Skip to main content

Author Topic: My Story Heart of a Hero

  • *
  • Mentor
  • Hero Member
  • Posts: 12762
  • Gender: Male
  • You can't please everyone. You are NOT a pizza!
My Story Heart of a Hero
#20: June 15, 2026, 04:04:15 AM
How IS the new job going? You were saying that it was salaried so you expected to be working additional hours (I know EXACTLY what that means.... more hours, no additional pay....) Hopefully, there is at least some form of Comp Time rule in place.

Your fishing trip sounds wonderful. Where did you go? My parents would go to Trappers Lake or one other close to them when they were at their cabin near Meeker but since they moved to Nevada, that is all in the past. My mom turned 90 in December so my partner and I took a trip to Vegas to surprise her. We had said that we were not going to be able to make it as the flights were SO expensive (they were when we looked) a getting the time off was a challenge but, we looked again a couple weeks before the date and the prices were WAY down so we told my dad that we were coming as a surprise, booked the flights, a hotel, rental car, the works and the day before her birthday, showed up at their door. I thought I might have to perform CPR when mom came to the door and saw us there. Ironically, I had ordered flowers to be delivered that same day with the note that we wished her a happy birthday and that we were sorry that we woudldn't be able to make it to the party. They were delivered about an hour before we arrived.....  ;D

What is the 75 hard? It sounds..... difficult? I'm hitting the gym twice weekly, going to cardio/aerobic classes a couple times a week and commute by bicycle (about 8 miles round trip) so that is keeping me from becoming a couch potato. I turned 63 a week ago so sedentary life is an issue I do my best to avoid, lest I start to rust and rot from the inside.....

UM
  • Logged
Me - 62, xW - 55
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
S - 19, D - 15
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
Moved on in life

Survival Instructions for Newbies
Site Map
 
A "friend" will not "stand by you" no matter what you do. That is NOT a friend. That is an enabler. That is an accomplice.
A REAL friend will sit you down and tell you to your face to stop being a firetrucking idiot before you ruin your life and the lives of those around you.

  • *
  • Mentor
  • Hero Member
  • Posts: 4947
  • Gender: Male
  • Back to being #1 for my daughters!!!!
Heart of a Hero
#21: July 24, 2026, 09:38:01 AM
Hello,

I am so glad that you are doing well. It has been a busy and hot summer for me. We spent a few days in Idyllwild, CA and then off to Sacramento for a week to visit our new niece. Came back for the Fourth of July, and the next week was a couple of weddings. Very busy to say the least. Now I am back to work getting ready for another school year.

I hope you are enjoying your new position and time really does fly. But, at 48, you are still a baby!!

Enjoy a great weekend,

(((Ready)))

  • Logged
"Always look in the mirror and love what you see."

  • *
  • Mentor
  • Hero Member
  • Posts: 3513
  • Gender: Female
  • Time is a Gift! 🎁
Heart of a Hero
#22: Today at 06:30:32 PM
Hello UM, the new job is going great, but yes, I have been working some long hours and have not used enough vacation time.  I will try to use a couple days in October and then some longer breaks in November and December, but I might have to write my boss and ask for her to allow it to be carried over.  I did that last year and she approved, but at the last minute, I was able to take the last couple days I needed carried over and didn't lose any. 

I think I pushed myself too hard the last couple weeks and now am sick for it, so I need to gain back some work/life balance.  Next week is pre-payroll craziness for my position so I'm laying low this weekend trying to recover so that I can get done what is needed next week to get everything ready for Payroll.

We fished up on the Grand Mesa, first lake was across from the Visitor Center, at Cobbett Lake, but didn't catch anything there.  Then we went and ate lunch at Mesa Lakes Lodge and I brought some cheesecake in and a little cake with pearls for Mom and we sang her happy birthday and she had some free ice-cream compliments of the Lodge.  And then went over to Ward Creek Reservoir.  They had recently stocked that one so the fishing was good.

How fun that you got to surprise your Mom for her birthday!  Vegas in December seems like a great time to go!  Although I do like going when the outdoor pools and lazy rivers are still going.

The 75 hard is 75 days of 2 45 minute workouts a day, one of which has to be outdoors no matter the weather; a gallon of water a day; find a diet program and stick to it, no cheat days; no alcohol; read 10 pages of a non-fiction book every day; and take a progress photo every day.  If you miss any of it, you start over at day 1.  I figured, any progress was good and it didn't bother me when I had to start over lol!  I did have to keep resetting my streak, but sometimes it was for the silliest things.  One day, I forgot to take a progress photo!  Another day, I had everything in and then went to do my 2nd workout and 30 minutes in, I really had to go to the bathroom!  hahaha.  So I drove home and didn't go back out for the last 15 minutes because it was dark out.  Other times, the smoke from the fires made it hard to workout outside.  And then silly me started working 10 hour days the following week in so I would go home on my lunch break and do my first workout for 45 minutes of the hour lunch break and then eat lunch at my desk.

I kept it up pretty good all through summer until school started in August, the last 3 weeks have been a slump, probably why I'm sick!  I do want to get back to it but I might do the 75 soft, which is the same thing, except only 6 days a week of exercising instead of 7 and only 1 45 minute workout a day.  I knew it was extreme and that I probably couldn't carry it out, but just trying to do it was giving me results.  Failing at it was still producing results!  I've been upping my protein and fiber intake and trying to limit added sugars.  I was following the IIFYM diet (If It Fits Your Macros) and was doing pretty good with that and the water intake.  Some double work-out days I was sore and so the first work-out I picked, I did something fairly mild, like vinyasa yoga or pilates, knowing my body needed some stretching.  During the fires, my friend gave me a little Deer Run treadmill and I would find a 3k video on YouTube of some great footage, like walking through Switzerland or Hawaii or Scotland and pretended I was outside.  But the hill by my house is a wonderful place to go every evening and hike up.  I take the whole hill, then loop around into the neighborhood that comes out halfway down and go up the steep part again and then cross and go down into the other neighborhood and loop back up that steep hill, sometimes looping in a 4th steep incline."

I also added in 3 days of weight training with kettlebells and dumbbells at home here.  And have been using a vibration plate to help with lymphatic drainage.  I've also joined an active singles group that is more about getting out there and doing things together than meeting to find a partner.  If it happens organically, great!  We've been playing pickleball every Thursday for the last 3 weeks and I'm having fun learning that!

I really tried to mix up my workouts without joining a gym.  So the hill climbing was one of them, but I've also been doing things on YouTube, like cardio boxing, different types of yoga, pilates, etc.  I've slid backwards a bit so just talking about it is getting me psyched up to get back into it after letting it slip since mid-August.

Hey Ready!  Sounds like you had some great trips!  I had my 30 year H.S. Reunion over the 4th of July.  I did take a few extra days off to make almost a week long vacation.  We had some paid holidays in there which helped.  It was nice to get back to my hometown and reconnect with some people.  We were in the parade and got drenched by the firetrucks and threw candy to the kids and just had a great time and then met a classmates house for a big BBQ later that night.  The only thing that put a damper on things was some smoke in the air from Ouray and no fireworks allowed.  The fires this year were really brutal and now we've been having lots of bears.  I encountered one a few weeks ago at 5:45 am when leaving for work.  I live in a townhome community in the middle of town!  I looked over and under the streetlight I thought to myself "wow, that's a big fluffy dog" and then I realized it was a bear.  I followed it and called dispatch (from my car, I'm not crazy!) but they weren't in a hurry to respond and told me to go to work.  3 weeks later I'm pretty sure he's still wandering around neighborhoods above me.  Probably has been a good thing I HAVEN'T been walking the hill much lately!
  • Logged
Survival Instructions for Newbies

The Apology Every LBS Deserves

My Journey

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass - it's about learning to dance in the rain."

"Don't become a container for bitterness.  It's a toxin that destroys what it's carried in."

 

Legal Disclaimer

The information contained within The Hero's Spouse website family (www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com, http://theherosspouse.com and associated subdomains), (collectively 'website') is provided as general information and is not intended to be a substitute for professional legal, medical or mental health advice or treatment for specific medical conditions. The Hero's Spouse cannot be held responsible for the use of the information provided. The Hero's Spouse recommends that you consult a trained medical or mental health professional before making any decision regarding treatment of yourself or others. The Hero's Spouse recommends that you consult a legal professional for specific legal advice.

Any information, stories, examples, articles, or testimonials on this website do not constitute a guarantee, or prediction regarding the outcome of an individual situation. Reading and/or posting at this website does not constitute a professional relationship between you and the website author, volunteer moderators or mentors or other community members. The moderators and mentors are peer-volunteers, and not functioning in a professional capacity and are therefore offering support and advice based solely upon their own experience and not upon legal, medical, or mental health training.