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Meet-Up Meet up near Toronto?
« on: February 10, 2018, 05:24:56 AM »
There are some discussion threads on meet ups for various locations, but alas, too far away for me...  I was wondering if there was any chance of a meet up near Toronto, Canada.  Obviously we would want that in spring and not now.  We would all get bogged down in snow!
No idea if there are other Canuks on the forum so this is a shot in the dark.
Let’s see if there is anyone in this snowy land.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2018, 07:59:50 AM »
Well, you're only a four hour flight....

I'm up for it.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2018, 08:23:15 AM »
So, this is the most exciting thing that I have woke up to in a very long time !!!  LOL!   I am a Torontonian and living less than an hour away. I would be so thrilled with this ...and speaking for Tyks , her too.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #3 on: February 10, 2018, 08:54:08 AM »
Yay!  Let’s make sure this meet happens!  It really doesn’t matter if there are only 2 or 3 or 4...  Tyks, let’s hear from you!  I’m totally snowed in right now, just like the rest of Ontarians but spring IS coming, whether you believe it or not.  How about some time in April?
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #4 on: February 10, 2018, 09:18:10 AM »
This would be a short flight for me too.  I'm interested.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2018, 09:23:42 AM »
Barbie and I are close enough that we could drive together :)
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2018, 09:25:41 AM »
Any recommended hotels in that area that aren't too steep in cost?  And meeting place?
Maybe throw out some dates?
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #7 on: February 10, 2018, 10:21:22 AM »
As far as the possible dates are concerned, I was thinking late April.
As for hotels in or near Toronto, shoot, I have no idea!  Does anyone know of any suitable accommodation?  Airbnb might be an excellent option?  Mr. Google might be able to help out.

I’m determined that this is one meet that’s going to happen by hook or by crook!
It needn’t be a few day thing.  A loooong morning coffee, move to a restaurant for a loooong lunch, move to another coffee shop for a looooong afternoon yak.  If we need to talk more, repeat the next day! 
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #8 on: February 10, 2018, 10:50:32 AM »
I grew up in Niagara - I would love to go up to meet you all, and visit my family too.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2018, 10:57:45 AM »
I'm a 9-10 hour drive, 4 hour flight like nah.

Nah and I might be able to drive or fly together.??
(Nah - maybe we could do this instead of the NE retreat as I only got one other response.)

Sounds like fun!!

Count me in, if the dates work.  I'm having surgery 4/11 so who knows...

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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #10 on: February 10, 2018, 11:27:49 AM »
If you do it in the summer, I'd be interested!  Never been to Toronto!
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #11 on: February 10, 2018, 11:56:41 AM »
So far two people that would prefer some time later than April.
How about late June?  I’ll be in my home country in July and perhaps early part of August.
Barbie, nah, Tyks, MCS, steepspine and hero, can you make it in late June?
A trip to the Niagara Falls (ahem, the Canadian side is bigger and better, all you Americans!  ;D) could go on our agenda, too!  No, barrels won’t be provided for a trip down the fall.

Please let us know when your preferred month for the meet is.
It would be difficult to suit everyone so we will have to be democratic and the highest votes will prevail.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #12 on: February 10, 2018, 02:16:48 PM »
I'll try to come whenever it's scheduled!  My anniversary is 6/23, so that's up in the air right now...  ::)

How 'bout a trip over the falls, without barrels, for our MLCer!!   ;)

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« Reply #13 on: February 10, 2018, 03:00:53 PM »
Acorn,

Don't plan it around me.  But I would possibly be able to come in late June.  Definitely not in April.  My sister works at a school and will be off in the summer to stay with Mom.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #14 on: February 10, 2018, 04:47:25 PM »
I will be able to join you lovelies anytime and I am very excited ! I am not working so easy for me to say, but I do know others need to plan around work, kids etc. So, I have no preferences or restrictions at all. If it is in fact Toronto , I can do some research and find something affordable ( well, for Toronto ) and exciting to see. But, really....I am in for the loooong yaks ! Lol! .
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #15 on: February 10, 2018, 05:08:19 PM »
I have no life so whenever.

Yes Barbie likes to yak!! Lol
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« Reply #16 on: February 10, 2018, 05:37:23 PM »
Tyks  tells truth... I am a yakker !  But I am thinking of taking up drinking!..... might be a good time .
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #17 on: February 10, 2018, 05:46:31 PM »
Looks like we need to set quota for talking time!  ;D I’m really in it for talking, too.  A bit of sightseeing woulnd’t hurt but why get together if not to yakkidy yak?!

I work from home and I’m my own boss.  I can take any day off except when H and I travel to our homeland in July/early August.
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« Reply #18 on: February 10, 2018, 05:53:52 PM »
Late June looks good for me.
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« Reply #19 on: February 10, 2018, 05:57:16 PM »
I’ll figure it out. Whatever works for the rest of you.
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« Reply #20 on: February 10, 2018, 06:12:22 PM »
This is really going somewhere!
How about the last week of June?  That’s 25th to 30th. 
Once we decide on the date, we can figure out where we can get a drink for Barbie.
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« Reply #21 on: February 10, 2018, 06:12:51 PM »
Great Barbie:
So you know that alcohol makes you more loquacious?  Great!  HAHA ;D
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« Reply #22 on: February 12, 2018, 12:02:51 AM »
Late June would be perfect!
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« Reply #23 on: February 12, 2018, 04:50:01 AM »
OK, ladies (well, no man has joined the discussion as of yet), it seems as though late June is favoured by several. 

The last week of June is good with everyone?  Of course, your willingness to come and meet our fabulous selves is the only thing we need right now.  No pressure to commit.  Life changes... 

However, if we nail the dates down early enough people can start planning.

So, what we need is your vote on “THE LAST WEEK OF JUNE IN TORONTO’.  A simple yes or no.
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« Reply #24 on: February 12, 2018, 04:52:54 AM »
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« Reply #25 on: February 12, 2018, 05:06:36 AM »
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« Reply #26 on: February 12, 2018, 05:15:46 AM »
2 votes so far.  That makes 3, including me.
Keep them coming!
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« Reply #27 on: February 12, 2018, 06:56:08 AM »
yes.
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« Reply #28 on: February 12, 2018, 10:07:13 AM »
Yes!
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« Reply #29 on: February 12, 2018, 04:29:48 PM »
Just noticed this thread - I'm in the 'peg, a short flight away from TO. Think this may the first attempted Canuck HS moot... FWIW i'll be in Toronto anyway for work beginning of May, in case that works for any of you? End June is tougher but i can try. Would be lovely to meet up.
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« Reply #30 on: February 12, 2018, 05:39:25 PM »
If you guys don't mind, I would like to bring along E....

How are you guys with "My cousin Vinny in Toronto"?  ;)

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« Reply #31 on: February 12, 2018, 05:44:45 PM »
Seems I may be able to arrange to catch a flight north to join this little meet up! 

After all, tomorrow is another day.
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« Reply #32 on: February 12, 2018, 05:48:51 PM »
Nah, I'd love to meet E!  But I'd also like some time just for us LBS' if that's okay.  I think we all could overwhelm a "normal" person hahaha!
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« Reply #33 on: February 12, 2018, 06:42:57 PM »
Seriously? Everyone stateside wants to come and see us canucks, eh? So awesome. Looking forward to it!
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« Reply #34 on: February 13, 2018, 04:36:20 AM »
Wow!  A whole lotta people interested in coming to the Toronto meet up.  At this rate, we might have to rent a baseball stadium for the meet!  I’ve got a feeling this may actually happen. :D

Thanks to all those that responded and are hoping to come!
I will try to keep this thread alive as a reminder that a fabulous LBS convention is coming up soon.

Thanks to the fairy godmother/god father that changed the icon from ‘discussion’ to ‘meet up’!




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« Reply #35 on: February 13, 2018, 04:54:07 AM »
Acorn,

Have you looked at Air BnB?  Maybe you can find a house to rent, and we can all stay together.  That would be major fun!  Pajama parties!  ;D
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« Reply #36 on: February 13, 2018, 06:00:10 AM »
Geez, don't come on for a couple of weeks and now there is a meet up???  Count me IN!!!!!!  Since it's only an hour away, sounds great to me!!  June sounds great!  WOOHOO!

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« Reply #37 on: February 13, 2018, 11:07:22 PM »
I'm a yes!
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« Reply #38 on: February 14, 2018, 12:27:52 AM »
So jealous. I'll be there in spirit!
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« Reply #39 on: February 14, 2018, 04:16:07 AM »
Wow, I’m gobsmacked by the number of ‘yes’ responders!   To be honest, I initially thought the meet up suggestion was a shot in the dark.   

Milly, how about you send us something a little more solid than your ‘spirit’?  Like, ahem, a cardboard cutout of you?  ;D

To those that are only at the drooling stage: you have several months to organize your life so that you can get away for a few days???  Why not?!
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« Reply #40 on: February 14, 2018, 04:48:40 AM »
If invited, here is one more yes.

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« Reply #41 on: February 14, 2018, 05:10:43 AM »
If invited, here is one more yes.

1P!!!!!  O, how would I LOVE to meet you!  I will let you know about the sugar hat... 
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« Reply #42 on: February 14, 2018, 07:03:13 AM »

To those that are only at the drooling stage: you have several months to organize your life so that you can get away for a few days???  Why not?!

I get financial worries and I know many on this site have been left a huge bucket of suck, believe me, I do but.....

Remember that trip you were planning on going on with your husband and didn't because of...

work
bills
family obligations
kids
fear of the unknown
fill in blank here....


If you live anywhere in the states all you need is a few tanks of gas and some time.... isn't that what we have been given?

Time.

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« Reply #43 on: February 14, 2018, 07:06:26 AM »
I may even bring some sugar hats, that is if I can get them across the border😀
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« Reply #44 on: February 14, 2018, 07:48:13 AM »
I wouldn't mind going. I only live about 4 hours away.
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« Reply #45 on: February 14, 2018, 08:06:17 AM »
UNBELIEVABLE!!!
I counted 13 people that would like to come to the meet up.  Plus one cardboard cut out of Milly. ;D

As we are not millionaires, it would be good to share the cost as much as we can.
NoEx suggested AirBnb.  An excellent idea for accommodation.  Those keen to have one (or more) gigantic pyjama party can save $$$ in several ways.  The rental cost, meals prepared at the place, etc.

Maybe some meeting places can be organized so that you Americans can park and drive together.
Why don’t you throw up some potential meet up points?

Nah, you start, please?
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« Reply #46 on: February 14, 2018, 08:22:16 AM »
Believe it or not, I'm a horrible planner.  I seriously don't even know where I'm going to be next week.

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« Reply #47 on: February 14, 2018, 02:39:55 PM »
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« Reply #48 on: February 14, 2018, 06:09:33 PM »
Believe it or not, I'm a horrible planner.  I seriously don't even know where I'm going to be next week.

But we all know where you WON'T be on a given day in March!!   ;)
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« Reply #49 on: February 14, 2018, 09:10:47 PM »
Believe it or not, I'm a horrible planner.  I seriously don't even know where I'm going to be next week.

But we all know where you WON'T be on a given day in March!!   ;)

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« Reply #50 on: February 18, 2018, 06:40:24 PM »
So is it going to be Toronto proper or another town?  Sorry just a curious one.
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« Reply #51 on: February 19, 2018, 07:40:30 AM »
Hi 1P,
You asked a good question regarding the meet up place. 

Seeing that some would fly in, it makes sense to pick a place in downtown Toronto.  There is a train service from Pearson airport right into the city centre. 

Having said that, fellow Ontarians, what do you think?  Does it make sense to meet somewhere in Toronto proper?  I rarely go to Toronto so I’m not that well informed as to the suitability of the location, except that it will be convenient for the flyers and drivers.  There is no shortage of hotels and AirBnB, I assume. 
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« Reply #52 on: February 19, 2018, 10:12:16 AM »
Let me know the date.  I might be able to fly in for a weekend, but the first weekend of that week is my anniversary - not that that's saying much...  ;D

I'd like to come the second weekebd possibly.  Just let me know the dates.
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« Reply #53 on: February 19, 2018, 11:51:04 AM »
Yes , I have been thinking about this actually . Sort of thought about staying in and around airport for convenience of "flyer"...but not anything to "see" if that is of interest of those in Toronto for the 1st time. The Lakeshore is lovely, walkways along Lake Ontario, cafe's , shops etc... but very pricey . I will continue to do some research .. and I do have some contacts that may have some great ideas .
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« Reply #54 on: February 19, 2018, 04:56:21 PM »
Silently following along, if even just for the "hmm...maybe?"  I need to get my passport, which I was planning on doing for the cruise, but didn't need it for the cruise, just makes things easier.

That date does seem to fall on a week that MLCer has the kids.  And I DO want to travel more!

The more economical, the better.  And it would depend on if I am off from the school and not starting work at a new job.
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« Reply #55 on: February 19, 2018, 05:42:16 PM »
Crap, I forgot about needing a passport.  ::) The last time I was in Canada, you didn't need one.
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« Reply #56 on: February 20, 2018, 02:26:19 AM »
Getting excited...fingers crossed... I hope I can, I hope I can...
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« Reply #57 on: February 20, 2018, 09:08:32 AM »
No Ex,

You and I both are the little trains.


Hmmm, maybe we can get Never to join in..?
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« Reply #58 on: February 20, 2018, 10:03:10 AM »
The absolute BEST therapy I ever had was meeting other LBSers at a "meet up". It is definitely worth the cost. There hasn't been a meet up for quite some time...and I smile as I hear the excitement in your thoughts.

I wish I could join you but I will be in Toronto for Mother's Day and again in October so the dates wouldn't work well for me. If anyone in the area wants to meet up with me for a coffee or lunch on Monday May 14, I just need to be to the Airport by 2:00 PM for my flight home.

What I found helpful in the logistics of meet ups I attended was for everyone to be able to stay in the same hotel...their are reasonable places like Quality Inn and Hampton Inn that will include breakfast perhaps which also cuts down on cost...the difficulty is having a place where everyone can gather together to share their stories...so a hotel that has a bar or restaurant where everyone can hang out (or a room that they would let you have) is a good thing to consider.

Being close to downtown is also a nice thing so people can explore the area either as a group or in smaller breakout groups. Making dinner reservations in advance is also essential as Toronto is a very busy city and if you are a large group, you would like to all sit together.

The Lakeshore area is beautiful and a nice place to walk if the weather is good.

Remember that the US dollar is stronger than the Canadian dollar so that helps.

Airfares can be steep, so one suggestion for US people to consider is to fly to Buffalo NY, rent a car together or take a shuttle into the city.  You could also combine a trip to Niagara Falls if you did that.

Stayed was the first to arrange a meet up in Luxembourg. I will never forget meeting others, people I only knew on line and really could only see them as their HS name...as well as having the opportunity to meet her husband who had been a MLCer. He handed all our questions with such honesty. I came away from that trip knowing that I was going to be ok. The other LBSers were absolutely amazing and beautiful people and that also validated that this was not about me.

I think that we had about 20 LBSers in Leeds, there were also meet ups in Portugal, Ireland, NYC and California..each time I came away with a sense of hope that I did not have before meeting these amazing people.

So, do please consider going if you can. I must say you will not regret it.
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« Reply #59 on: February 22, 2018, 04:54:34 PM »
I totally agree that a meetup is phenomenal therapy and a great time. I have attended 3. The one in Ireland, which was one of the best times of my life, one in Pennsylvania and one in New York city. I thought it was going to be all tears and sad stories, but we all had a great time. I can't join, but I will be looking forward to reports of how this goes.
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« Reply #60 on: February 23, 2018, 08:23:28 AM »
I am going to fling myself out of my comfort zone, so count me in as well!
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« Reply #61 on: February 23, 2018, 06:23:10 PM »
I just talked with Never.  I've already put in for that week off from work, I have to wait to see if I get it.  I think I should be able to. 

If so, I plan to fly up to Chicago on Tuesday the 26th, and ride with her to Toronto.  It looks like an 8 hour drive, which is very do-able!  Please keep me posted!! :)
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« Reply #62 on: February 23, 2018, 06:43:19 PM »
O my goodness!  This meet is really going to happen.  I can hardly believe it!
Thank you so much everyone for your interest and enthusiam for the meet.

xyzcf, you gave us a golden nugget of information.  We would love to hear from others that were lucky enough to have gone to a meet.  All hints and advices will be much appreciated.

NoEx, so good to hear of your contact with Never.  I’m crossing my fingers and toes that you can both make it to Toronto to meet us Canuks and many others.  I’d better go and practice my real hugs!

I’m SO excited!!!!!!!!!
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« Reply #63 on: February 23, 2018, 09:11:19 PM »
I just stumbled across this thread. I like visiting Toronto. I'm only a 3 hour drive away. By the end of June I'll be on break from school and my CC-EMT course will be finished so I would have to be crazy not to join you. In case you're not sure how to interpret that, that's a yes, I plan to attend. It would be nice to see some more guys jump in.

xyzcf's advice was very good, especially the advice about having a place where everyone can get together and visit. Everybody wound up in the room Pete (Bailmor) and I were sharing. Something to do with Pete bringing a portable bar with him. It got a little bit crowded in there. Come to think of it, we need to get Pete to come to this!

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« Reply #64 on: February 23, 2018, 09:29:25 PM »
I am so looking forward to this meetup!

I will be staying in Niagara visiting family with my boys, so realistically I will only be able to join all of you for only one of the days.

Unless of course you all want to have a field trip down to my neighborhood and tour the wineries!!

fwiw, I always fly into Buffalo, then drive over the border into Canada. The airport is easier and flights are often cheaper, but then you have to rent a car.
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« Reply #65 on: February 27, 2018, 05:04:52 AM »
sounds fun

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« Reply #66 on: February 27, 2018, 05:19:08 AM »
It looks like we may have a LBS convention of sorts.  I counted at least 15 that would like to make to the meet.  I’m flabbergasted...  I think the destination (‘foreign’ for our US friends) might have been the clincher.  Who knew...

So, just to remind you, we settled on the last week and weekend of June.  Most probably in downtown Toronto for convenience, especially for those that wish take the opportunity to be tourists as well as meet LBS friends.  Lots to see and enjoy in Toronto!  It’s usually not very hot in June, which means that walking around the town is rather pleasant.

I read that if you are a US citizen, you don’t need a passport to cross the border by car.  Just an enhanced driver’s license will do it.  If you are flying, you need a passport. 

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« Reply #67 on: February 27, 2018, 05:43:34 AM »
So when you say the last weekend also, do you mean just the 29th and 30th, or are you including July 1st as well? I'd like to go but don't know if I can swing the whole week.
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« Reply #68 on: February 27, 2018, 06:30:37 AM »
We were shooting for a massive meet up either 29 or 30.  Other than that, you would arrive any day you like, maybe arrange a small group meets, go to Niigata Falls, shop at Easton centre (the high USD exchange rate will give you all the necessary excuses) and enjoy the multicultural cuisine.  Our lakeside park is fabulous!  You could catch a ferry to Centre Island, too. It is lovely. 

May I suggest that you all reserve 29/30 for the big group meet up and arrange small group meets via PM?  It could be just 2 people, or 3, or 4...
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« Reply #69 on: February 27, 2018, 07:32:18 AM »
I think the laws have changed regarding the need for a passport to enter Canada.


https://travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/country/canada.html


Entry into Canada: Canadian law requires that all persons entering Canada carry both proof of citizenship and proof of identity. A valid U.S. passport, passport card, or NEXUS card satisfies these requirements for U.S. citizens. Children under 16 need only present proof of U.S. citizenship.
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« Reply #70 on: February 27, 2018, 07:48:28 AM »
Yes..you must have a passport . My daughter recently discovered this when her friend from Kentucky was denied entry because she had no passport . Good to know .
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« Reply #71 on: February 27, 2018, 08:02:35 AM »
Thanks xyzcf and barbiedoll. I thought I had heard where you had to have one, but since I've never really traveled out of the country I wasn't sure.
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« Reply #72 on: February 27, 2018, 08:54:50 AM »
You need a passport to fly into Canada from the US. Both sides accept my Enhanced Drivers License for land crossing.
The following information from the Peace Bridge Authority should apply for all land crossings. 

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« Reply #73 on: February 27, 2018, 11:58:31 AM »
I don't have an EDL. I think I'm going to get a passport anyway. A couple friends of mine mentioned a cruise...something to consider for next February.
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« Reply #74 on: February 27, 2018, 12:07:06 PM »
Honestly, I would be very careful traveling without a passport. A Canadian friend of mine who lives permanently in the US found for the first time, driving across the border in Alberta that he had to present both his passport and green card. He had never been asked before.

Indeed, with things the way they are going, a change could be made quite suddenly and it does take a few weeks to get a passport. The good news is the passport is  good for 10 years.
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« Reply #75 on: February 27, 2018, 08:00:54 PM »
Suggestions for lodging?  
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« Reply #76 on: March 09, 2018, 04:47:25 AM »
Dear ladies (well, no man willing to join so far),

I hope you have been doing some planning and looking up accommodations, etc.
We all know we need to GAL.  This meet-up is the poster child for GAL, don’t you think?
Get your passports if you are flying in or enhanced drivers licence will suffice if you are driving, link with those that live close by to travel together, etc.  You can PM each other, of course, but you can use this thread as well if you are not compromising your privacy.

Low Canadian dollar (what a bummer for the Canuks!) will be so beneficial to our American friends.  Be ready to hear a lot of ‘sorry’, ‘excuse me’, ‘you are welcome’ once you get hear.  We are pretty nice!  Our coffee is cheap, too.  We have Tim Hortons.  Just don’t get addicted to their donuts.  I never develped taste for Poutine but you can try it while your are here.  Never mind the calories...

Cant’ wait till our meet up!!!!!!!
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #77 on: March 09, 2018, 03:22:27 PM »
Acorn,

Where do you recommend we stay?  I'd love to be at the same hotel or b and b as the others....
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« Reply #78 on: March 09, 2018, 03:36:57 PM »
As far as males, last I read, I thought Bro (MBIB) was planning on joining us.  Did I miss something???

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« Reply #79 on: March 17, 2018, 09:26:45 AM »
Its a 5 hour drive for me im in montreal anyone near me

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« Reply #80 on: March 17, 2018, 09:46:36 AM »
Yes , I have been thinking about this actually . Sort of thought about staying in and around airport for convenience of "flyer"...but not anything to "see" if that is of interest of those in Toronto for the 1st time. The Lakeshore is lovely, walkways along Lake Ontario, cafe's , shops etc... but very pricey . I will continue to do some research .. and I do have some contacts that may have some great ideas .

Hey, Barbie, any news from your contacts re accommodation?  NoEx would like to know where she could stay. 

Does anyone know which websites are excellent for finding accommodations in Toronto?  I’m clueless as I never stay in a Toronto hotel for obvious reasons.  I live not too far away!

MBIB, my apologies.  I totally forgot that you are planning on coming! So, 1 man is coming.  I wonder If there might be other men interested in joining us.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #81 on: March 17, 2018, 11:11:37 AM »
I was wondering about lodging also. Where is everyone else staying?
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« Reply #82 on: March 17, 2018, 12:13:03 PM »
Yes... need to get a bit serious now . I guess we need to start with an actual head count .. an actual number or as close as we can get. Also a tiny bit confused about the dates . Is is a week long block of time or a weekend ... like Friday to Monday maybe?   I know it is the end of june... but I think that weekend runs into Canada day ?.    So..maybe get some facts and us Canadians ( me, Tyks, Acorn etc etc ) will get serious about some concrete accomodations etc. 

so a head count, dates people intend  ( longish weekend or week? ) , any hotel preferences etc etc ...

I for headcount #1 am absolutely going. I assumed it was for a "long weekend"  ( but could of course be wrong ) and I prefer to have my own room as I snore nasty ...lol!

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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #83 on: March 17, 2018, 02:52:53 PM »
I took the time off already.  I plan on driving with my daughter (hope everyone is fine with that as she is 23 and has gone through this with me ... knows it all.) 

I'm up for anything and everything ;D ;D ;D

Unless, of course, some last-minute drama happens.  It'd have to be pretty dramatic to stop me, though!!

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« Reply #84 on: March 17, 2018, 03:05:03 PM »
I've never been to Toronto...and I'm finding myself musing, hmmm

Can someone remind me of the dates so I can look at how do-able it is for me and if I think I can afford it???
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #85 on: March 17, 2018, 04:02:02 PM »
We discussed possible dates and came up with the last week of June. (Mon, 25 - Sat, 29)
Not sure how previous meets were organized.
Is the idea to have a day where everyone comes together for a gala meet and other days can be for small group meets for heart to heart talks?

Barbie pointed out that Canadians have a long weekend (Canada day is July 1, Sunday) that week.   That could work wonderfully for our American friends as they will be able to enjoy 2 fireworks in 1 week.  July 1 in Canada and the 4th in the USA! 

Canadians, is the long weekend going to be a problem for you?

May I suggest Thu, Jun 28 or Fri Jun 29 for the gala meet?

Please pitch in with your ideas!  I remember counting at least 13.  Can’t have 13.  Treasur, you may have to come. ;D
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« Reply #86 on: March 17, 2018, 04:17:08 PM »
The meet ups I attended, people pretty well stayed at the same accommodation and had drinks before dinner and dinner together. We also went out "exploring" but for me, the most interesting (and also tiring) was to talk to others. I think MBIB spoke about how in the NY Meetup, they spent time in his hotel room which was quite crowded. People tended to want to be together.

It is intense and tiring and I needed some quiet sometimes to just process all that I was hearing.

The person/people organizing planned some activity to do. In Portugal, we went to place that made porto, Stayed led us on a tour of Luxenbourgh.

Have you considered renting a house through Airb&b? Although I too prefer to have my own room to retreat to.

One of the problems I have seen is to get people to commit to the date and actually make a reservation. You are getting into wedding season, and many hotels may be booked already. Also the Toronto Jazz festival will be on from June 22 to July 1, 2018 which might make accommodation more difficult to find.

I stayed a few times with a group of friends at the Westwind Inn which is in Buckhorn. It would make a great place to gather together, privacy. They have a dining room as well so once you get there you don't have to leave to go anywhere.

http://www.westwindinn.net

It has been many years since I have been there though.

Here is a site that lists various resorts in the Toronto area...you might find something you like:

https://www.400eleven.com/accommodation/resorts

The Spa at St Anne is wonderful but pricey.

Sorry, I know I am not even going to be with you all but just wanted to throw some of my experience with other meet ups for your consideration.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #87 on: March 17, 2018, 08:05:14 PM »
I'm in!!! Yippppppppeeeeeeee!  I just need to book my flights.  Planning to come
on Tuesday or Wednesday.   Need to be home by Friday or Saturday.   

I'd really like to be able to visit with everyone.   I was also thinking, it would be awesome to have a spa day!  And a jazz festival?  How cool is that!!  I'm so excited  ;D

It would be fun if we could set up a gift exchange.   Maybe one of those, pick a gift or stealing kind. I do that every year at Christmas,  and it's always a blast!  We could put a limit on the cost of the gift, and ask everyone that wants to participate,  to bring a gift that commemorates their home town or state.  We could do it the day of our big get together!

If there is anything I can do to help, let me know.   ;)
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« Reply #88 on: March 17, 2018, 08:12:36 PM »
I think Watcher is thinking about coming.  He's working on getting his Passport, so Brain shouldn't be the only guy there.

I am watching this space.  It would depend on how much I could budget for it.  I've also never traveled that far before on my own, so I'm a bit scared, but excited at the same time. 

I would need to be home by Sunday night (June 30) to pick up the kids from MLCer. 

I have my Passport photo, now just need to finish the Passport paperwork.

I have no problems sharing a room with someone if need be, to lessen the financial burden for someone else who might be thinking of going but is worried about cost as well.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #89 on: March 19, 2018, 07:40:39 PM »
Just checking in to see if there is any update to the hotel question....  ;D
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« Reply #90 on: March 20, 2018, 04:02:48 AM »
I went to Dr. Google and found the information below.  Trivago.  This hotel is in downtown, close to public transport, has massive lounge and restaurant that can accommodate big groups and price is reasonable.

Search: Hotel Toronto downtown.
Click on Trivago
Enter dates.  I entered June 25-29.
The second option will show you Holiday Inn. 
Reasonable price.  $218 CAD/per night,  2 beds, parking.
Close to public transport, lots of eateries, tourist attractions. 

Barbie and Tyks, any ideas?



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« Reply #91 on: March 20, 2018, 05:31:27 AM »
I’m thinking that if we designate a hotel as the ‘centre’ of our meets, people can look for accommodation either in this hotel or others nearby.

I think it would be prudent to book your rooms ASAP as Toronto is a busy place in summer.

If some/all of you could check out the Holiday Inn, downtown Toronto, please post here if you think it is a suitable for you or not.  If you want share a room to split the cost, you can PM with a like-minded person or post it here.

I hope this starts the ball rolling in terms of concrete plans. 

If we were to go to a place in a lovely country setting etc, it would involve a lot more logistic issues.  I tend to think that sticking to Toronto downtown proper might be the most convenient option. 

This holiday inn has underground parking for those driving in.  For the fliers, you can hop on the train at the airport that takes you right into the Union station and then you can use the transit system to the hotel.  There are help kiosks that will direct you. 

Please get your thought on the thread, please.


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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #92 on: March 20, 2018, 05:51:20 AM »
I think that makes a lot of sense, Acorn.  Thank you for making arrangements for all of this. I'll check out the hotel later, but I love the idea.
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« Reply #93 on: March 21, 2018, 03:07:59 AM »
Is it the one on Carlton Street?  It's called Toronto City Centre? 

I'm fine staying in a room  alone but I'm willing to share if someone needs a roomie  ;)
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« Reply #94 on: March 21, 2018, 03:31:45 AM »
I think Toronto downtown is probably the best option and 218 a night if shared with two people is not bad.  The other option is the airport hotels,  they are sometimes cheaper and depending in how many are flying may be more convenient
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« Reply #95 on: March 21, 2018, 05:33:15 AM »
I will spend some time on this later today... and Tyks and I are doing lunch soon and will put our brains and pen and paper to it.  We will post some links and get this moving!.. I am very excited !   Right Tyks ??   
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« Reply #96 on: March 21, 2018, 08:50:56 AM »
I am hoping to make the trek this summer.  Following along.
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« Reply #97 on: April 08, 2018, 07:31:26 AM »
With everything going on with my Mom and her upcoming surgery,  I haven't made any firm plans to go, but I am still very much hoping to be there!
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« Reply #98 on: April 08, 2018, 07:54:02 AM »
I got my enhanced driver’s license, and I’m hoping to make it up there too.
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« Reply #99 on: April 09, 2018, 04:33:50 AM »
Keeping this thread alive!

Barbie and Tyks, any suggestions from your meet?
Would love to hear your ideas as I’m an ignoramus about Toronto city proper.
People are spending $$$ to get to Toronto and I thought that a place where we can gather without having to pay a fee for a conference room, etc., is the way to go.  Hence, the Holiday Inn in Toronto.  If you two have come up with a much better option, please do share! 

For those wishing to participate in the meet up, I strongly suggest that you book a hotel/motel/AirBnB ASAP.  If you would like to share a room, please start ‘advertising’ here on the thread or PM to the potential roommates. 

I hope you are much less of procrastinator than I am!  Get your bookings done pronto because Toronto is a very busy place with lots of tourists in summer. 

So looking forward to our meet!  I even declined a trip with H to be able to attend this meet. 
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« Reply #100 on: April 30, 2018, 07:43:29 AM »
As we get closer to a potential meetup at the end of June, shall we see a show of hands if you have booked your accommodation?  Remember, look for action, not words!  ;D



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« Reply #101 on: April 30, 2018, 07:50:25 AM »
I was waiting to hear if there was a specific place(s) where everyone is trying to stay.
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1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

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« Reply #102 on: April 30, 2018, 09:14:40 AM »
A few have agreed that the Holiday Inn, Toronto downtown, 30 Carlton st, was a good meeting place for our group.  Any accommodation at this place or a hotel/AirBnB nearby would be good.  If anyone wants to share a room to share the cost, this thread maybe be a good place to ‘advertise’.

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« Reply #103 on: May 01, 2018, 10:10:51 AM »
I still want to come. I'll have to wait and see how mom is doing, to make sure that my sister will be able to take care of her while I'm gone.
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« Reply #104 on: May 01, 2018, 10:20:29 AM »
Sorry, all, I've been fantasising about it but XH's recent shenanigans have delayed me getting hold of house funds for a few months yet. I'll just look forward to hearing all about it from over the pond  :)
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« Reply #105 on: May 01, 2018, 11:25:53 AM »
I guess it depends on whether people want to be near the airport or downtown.  They are not close at all.  Once people decidewhich area they want then it would be easier to pick a date. And what is the date?  Lol
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« Reply #106 on: May 01, 2018, 01:53:33 PM »
I have to work Tuesday througt Thursday which would only give me two days :(
Can we extend it until at least July 1st or 2nd?

Any possibilities?

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« Reply #107 on: May 01, 2018, 06:15:45 PM »
just doing some comparison and hotel shopping . As previously mentioned by Acorn  ...the Holiday Inn on Carlton

https://www.ihg.com/holidayinn/hotels/us/en/toronto/yyzct/hoteldetail#

It is downtown @ 218.00 a night ( and that can change )  . Close by ( for those who want to sightsee) is  CN Tower, Ripley's Aquarium, Royal Ontario Museum.



OR ... Hotels close to airport ( shuttle from airport to hotel ) is 162.00 ( but that can change)

http://doubletree3.hilton.com/en/hotels/ontario/doubletree-by-hilton-toronto-airport-YTOAPDT/index.html
close to Canada Wonderland, Square 1(shopping )  and woodbine Casino.

OR

http://www.hitorontoairport.ca/accommodations/guest-rooms.php   ( shuttle from airport as well)

150.00per night ...Has Perkins, resturants all around. Can shuttle back to airport and train downtown for those who want to do that .


If there was a final count , a call could be made to see if there is a discount etc .



So, and this is a total guess ... Wed June 27th until Sunday July 1st  ( I have no real idea the actual dates people want )...


Best to check out these webpages ... or any others if you like ... and see what you all think . This will be a bit of a challenge to organize !! LOL!

NOTE: Any hotel rate can change ...until it is booked.  Also need to remember July 1st is Canada Day and the cost might skyrocket on this particular weekend ... ugh!

Maybe early july ( away from Canada Day) is a better idea... just throwing that out there for consideration... it does not matter a bit to me .   


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« Reply #108 on: May 01, 2018, 06:23:10 PM »
If we can get ACTUAL dates and confirm ACTUAL number of people... we can call and see if there are group rates etc .
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« Reply #109 on: May 01, 2018, 07:44:47 PM »
I was hoping to attend but the price of airfare will eliminate that possibility.   :'(
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« Reply #110 on: May 02, 2018, 06:54:38 AM »
I can not attend...I have decided to take a vacation to visit my son.  Sorry!
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11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
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1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
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« Reply #111 on: May 02, 2018, 07:20:41 AM »
How many people are there?

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« Reply #112 on: May 02, 2018, 07:38:29 AM »
This is the question ...how many people ?  So lets starts a count ..

Me and Tyks and Acorn = 3
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« Reply #113 on: May 02, 2018, 07:49:20 AM »
At my last count there were around 12-13 people interested in the meet.  However, as Barbie just mentioned, there are 3 fully committed because we don’t live too far away from Toronto. 

 
Maybe early july ( away from Canada Day) is a better idea... just throwing that out there for consideration... it does not matter a bit to me .   

July 1 weekend is a tricky time for Canadians.  You know, long weekend and all.  I’m going to throw in alternative dates.  (Well, Barbie, you started it!  ;D)

How about September?  All the hustle and bustle of summer holidays will be over, kids back at school, potentially lower costs for hotels, airfare. 

Could be October, too.

What do you all think?  Am I crazy???
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« Reply #114 on: May 02, 2018, 08:19:58 AM »
I like that option. I'm going to Florida at the end of May and will most likely need some recoup time between billing cycles.
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« Reply #115 on: May 02, 2018, 08:47:48 AM »

I am interested in coming..haven't joined in the discussion as was waiting for a firm date to be set..
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« Reply #116 on: May 02, 2018, 11:43:26 AM »
I would entertain a meeting later in the summer or early fall.  Also would only be attending for the weekend...fri/sat leave early sunday
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1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

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« Reply #117 on: May 02, 2018, 02:08:56 PM »
My gut tells me that a fall meeting might be better, but like Sam, I could only do a long weekend due to work constraints (we pick our vacation in the Fall for the entire next year), and I don’t have any September days... :-\
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« Reply #118 on: May 03, 2018, 05:11:03 PM »
I have the last week of June off, but really can't make firm plans until I see how Mom is doing.  If you change it, I'll still try to see if I can make it  ;)
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« Reply #119 on: May 06, 2018, 01:05:00 PM »
I am going to be in Niagara for two weeks, from late June to early July.   I haven't booked the flights yet, but it is absolutely definite: my Mom's Celebration of Life is on July 1st.

Because I will have my three boys with me, I was thinking that I would come up to T.O. just overnight.
It is entirely possible that my boys would come with me, but for part of the time I could let them hang out in the hotel room with iPads and room service  ;D, so I could at least have a little time to get to know you all.
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« Reply #120 on: May 06, 2018, 01:12:27 PM »
I mentioned this before, so i don't want to hijack, or pot-stir or anything, but if y'all came to Niagara, the Americans could fly into Buffalo (cheaper!) and we could all go and get tipsy at the wineries. 

Just sayin.
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« Reply #121 on: May 08, 2018, 04:45:30 AM »
About the meet up dates and place.  I think we discussed it and it was kind of settled as below:

Time: Some time in the final week of June
Place: Toronto Downtown.  Holiday Inn has a large comfy lobby where we could meet

Please let us know if you have made firm arrangements re air travel, hotel, etc.

If not many can come (life happens...), we could seriously start looking at a fresh meet-up initiative.



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« Reply #122 on: May 09, 2018, 11:03:46 AM »
I don’t think I can make those times, but am interested in the next one or a local one...
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« Reply #123 on: May 09, 2018, 06:36:24 PM »
yikes... this will be tricky to organize , but it can be done. I am a little confused , so here goes .

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How about September?  All the hustle and bustle of summer holidays will be over, kids back at school, potentially lower costs for hotels, airfare. 

Could be October, too.
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Yes, it was me that mentioned Canada Day because it apparently can increase hotel costs. Then I saw the above post from Acorn  asking about a possible change to the fall ..September or October perhaps . Seems many responses in agreement with that . I like that idea as well, but also can do june. Majority rules I suspect .

Last post seems to be back to june ? What am I missing? I am happy to do either ..but it is easy for me of course . Its more about those with flights etc.  Niagara is do able too... speaking only for myself .  Whatever shall we do ladies?? ( or gents?  were there gents?).
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« Reply #124 on: May 09, 2018, 09:50:54 PM »
I know what you mean, barbiedoll - my apologies to all, if I have muddied things - I was just being goofy.

My flight is booked: I will be in Niagara from June 23 to July 3. The actual weekend of July 1st will be busy with family, so the perfect time for me will be from the 25th to the 29th. Realistically I can only manage one night away in T.O. with my kids, so let me know what night will be best and I will be there :D
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« Reply #125 on: May 10, 2018, 04:53:30 AM »
Sorry about the confusion, Barbie.  I guess I didn’t use the rule of 3 when I made a suggestion about alternative dates.  ::)

May I suggest that the meet goes ahead in the last week of June for the few of us that can make it and, if desired, organize another one for a later date for a bigger crowd. 

So far, we have 1 person from abroad, Steelspine, who is sure about the meet. 
There are 3 Ontarians, namely Barbie, Tyks and me.  Total of 4 persons. It looks like a quorum for the meet to me!

The location of the meet can be decided once we have the final list of attendees. 

What do you think, everyone?


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« Reply #126 on: May 11, 2018, 11:14:23 AM »
I am going to be up in Toronto sometime this summer as my son wants to go to University of Toronto.  So just in case it works out, I wanted to be on this thread.  Thanks!
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« Reply #127 on: May 13, 2018, 07:06:03 PM »
Canadian prices are a bit much for me, even with the current favorable exchange rate, but I only live about 3 hours away so I'll try to show up for part of a day if I can.

That is, if a male LBS won't dampen the party. :)
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« Reply #128 on: May 14, 2018, 06:03:17 PM »
I'm thinking that if there aren't too many of us, we could all stay here at my cottage which is just an hour north of Toronto.  If you don't mind sharing a bed, I could sleep 7-8.  That is of course if my H isn't planning on being here that weekend.  If we could do it mid-week then it's a no brainer since he works in the city.

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« Reply #129 on: May 16, 2018, 03:13:18 PM »
I did not get my passport before the cruise as planned, so I can't send away for it until I get back from my cruise the Week of June 3rd.  That means I may not get it back in time for a June meetup.  I can't make any definite plans at this point, but I'm excited for those who are going to make it!  I recently met up with a couple of LBS's and will definitely be doing it again as I can swing it!  It's worth it!
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« Reply #130 on: June 11, 2018, 07:23:50 AM »
Hi everyone, it is mere 2 weeks’ away from a potential meet up and I’m wondering if it is a go.
Tyks, Barbie, Steel and I seem to be definite participants.
MBB is very likely.

Is there anyone else?
If not, us 3/4 can discuss and decide on the date, time and place.
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« Reply #131 on: June 11, 2018, 07:15:42 PM »
Acorn,

Unfortunately,  I won't be able to make it.   Too much going on with Mom coming home rehab, h returning,  and I really want to save my vacation time for when the grandbabies come.....  I would so love to meet up with you.  Maybe one day....
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« Reply #132 on: June 21, 2018, 04:48:52 AM »
Thank you, NoEx, for responding.  I, too, would love to meet you and other LBS’s one day.

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It looks like we will have to revisit the Toronto meet-up some time in the future.
Thanks everyone for your input on the idea!

Have a great summer (today is the first day of summer!) and may the wind be always at your back.

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« Reply #133 on: June 21, 2018, 06:49:03 AM »
Oh how I wish I could!! I have a conference in October in Montreal, which I realize is  far from you. And I also have a pretty major client in Toronto. I’ll get out there eventually. Wish it could be for this meet up tho! Have fun ladies!!
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« Reply #134 on: June 24, 2018, 02:31:16 PM »
"Tyks, Barbie, Steel and I seem to be definite participants and MBB is very likely, too."
I wish I could go, I'd love to meet you all.

NotDoneYet, I think maybe MB may not feel comfortable sharing a room, of course I don't know that.   ;D

I just hope you all have a blast!
Gosh, maybe next time.
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« Reply #135 on: June 25, 2018, 04:40:15 AM »
Thunder’s comment prompted me to ask if any Ontarians, Steel and MBIB would still like to get together this week, say, Friday, for brunch or super-extended coffee that can flow onto dinner.

Anyone interested?  If not, we will revisit the meet-up idea another time. 
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« Reply #136 on: June 25, 2018, 06:32:32 AM »
I should be able to do Friday.

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« Reply #137 on: June 25, 2018, 06:50:24 AM »
Thanks for your quick response, MBIB!
Barbie, Tyks and Steel, how about you?
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« Reply #138 on: June 27, 2018, 07:29:19 AM »
Hi, My boys and I have made it to Niagara FINALLY- we were stranded in Buffalo for a few days with an immigration snafu (I have had a lot of them) so my time with my family has been cut short.
So, a lunch would be the most I could manage, but I DO want to meet you all!!
Where though? Still in Toronto? It would be easier for me if it is closer to where I am, I am not looking forward to driving in to the big city.  I don’t know where you all are, but could Oakville ofr Burlington work?
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« Reply #139 on: June 27, 2018, 07:32:14 AM »
I mean, July 1st.
The suggested date, Friday works great.
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« Reply #140 on: June 27, 2018, 08:14:01 AM »
Hi Steel, it’s good to hear from you. 
I PM’ed MBIB (the only one that responded by last Monday) to say that it’s probably best if we deferred the meet as others had not responded.  He agreed. 
I will PM you, Steel.
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