 30, 2018, 03:17:37 AM »
Awesome!  I need to see how Mom does through her surgery first.  Then we can pick a weekend.   Is July better, or August? 
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« Reply #27 on: March 30, 2018, 03:39:13 AM »
I might be able to go.  Las Vegas is easy and no car rentals would be needed, so save on money.  Any big city for a weekend would work for those reasons. 

Of course, there is lots of free things to do in Washington DC also!
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« Reply #28 on: March 30, 2018, 10:16:28 AM »
July is better for me.
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« Reply #29 on: March 30, 2018, 10:59:21 AM »
Vegas? Oh yes, I am in!
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« Reply #30 on: March 30, 2018, 11:15:08 AM »
Vegas? This is starting to sound interesting! I could road trip from Denver.
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« Reply #31 on: March 30, 2018, 11:44:08 AM »
I'm just a hop skip and a cross the border line to Vegas! Sounding like an adventure...
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« Reply #32 on: March 30, 2018, 11:45:22 AM »
Awesome!  I need to see how Mom does through her surgery first.  Then we can pick a weekend.   Is July better, or August?

I'm thinking July...
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« Reply #33 on: March 30, 2018, 11:52:16 AM »
I'm fairly new here, but I'm only about a 3 hour drive from Vegas.  What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas...can we leave all our MLCers there?
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« Reply #34 on: March 30, 2018, 11:56:09 AM »
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas...can we leave all our MLCers there?

Dropping them in sin city would only enable them. We need to drop them all in an uninhabited, uncivilized part of the world and let them see what real crisis is.
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« Reply #35 on: March 30, 2018, 07:00:38 PM »
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas...can we leave all our MLCers there?

Dropping them in sin city would only enable them. We need to drop them all in an uninhabited, uncivilized part of the world and let them see what real crisis is.

LMAO. Seriously--Vegas is the LAST place my MLCer should ever be!
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