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Discussion Any change or any contact from your MLCer since the pandemic?
#20: April 07, 2020, 01:54:40 PM
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BD I think was quite a few years ago, trusting? And you had been slowly reconnecting - at least as a family - for a while before virus days?

Well, for good or ill, it sounds like you are getting a close up view of the rare Lesser-Spotted Post MLCer  :) ::)

To answers your questions, yes to both.  BD was 11 years ago.  He has been reconnecting significantly with the kids for a couple of years and with me for probably the last year or so, few months at any rate.  Still, this came as a surprise to me, to tell the truth, as well as the extent to which he has jumped back in. 

I always hesitate to post when I do, because I'm not sure people want to hear how long it takes.  I know they don't.  I truly do believe most come out of it and more want to return than we would know.  It just takes waaaaaaay too long for the LBS to stick around to find out. 
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Re: Any change or any contact from your MLCer since the pandemic?
#21: April 07, 2020, 04:39:27 PM
Trust, quite the contrary, I like to hear stories of MLCers who return after many years. I bet I'm not the only one. I don't mean that we should sit around and wait for our spouses to come out of this, because so many do not. I just like to hear good stories in general.

If you feel like it, I would love to hear about your H's last few years and the movement towards you and the kids.
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Any change or any contact from your MLCer since the pandemic?
#22: April 08, 2020, 02:07:56 PM
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Trust, quite the contrary, I like to hear stories of MLCers who return after many years. I bet I'm not the only one. I don't mean that we should sit around and wait for our spouses to come out of this, because so many do not. I just like to hear good stories in general.

If you feel like it, I would love to hear about your H's last few years and the movement towards you and the kids.

Thanks for your response, Milly.  I need to start a thread and have been thinking about it for some time but haven't gotten around to it yet.  I do have a view from the other side, albeit not yet a restored marriage, though I would say a restoring relationship of sorts.
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