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Offline 1phoenix

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« Reply #50 on: February 18, 2018, 06:40:24 PM »
So is it going to be Toronto proper or another town?  Sorry just a curious one.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #51 on: February 19, 2018, 07:40:30 AM »
Hi 1P,
You asked a good question regarding the meet up place. 

Seeing that some would fly in, it makes sense to pick a place in downtown Toronto.  There is a train service from Pearson airport right into the city centre. 

Having said that, fellow Ontarians, what do you think?  Does it make sense to meet somewhere in Toronto proper?  I rarely go to Toronto so Iā€™m not that well informed as to the suitability of the location, except that it will be convenient for the flyers and drivers.  There is no shortage of hotels and AirBnB, I assume. 
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #52 on: February 19, 2018, 10:12:16 AM »
Let me know the date.  I might be able to fly in for a weekend, but the first weekend of that week is my anniversary - not that that's saying much...  ;D

I'd like to come the second weekebd possibly.  Just let me know the dates.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #53 on: February 19, 2018, 11:51:04 AM »
Yes , I have been thinking about this actually . Sort of thought about staying in and around airport for convenience of "flyer"...but not anything to "see" if that is of interest of those in Toronto for the 1st time. The Lakeshore is lovely, walkways along Lake Ontario, cafe's , shops etc... but very pricey . I will continue to do some research .. and I do have some contacts that may have some great ideas .
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #54 on: February 19, 2018, 04:56:21 PM »
Silently following along, if even just for the "hmm...maybe?"  I need to get my passport, which I was planning on doing for the cruise, but didn't need it for the cruise, just makes things easier.

That date does seem to fall on a week that MLCer has the kids.  And I DO want to travel more!

The more economical, the better.  And it would depend on if I am off from the school and not starting work at a new job.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #55 on: February 19, 2018, 05:42:16 PM »
Crap, I forgot about needing a passport.  ::) The last time I was in Canada, you didn't need one.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #56 on: February 20, 2018, 02:26:19 AM »
Getting excited...fingers crossed... I hope I can, I hope I can...
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #57 on: February 20, 2018, 09:08:32 AM »
No Ex,

You and I both are the little trains.


Hmmm, maybe we can get Never to join in..?
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #58 on: February 20, 2018, 10:03:10 AM »
The absolute BEST therapy I ever had was meeting other LBSers at a "meet up". It is definitely worth the cost. There hasn't been a meet up for quite some time...and I smile as I hear the excitement in your thoughts.

I wish I could join you but I will be in Toronto for Mother's Day and again in October so the dates wouldn't work well for me. If anyone in the area wants to meet up with me for a coffee or lunch on Monday May 14, I just need to be to the Airport by 2:00 PM for my flight home.

What I found helpful in the logistics of meet ups I attended was for everyone to be able to stay in the same hotel...their are reasonable places like Quality Inn and Hampton Inn that will include breakfast perhaps which also cuts down on cost...the difficulty is having a place where everyone can gather together to share their stories...so a hotel that has a bar or restaurant where everyone can hang out (or a room that they would let you have) is a good thing to consider.

Being close to downtown is also a nice thing so people can explore the area either as a group or in smaller breakout groups. Making dinner reservations in advance is also essential as Toronto is a very busy city and if you are a large group, you would like to all sit together.

The Lakeshore area is beautiful and a nice place to walk if the weather is good.

Remember that the US dollar is stronger than the Canadian dollar so that helps.

Airfares can be steep, so one suggestion for US people to consider is to fly to Buffalo NY, rent a car together or take a shuttle into the city.  You could also combine a trip to Niagara Falls if you did that.

Stayed was the first to arrange a meet up in Luxembourg. I will never forget meeting others, people I only knew on line and really could only see them as their HS name...as well as having the opportunity to meet her husband who had been a MLCer. He handed all our questions with such honesty. I came away from that trip knowing that I was going to be ok. The other LBSers were absolutely amazing and beautiful people and that also validated that this was not about me.

I think that we had about 20 LBSers in Leeds, there were also meet ups in Portugal, Ireland, NYC and California..each time I came away with a sense of hope that I did not have before meeting these amazing people.

So, do please consider going if you can. I must say you will not regret it.
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Re: Meet up near Toronto?
« Reply #59 on: February 22, 2018, 04:54:34 PM »
I totally agree that a meetup is phenomenal therapy and a great time. I have attended 3. The one in Ireland, which was one of the best times of my life, one in Pennsylvania and one in New York city. I thought it was going to be all tears and sad stories, but we all had a great time. I can't join, but I will be looking forward to reports of how this goes.
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