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Offline Caroline

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Discussion Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #30 on: April 20, 2019, 02:00:41 PM »
IS RCR on this forum? I tried to search RCR and did not locate it. Can you help me find it? I would like to read it.

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #31 on: April 20, 2019, 02:54:24 PM »
IS RCR on this forum? I tried to search RCR and did not locate it. Can you help me find it? I would like to read it.

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #32 on: April 27, 2019, 11:58:18 AM »
Can someone explain to me why the thread about the OW/OM has been locked?
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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #33 on: April 27, 2019, 12:36:34 PM »
Sorry--I meant to post a comment on there. We have locked it--after moderator discussions--for a cool down period. I like the thread--but as you know it went a bit of topic. I will try to remember and come back and post a reason on the thread itself later--making lunch now.

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #34 on: April 27, 2019, 12:53:19 PM »
Thank you

"I can't go back to yesterday I was a different person then"..............Alice in Wonderland

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #35 on: April 28, 2019, 02:19:44 AM »
I wrote a pm note , lost it , how do i find it?

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #36 on: April 28, 2019, 02:41:12 AM »
I hope OP suggestion worked for you.
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #37 on: May 18, 2019, 04:37:42 AM »
Can rcr elaborate on intermittant liminality? My h has always said he doesnt see a future with his ow. well that was 2 years ago and still together. a year ago they broke up and h said he wasnt going to last much longer?   it is stated in the article that  knowing they want to end it happens LONG before they end the affair? how long is long? When they got back together, it seems as though they have developed a more "real" relationship. she finally met his mom. went on vacation together with her kids.  In the same time connecting with my kids more.  more cycling from his end ,it seems.  What is going on?

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #38 on: May 18, 2019, 05:08:12 AM »
KB, I'm sorry I never heard that term "intermittent liminality."

Was that in her articles?  I looked but couldn't find it under her articles on liminality.

Is he acting very depressed?  The depression usually gets much worse when they are in the liminality stage.
 
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: General MLC Questions ?
« Reply #39 on: May 18, 2019, 05:19:20 AM »
  it is stated in the article that  knowing they want to end it happens LONG before they end the affair? how long is long?
I am not RCR but normally anyone trying to put a TIMELINE on anything MLC is on a fools errand.

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